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Evil Sister-in-Law To Be

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Dear RG,
I'm in desperate need of your great advice. This is a slightly long, yet entertaining email...so don't delete :)

Here is my story: I know someone really pathetic that has done me wrong on several occasions, and I feel like it's time to get even. I usually believe in "what goes around, comes around", but in this situation it might be good to make the "come around" happen faster.

The story is about this 29 year-old girl (not woman, girl!) that puts up a 'sensible' front in order to have everyone do everything for her. She's been living with her boyfriend (at the guy's parents house) ever since they started dating 3 years ago. Her excuse? It would save her money not having to rent an apartment. That could be acceptable if she was to contribute in any way in the house (i.e. laundry, cook, pay for the food, etc..). She constantly uses her weakness to avoid doing anything... Lately, she even started bossing her boyfriend's parents around and telling them what they should and shouldn't do in their own house!

And that's nothing compared to the fact that instead of being at the top of her career (she has a master degree from a good university), she stays at home. To calm down the shocked parents, she claims that she is trying to start her own company...by watching videos on Youtube and painting her portrait (not a joke!) all day.

Her only friend is her dog.

She barely goes out of the house, and she is always trying to take advantage of everyone, including her boyfriend. After dating for 3 months, she made him buy her a $5,000 engagement ring. He proposed to her 2 years later, but only because he felt pressured.

Now they are set to get married in the summer, and she is keeping him from doing what he likes.. because they need to save the money for their wedding. To this day, I don't understand how he puts up with all this bulls***t. He is hot, smart and successful.

She is less than average and instead of starting a family she wants to move to the South of France and open a Bed and Breakfast. Anyway, that's his problem.

My problem is the following: I'm dating the brother of her future husband and she just hates my guts.

I'm really straightforward and I don't let anyone step on my foot, literally. I believe I am a nice looking woman, with a bright career and a good relationship, and I can afford numerous things that she is currently unable to buy because of her jobless statute.

I always hear stories of how, when I'm not there, she backstabs me and tries to make everyone see what a bad person I am. In the beginning, I didn't care. But it amplified with time.

One Christmas, I wrote her a nice little card telling her how I feel and that what she is doing is very immature of her and that instead of trying to compete and bring me down, we should be friends. I think, she threw the card away. I tried on several other occasions, without success.

This past Christmas, she had me banned from the family supper. I was only invited the next day (so she can have my gift, obviously). There are also numerous other nasty things that she did to me. Please don't ask me to talk to her, or to her fiancé, or to the parents, because they are all under her spell.

I don't know what she did or say, but she also convinced the mother of my boyfriend that I'm not good enough for her son and that he should break up with me. The parents are both old and simple people, with ancient values. And she surely knows how to play around with them. The dad doesn't really care about all this, and I know that he adores me. But the mother is her secret weapon, she befriended her and told her how I keep her son from concentrating on his work, and that he could find a better girl, etc,etc.

In the end, the mother asked me to stop visit them (!!!)

At first I was very hurt and didn't understand the situation, and neither did my bf, who tried to talk to his mother(without success...this proves how manipulated she was, to rather listen a stranger than her own son). We are both very tired and sick of this annoying/immature situation and only wish for the better, but there seems to be no end to the meanness and cruelty of this poor little person. I've brainstormed possible revenges with my girlfriends, but we don't seem to find any realistic revenge...something that will emotionally hurt her as bad as she hurt me, yet intelligent and not traceable to the source.

I really hope that I get a response from you...I do not wish any harm to anyone, I just want justice.

Best wishes,
Diana

RG's AnswerHi Diana,
There’s no point in me telling you that she’s a narcissist (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder)
I’m sure you already know that.

How to deal with her is another story all together.

She won’t take blame for anything she does, not even if the “enablers” change their behavior towards her, as in, not letting her run their lives.
Don’t bother again telling her or showing her how you feel about her actions, it’s not that she doesn’t care, she can’t.

Too wrapped up in her own life… as much as a narcissist can be.

But you are right, your email is entertaining, takes me back to a younger time, when I was, well, younger.

So, what can we come up with to pull her down a few pegs??

Hehe…

1) Not entirely creative but always great for a hidden laugh… fake lottery tickets. After all, who can refuse scratching an instant win ticket? And who can refuse to spend the money even before the ticket is validated? Not her…. You can get them from novelty stores and through my site…

2) The wedding is coming… get in on the plans and find out who is doing the catering, the church rental, the reception… get all the details and then use SPOOFCARD, available at, where else, my site… and call her telling her that any of the above has been cancelled, can’t go on, is overbooked for her day, whatever. With SPOOFCARD you can change your voice, change the call display and even record the call… email me a copy when you’re done!!

3) Of course, since she’s staying at home, listening to music… painting… blah blah… if she was offered her dream job, whatever that is, do you think she’d change her ways? Again, using spoofcard, you could be the boss of her dreams, with job and extremely high salary too. Would she fall for that? Over the phone interview… here’s the address, show up on Monday, ask for Mr. whatever (I really like this one, I’ll have to remember it!)

I’m sure this will give you a good starting point to brainstorm some more, or at least have a good laugh.

And remember, never right something down and give it to someone if it might come back to haunt you. You can take back words but not written letters or notes.

Let me know how things work out, I’d love to hear about it.
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