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Michael W - The Dating Wizard: The Spell To Dating Success
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Welcome to "The Dating
Wizard's: Spell To Dating Success" article series.
This series of articles (below and listed on the right) are a small
part of the information contained in "The Secrets To Success With
Women" ebook and "The Seduction Mastery Apprentice Program" on
CD/DVD.
Michael W. (The
Dating Wizard):
There's way too much of the idiots running around calling
themselves "Alpha Man" gurus, who are totally DESTROYING the
potentially great futures that a guy can be having with a woman of
quality, all because he is being told by some guru to act all high
and mighty and not interested at all, as if she was no different
than any other girl. He is told to play all kinds of games to make
her jealous and feel insecure.
All that accomplishes is make her feel that being with such a guy
would be robbing her of her dignity and self-esteem, and a woman of
quality inside and out will absolutely not pursue that.
There is a way to keep things exciting and fun and STILL have 100%
integrity and not play games at all. It's actually the ONLY way to
deal with a woman of true quality inside and out.
Hi Michael,
I do not have to say anymore how much I value your e-book, CD's and
newsletters. They're just life changing, without a doubt! ;-)
I have a question, useful to other users too. Since I've read your
e-book 8 months ago and listened to your CD's 7 months ago, I've
talked to more women then I've ever done before in my life.
As you mention in your CD's and newsletters, it is indeed "very
hard" to really find a quality woman. Especially when you focus on
your inner development, which causes you to become much more
"picky".
So these past months I met some interesting women, but not really
the ones I was "looking" for. Until tonight...
The opening was way too easy, the ice was broken within seconds and
she, me and two friends of hers were talking after a couple of
minutes as if we knew each other for a long time.
After like 5 minutes her 2 friends left us alone and we continued
talking. This went on for more than half an hour, until my friends
came to get me to go to another club. I asked her number and told
her I would call her.
Now, in the other club I continued talking to girls, but the one of
earlier kept monopolizing my mind...
My question is: how do you deal with this, as being the MAN? I mean,
I am not looking for a serious relationship yet, I want to date many
other girls and I like my life as it is now, but when you meet a
really quality woman as I did tonight, how do you "fit" her into
this life?
It sounds stupid, but it's just strange that after months of "I do
not care if she likes me or not", this time it seems like the old
days again of the "one". ;-)
Anyway, my point is: when you meet a quality woman - because they
are quite hard to find -, do you focus on her while casually dating
other girls until you think that it could become a serious
relationship, or do you just treat her like any other girl and do
you continue as you were doing before: living the life as the Dating
Wizard taught? ;-)
Looking forward to read your enlightening answer, as always!
Thanks!
Dorian T.
Michael W. : MY COMMENTS
First of all, great stuff on the fact you PUT IN the time, passion,
and effort into this area of your life. Getting out there and taking
action takes time, takes drive, and takes discipline. And doing it
WELL takes intelligent application of everything you learned in my
materials. So thank you for the props, and I honestly have to give
you props as well for the work you put in.
It's THAT combination of know-how you gained from my programs and
materials AND from your diligent practice that made the opening "way
too easy, the ice was broken within seconds and she, me and two
friends of hers were talking after a couple of minutes as if we knew
each other for a long time."
What you did there was INTEGRATE all the steps from bringing in the
right energy, to creating attraction, to creating a strong
connection and solid rapport, and you did it smoothly. And when you
do this stuff right, you don't have to worry so much about the other
girls, as the other girls will ASSIST you and give you the privacy
you both need - after all, the girls want GOOD for their friend, and
they know she has now met you, a cool guy!
Now, to answer your question, the answer first of all is to realize
that I don't really recommend the attitude of "I do not care if she
likes me or not" (indifference) but rather "I am not out of
whack/out of balance/
overly NEEDY for a girl, especially a girl I do not even KNOW for
more than one day".
In other words, it's okay to WANT a girl, the problem is when you
feel that your value is ECLIPSED by HER value. Because what happens
then is that you totally lose the whole VIBE of energy, fun,
sexuality, playfulness, confidence, dominance, charisma, and the
vibe of giving from a place of ABUNDANCE.
