Online personal ads are a great way to meet a lot
of interesting people quickly. Personal ads are also a great way to get over a
fear many singles struggle with - that there are not enough available singles
of the opposite sex out there. Once you get into the online personal ad game
and connect with hundreds of other singles looking for a relationship, that
It's easy enough to write an ad that will get people to either contact you or
respond to your hello. In fact, this is so easy that you could end up with way
too many responses and way too many people who are not suited for you.
If what you really want is to get connected with people who are well suited
for you, with whom you are a great match, then consider the following tips for
writing an online personal ad:
1. Know what qualities you are looking for in a
partner and ask for them in your ad.
Think about what is really important to you in a partner. These are the same
qualities you find really important in friends.
2. Do not list qualities you do not want in a partner.
Ads listing unwelcome qualities sound negative and often angry and turn people
off. You can screen people for qualities you do not want once you speak to or
correspond with them.
3. Know what qualities you bring to the
relationship and list them in your ad.
Think about what makes you, you. These are the same qualities your friends
find appealing about you.
4. Mention any hobby, passion or activity that occupies a large amount of your
If there is something you either love to do or spend a lot of time doing,
mention it in a description of yourself. It is obviously important to you and
part of what defines who you are.
5. Be honest about who you are, and what you want and do not play games.
If you are afraid to write an ad that is too personal for fear of attracting
no one, see if you can try it anyway. The more honest you are, the more likely
you are to attract whom you actually want.
6. Refrain from making your ad to sexual, unless you are looking for sexual
If you are looking for a relationship and not just sex, leave the sex out and
tone down the physical descriptions in your ad. Otherwise you will be
attracting people who are more interested in sex than in a relationship.
7. Know what kind of a relationship you want and list some of the highlights
in your ad.
Whether you want a relationship with lots of laughter and fun, or one where
deep conversations last into the night, etc., put some of this in your ad.
8. Write the ad in your conversational style.
Refrain from using dazzling words or a lighthearted tone, unless that is your
natural inclination. Write the ad in a style that most naturally resembles
your spoken word, not in a style in which you think you should write.
9. Get your closest friends to read your ad to determine whether it describes
you and the relationship/partner you are looking for.
Our friends often know us better than we know ourselves - trust their opinion
if they tell you to rewrite your ad. You are more likely to end up attracting
people you feel good dating.
10. Go slow when people show interest.
When someone answers your ad and sounds like the kind of person you are
looking for, still take time to get to know him or her. You don't really know
someone until you spend a significant amount of time together in person.
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