By The Dating Gurus
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world like when you were a school kid?
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When you are dating online, you have a lot of things to your
advantage. For example, the other person does not really see you and
you do not really have to bother about appearances. You can devote
your entire energy towards sounding intelligent and witty.
But when you are actually seated in front of a person, there are a
thousand things that you have to pay attention to. There are many
people who believe that it is not really important to keep up
appearances. They feel that it is more important to be oneself.
It sounds good enough. But on your first date at least you certainly
have to keep up appearances. The other person should not feel ashamed
to be seen around with you and so you should try as hard as possible
to avoid that faux pas.
Let us start with your physical appearance. While I did mention
earlier that you do not have to be dressed to kill, it is very
important that you have to appear well groomed. Take special care
about things like nails, hair, and teeth. Check for bad breath too
because that indeed is the worst turn off.
What you wear should not be loud and attract the wrong kind of
attention. Choose something that you are comfortable in and at the
same time that looks good on you. Ladies, please be careful about your
make-up, and remember that make-up is meant to accentuate your looks
not to hide it.
It is best to avoid garish colors..
You should smell good of course but don’t over do it. We certainly
don’t want you to remain in the other person’s memory as just one
strong smell. Men, please take care to go in for masculine scents like
musk, or smells from nature. Women, keep it as light and dainty as
The Secret is Charm
All the things that have been said so far are about how you can create
a favorable impression. There is something that is equally or even
more important than that, and that is to make the other person feel
comfortable. Help the other person relax.
Any way you have been chatting for quite some time so you do know a
great deal about each other. The best thing you can do is to ease the
tension and break the ice. Sometimes the ice gets so thick that you
can literally feel it. Break it up by cracking a joke or two.
But the joke should be spontaneous and in keeping with the situation
or else it will fall flat. Do not rehearse a joke because a rehearsed
The key word here is charm. Use all the charm that you can muster. Try
to be as considerate and as thoughtful as possible. Do not dominate
the conversation but try to get the other person talking. People
generally love to talk about themselves so try to get the other person
talking by asking about the person’s work. Show interest in whatever
the other person says.
Try to be a good conversationalist. A good conversationalist is not a
person who talks well, but is one who listens well as well. So try to
be a good listener. And while you are listening try not to get
distracted by something else or the other person might feel that you
are losing interest in what he or she is saying.
Then comes the question, “what do you do if you find that the other
person is dominating the conversation?”
Well, in that case listen patiently for a minute or two and then give
a subtle sign like a raised eyebrow or a smile through the corner of
your mouth. If the other person is intelligent enough, he or she will
get the cue. If not, then take your chance, you might have to listen
to this person for the rest of your life.
Humor rarely fails. But again take care not to over do it. There is
only one thing worse than a total lack of humor and that is too much