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There are some
really important things I want to get to in this article so let me
QUICKLY take care of, once and for all hopefully, the endless flow
of a certain “relationship question” that seems to be the same
question over and over again in different versions. They ALL boil
down to the SAME situation, and for the most part, they all have the
SAME solution:
If a woman is MISTREATING YOU, get the HELL OUT OF THERE!
ESPECIALLY if you do not have KIDS with
this woman!
I mean, it’s one thing if you have a whole family with some crazy
woman, and you are finding a way to be with the kids and give them
the whole mother father balance thing. I respect that stuff.
But 99.99 percent of the time, I get emails from non-married guys
without their own kids who tell me how horrifying some woman is, but
who also quickly follows it up with “but the good times with her are
way better than with anyone else”.
You know what that is?
It’s BULLSHIT.
I know, because I’ve BEEN there.
When we talk that way, it’s because we have been somehow CONDITIONED
to believe that things are so crappy out there with women, that
we are somehow still LUCKY to be with this chick.
OR, what happens is that the woman has managed to convince the guy
that HE is so worthless, that he is somehow LUCKY to still have her,
even though she is mistreating him. Of course, she will deny that
she is mistreating him, she will pretend that she believes she is
treating him great, and will argue to high hell that she is a great
person, OR she will say stuff like “she can’t help it” and that you
have to ACCEPT her the way she IS if you LOVE her.
What sick, twisted, crap.
You really shouldn’t hate them though, they need help. Spread the
love, yo, but that don’t mean you have to be there to be a punching
bag, man.
And when a guy says “the good stuff with her is way, way better than
with anyone else”, that’s like saying “I’m getting my head smashed
in every day, but the BAND AIDS are so AWESOME!”
If you are not getting treated with total dignity, just get the hell
OUTTA there. There are better women out there, but you won’t meet
them or attract them if you stay with an abusive person, or if you
think you are unworthy of being treated with total dignity. If you
think that you are unworthy, you will behave that way, and attract
only unworthy women.
I hope that takes care of this issue, at least for a while.
Okay, NEXT!
Letter From A Reader:
Michael,
Let me start first by saying that your book has worked wonders. It
took me a while to get the concepts down, but I did a few years ago
and now things are good.
I like that your way is first, dealing with your insecurities and
extinguishing them instead of the other books that preach being
something you are not.
So this letter is about two things:
My game and how I'm doing now.
First the game. After learning the ways of your book and field
testing them until I had it, all was good. I had women fighting over
me, etc. And I realized something after letting a girl win me and
after we had been dating a bit.
Most of the girls said something like this:
"I liked the fact that you had no game." I was shocked the first
time I heard this and quickly tried to understand her meaning.
Then later, I realized that her and most women's perception of the
game is all of those stupid pick up lines, manipulations by men, and
anything else that pick up artists, etc. hurl at them on a daily
basis.
So I sat and pondered this and came to the conclusion that I do have
game, but since I am for real (like your book says to be) that I in
fact do have game.
I have a real game that does not include the usual lines, etc. MY
game is a reflection of me and the superiority value added person I
am. You see I had all of this from day one (the day I bought your
book), but I did not know how to put it all together in order to get
women. Now I do.
I can insinuate where things are going to go and guess what? That's
what happens. I see myself becoming attracted and my subconscious
makes it happen and I win the girl every time.
My game is subtle and non-threatening to them, so then they assume I
have no game, but end up dating me and feeling attraction for me
anyway.
I explained this to a girl once and she disagreed, but then I said,
but we are dating and you are attracted to me. She agreed and then
understood what I meant. I then said, "Babe, that is game."
So I think most women's idea of game is some guy trying to pick her
up with cheesy weak ass s**t. So like you once said, the trick to
the game is actually having no game or something to that affect.
Part two: Thanks to you, I have become real intuitive around women.
I know if they are attracted or like me now without much
conversation. I can read body language, etc. But the difference now,
is that I can tell if a girl is for me very quickly.
Since I am out trying to find ms. right, this leaves me with a lot
of alone time. To be honest, since I know what I want and what
attracts me, there just is not a lot of chicks who really impress
me. So I get bored with most women in 3.5 seconds of contact because
I can tell.