After all, you can't feel abundance when you feel you LACK value
compared to her. And you can't feel ANY of the cool emotions when
you are feeling inferior.
This stuff ties in a lot by the way to the next letter below as
well, but we'll get to that soon.
So the REAL question becomes what do YOU want?
If you want a quality woman for something "serious", and this woman
seems to possess the right ingredients, then definitely, do NOT put
this woman on the "back burner".
The thing is, you don't really know much about her, you've only
known her for a matter of HOURS, so you have to get to know her
better and find out more about her. In fact, a woman who is of high
quality will EXPECT that you WILL be screening her, otherwise what
does that say about you if you are willing to just jump into
anything?
So, do not put her on the "back burner" but also don't start jumping
to conclusions too fast either. Rather, find out more about this
one.
The problem is that a lot of guys do NOT have control over their
neediness. So what happens is that they don't just WANT a girl, they
are very very needy for her, even if they don't know if she is
really all that, internally, character wise, etc.
Sooooo, the REAL solution is not to play games, but rather, if a guy
is feeling that level of neediness, I would say he is not READY for
a relationship anyway. He SHOULD keeping on meeting lots of girls
until he gets desensitized to the initial impact that women can make
on him from their superficial qualities, he should learn to feel
totally comfortable looking women straight in the eyes, calling them
on their b.s., etc.
THEN, when he is really comfortable with himself and with women,
THEN when he meets a woman that he actually likes and whom with time
he finds out is worthy of his genuine interest, then at that point
he will NOT need to play any "games" or to date other women in order
for him to have "game", or to have confidence, or for a woman to
know he has options. She will know all this from interacting with
him, and she will know it relatively FAST.
This is why in the CD Set I don't just talk about "game" but also on
how to apply the dynamics of self-development, how to apply Abraham
Maslow's hierarchy of needs, to yourself and for the woman you are
with. You see, games are actually all the product of insecurities,
or to put it bluntly, FEARS. They work FOR people with fears, and
they work ON people with fears.
But, if you can TRANSCEND the multitudes of fears, and if you can
help a woman transcend the multitudes of fears that society seems to
FOSTER, then you have two people who are both feeling so damn
AMAZING that there already IS WAY MORE compelling emotional impact
than ANYONE can ever ask for, and MORE.
Think about it:
Games are supposedly designed to create attraction, right?
A lot of them are designed on creating feelings of scarcity, which
are supposed to lead to feelings of value, right?
I'm not saying this never works, in fact, as a person committed to
the truth, I go into all this stuff as well in my materials.
However, I believe the most powerful way is to go beyond all this
stuff.
You see, most people are naturally HAPPY and HORNY and feeling
GREAT. You don't NEED to do ANYTHING to get this, rather what you
need to do is LIFT AWAY all the crap that's BLOCKING the good stuff
from rising up.
Of course, this also takes meeting the right KIND of woman who GETS
it, but I assure you, that unless you get it as well, the woman will
never get it, and if she DOES understand it all, but you don't,
you'll never even make it into the "interview" stage.
In the best of spirits, I detect a bit of incongruency in your mind:
You want to date a LOT of girls right now.
Yet, you also can't stop thinking of HER.
So it sounds like you really don't care that much about the other
girls compared to HER. Or rather, what you HOPE she can LIVE UP TO
in terms of the IDEALS about her you have created in your mind.
That's not to say she does NOT match that picture in your mind, it's
just that we don't know if she does or not.
So, the reality is that you have to find out if this woman HAS the
qualities you seek.
I can assure you, that a quality woman, if she is looking for
something serious, would be no different than a quality guy, if he
was serious:
In other words, would not tolerate someone who doesn't know what
they want.
Now, you have no idea if this woman herself is seeking something
serious, but if you find out she is, then you need to make a major
decision about what you want in your life.
Time is precious, so make it a good decision, a decision that you
will look back on with fondness in years from now.
If she is REALLY the right girl for you, it will become VERY clear.
And if she's not, then too, it will become just as clear.
