Michael W - The Dating Wizard: The Spell To Dating Success
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Welcome to "The Dating Wizard's: Spell To Dating Success" article series. When you are able to accept that a woman might potentially not like you, you are then able to let go of being overly concerned with this fear.
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Michael W: One of the major lessons I learned while on my journey to learning how attraction works, is that it's not enough to know WHAT works to attract a woman, it's equally crucial to know HOW to triumph over the emotional block or the fear that stands in the way of taking that action.
It's far tougher than most people think.
The greatest challenge on earth is actually IMPROVING ourselves, because it involves CHANGE, it involves dropping bad habits, dropping fears, dropping misconceptions about the way our own minds work.
As human beings, we are so resistant to change because we don't know for sure if that change will HELP our situation or make things WORSE.
And who the heck wants to risk things getting WORSE?
So, for example, let's just take one nasty habit that is very common, and that is the avoidance of making eye contact with a woman.
It doesn't even matter if this is NOT your challenge, because you can still apply this example to whatever your specific challenge might be.
The reason a guy does not make eye contact with a woman is because, on some level, he fears it might cause a PROBLEM.
It can be a million things, it can be that he feels it might be that he is inferior to her, and so it's somehow "wrong" or "guilty" of him to be looking in her eyes, as if he is "taking" too much.
Or he might feel that the woman will somehow "see" something in his eyes that reveals something "bad" or "uncool" about himself.
Whatever the fear is, the fear feels very REAL.
So, just telling a guy to make eye-contact is not always enough to help a guy actually DO it.
The same applies for making the first approach to a woman who is a total stranger, just telling him that women respect a guy more when he does it rather than waiting for a woman to make the first move, is not enough.
For some guys, it's enough just to know what the right thing to do is.
But it's a lot more than that usually for most guys, also have a challenge with doing something DIFFERENT than we have done before, because we did it that way before for a REASON.
And we're not sure that the new info we just got, i.e. "make eye contact" or "do the first approach" actually applies to US!
We think that maybe WE are the ones who are an EXCEPTION to the rule, because we FEEEEEL that fear so strongly, etc.
So, sometimes, we need a little tough love- we need someone to actually PUSH US to DO the right thing, to TAKE ACTION, to REMIND us to keep eye contact, and many other important things that make for a successful interaction with a woman.
That's just one part of what I do in Bootcamp by the way, I know just the right amount to push a guy, and when to ease up. But then on top of that, in ADDITION to actually taking ACTION again and again, i.e. making eye contact with woman after woman, again and again, and getting that desensitization going, what you ALSO need to be doing simultaneously is changing your MENTAL PERSPECTIVE on the situation.
So for example, the mental perspective on avoiding eye-contact with a woman may have been "I can't STAND the idea of a woman POSSIBLY thinking that I am inferior, so there is no way in hell that I can FACE that, I don't want to LOOK at her FACE because her face might show some kind of lack of approval and I just can't STAND the idea of that, I can't accept that" (honestly, it could be a MILLION things, this is just an example).
So, if a guy is going to be able to change, permanently, so that it's no big deal to stare down even the hottie of hotties, he has to do BOTH the ACTION of actually KEEPING EYE CONTACT, and he has to ALSO change his perspective to "I can be AT PEACE with the POSSIBILITY that she might think I am CRAP!
This might SOUND like it is ABSOLUTELY "COUNTER-INTUITIVE". It might sound like it's totally the OPPOSITE of confidence.
However, to ACHIEVE confidence is actually to achieve SECURITY first.
And SECURITY means being SECURE no matter WHAT people think.
But there's something even BIGGER than that, and that is, when you are ABLE TO ACCEPT that a woman might POTENTIALLY not like you, you are then able to LET GO of being overly concerned with this fear.
And THEN, you will find it much easier to radiate vibes of CONFIDENCE.
So, again, it's not just about the ACTIONS that you are doing. If you just force yourself to keep eye contact or to make an approach, it will help, but it's not enough, because if you let your old THOUGHTS and perspectives continue, you will eventually give up, because the DISCOMFORT and fear will be too much.
If you are obsessed with the fear that a woman or women in general will not like you, or that they will laugh at you, then I suggest you actually imagine that worst fear, i.e. going up to a woman, and the woman laughing her head off at you. If you keep going over this scene again and again, it will become like an old movie that you've seen a million times and it's kind of boring now.
Seriously, think of the most scary movie you've ever seen. Or, the most funny. Then watch the SCARIEST or the FUNNIEST scene over and over again for two HOURS and tell me if it's still nearly as powerful.
THAT'S the way you rob the emotional experience of its impact.
That's the reason they WAIT a couple of years between Star Wars movies or whatever other major entertainment it is being released in any form. Too much of it, and you start to get desensitized to it.
So if you imagine your worst fear regarding women over and over again, it will help ROB the situation of its impact, thus giving you WAY MORE confidence.
If you're reading this right now, I assure you that once again, this is the TIP of the ICEBERG. As significant as it is to know how to get over any fears, it's equally crucial to know how to then BEST go about the actual interaction, from the moment you see her to the moment you are under the covers and much more.
There is SO MUCH I'd love to show you, to truly MAKE YOU into a Jedi Knight when it comes to women.
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Till next time,
Michael
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