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This article: "You respect
the power of words by either saying only what you feel in your own body –
without so much as referring to your man or his actions – or not speaking at
all."
Above quote
from "Have The Relationship You Want" by Rori (Raye) Gwynne, Page 38
When we have control, real control, over our own actions then life is lived
easier. There is no mistake, if you are powerless over the things you do and
say then you are powerless to be part of a lasting, committed relationship.
Think about it. Think about the last time you "lost it" and gave in to
automatic, unthought-through words and actions.
Did it make you feel better?
A sense of relief?
Or did you still have left over thoughts and emotions of the event?
How do you think the other person(s) felt after you were done acting and
talking the way you did?
Conflict is a natural human emotion. Instinctively we work to protect
ourselves, to protect those around us. But this "self-preservation: instinct
has to be under control except in extreme emergencies.
If we follow those feelings, and live an emotional life, who could
possibly keep up with you?
Think a moment the last time you went through an "emotional ride" of a
moment. Where was your support? Did you "end the ride" and still have
dignity left or were you reduced to fleeing, apologizing, or trying to make
amends later on.
Emotions are a great instinct. The keep us a live, they allow our
personality to be friendly, secure, loving, strong. But they can also lead
us down another road: antagonistic, insecure, uncaring and weak.
Powerful words need not be shouted out loud.
Powerful words have their power because of the true intent behind
them. Powerful words directly lead to action.
Finding these powerful words takes a lot of training.
They are inside you, the next in line behind the emotional outpouring you
usually go through when in an emotional state.
These emotions coming out first is what needs to be conquered. Slammed back,
so that the words have power come to come to bat first. They come first to
your tongue, controlled, responding with intelligence, not emotion.
Pauses in your sentence, time-outs of a second or two so you can "choose
your words", your words of power, will help to re-enforce the power of your
words.
When we use language to verbally get our point across, to ask a questions,
to make an informed comment… even to write an article, the tone, the
phrasing, the visible body language all must agree with what is being said.
Now, I'm not going to dwell on your past use of words. I'm sure you could
easily list a few disagreements that didn't go your way, or did and
turned out awfully, only because the words used were an "emotional reaction
to the event at hand".
In that last example (of which I hope you've admitted to yourself to having
a few) we can shed some light on "words of power" and how the effect
not just our future, your future, but how people from that point forward may
react to us.
So let's move this emotional level of talking to the next level, the level
of speaking and reacting thoughtfully.
This is an easy exercise that I hope you give a try for the next
couple of days.
Start a list, right now, thinking up all the "automatic" questions you are
asked in a day and the ":automatic" responses you provide.
Let's say you're going to get your morning coffee at your usual coffee shop.
You are asked a certain way by the server, you reply almost automatically,
just like you've done dozens of time before. In this exercise I want you
to slow down. Avoid the automatic. Put some thought, change your
pattern, ask what the server sees more people adding to their coffee or what
people are liking that is new. Maybe try something new, maybe not. But by
breaking out of the "automatic habit" you're opening the door to "Choosing
your words" because you've paused, considered other options, discussed other
options and continued from there.
You may have other daily activities that have become so routine that you
barely even notice you're completing them. Whatever those daily ritual are I
want you to stop, think, consider and choose your words and speak with a
firm voice your considered reply.
It's really a positive step to getting what you want when you stop,
listen, consider options and "choose your words" to express your decision,
without opening the nasty can of emotional words that just "wants to get
things done".
Choosing your words puts an end to the easy life. The emotional life that wa
running you into the ground. And separating you from the men you love
because men speak on a logical level (most men anyways) and to communicate
with them, and get your way, emotional pleas really don't work.
Men are like thick bricks when trying to understand the "womanese of
emotional language". Intense years of training needs to be conducted by
that one special woman that can communicate with a man on his level,
and yet maintain her own method of control over situations.
Do you understand how all this works together?
Change does come.
Change is surprising.
The control you'll have will be a revelation, greater control over your love
life, your romantic interests and even your career.
And it all starts with a "pause" and "thoughtful consideration".
To be able to integrate the preceding advice into your life, take the next
step and read Rori Raye's book
"Have The Relationship You Want". You can download it
here, read some free samples and explore even more the ways to create a
real caring person in yourself that can explore and discover the values in
your relationships and make them what you want them to be.
In this book
you will learn:
* How to completely redesign the entire concept and dynamics of your
marriage, your relationship, or your first date.
* How to communicate in a completely new way.
* How to tap into the power of being a woman by tapping into the power of
Feminine Energy.
To your
future success,
Robert Lee
(c) 2007-2008 Rori Raye,
New You Advice Inc.,,
Robert Lee and Cheerful Attitude Web Design Ltd. All Rights Reserved. By
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