A psychic practitioner stopped me at the end of
a party yesterday, and told me I was about to have a detour.
I don’t quite remember the exact words she used, but
it was something along the lines of “Right now you’re going down the
405, and you’re about to take a detour, and then you’ll have to
decide what you want to do with your life.”
And then she
So one part of me sees only
possibilities in that scenario – Wow, choices, new things, new
roads, new…. And then another part – Gremlin Voice soaked for sure –
screams Other shoe dropping!
Any minute now!
Watch out for falling shoes!
And I look around me,
furtively, searching each car that passes by, each person who passes
by, each word that passes by, for a clue.
For a sign.
For impending disaster.
I have three choices:
One, I can call up this practitioner and ask for clarification.
But, I realize, nothing she says will change the fact that I must
make one of the other two choices.
Two, I can wallow
in fear and try to be very careful and watchful and vigilant,
analyze everything that shows up in my life at every minute, and
forget I’m actually alive and living.
Three, I can
choose the choice of possibilities.
I can - regardless
of what the psychic has seen or knows, regardless of what she says
or what she thinks, or even more profoundly, regardless of what I
think – see every car that passes by, every person who passes by,
each word that passes by as a “detour” into a new possibility.
And, if I make choice Number Three, I’d better know what I’m getting
myself into – this new possibility might lead to another detour, to
another possibility, to another, and another, where the choices are
Am I more afraid of being stuck or of getting
Is it that I’m really so certain I can’t choose
right every time, or does it really matter if I choose right every
Lots of questions, and sometimes the answer is “I
don’t know,” or “None of the Above.”
So how do I know
what to do and where to go and what to think?
And how do I
stop; my mind from racing to fear instead of flowing to
Well, first off, just because I investigate
another road doesn’t mean I’ve left the Highway of Love. In fact,
what if I’m not even on it at all!
What if, even though I
think I’ve been on the Highway of Love all this time, I’m really
only on a side road?
What if I’m not even on a road?
What if I’ve been going in circles?
So, what if I want to
continue down this so-called detour of a new possibility?
What if the detour leads to a bigger Highway?
What if I’ve been on the Highway of Where I’ve Always Been and What
I’ve Always Done, and the detour will lead me smack to the Highway
Well, how’s this for a job description:
Lots of men and women are making thrilling,
actual lives out there being Indiana Jones – finding lost
civilizations, solving ancient riddles, leading teams through the
jungles of the world.
Everyone has a different tolerance
for risk and a different idea of what’s in the pot of gold at the
end of the Quest, and some of us quake at even the thought of
stepping a foot into the unknown.
So many of us are
traveling up and down a dead end wash we call “love” in the middle
of something we only know of as “familiarity.”
ride it in souped-up all-terrain vehicles, and sometimes we crawl
along it, but we hardly ever fly over it, and actually see, with our
own eyes, that it’s been a dead-end all along.
So, what if
the Highway of Love is truly a super-highway leading to… who knows
And, what if it’s really not all that hard to
What if the only problem with it is it’s just
not a dead-end wash?
What if the only hard thing about it
is it’s not “familiar”?
So I bless the psychic.
Not for giving me a clue to what’s next, but for giving me a clue to
Perhaps the 405 isn’t all there is.
I have to deal with myself.
If I’m so afraid of detours,
how will I handle the Highway of Love when I’m on it?
I run back to my dead-end?
Will I swear off detours?
Will I swear off possibilities?
Will I choose “Familiar”
Will I choose “Safely Stuck” over “Scary
What I Really Want”?
Will I stay in worry and doubt and
fear and not leave my house, or will I move out and about with
Will I keep my eyes open for danger, or will I
allow in possibilities?
The choice is mine.
choice is yours.
Try this way of choosing:
you find yourself stuck, or afraid, ask yourself what road you’re
You may answer - I’m in love!
I couldn’t be
Or I’m safe and fine, I don’t need a
relationship, I don’t need someone else to love me, I love myself
Or I don’t have time for all this.
I’m busy, I’m tooling down my road just fine, and, Rori, what do you
know about it anyway?
Okay, so you know what’s up.
You’ve made your choice, and it feels good, and here you are, and
you’re right – you don’t need me.
And if you answer I’m
tired of the same-old-same-old.
I’m tired of the
souped-up cars and the dry runs and the circles, then, maybe, you
have nothing to lose, and everything to gain by choosing “Better”
and “Scary What I Really Want,” than “Safe” and “Familiar.”
So, put on your new hat.
The one marked “Adventurer!”
Imagine that your emotions, your instincts, your heart rhythms, are
a beautiful, powerful Horse you can ride across the landscape of
Your Horse knows the way, clean and clear, to where you want to
go. And if you should ever steer it wrong, it knows the way back.
Now, sit your Horse tall and proud.
You are about to let
the whole world see you shake from fear, thrill from excitement,
breathe hard from anticipation, tense up from the knot in your
throat and shimmer from the hope in your eyes.
about to let go.
The Horse of your emotions, your
instincts, your connection to life, your heart, is feeling feisty.
You’re about to let your Horse run free.
Imagine tolerating the fear, the excitement, the
heavy breathing, the tension, the shimmer.
the Horse somewhere new and feeling everything you’re feeling.
Believe that anytime you want, you can stop.
Yes, you can
You can say No, turn back, go forward, take a rest.
You can say No when it doesn’t feel right, and
you can say Yes when it feels right.
Sometimes it can
feel right, but it’s just a little (okay, a lot) scary.
Don’t let that stop you!
Fear feels way different when
you’re out there riding the Horse than it does when you’re stuck
Fear is many things, and it wears many
faces, and we build all kinds of defenses on top of it to pretend it
isn’t there or hide it away, or fight it.
If you don’t
believe Adventurers feel fear, you’ve been sitting in the safe
dead-end too long.
Fear is part of the Highway of Love.
Bring yours along with you for the ride.
Soon, it’ll get
tired and old, and you’ll be too busy having fun to even notice if
it’s there or not.
So, wear your Adventurer hat (yes, you
have one!), take along all your baggage, and imagine the
exhilaration of having what you want.
Then, kiss your
Horse, and let it take you somewhere new – to the Highway of Love.
Let me show you all the ways in which you can let go of fear and
live the love life of your dreams.
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