How strong and long-term is your long-term relationship? Test your
capacity for longevity and lasting love as a couple by taking this quiz
together.
This is far more than a simple quiz. You can use the areas in which you
find weakness in your relationship as points to work on with your
partner, ensuring more happiness for more years together.
Directions:
Print out this week's sections of the quiz and take them somewhere you
can be undisturbed.
Complete the sections by placing a checkmark next to each statement you
agree with. Score the sections by giving yourself one point for each
checkmark. Record your score for the week and keep it on hand.
At the end of four weeks -- at which point you will have receives all 10
sections of the quiz -- combine your scores and read the quiz score
interpretation.
If you are in a relationship, ask your partner to do the same, then get
back together and compare your scores. Use your answers and your scores
as a springboard for discussion.
Use this quiz as an opportunity to deepen your understanding of
yourself, or if you are in a relationship, of yourself and your partner.
Use your unmarked/disagree statements as points to work on.
The Marriage (and long-term relationship) Quiz Will You Live Happily
Ever After?
Section 1: How You Look at
Relationships
___ 1. Conflict between partners is no time to pack up and leave
___ 2. Conflict between partners does not mean you picked the wrong
partner
___ 3. Conflict between partners is not a reflection of whether or not
you are with your soulmate
___ 4. Unrelenting conflict means your need to get outside help
___ 5. Physical and emotional abuse is not a normal part of couple
conflict
___ 6. Conflict between partners is an opportunity to create more depth
and intimacy
___ 7. The best way to deal with conflict is not to wait until it blows
over
___ 8. The best way to deal with conflict is not to have a knock down,
drag out everything fight
___ 9. The best way to deal with conflict is not to stonewall your
partner when an issue is being brought up
___ 10 The best way to deal with conflict is to have a reasonably calm
discussion, making sure to stay on topic
____ YOUR SCORE FOR SECTION 1
Section 2: How You Deal with Your Negative
Feelings
___ 1. I don't hide my negative feelings from myself
___ 2. I don't save up feelings, even when they seem minor, because then I
would blow up when I got full
___ 3. I voice my feelings even when I am afraid of scaring away my partner
___ 4. I try to discuss feelings when they come up
___ 5. When something goes wrong, I can control my anger
___ 6. I don't take my partner's actions personally. Yes, I am affected, but
bad things are not being done to me on purpose
___ 7. I work on seeing each incident clearly, as possibly related to, but
separate from the past. Situations can turn out differently
___ 8. When we argue, I never hit below the belt -- I never purposefully say
hurtful words
___ 9. I have a right to my feelings and never have to justify how I feel
___ 10 I have a responsibility to not use my feelings as weapons against my
partner
____ YOUR SCORE FOR SECTION 2
Section 3: Being Your Own Person
___ 1. I love myself and could never give myself up completely for another
___ 2. I am noticing parts of myself I surrendered to the relationship and
reclaiming them
___ 3. I have not given up my passion to be in the relationship
___ 4. I have not given my friends to be in the relationship
___ 5. I have not given my finances and financial security to be in the
relationship
___ 6. I have not given up my self care while in the relationship
___ 7. I have not given up my spirituality while in the relationship
___ 8. I have not been asked to give up on things, activities, dreams and
hopes important to me
___ 9. I have not given up on my self, my self esteem, my dignity while in the
relationship
___ 10. I have gained as a person from the relationship -- more interests,
vitality, more richness, more life, etc.
____ YOUR SCORE FOR SECTION 3
____ YOUR SCORE FOR THE FIRST THREE SECTIONS
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