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For most guys turning on attraction in women is
like visiting a foreign land. They don't know the language,
understand the moves or read the signs. But most obvious is that
most guys start at the wrong airport and don't have a clue how to
even start the trip.
Sometimes I get some emails, and I can
so feel where the guy is coming from. And I'm talking about the
emails where the guy is just honestly confessing the insane level of
frustration he is feeling. And this takes GUTS to do this, to be
HONEST about wanting to IMPROVE his situation.
I remember all these relationship troubles, I remember it good.
Whenever I read these emails, I wish I could somehow snap my fingers
and just BE there in PERSON to CHANGE the guy's entire CONCEPT of
what is going on, because that is the real problem.
I could tell him to download my eBook, but his concept of reality is
so far off that he doesn't even BELIEVE yet. So a guy can go for
years before being READY to accept a new perspective, before being
READY to really download and read the eBook and understand it fully.
Let me give you an excerpt of a recent email I got from a guy who
had a negative experience with a couple of women, one from online
and one in real life:
"Perhaps there are other reasons, and there are plenty of women
around to meet, but my point is, aren't we men up against a level of
arrogance that is at an all time high ? Isn't this maybe too much
for us to take on ? I think there was a time that the average young
female might have been impressed to go out with a university
educated person. Now, what impresses them ? What will they
compromise on ? Anything can be a deal breaker...Pets, saying
something to their kid (no matter how ridiculous the kid is being),
anything at all?"
Any of that sound familiar to you?
OK. Now, listen to my next words VERY CAREFULLY, and I mean them
only in the best sense of CHANGING YOUR REALITY:
I can already tell from your email a BUNCH of things, but PRIMARILY
the MAIN THING GOING WRONG HERE is that you are treating this whole
women thing with a CEREBRAL attitude.
And by that, I mean you are coming across as BORING.
It's as simple as THAT.
You think that by piling on the university degrees, the good "being
able to compromise" behaviour, and possibly by having money, you are
going to appeal to women.
Because all this stuff LOGICALLY sounds like "GOOD THINGS".
These are the things you have been told your whole life that you
should have, to get a woman to want to be with you, etc.
And yeah, there are a few folks who get a LITTLE "action" or
"results" that way, i.e. a dude is a doctor or something, but
honestly THAT kind of result is more of a woman being LOGICAL, and
saying "hmm, I SHOULD be with this guy" which is very different from
a woman feeling "I MUST BE WITH THIS GUY BECAUSE I WANT HIM BADLY".
You see, the truth is you really don't want a woman to be with you
for LOGICAL reasons, crazy as that sounds. You want her to be INSANE
about you, not logical at all. You want her to be EMOTIONAL about
you. You don't want her to be with you because after she looks at
her mathematical charts, she comes to some kind of logical
"conclusion" to be with you.
See, you already KNOW DEEP DOWN, that you don't even CARE or WANT a
woman to be with you for LOGICAL reasons, right? You want her to be
MADLY CRAZY WILD ABOUT YOU.
So why the *%#! would you try to attract a woman with all this
useless logical stuff?
You have to leave behind all that stuff, because it has NOTHING to
do with ATTRACTION.
ATTRACTION lives in another DIMENSION. You have to BLAST OFF from
the land of boring anti-attraction stuff, you have to blast off with
raging engines that are burning an inferno of thrust to get you away
from there.
ONLY then will you make it past the heavy gravity of the
anti-attraction dimension, and break on through to the other
dimension of sexy exciting intriguing passionate ATTRACTION.
You mention that we men are up against a really high level of
ARROGANCE. This is both TRUE and NOT TRUE.
From a hottie woman's point of view, she is not being arrogant, she
is just going out of her MIND with BORING guys who KEEP ON WASTING
HER TIME, AND MAKING HER FEEL WEIRD, AND TRYING TO TAKE FROM HER.
And these guys get upset when she doesn't do CARTWHEELS for them.
Also, to be honest, some women really have low self esteem, just
like some men, and they radiate mean vibes, but the interesting
thing I've found is that the meanest girls are usually not the
hottest ones! Which makes sense, because the hotties have more
validation from people that makes the hottie feel good about
herself.
The crazy thing is that once you ENTER the reality of a hottie, you
start to understand that they are not being ARROGANT so much as
simply HAVING STANDARDS.
You would have SIMILAR arrogance/standards if women everywhere were
creeping you out by wanting to be with you without even KNOWING you.
Yeah, you THINK it would be cool, but imagine this happened 24/7,
and imagine the women were NOT hot.
You would start to INSTINCTIVELY learn to separate the DESIRABLES
from the undesirables. It wouldn't be a LOGICAL process, it would be
EMOTIONAL, it would be INSTANT.
If a woman didn't FEEL good, you would REJECT HER FAST. That's the
only way you would be able to deal with the ocean of attention you
were getting.
