My Real Story: Robert Lee
There's a good story to how I arrived where I am right now, so is the reason you're reading this. Everything you've done in your life has brought you to this moment, this article and this sharing of my experience to benefit your future life.
I have a
successful Internet company and all the toys
(computers, PS3, Wii, Xbox360, new truck, new house, 2 big screen
TV's) you can bloody well imagine for a
guy in his 40s. My story started a long time ago, when I was a lost
little kid.
You see, I didn't even have my first date until I was 18. I finally had a girlfriend when I was 18 1/2. I didn't have sex until I was 21.
Now this is not the type of thing that a normal guy admits to complete strangers, but I'm allowing you to peek inside where I've been so you know how I arrived where I am today. And where I am is comfortable with myself and comfortable with the women that are around me, even my wife. LOL.
I will say that if I had known then what I know now, and this is one of those obvious lines, I would have done a lot better in my youth. It's truly by example that we learn what were doing. And when were doing it right. If you have someone to teach you that's been there before and can share his experiences with you your life with women becomes so much easier.
Now, you know that through this whole thing it will come down to me saying download David DeAngelo's book and get on with your life. Avoid the mistakes and the wasting of time that most guys go through trying to meet the wrong women and ending up never meeting the right woman.
Your life doesn't have to wait for you to catch up to it. And I'm sure you know what I mean.
So, I had my first girlfriend when I was 18 1/2. I went out with her
for about six months, and from then I had casual friends, that were
woman, that I just kind of bounced around between but nothing
serious.
I really didn't know my way around women. They either came right to me having the courage to come up to a guy that's basically goofy and wimpy, but with a strong personality. I never had a problem making friends, it was never one of my issues. But approaching women certainly was. It seemed that the only time I ended up with the girl was at 3 AM after party. And of course those type of things don't last. You don't know how they got started really.
So anyways, I guess from the time I was 21 until I was 25 I didn't have a girlfriend. In between these years the first girlfriend that I had died of cancer. I was a kid, I just didn't know how to deal. And I took it bad.
But what I did learn I learned from the friends were around me. They also had strong personalities, but they were much easier around women than I was. They weren't nervous. They always knew what to say. And they always got the girl.
I was along for the ride as it was. If there was a girl left over I might end up with or not. Not a very great tale, eh?
That was a sad time in my life in-between when I was 25 and 27. I didn't have a steady job, I bounced around between three or four places, I didn't have a steady girlfriend, if I had a girl in my life at all.
Through all the upheaval I came to the conclusion that it would be better if I worked on myself than if I worked on a relationship with someone else. I didn't know where that road would take me, but it took me a long ways from where I was. I moved from Toronto to Vancouver trying to straighten of my life. I was 27, and I didn't date again until I was 34.
For seven years, I didn't have a girlfriend. I wasn't seeing a girl. I was just working on myself. trying to find a steady job, a stable place to live... all that crap.
The story does have a happy ending for me. When I was 34 I met a beautiful girl online, we got together when I was 35, and we've been married for almost 10 years now.
But the relevance of my story is that I didn't have a teacher or solid male role model. I didn't have a lead to follow. It took me a long time, seven years, to get my act together. Not only with approaching women, but relating to women.
But now that we're in this Internet age. Communication is instant with feelings and emotions almost being irrelevant. Communication is through e-mail or IM. It's a tough way to try to project a personality, and I really feel for the guys are coming to life at this time because it's so freaking hard to be understood.
So there's good news for you, not like it was for me. Your options are better, you have leaders, you have teachers, you have personalities that you can reach out to understand and make your own. What I want you to see are the opportunities so I'm going to offer a few choices of places to go and see. I want you to make your own decision as to what's the best route for your personal growth and getting the girls.
If you have a hard time making a personality for yourself, for you to be able to bring out the guy that's within, here's a good choice in the "Double Your Dating" e-book program. Double Your Dating is, for some, a simple philosophy. For others it's a pickup guide that goes nowhere for men. I thought it was an understanding of my own personality and how I related to women. And why I didn't do so well for seven years, why it took so long to get my act together. The ebook really spoke to me.
It just might mean the same for you, so I want you to take the opportunity to find out more about "Double Your Dating".
There's other options as I said earlier, one of these options is The Dating Wizard's "The Secrets To Success With Women". In his book, Michael takes you into becoming a discoverer of yourself and how that inner strength that you are going to find and how to tap that makes you able to relate to women in a relationship sense that drives you forward, rather than holding you back. There's no funky come on lines. There's no pickup lines, this is finding a way to understand yourself. And that took me seven years. This will, with Michael's help, will take you a few months at most.
I could go on about all the e-books I've read and DVD programs that I've watched and followed in the task of guiding me. But we only have so much time together before I bore you and you just click away. So the two above e-books are going to be the strongest ways to find yourself and how you relate to women.
They both come with excellent references. They both come with awesome guarantee policies, and I don't think you can find better options anywhere as you start on the path to becoming your own man. Once you have started to find yourself, of course there are other programs that I recommend.
There two programs from the "Double Your Dating" guys that are DVD programs, and a pretty intense. There's nothing like a good three-month and six-month course to really open your eyes up, to really give you the material that you need to find what's going on in your life as it relates to women, which also overflows into how you relate to everything else in your life.
So what I would suggest is "On Being A Man - who naturally attracts women" and another DVD program called "Deep Inner Game - a conversation with David in Dr. Paul". Taken together these four programs, not entirely interrelated, are going to blow your mind.
You would once, finally, begin to see things that have been just lurking in the back of your mind. They will be shined on bright eyed and wide open.
Of course all these programs have previews, and
there's reviews and articles on this site about them. Hundreds
literally. So you can take your time and decide where you want to
start. And when you make that step forward you're going to see all
the possibilities that were there, right before you and you didn't
even know it.
And when you take these steps you will be maybe 10 or 15 years ahead of me. And I'm jealous as hell.
But I wish you well.
Your friend,
Robert Lee.