The good news is that this is a great filter and I don't have to
waste any time. A girl has to show me her value before I can become
attracted to her and ya know what? A lot of women I have been around
simply think that their looks are all it takes! Wrong! So Wrong!
Some wonder why I don't act interested in them, especially if they
are hot.
My good friend's girl tried to hook me up with one of her friends
once. She was all beauty and no display of any ambition, or energy.
(damn girl, are ya dead? haha!) I asked her questions that were
light and that did not allow for a simple yes or no answer and she
could not or would not answer them! I was done in 3.5 seconds and
stopped qualifying her.
She later thought I was shy or something, but I had told my buddy's
girl that I did not think we were compatible shortly after I stopped
qualifying her in those few seconds. She was like "no worries" and
told her friend that I was not interested and of course the girl
said "how could he turn down a hottie like me?"
Well Michael, I can turn them down and I do all the time if I don't
feel any attraction to them. I love that I am in control and that I
don't need a woman to validate me on whether I am good enough for
her or not in anyway.
I am the man and I know what I want from a woman. If I don't get
that from her, then she is off my radar screen. But now I am bored
because I fully realized that a woman of quality is hard to find,
but at least now I have the intuitiveness to be able to save myself
so much time and money. No longer do I sit and wonder after spending
time and $$ if the girl likes me or not.
Its great! Thanks a Billion, no a Trillion man!
You rock!
Name Withheld, “who wishes a woman of quality would enter his life”.
Michael's Response:
Thanks for the major recommendation. Yup, the thing that makes me
different from what’s out there is that I don’t try to force guys
into becoming something they are not.
What I do is I FIND AND THEN ERADICATE THE MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL
TOXIC WASTE that has been screwing up their “game”, the same way a
computer virus screws up a computer. Remove the virus, and suddenly
the computer is moving at super speed and giving you great results.
I also actually help guys ENHANCE the things about them that are
ALREADY cool, and help guys learn to bring this out.
And yes, as I have stated in my articles and other materials and in
my coaching services, the best “pick-up” is the one that you never
see, because it doesn’t look, feel, or sound like a “pick-up”.
Because the way I do things, it isn’t a cheesy pick up, it’s about
giving off vibes and actually finding out about the other person as
well, to see if you really do want to meet up again and take things
further.
Now, if a guy is the type of guy who REALLY THINKS THAT BOREDOM is
his identity, then he really should be congruent to that and not be
interested in women who rock, since after all, they would be adding
excitement and fun, and that goes against his life philosophy of
boredom.
So for all the guys who really think that they LIKE to dress in a
boring way, or behave in a boring way, or who like being negative,
and not being fun at all, well, they should please continue to do
exactly as they have been doing until now.
Having fun, exciting, sexy, intelligent, great women (or woman) in
their lives will totally RUIN their congruency to the boredom
identity which they crave.
One thing though regarding your letter, and that is you CAN find
exactly what you are looking for, you just have to get OUT there and
do more pick up, in the venues or locations that are more
appropriate for what you want.
Do NOT rely on friends to hook you up, because it’s obvious they do
NOT know what you like or they cannot find the kind of quality you
like.
I mean, for example, personally I like the kind of women who hang
out in the award-winning literature sections than the kind of girl
who thinks that MTV is the meaning of life.
Also, regarding asking questions right away, even if they are light,
it’s better to actually stimulate a conversation through an
interesting and fun TOPIC rather than to get into a series of
questions right off the bat, with a total stranger. Coming in with a
flurry of questions makes her feel a bit weirded out. I just thought
I should mention that in case there was any confusion on that topic.
And let me know when you meet that first awesome woman! I estimate,
with your skill, that should happen FAST. Like, within a few weeks
TOPS.
And now, for our concluding letter for today:
Letter From A Reader:
Hi,
I appreciate your newsletter and articles tremendously.
What are some good ways to "become a fun guy"? I liked what you said
about how guys don't exercise their mental frame muscles, and their
fun emotion muscles. I know a little about the mental frame muscles,
but I think that's the "easy" part.
Thanks.
Name Withheld
Michael's Response:
This is a great question, one of the MOST important questions
actually. One of the HORRIFYING REALITIES regarding this is the fact
that the total jerk-offs of this planet have no problem laughing and
having a great time and being selfish and not giving a damn about
anyone except themselves.