Only a FEW would make it, only the TOP few who made EMOTIONAL IMPACT
would make it to the "interview" stage, and only the top of the top
would make it "all the way".
And of course, all this would make you SHIFT your attitude, from
wanting sex, to wanting to CUT DOWN on all the sexual partner
potential applicants. You would SCREEN women like crazy, you would
have to learn to "HOLD OUT" or you would end up having sex 24/7,
with everyone.
You have to UNDERSTAND THIS STUFF, it runs DEEP
Of course, women having these "high standards" and "arrogance" only
MAKE the problem WORSE, because this type of behaviour implies
SCARCITY and SUPERIORITY, so most guys CHASE EVEN HARDER.
And they CHASE without even having a clue of how to BEHAVE
attractive in every other sense. It's not just the CHASING that is
wrong, but the entire act is wrong- the clothing, the behaviours,
the neediness, the total predictablity, the total lack of
originality, and the TOTALLY WRONG EMPHASIS on trying to prove all
the things you mentioned, such as "having a great job, being a great
compromising person, having a great degree, etc."
Of course, all those things like a great job are GOOD THINGS, it's
just that on their own, they are not going to get you ATTRACTION.
And being a CRUEL and BORING JERK is not going to attract most
women.
Our current society has allowed women to SHINE, and yet has told men
to metaphorically castrate themselves and actually be SUBMISSIVE to
women, by maintaining standards of "respect" and "courtship" that
only made sense and worked in a different era when women had a very
different role.
It's amazing, as women are socially allowed to be MORE sexual
(although they still have to maintain a certain public "image" that
is very strange when you think about it, and it's important as a guy
you understand this) women are MORE assertive, MORE "take what I
want", MORE demanding, MORE original with style and fashion, MORE
EVERYTHING, and yet what are most MEN?
In general, they are LESS in EVERY one of those areas:
They act NON-SEXUAL with women.
They are SUBMISSIVE with women, trying to win their approval.
They are DRESSED boring.
They frame their life around how to please a woman, while the woman
is busy figuring out how to make the most selfish use of her life
because the guy is standing around kissing her ass no matter what
she does anyway!
And all this creates a never ending negative cycle of the guy trying
harder with the same wrong strategies to get a result, and the woman
pushing the guy farther away, which only intensifies the guy's
attraction.
THE ANSWER TO ALL THIS INSANITY is NOT to try to CHANGE WOMEN.
No, not at all.
That change comes INSTANTLY the moment YOU change.
And I'm not talking about CHANGING who you "are". Unless you really
think you are a submissive, lowly, boring, undeserving, creature
that OWES women your dignity. If you do think that, go pour a few
buckets of freezing cold water over yourself every day and night
until you wake up from that nightmare. Of course, consult with your
doctor before doing this.
So what is the OPPOSITE OF THE LOGICAL BORING USELESS STUFF???
HERE'S WHAT IT IS:
NUMBER ONE:
FORGET ABOUT THE LONG TERM
Yeah, this was a HUGE pill for me to swallow, because I just wanted
to have ONE GOOD WOMAN that I could RELY upon.
You have NO CLUE how MASSIVELY this messed me UP.
It allowed any woman I seriously considered to TAKE MASSIVE
ADVANTAGE of the fact that I was willing to "make it work" because I
was seriously considering the future, and I knew that to make things
work, you can't fight all the time.
It caused me to ACCEPT bullshit, to rationalize a woman's bad
behaviour, and the girls took advantage of this.
It also made me focus on LOGICAL practical things, like "spending
time together", and showing a woman I was a good long term partner
by treating her extremely well without her EARNING it. Of course,
the bull*&*% of our society that says that women WANT this serious
stuff also messed me up.
The lie that women WANTED the stable, secure, long term stuff, made
me focus on all that, which TOTALLY ROBBED me of the power of
creating DRAMA, MYSTERY, UNPREDICTABILITY, and in fact, it made me
sacrifice some of my ambitions at the time because I felt it was
"worth it" to be with a good woman. I also tried to be as
conservative as possible, because all that "rock n roll" stuff was
SINFUL and NOT RIGHT, AND not what a GOOD WOMAN would appreciate,
etc.
SCREW IT ALL!
The IRONY is that if you do the OPPOSITE, you will not only have a
BLAST, but you will also GENERATE the attraction so that women WANT
the whole serious relationship thing, and the greatest IRONY of all
is that at that point, you won't give a RAT'S ASS for a while about
relationships, because you will feel so great about having so many
choices, that you are not about to jump into something serious so
fast.
Plus you will for a short while think women are crazy, and it will
take a while for you to relax and realize that women are not crazy,
it was just your PERSPECTIVE of reality was crazy. You'll realize it
was a LIE based on old modes of behaviour that were maintained for
some bizarre reason, in an era where they no longer made sense.
(The reason has to do with men not wanting to come across as being
evil and against the women's movement, but the thing is, women
having power should not mean YOU having NO power through being a
boring, submissive, needy slave.)
