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Michael W - The Dating Wizard: The Spell To Dating Success
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Michael W. (The
Dating Wizard):
Recently, I was interviewed by a journalist in the city, and I was
explaining how ironic it is that in cities with millions of people
crammed together, every day in places like public transit, there is
still so much loneliness.
There are people EVERYWHERE, and still so many people cannot find
someone to love and to be loved by.
People can spend an hour crushed together on a streetcar, train, or
bus, and not utter one WORD to each other, and go home alone, night
after night, simply because we are living in a culture that is
anti-social. It's okay to watch tv alone for hours or to surf the
net alone, but to talk to someone in real life, someone that you
don't know? Heaven forbid, right?
It's all NONSENSE, though, because the truth is that there are MANY
women, many awesome women in fact, who would WELCOME the
conversation from you.
The key is to do it RIGHT.
And one of the FIRST things you need to do, to do it right, is to be
DISARMING and CHARMING.
Unless you're talking in a nightclub, where the atmosphere is
already very social, when you're in normal places like the bus or
coffee shop, women have been conditioned to be a little cautious for
good reasons, after all there are a lot of less than virtuous men
out there just as there are a lot of less than virtuous women out
there.
So how can you immediately DISARM and CHARM her?
Well, one idea that works is for you to draw upon POSITIVE VIBES
that she herself can IMMEDIATELY recognize and feel and relate to.
In the same way you wouldn't be able to relate to a woman talking to
you about the finer applications of lipstick, you shouldn't expect
most women to be identify with demolition derby, star trek, or some
obscure Bruce Lee movie. Also, there is no point in starting a
conversation with a woman about anything BORING, even if she can
relate to it.
You can STILL totally be yourself and disarm her and charm her, and
you can do this by playfully bringing up topics that are both
INNOCENT and FUNNY, and you can give these topics a flirtatious
TWIST.
One idea I love and that works with fantastic consistency, is to
bring up TV SHOWS from childhood that chances are you both liked,
and then offer a playful sexual perspective on the show, or even a
playful perspective on the show from the standpoint of male and
female gender roles.
I call it "Innocent Adult Views On Childhood TV!"
It's important to remember that it must still be INNOCENT, and yet
ALSO be ADULT. This is a fine line that most people overlook.
I mean, who CAN'T like The Flintstones?
Who CAN'T like Cookie Monster, Oscar the Grouch, and Ernie and
Bert???
Okay fine, maybe some people can't, but I don't want anything to do
with those people, that's for sure!
If a woman does not "get this", it immediately screens her OUT, as
you don't want a woman without a sense of humor, or a woman who is
bitter and no fun.
So here's just one EXAMPLE of how "Innocent Adult Views On Childhood
TV" works to disarm her and charm her:
"Excuse me, I have a very serious question I need the answer to.
Could you help me out?"
(This SERIOUS tonality at the start is done on purpose because it
makes it all the more FUNNY when she finds out in about three
seconds from the topic that actually this is NOT serious at all!)
So she nods to you, or says, "Ok sure", etc.
You then go on with:
"See, I was wondering, if you were to choose one of the two, would
you marry Fred Flintstone or Barney Rubble? This is very serious."
As she starts to crack a smile, you keep a straight face and give
her a sec to answer.
If she laughs, you continue to let her know this is very important
and serious and that you need the answer.
If she then says that she would choose Fred, you tell her "Oh man,
this would never work out with you and me, Fred is far too normal,
goes to work every day, very reliable good guy, far too much
pressure for me. I'm more of a Barney Rubble type dude, I just go
for a drive in the morning but don't actually work anywhere, and I
need a woman like Betty who is more cool and who can help me in my
underground illegal businesses!"
Chances are, she WILL be laughing by now, and that is not only
because this stuff is funny, but because the MEMORIES of childhood
and of that show are triggering POSITIVE EMOTIONS in her, and it's
hard to view you as a THREAT if you are being associated in her mind
with Barney or Fred or the Flintstones.
By the way, if she says she would choose Barney, you could high-five
her and tell her she is SUCH a cool girl. (Totally over exaggerate,
which only HEIGHTENS the humor because even though she knows you are
kidding, it still feels GOOD for her, since she feels, even if just
playfully, that she EARNED this respect because of her choice, she
didn't just get this high-five for nothing, but rather because of
her great taste in choosing a man- BARNEY RUBBLE! People appreciate
what they EARN!)
And you could then go on to tell her why she is so cool, because she
is like Betty, who was cool with Barney not having a real job all
day and that you plan to do the same thing and just watch TV all
day!
Then you can add the final kicker and say that you two are TOTALLY
GETTING MARRIED asap!
She will NOT think you are needy, she will KNOW you are being
playful.
So there, all at once, you have DISARMED her, and you have CHARMED
her.
This is just ONE example, there about a BILLION other versions that
you could create, (and you could make them even MORE powerful by
incorporating into your examples all the OTHER skills I teach in my
programs and materials.)
The first key to remember is to use something from CHILDHOOD TV,
something that is FAMOUS so that she ALREADY is very familiar with
it so that you don't have to waste time explaining all the details.
You want her to GET IT immediately, so it's key you use something
that she will KNOW.
The second key to remember about this idea is to give the whole
discussion an ADULT twist.
The third key is to remember to NOT GO OVERBOARD with the adult
twist. In other words, KEEP IT ALL INNOCENT. I see so many guys
going way too far into the land of the VULGAR and that totally RUINS
the whole effect, the whole point of the idea in the first place.
And remember to be CONGRUENT with your own personality. If you never
watched the Flintstones, then don't use that example. There are so
many shows that you could choose from, it's ridiculous. And the
truth is that it doesn't even have to be TV. It could be some kind
of popular SNACK that was famous for kids back when you were a
child.
Maybe the snack came with some really LAME gift, or some offer for a
free gift if you sent in about a "thousand" proofs of purchase,
(exaggerate for effect) that at the time seemed REALLY cool, that
you could discuss and twist in playful way. For example, you could
tell her that you only like adventurous girls, and that you are
looking for a partner in crime, to steal the toys from the cereal
boxes in the supermarket. And you can tease her that she is too much
of a wuss to be up for it, etc. Or you can tease her that you know
she would do it for some prize from the Strawberry Shortcake cereal!
From there, now that you have her disarmed and charmed, it's going
to be MUCH easier to get into rapport with her and to get into a
real conversation of getting to know each other, now that you both
have your "guard" down.
You've displayed guts, humor, charm, and you've taken her into a
receptive state of mind.
Get the idea?
It's gold, and I guarantee you IT WORKS.
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Till next time,
Michael
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Michael W, better known as The Dating Wizard, is a dating and
relationship consultant for men, as well as a frequent guest on radio
and television talk shows. Michael has spent over four years studying
the specific male behaviors that trigger attraction in women. His
findings are based on both his real life observations of men who are
successful with women, as well as his research on evolutionary
psychology and its applications to sexual attraction.
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