This often lends them an air of fun, which is attractive on many
levels that go right back to evolutionary hardwiring as well as a
ton of other things that are very, VERY deep and beyond the scope of
a single article.
Good guys are often so serious, they are conscious of all the
problems in the world, they want to help, etc, etc. They feel the
pain of others, etc. They worry about everything.
The thing is, I could never CHANGE who I was and become an uncaring
person, just so that I could be care-free and fun.
So how DID I learn to get into the right state?
(And by the way, I’m not a robot, I’m not ALWAYS in the most awesome
state, but I do my damn best and don’t tolerate any of my own
bull**it.) And how did I learn to do this and ALSO still be a good
guy, even when it’s not easy?
HERE’S HOW:
It starts with first changing the way you THINK.
For example, years ago, before I had figured out what was going on
with attraction and women, I once stepped into a pizza joint, and
saw this guy that I remembered from years before that, who was a
total jerk-off, the kind of guy that enjoyed putting down others,
and who happened to have a hot girl with him.
Except I started to realize that maybe he didn’t just “HAPPEN” to
have this hot girl with him.
This guy wasn’t even GOOD LOOKING!
I couldn’t figure it out right away.
It just somehow really pissed me off. That these fragile, supposedly
nicey-nicey girls would hook up with scum.
Then, a crazy thought hit me:
What if all these jerks weren’t attracting women IN SPITE of their
jerkiness, but somehow it was RELATED to it?
Pieces of this gigantic puzzle slowly started to fuse together in my
mind, all the various pieces, from past girls that didn’t work out,
to the way I got treated by a lot of people, to the nuances in the
ways certain jerks behaved and the responses they elicited. I didn’t
figure EVERYTHING out in that moment, but the mental wheels and
gears started to turn...
Anyway, this isn’t my biography, so let me cut to the chase: I
eventually started to realize, that all these hot girls didn’t
actually LIKE the EVIL of these guys, it was just that they were NOT
MEETING ANY GOOD GUYS who also had that that fun AURA or “VIBE”,
that radiates so MANY things, including sexuality and conviction in
their every action and word.
Now, years later, the most amazing thing for me is taking on guys
who are great guys, real giving people, who seriously apply my
coaching, and who can now waltz into a club or any environment on
earth and attract the kind of women they had thought were out of
reach before.
And, all the while, there is no “jerkiness” involved, and no forced
behaviors, and instead they are actually just being fun,
charismatic, classy, and dare I say it, they are GOOD. It feels
GREAT for me to observe this.
Things like being fun and playful, having good times, and radiating
conviction in everything you do, have nothing to do with being a
creep. You don’t have to be a CREEP to be FUN or charismatic.
It’s pretty sad that I have to even SAY that, but it needs to be
said.
The problem is, so often, it’s only the jerks who feel ENTITLED to
HAVING SOME FUN and to getting what they want.
So you see, I suddenly started to realize that JERKS were winning
the game only by DEFAULT.
That realization hit me pretty damn HARD. Basically, what I realized
was that if good guys DON’T TAKE ACTION AND ENTER INTO FUN STATES OF
MIND AND TAKE UP A SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT, then we are basically
GIVING every woman out there AWAY to these jerks!
So, the way I look at it, it’s YOUR DUTY as a good guy to get your
ass motivated and learn to get into the right states of mind
INSTANTLY.
It’s that simple.
DO OR DIE.
Take action and ironically, the most serious action you can take is
to lighten up a little and get out there and socialize, or be
OBLITERATED in this game, leaving a bunch of jerks to hook up with
all the women who really wanted to meet a good guy who just
understood how to create attraction.
There is NOTHING ON EARTH to me like the feeling of taking a client
who is a GOOD GUY, to the level of HIGH ABILITY WITH WOMEN, and
doing this without changing his personality and without making him
have to stand around memorizing lines all day.
What I teach guys is something that is DIFFERENT from both “DIRECT”
METHOD, and different from “INDIRECT” method. I don’t just get guys
to APPROACH, a la “direct”. And I don’t emphasize memorizing
material, a la “indirect”. I teach the realities of women, and I
also FOCUS on fixing each guy’s internal and emotional wiring, so
that everything that they think of and everything they do flows
through that new awesome mental filter, making everything they do
work great with women.