So FORGET relationships, until you learn how to create ATTRACTION.
ATTRACTION requires VALUE. And most guys' desire for a serious
relationship comes from wanting to end a LACK of women in their
life. And women SENSE THIS.
THIS REEKS OF INFERIORITY.
It's DIFFERENT if you KNOW you can get women, and women KNOW it, and
sense it from your dominant cocky and upbeat confident vibe.
That's why, when you already have tons of choices, you are coming
from a totally different place emotionally internally, and if you
still want a relationship then, and the woman is a great woman, hey
go for it man.
So instead of chasing a relationship, think about how crazy that is,
and what it really means about your beliefs in scarcity, and your
ability to attract women.
Instead of chasing that long term thing, PUSH IT AWAY, and see how
much FUN you can have NOW. This will strip away a lot of the excess
LOGICAL unfun baggage you are bringing to your interactions, and it
will instead bring a VITALITY to your interactions.
It will also get rid of things like jealousy or neediness or
possessiveness, because you aren't FOCUSING on that stuff, you are
too busying having FUN. And the moment a woman is not FUN, you will
NATURALLY, HAPPILY, NOT BE ANGRY, because it allows you to move on
to another great fun woman, however usually you will find that the
same woman you moved away from is suddenly chasing you and improving
her behaviour to try to impress you and win you over.
And suddenly you will see how the relationship offers come POURING
in.
And you will not be jumping at these offers, you will be asking
yourself things like, "Why should I get into a relationship with
her" and she will try real hard to give you all the reasons!
NUMBER TWO:
GIVE WOMEN THE DRAMA THEY NEED AND YOU WILL ENJOY ANYWAY
So you see a super hottie somewhere?
You're thinking of confessing your love to her, or how great you
would be to her?
What the heck does that mean?
It means you think the gap between your value and her value is huge.
And that's not good.
Not for you.
Not for her.
In fact, it's repulsive to her.
If she sees you are busy with other women, she will like you MORE,
not less. The other thing is that this should not be an ACT.
You should be ENJOYING meeting lots of women.
The DRAMA you give women also comes from you developing all the
various cool dimensions of your personality, which is a huge topic
as well.
DRAMA is just another word for EMOTIONALLY COMPELLING.
I'll end with one more important one:
NUMBER THREE:
BE SOAKING IN SEXUAL AND POWERFUL VIBES
You know, we are SUCH a repressed society, and it's funny because we
have SO MUCH nudity and sex around us, through advertising
billboards and porn and you name it.
In fact, all this external fake sexuality seems to only push the
real sexuality further into the land of repression. As if it's okay
to exist on billboards, but not in real life. In fact, the
billboards often show women with "you can't have me" expressions,
which of course make them more attractive to most guys, who fall for
that.
But yet, even with all this stuff around, we tend to SHUT IT OFF
completely from our normal interactions. Most people dress boring.
Talk boring. Boring hobbies, if any. Trying to FIT IN and CONFORM.
And we are not PASSIONATE, we are not HAPPY or EXCITED except for
the "official times" and places.
A good zombie society.
We don't pursue our dreams or passions. We don't want to take any
emotional risks, not realizing that this is the biggest risk of all,
unless you want to emotionally sleep through life.
The only kind of diversity we have is ridiculous politically correct
diversity, but no REAL SEXY FUN EXCITING INTRIGUING diversity.
Everyone is a wannabe or a copycat.
So instead, dress in the coolest clothing YOU find, and don't be
afraid to make a dirty joke or even tease her that she is trying to
get you into bed. You see, that's what women have been doing to guys
for the longest time, and it was totally cool, so now it's time to
take back the frame, because the reality is that it IS the time to
do it, for the scales have shifted.
The greatest irony is that women find all this EXCITING, so it's
time to get started giving women and yourself
the good times that you both deserve!
And if you would like to start getting results TONIGHT, I can think
of no better way than by downloading my eBook IMMEDIATELY. This book
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rollercoaster, then it's best to learn from someone who's actually
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that's missing from what you might be reading elsewhere. You can now
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The bootcamp will get you to where you want to be in the most
efficient manner possible. I'll teach you HOW to deal with all the
unpredictable situations that can arise, I'll show you HOW to deal
with challenges such as loud music where it's difficult to be heard,
and HOW to actually isolate girls, HOW to deal with her friends, and
of COURSE how to pick up in daytime as well. And you'll also get to
learn how to REALLY create a natural vibe to the whole interaction
so that she doesn't feel weird about meeting you the next time.
I wish somebody could have taught me all this stuff at one shot over
a weekend instead of having to learn it piece by piece, from various
different guys and from tons of my own mistakes and experiences over
YEARS. During those years, it was often like walking blindfolded
into the lion's cage, where I got ripped apart. If you want to avoid
the feeling of being punched in from all sides at once, and if you
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Till next time,
Michael W.
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