***NEXT LETTER***
Hey what's up,
Now I know you say that a guy's looks don't count that much, But
everywhere I go I always see the most beautiful girls with the best
looking men and these men don't always act like masculine men and
they always break the basic rules of THE MAN or the basic rules of
attraction and always the most advanced levels of your teachings.
And the other day I was watching MTV and the two reality shows the
Real world and the Hills were on and these beautiful women were
talking about how they love hot guys and this one girl on the real
world who is absolutely gorgeous found a man and she said she likes
him because he is so hot and nice!
And I read your stuff and I know that rock stars are ugly and get
the girl I mean look at ***** and *******, but all of these men who
get these beautiful women are rich and famous. Hell I might even
date an ugly girl if she was rich and famous LOL.
I just feel frustrated like for the rest of my life I will have to
date women in MY LEAGUE, as I am not too attracted to women in my
league, and if I ever do get a girl out of my league I always feel
like I got lucky or the girl is a girl that is attracted to weird
looking guys.
Because I see the guys she use to date and I see the guys she dates
after me and they aren't that good looking either so I just feel I
am dealing with a weird girl who doesn't like attractive men LOL.
And when I do see some guys who are super confident get the girl I
don't know if it is because of his looks or not because I'm not a
girl and have no idea on how girls judge a guy's looks.
Sure I KNOW Brad Pitt is good looking but attraction in a looks
perspective, is all about the subtleties. I personally think all
guys are ugly but if I tried I can't tell which guys girls would
like or dislike unless the facial features were to the extreme. I
mean if the guy looked like Brad Pitt I know girls would like him
but if he looked like *** ****** I know the answer there also.
Well I don't mean to whine, but help me out and if you want to print
this go ahead.
Thanks a lot
Roger M.
Michael W. : MY COMMENTS
You mention that you read my "stuff", "but all of these men who get
these beautiful women are rich and famous".
I'm not sure what "stuff" of mine you read, but nothing I have ever
written contradicts the idea that men who are rich and famous get
beautiful women.
Being rich and famous is ONE way to get these kinds of results,
though often only for the short term, as without a person having the
right personality, it's hell being with them.
The way that is MOST powerful to attract a woman, a way that 99% of
guys will never get, including a lot of guys who think they know
about how attraction works, is through developing a side of their
PERSONALITY that has been neglected since birth, for most guys.
And THAT is what my materials are all about.
In fact, over the years, I've worked with several celebrities and
quite a few millionaires to get them even BETTER results.
But let me get back to the previous point:
There IS another way to attract the kind of women who make guys WEAK
in the KNEES, without having millions of bucks or being famous.
But it takes WORK to develop this SKILL.
This is what 99% of guys don't "get".
They think there is some "line" or "tactic".
It's way, way, WAY more than that.
And for some guys, it takes a LOT of work.
I could probably make ten times the business by saying "Hey, it's
easy!". But why? I like keeping it real, because I know there are
SOME guys who ARE willing to put in the work, and at least THOSE
guys WILL get results, and that's kinda cool to me.
Yes, it's a SKILL that gets DEVELOPED.
It's no different than going to the gym. It takes GUT BUSTING to get
results. And it takes PATIENCE, if you want to do it IN THE NATURAL
way, without using all kinds of drugs. And just like weight
training, this development becomes a lifestyle, a way of looking at
things, a way of FEELING, and it takes REGULAR practice. And, just
like weight training, or exercise, it feels GOOD after a while, and
you ENJOY the practice, you ENJOY THE PROCESS of doing it.
And just like the gym, it really DOES HELP A LOT IF YOU KNOW WHAT
YOU ARE DOING.
So the reason you tend to see guys with "looks" with girls with
"looks" is because THAT is the EASY way that doesn't take as much
effort. Although even THAT can sometimes be the result of work, as
most guys can look WAY BETTER than they are presenting themselves
as, but aren't putting in the work.
But the OTHER WAY, to attract the women of your choice through the
development of your personality to levels that SMOKE the
competition, is a way that takes some WORK.
It's hard to believe what I'm talking about until you SEE it in
action. But a TRUE "master of seduction" is a master of MAKING A
WOMAN FEEL A FLOOD OF AWESOME EMOTIONS.
