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Learning opening lines isn't the same as being successful.
Parroting some dating guru's opening lines makes you seem fake...
knowing how to create your own opening lines and conversations is
sexy and attraction building.
This field (helping men gain confidence to meet women and maintain
relationships) is far too personal for me to give you any commercial
bull**it. Yes, I absolutely expect to be paid fairly for what I do,
but I seriously cannot stand the idea of giving guys even once one
ounce of b.s. about a topic that in my opinion can lead some guys to
suicide. I will never forget the absolute hell that this can be if
you don’t know what you are doing or if you are locked into the idea
of neediness.
So I want to totally clarify some critical things that I believe
that no one else on earth is saying clearly at all. Regarding the
ACTUAL FIRST MOMENTS, the ACTUAL PICK-UP.
The FIRST thing I want to explain is the relative importance of
having “material” to use to open up a woman or group of women, or to
keep the interaction going well.
The argument that the guys who use material assert is that, “All the
“BEST” guys use the same material over and over again, because IT
WORKS”.
The argument that guys who DON’T use material assert is “The “GREAT”
guys who are “naturals” never use material, and using material means
you don’t feel good enough about your own ability to speak
naturally, so using something that is not “on the spot” and natural
thus subtly indicates through your thoughts and therefore through
your micro-actions that you feel and are inferior”.
The REALITY is that the LIFEBLOOD of any interaction you have with a
woman is first of all your STATE OF MIND, and your ability to
TRANSMIT those awesome states of your mind into her mind. The other
critical factor is also to display dominance at certain key moments
of the interaction in a masculine way, another important topic for a
different time.
The ONLY reason that the guys who “use” material feel so strongly
about it, is because they HAVE DONE IT SO MANY TIMES they now
associate their awesome state with the words themselves.
ALSO, and this is HUGE, because they already KNOW the words they are
going to say, they are NOT WORRYING THEMSELVES about this issue.
What the worry does to guys is DRAIN their emotional energy and
channel it into the wrong states of mind.
The irony is, that by having words and “material” memorized, these
guys are now free to NOT worry about the words at all. Rather, they
can focus their energies on tapping into their powerful emotional
reservoirs, and unleash the FLOOD of awesome vibes that dwell within
themselves. It’s hard to do this if you are in a WORRIED state of
mind.
The emotions and vibes that are unleashed when one focuses on this,
must be REAL to be most effective.
At least in that MOMENT of the interaction, they must be real.
The words don’t matter as much, (although they can help) as long as
the say the basic message. The rest of the power comes from the
DELIVERY, which means it comes from the “TRUENESS” of how much the
guy FEELS congruent to what he is saying, and what he is saying has
to be EMOTIONALLY RELEVANT—meaning it’s funny, or intriguing, or
exciting, or dramatic, etc.
He has to MEAN what he says.
Let me give you the best damn example I can think of:
When a great singer sings a song, how important are just the words?
Important to a degree, after all, the song has to say SOMETHING.
But we all know that if that singer gets up there and just SAYS THE
WORDS, or just sings the words without being passionate about it,
his or her performance is going to be a TOTAL FAILURE, emotionally,
with the audience.
And we also know that fake passion is quite apparent to an audience.
I can think of several bands and certain singers who might NOT have
the ULTIMATE voices, but if you listen to them, or see them in
person, you will be BLOWN AWAY.
The reason for this is because these performers TRULY EXPERIENCE THE
EMOTION OF THE SONG WITHIN THEMSELVES as they perform. And when they
experience this, all kinds of subconscious, infinite, and subtle
things occur in their body language and voice inflection, that
communicate directly with the emotional sensors in the brain of each
person in the audience.
Each and every time, the performer must ACTUALLY HONESTLY EXPERIENCE
the emotion if they are going to deliver their BEST performance.
Each and every time, it has to be REAL, or the audience will be
cheated and it will be obvious. It will be sucky.
Similarly, a great actor, even though he is ACTING, in order to
truly deliver a great performance, he or she must actually
experience the emotions that character is going through, in order to
EXPRESS it powerfully to an audience.
AND SIMILARLY, when a guy opens up a conversation with a woman, if
he is WORRIED about what he is going to SAY, then WORRY is the
emotion he will be EXPRESSING and transmitting into her mind as
well. Making her feel uncomfortable, of course.
