 DATING TIP: Meeting
Women In "Regular Places"
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** Email from a newsletter reader**
Hi Dave,
I'm glad you put together this newsletter because it's so helpful and
awesome! But anyways, I have a couple questions if you could please help me.
Number 1, I have your book and follow your stuff and I LOVE IT...to say the
least. I've noticed though, that a lot of your stuff dealing with first
encounters and pickups seems to be best fit for the club/bar scene which is
great and everything, but I'm wondering how you go about doing pickups in
regular places, like a supermarket, store, or coffee shop for instance? What
suggestions do you have for meeting women here and how would you personally
approach a women in these circumstances? I mean, after a conversation has
progressed, I can see how the cocky and funny will work but I wondering
about the first encounter if you could help please.
Second, I see that one of your biggest suggestions is seeking out other
successful guys in your area and hanging with them and learning from them.
My problem is even though I live in a huge college campus area with PLENTY
of women around and lots of stuff to do, I can't find any other guys in my
area who I can go out with and kick some a** with. Most of my family and
friends are back home and I haven't really made any close guy friends that I
can hit the clubs/bars with here (the ones I do have are just nerds who want
to stay home and just drink only). I mean I can go out by myself but I like
having a wing with me-it's funner that way! I really agree with you though
about the importance of this and I was wondering if you any suggestions on
how to find other guys who you can go out and chase tail with? See...why
can't you live closer to me damn it!!
Thanks for everything Dave and I hope you have more success in the future
because you've helped bring that to a lot of people.
Sincerely, F.
David D. >>>MY COMMENTS:
First of all, I want to point out that the ideas in my book and bonus
materials are not AT ALL designed for meeting women in clubs and bars
"only". Most of my personal success with women, and most of the success of
my readers happens in more "normal" places like coffee shops, bookstores,
schools, parties, and even online.
I think that maybe some people just mentally apply what they read to
situations that they're familiar with, so it might seem that I'm talking
about "clubs and bars" when I'm really talking about more than that. With
that said, let's talk about some of the "how to's".
I chose this particular email from a reader because of the way it was
worded. Part of the question is:
"...I'm wondering how you go about doing pickups in regular places, like a
supermarket, store, or coffee shop for instance? What suggestions do you
have for meeting women here and how would you personally approach a women in
these circumstances? I mean, after a conversation has progressed, I can see
how the cocky and funny will work but I wondering about the first encounter
if you could help please..."
I want to point out that you're assuming here that you should have a fairly
in-depth conversation when you first meet a woman. I think that most guys
have a fear of approaching women because they don't really know what to say,
or where to take the conversation. I know that was a big one for me when I
first wanted to learn this stuff.
But here's what I learned: YOU
DON'T HAVE TO HAVE A "CONVERSATION" AT ALL WHEN YOU FIRST MEET A WOMAN. ALL
YOU HAVE TO DO IS GET HER DIGITS!
In my book, I teach you how to get a woman's email and phone number in about
3 minutes. I know that it kind of sounds sensational... like I'm probably
just using that as a marketing trick... but I'm actually very serious about
it.
Now, there's a lot more to success with women than just getting numbers. But
for the sake of this argument, let's just say that ALL YOU REALLY NEED TO BE
CONCERNED WITH WHEN YOU'RE FIRST MEETING A WOMAN IS GETTING HER EMAIL AND
PHONE NUMBER.
Yep, that's it.
And you can do that in a few minutes, if you know what to do and how to do
it. I've had MANY friends of mine go out with me and watch me get 5+ numbers
in an evening from women, and only talk to them for a few minutes each to do
it. And I'll tell you what... it changes their perspectives forever.
Long conversations are not a pre-requisite for getting a phone number, email
address, or future date.
I can hear the arguments now:
"But no woman is going to just give you her number..."
"What makes you think a woman is just going to hand over her private
information to a stranger?"
Well, I'm here to tell you that I and many guys I know have done it so many
times that it's no longer a question in my mind.
And here's why it's important to do it this way:
The longer you talk to a woman when you first meet her, the more likely you
are to say something stupid, say something that disqualifies you in her
mind, or get into a conversation that goes down the wrong road. It's as
simple as that.
If you don't waste any time, and just focus on getting her email and number,
you'll be able to set up a second meeting... where you can focus on taking
things to the next level. And trust me, it's a lot easier to recover from a
mistake or bad conversation when you're sitting across from her alone over a
cup of tea then when you're looking at her over the mango section in the
supermarket. Think about it.
So let's land the plane... what do you do to get her to give up the info so
quickly?
Easy.
1) Know exactly how you want the conversation to go.
2) Know HOW to ask.
3) Know WHEN to ask.
4) Have pen and paper on you.
I recommend that you take a few minutes every day to imagine having
conversations with new women. It might go something like this:
"Hi there, you're cuter than the average woman that I see in the produce
section... are you friendly?"
Her: "Ha ha... well, sometimes."
"So, are you shopping for a special occasion, or is this just a routine
produce visit?"
Her: "No, just here for some fruit."
"Nice. Are you from the area?"
Her: "Yea."
"Are you from here originally?"
Her: "Born and raised."
"Well, it was nice meeting you... and enjoy your mango..."
Her: "Thanks."
"Hey... do you have email?"
Her: "Yea, I do."
(Treat the "Yea" as an agreement to give it to you, then take a pen out of
your pocket (I prefer the Space Pen) and hand it to her to write down her
email. As she's writing, say "and write your number there too... and your
name, which I didn't get...")
The key is that you have to act LIKE THIS IS THE MOST NATURAL THING IN THE
WORLD.
...OK, see how easy that was? Is that realistic? I think so. I've probably
gotten 200 emails and phone numbers with dialogues like that.
I think a key is to MENTALLY REHEARSE how you will handle yourself so you
know exactly what to do when the time comes. It all has to flow and seem
natural.
OK, to address the second part of your question... how to meet other guys
who know what they're doing...
I think it's a good idea to go out once in awhile to the local hotspots and
WATCH what's going on. Specifically, I think it's a great idea to look for
attractive women that are with guys, and watch how the GUY is behaving.
Also, it's interesting to watch guys picking women up to see what they're
doing. You'll learn a few really important things first- hand when you do
this:
1) You'll see the body language of guys that are able to attract and keep
women.
2) You'll see the gestures and hear the voice tone of guys that are
approaching women, and see how the women respond.
3) Invariably, you'll see some guys are really good with women, and you can
make friends with them. It's easy... just say "Hey, you are the mac with the
babes. Let me buy you a beer. I need you to tell me a few things." A beer is
a cheap price to pay for wisdom.
...and that wraps up the Q&A...
Of course, you probably realize, as I did, that getting a number or a date
is A SMALL PIECE of the puzzle. Everything I teach in my book is designed to
teach you the ATTITUDE and BODY LANGUAGE and all the other little things
that cause women to feel ATTRACTION inside... for reasons that they don't
even understand. And if you haven't downloaded your copy, then I HIGHLY
recommend that you go to:
www.doubleyourdating.com
- just follow the 'ebook' link and download your copy.
...and read it, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
David D.
P.S. As you can probably imagine, I get a TON of email... So if you'd like
to send me a Success Story, Question, or Comment, follow these guidelines:
1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs max.
2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask your question. I appreciate
all of the "Your stuff is great" and "I don't need to tell you how well your
stuff works" comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of the
specifics... because this helps other guys to see what's working in
different situations.
3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success Story" in the subject line of
the email. I read these first.
4) At the end of the email, give me your initials and tell me where you're
from.
5) Send it to me at:
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