This is how you use
the voice mail feature of online dating services to get more dates.
Most
online dating services, the ones that are worth joining, have a
"voice mail" option.
This feature allows you to record a personal message, to be included
with your personal ad, in your own voice.
Voice mail is the number two effective date feature because women,
and men, make snap judgments based on the tone of voice someone has.
(A picture with a great smile is number one.)
I'm
sure you've made these quick assessments of people too based on how
they speak, the quiet or overbearing tone of their voice, even if
someone is smart or stupid, these traits can all be expected to
show, or rather hear, in their voice. Sometimes this may be an
unfair characterization of someone but let's be real for a second:
when all you have to judge someone is what they've written about
themselves and maybe a picture also, the voice message adds some
familiarity with the person and a measure of judgment about them
also. Live with these real facts and you'll do great using voice
mail to get dates.
Using voice mail to get dates is similar to baiting a hook, you say
some small things about yourself and end with a question "Call me,
ok?"
You are providing substance to your profile and picture. You are
allowing someone to hear you for the first time and this goes well
beyond any other type of online first impression you could possibly
make with words and pictures.
The Voice Mail Don'ts
Don't talk down to people, no matter what, most people easily
understand others when speaking at a grade 5 level. So, unless
you're into dating online at the Mensa level, don't go all
university snobbery on your recorded message.
Don't ask personal questions of your listener. Unless this is a
swinger website you need to remain sincere and talk about yourself,
not your sexual conquests. These you can save for the gold course.
Don't speak softly or too loud. You can listen and re-record your
voice mail as often as you like, make sure you get it right.
Don't "wing it". Know what you are going to say and how to say it.
Don't talk about your job. This is a subject that you should talk
about on your second or third date, not in your voice mail (unless
you’re a Chippendale's dancer and want to score quickly, that is).
The Voice Mail Do's
Be prepared with what you are going to say. If needed, write your
message down and practice it until you don't sound like you're
reading it aloud.
Listen to your message. Surprisingly enough many people don't listen
'critically' to how they sound and what they say. Maybe ask a friend
to hear your voice message. Getting it right makes all the
difference on your future dating success. Don't blame the dating
service if you've shot down your own chances with a bad voice mail
message.
Keep your voice mail message short, simple and to the point. A nice
introduction and a request for an email message back such as: "Hi, I
am bostonboy42 and I joined match.com to find someone that would
like to join me at a great not-well-known Italian restaurant in the
city. No surprises, just great food and conversation. Now you've
read about me and heard me, it's your turn to message me. I really
want to hear from you."
Be happy sounding. Droning on and on is a sure-fire losing
proposition. Don't do it.
Have fun with it. Let your personality shine through, even if it
means having a couple of beers first to relax you.
For more great tips on using online dating services to meet and date
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