It’s about building the most UNSTOPPABLE, EMOTIONALLY COMPELLING
version of yourself that you can actually BE.
And, of course, since it IS based on yourself, you feel BETTER about
it, which makes it EASIER for you to ENTER the more FUN states of
mind that you need for success with the kind of women in which you
are interested.
So, the FIRST thing you must do if you want to get good at
exercising these “FUN” emotional muscles, is get the INTERNAL
LEVERAGE, you must REALIZE JUST HOW DAMN IMPORTANT IT TRULY IS.
And guess what?
Just because you are a FUN person does not at ALL mean you are not a
GIVING person, it does not at all mean you are not a good person. In
fact, some of the most AWESOME people I know, people who put their
lives on the line everyday to protect other people, are VERY FUN
PEOPLE.
I actually think that being in a FUN state is pretty NATURAL, if you
can just STOP the world from taking OVER your thoughts. Play and fun
is NATURAL. But if you have been in SERIOUS gear your entire life,
it’s going to take some INERTIA to start changing. That means
changing the kinds of THOUGHTS you focus on as well, and the kinds
of things you DO in your free time as well. It means you have to
also start hanging around the right people. These are just some
BASIC FOUNDATION ideas to get started, without even touching on the
more advanced levels of this.
So let me make it clear:
Women DO want GOOD guys, they would PREFER good guys, but they have
to be just good guys who know how to trigger their emotions of
ATTRACTION.
You can’t blame women for that, right?
Do you think romantic movies do well because women DON’T feel lust
for heroic and fun good guys? Trust me, women WANT good guys, they
just want good guys who “GET IT”.
Also, one final point:
You mentioned that the mental frame muscles are the easy part, but
I’m not so sure if that’s the case for most guys. Knowing how to
CONTROL THE FRAME with women is very important, and being able to do
this to the point it feels natural takes practice.
Women will try to steal the frame from you, because it’s their way
of showing they are “hard to get” and this is simply a ROLE they
feel they MUST play to varying degrees, depending on the woman. You
have to realize that women EXPECT A MAN who is seriously interested
to OVERCOME her own frame smoothly in a classy way.
This controlling the frame stuff is ANOTHER thing that jerks really
don’t have a monopoly on, but it just SEEMS that way, because they
are often the only guys who exude ANY frame of their own with women,
and also it seems as if jerks have a monopoly on this controlling
the frame stuff because NO ONE even CHALLENGES their frame.
If someone WOULD challenge it, it would crumble to pieces, because
they are not used to BEING challenged.
No good guys even SHOW UP to play, or if they do, they have NO CLUE
on controlling the frame when interacting with a woman. And women
WANT you to do this, because when a woman is attracted to a guy,
(which you can learn how to do) it’s still up to the GUY to make the
interaction happen and to LEAD THE SHOW. Good guys tend NOT to do
this. So the jerks win.
The truth is, most jerks have VERY WEAK frames, but they have no
competition from any other guys! So if their frame is just a bit
stronger than pathetically weak, they are still SEEMING TO WOMAN AS
IF they are more “manly” than most guys!
But if good guys just KNEW HOW F***ING SUCCESSFUL they could be if
they just were willing to LEARN, I really think that every guy on
the planet would learn this stuff.
You have to WANT to get good at this game, though. You have to be
willing to LEARN, and to listen, and to LIGHTEN UP.
What I teach is NOT ROOTED in learning “material” and is not rooted
in saying teases. More important is the FRAME you must have about
yourself and about women.
Without this frame, most guys ruin their teases and whatever else
they say.
Also, regarding teases that are delivered from the wrong frame and
are not congruent, most guys never learn about how USELESS and
unproductive their teases are, because these guys practice
exclusively on these poor female employees who are tolerating it
because they are just cool women or because they are paid to be
polite!
Also, I have some serious NEWS that is going to come as a shock to
certain guys who are FANS of using the “NEGATIVE” approach to
attracting women, by slamming her self-esteem with backhanded
compliments that aren’t even FUNNY at all. And even if they were
funny, the blast to her self-esteem is a huge mistake.
Also, if the only way you can get a reaction out of a girl is if you
use NEGATIVE stuff, it’s a sign of WEAK GAME.