So you see, the REAL issue is just having SOMETHING to act as the
medium to carry your emotional expression. So whether you MEMORIZE
something to say, or you come up with it on the spot, the CRITICAL
factor is having the proper emotions fueling every second and every
word.
THIS is
what allows you to make the JUMP from A to D instead of having to
spend one year on step A, another year on step B, and so on and so
forth.
NOW, having BOTH the BEST WORDS and the BEST
EMOTIONAL FUEL is the BEST of both worlds. But the emotional fuel is
by far the more important of the two, especially when you consider
that most first conversations with women will be playful stuff that
is really not that deep at ALL, so all you really need is to keep in
mind that the TOPICS should be PLAYFUL, whether you are arguing that
women are more dangerous than men because as you can see the Black
Widow and the Praying Mantis proves this lol, or any other topic
about the current gossip about celebrities, and teasing the girls on
their responses to what you say, etc.
So to me, the idea of
spending hours and hours trying TO MEMORIZE stuff is really
ludicrous, and ESPECIALLY if you plan on actually having this girl
stick around you in the future, then you should have ALREADY for
yourself have topics and/or hobbies that you are passionate about,
which of course makes YOU a happier and more complete person who is
less needy for anything that women can give you, also makes you a
more interesting person to women as well of course.
Some guys
actually do WORSE with material, because for THEM, THEY worry that
they will be “caught” and sound fake, so again, they are back to
worrying. Which cuts OFF the power to all the awesome emotional
reservoirs.
I would like to also end off here by saying that
it’s ALL ABOUT THE EMOTIONS you are unleashing in her.
So
it’s not only what you SAY, and what you feel, but also what awesome
emotions are being unleashed by what you are WEARING from head to
toe. Which is an important topic in itself.
What makes ALL of
this stuff especially effective, is if she attributes those emotions
as YOU, and not just triggered by you. This is why it’s so important
that everything you do be infused with just the right amount of
superiority.
This is why for example, the effective type of
humor is laced with a comment that subtly implies your own value. So
for example, giving a woman a compliment on her “good taste in men”
while she is with you, is actually giving yourself a compliment, and
kind of funny too. Of course, overdoing this type of thing will have
the OPPOSITE effect and make you look weird or just make you
annoying. CALIBRATION is the key, which comes from you actually
USING what I explain here out in the real world.
And if
you want to learn exactly HOW to ACHIEVE this state of mind, it’s up
to YOU to take action. I can think of no finer way to do this than
by IMMEDIATELY downloading my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to
Success with Women, at:
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-How to trigger attraction instantly.
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the complex dynamics of attracting a woman and taking her through
all the stages of the rollercoaster, then it's best to learn from
someone who's actually "in the ring" on a regular basis and DOES it
for real, and knows what he's talking about so that he can fill in
all the CONTEXT that's missing from what you might be reading
elsewhere. You can now do that in my ONE-ON-ONE bootcamps where I
will work exclusively with you in real venues such as clubs, malls,
streets, cafes, and even trains and buses.
The bootcamp will
get you to where you want to be in the most efficient manner
possible. I'll teach you HOW to deal with all the unpredictable
situations that can arise, I'll show you HOW to deal with challenges
such as loud music where it's difficult to be heard, and HOW to
actually isolate girls, HOW to deal with her friends, and of COURSE
how to pick up in daytime as well. And you'll also get to learn how
to REALLY create a natural vibe to the whole interaction so that she
doesn't feel weird about meeting you the next time.
I wish
somebody could have taught me all this stuff at one shot over a
weekend instead of having to learn it piece by piece, from various
different guys and from tons of my own mistakes and experiences over
YEARS. During those years, it was often like walking blindfolded
into the lion's cage, where I got ripped apart. If you want to avoid
the feeling of being punched in from all sides at once, and if you
want to learn as fast as possible, I recommend you sign up for the
bootcamp as soon as you can.
Go to:
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seminar where I am just talking, I will be interacting with you,
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seminar where clients get to prove that what they have learned
actually works, as they pick up women for real.
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Till next time,
Michael W.
Featured Dating And Relationship Consultant For Men at aLoveLinksPlus.com
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