You were in that special place that only
people in love know about. Romance was alive and your soulmate was revealed to
you as the only person you’d want to spend the rest of your life with.
Then it happened:
“I need to see other people”
Or, “This isn’t what I want out of life”.
Whatever the wording, suddenly you found yourself alone. Single again.
You spend your days in a fog, wondering where it all went so horribly wrong.
Blaming yourself for not seeing the breakup coming and hating yourself for not
acting sooner to avoid being single again.
It’s time to get out of that fog, to do for yourself as you wish others would do
for you, spend some special time with a special person, yourself. Take a few
small baby-steps and get to know yourself again. We won’t encourage you to begin
trying to meet another special someone, goodness knows that you probably have
deep rejection fears right about now. You are in a fragile state and need some
help to understand the great person you are and to be able to outwardly, and
inwardly, shine bright again.
It’s time for you to begin a good exercise regimen. Nothing too strenuous, just
a walk for a few blocks early in the morning or later in the day when the
temperature isn’t too hot or too cold. Fresh air in, old air out. This will help
you to have some clear-thinking time. When you are out on your walk, concentrate
on walking. Become aware of your surroundings and let all other thoughts fade
away. You will surprise yourself with how refreshed you’ll feel and after a few
walks you’ll even feel better about yourself too!
Share your new-found spare time with a local volunteer organization. If you’re
not sure where to look for an organization that will hold your interest, a
worthwhile community service to donate a couple of hours of your time on a
regular basis, just open your phone book and look under “volunteer groups”. Many
people, will tell you that volunteering is a great way to meet others that share
your same interests, but we feel it is a great way to not only give of yourself
but to learn a little more of yourself as well.
Treating yourself to a well deserved dinner out can be very refreshing. Look for
a restaurant that you’d normally find too expensive and make a reservation for
yourself. Just you and a fancy menu can be very rewarding and relaxing. You will
also be able to share your newly discovered restaurant experiences with others
and prepare yourself for when it is time to go out with friends again. Feel free
to repeat this dining out trip regularly. It will add to your knowledge of where
you live and you will probably find a new favorite dining establishment as well.
We all live on some type of financial budget. Only so much money is earned every
month and our regular expenses for rent/mortgage, utilities, food and clothing
don’t go away. But this shouldn’t keep you from going out window shopping. It
can be exciting checking out the new products and styles that are available
today and ever-changing for tomorrow. You will quickly find some things that you
can’t live without but remember not to break the bank or overextend yourself on
your credit cards. Window shopping is free and you should enjoy regular trips
out without burdening yourself with bundles and bills.
New places bring to you new experiences and new people. Plan an overnight or
weekend getaway to visit a place that’s within a couple of hours drive. Spend
some time at the local attractions and keep your friendly face on. Introduce
yourself around and you’re sure to meet some new faces that could become great
friends. Take your camera, a great opening line is “Excuse me, can you take my
picture?” then, when it’s possible, ask the person about the place you are in.
You’re obviously a visitor so most people will respond with friendly
conversation and helpful advice about what you should and shouldn’t see.
Start your own personal outreach program. Look up old friends and catch up on
everyone’s activities over the past few years. There are plenty of online
services that will help you locate old school pals, childhood friends and summer
camp buddies. You’ll be pleasantly surprised to hear how other’s lives have
turned out so far. You may even find a new group of friends from the old group
you used to belong to.
There is no reason why your change in relationship status requires you to be
lonely or alone. It’s all up to you to make yourself available and in a few easy
steps you’ll have a wonderful time of new experiences, new places and new faces.
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