If you need to PUT DOWN a girl to get her INTERESTED in you, it’s
WEAK game.
And it is destined to crumble.
It means that your VIBE was WEAK. If you had STRONG ENOUGH VIBE, you
could carry INFINITE attraction in that alone.
My rule of thumb is to NEVER give a girl a tease that she might
think is TRUE. EVER.
This way, it’s all on the up and up, and it’s NEVER malicious.
Ding Ding Ding!
I can hear those game show bells ringing as the “money” statements
of the year have just been made above.
And while we’re at it, let me unleash another shocker:
The “in vogue” mentality of PUSHING “escalation”, i.e. the “I have
to get laid mentality” etc, is counter-productive and misguided.
What “escalation” REALLY means is moving to the next stage of the
interaction when it makes the most SENSE, i.e. when the woman is
READY to be escalated. Not all women are the same, not all women are
ready at the same times.
The real reason this whole “escalation” stuff is important is
because TOO MANY GUYS are not escalating out of FEAR.
So guys have to learn how to be COMFORTABLE escalating into the
physical contact stuff.
THAT’S the bigger deal. Being comfortable with it.
You see, a woman will give you CUES that she is ready for
escalation, like wanting to extend the time she is spending with
you. (i.e. coming up with excuses to stay out later with you, things
to do, etc.)
And IF you are not comfortable with escalating at that point, well
then that is definitely something worth working on: The skill of
smoothly escalating and feeling comfortable doing it.
But it’s not about PUSHING the escalation at some arbitrary time.
You have to get SIGNS for escalating, or you can even CHECK to see
if she is ready by doing things such as having a playful kiss or
massage or even hug for crying out loud!
The thing is, so many guys are totally oblivious to the signs
because they can’t believe that women are as sexual as they actually
are.
Also, regarding teases, and in fact everything you do with women,
CALIBRATION and CONGRUENCY are key, so if you are not properly
calibrating the woman you are dealing with, and thus coming on too
HARSH with your teases, or if you are coming on as if you are TRYING
to be cool, because your body language and tonality shows just how
crappy you really feel, then you would be WAY BETTER OFF just acting
NORMAL around women.
Yes, NORMAL.
That’s why in my book, I go into detail on detoxifying your mind of
all your insecurities, which are the real breeding ground of the
behaviours that are repulsive to women.
When you get rid of this negative stuff, your “normal” behaviour on
it’s own is pretty powerful as well, even without the most powerful
insights into attraction, which of course when you DO learn those
insights from me as well, will take you into the STRATOSPHERE of
success with women.
And if YOU are reading this right now and want to learn the SKILLZ
so that you can go way BEYOND just basic confidence, so that you can
truly make girls AWED by the sum total of your CHARISMA, then I
recommend you take the following steps:
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-And much, much more.
2. The Real World Bootcamp
In the Real World Bootcamp, I will serve as your exclusive
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the street. If you want to learn all the complex dynamics of
attracting a woman and taking her through all the stages of the
rollercoaster, then it's best to learn from someone who's actually
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what he's talking about so that he can fill in all the CONTEXT
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with you in real venues such as clubs, malls, streets, cafes, and
even trains and buses.
The bootcamp will get you to where you want to be in the most
efficient manner possible. I'll teach you HOW to deal with all the
unpredictable situations that can arise, I'll show you HOW to deal
with challenges such as loud music where it's difficult to be heard,
and HOW to actually isolate girls, HOW to deal with her friends, and
of COURSE how to pick up in daytime as well. And you'll also get to
learn how to REALLY create a natural vibe to the whole interaction
so that she doesn't feel weird about meeting you the next time.
I wish somebody could have taught me all this stuff at one shot over
a weekend instead of having to learn it piece by piece, from various
different guys and from tons of my own mistakes and experiences over
YEARS. During those years, it was often like walking blindfolded
into the lion's cage, where I got ripped apart. If you want to avoid
the feeling of being punched in from all sides at once, and if you
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[Date and place to be announced soon!]
This is your chance to get the most advanced understanding and skill
on this topic on earth. This is not a seminar where I am just
talking, I will be interacting with you, taking your questions, and
there will even be a component of the seminar where clients get to
prove that what they have learned actually works, as they pick up
women for real.
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Till next time,
Michael W.
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check out
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