That's NOT the same as trying to kiss up to her. And it's NOT the
same as trying to be a jerk.
On so many "pick-up" TV shows these days, you have all these guys
who have heard that the key to picking up a woman is to shock her by
insulting her in some way or another, and the bottom line is that it
DOES NOT WORK!
Oh sure, there are SOME women who MIGHT respond to this, but I
GUARANTEE you it's no different than the GUY who would respond to a
woman's abuse.
In both cases, it's UNHEALTHY.
And if you are psychologically healthy, you will NOT enjoy the
company of a woman who is damaged.
In fact, the very MOMENT a woman or man starts to waste precious
emotional energy on trying to FIGURE OUT just what is "going on"
with the insult that was given to them, is the moment they are
ALREADY being abused.
You see, if your self-esteem is high enough, you don't even CONSIDER
this stuff, you just REJECT it outright.
So, what DOES work?
MAKING A WOMAN FEEL A FLOOD OF AWESOME EMOTIONS.
And THAT means getting her pumped through any of an INFINITE variety
of combinations of emotions, from LAUGHTER, to INTRIGUE, to
excitement, to danger, to sexual arousal, to romance, to massive
self-esteem, which ultimately ALL these emotions are intricately
tied to.
But 99% of guys will never even KNOW this EXISTS, never mind
actually PRACTICE it till it becomes INSTINCT for them.
But the crazy thing is, once you start to REALIZE this, you will
suddenly start to look around, and you WILL find all kinds of things
that "CONTRADICT" your previous model of the universe.
For example, you WILL find guys who are dating "out of their
league", a term that is really ridiculous because it's a
self-fulfilling prophecy, and ironically enough, a statement of LACK
OF VALUE.
In fact, most of the time, the guys who are dating "out of their
league" didn't think they were doing so, and may very well in fact
have NOT been looking to be dating a girl "out of their league".
Rather, they just met each other, and there was chemistry. I assure
you though that if the guy has a serious insecurity and feels he is
"out of his league", the relationship will be short lived unless he
happens to be a super famous movie star, and even then too!
Also, I must be totally honest, sometimes there ARE cases of women
with low self esteem, who may look beautiful, and are thus
vulnerable to the manipulations of a guy with low self esteem who
has spent his life learning how to manipulate those with low self
esteem, whether the guy seems like a great catch or not.
But again, I really mean this, there is no hell on earth like the
hell of low self-esteem. So anyone who thinks that abuse is the way
to go, needs to examine themselves first.
So the bottom line is YES, looks and fame, and wealth DO help get
short term results.
But there is ANOTHER WAY, which ALSO works. Does it work with EVERY
SINGLE GIRL?
No, but neither does LOOKS AND MONEY AND FAME work with EVERY
girl!!!
How many celebrities have you heard of who were BITTERLY DEPRESSED
over some girl who broke up with them?
It happens all the time.
And when you mention "the most beautiful girls with the best looking
men and these men don't always act like masculine men and they
always break the basic rules of THE MAN or the basic rules of
attraction and always the most advanced levels of your teachings"
that to me is honestly simply NOT TRUE AT ALL!
I honestly don't think you have read my materials. Maybe you skimmed
some of it and never got the full message.
What I have ALWAYS said is that this "game" is about VALUE:
Put it this way, if a woman who you FELT attraction for gave you a
compliment, would you feel good or bad or nothing?
You would feel GOOD.
Similarly, when YOU behave in a way that is ATTRACTIVE, it becomes
important to also INTELLIGENTLY AND PROPERLY VALIDATE a woman, to
make her feel good.
So it's the combo of creating the VALUE through your behaviors AND
then adding FURTHER value to yourself and to her by CONFIRMING that
she has massive value as well.
There's a lot more to this of course, such as developing layers of
trust and using timing appropriately to create anticipation and
being unpredictable and more, but there's absolutely no way to
explain it all in a newsletter and that is not just some marketing
tactic. It's the reason I created my premium materials and programs,
because it's all in there.
If you've read my eBook, you certainly would KNOW the importance
that I place on building trust and connection, or there will be no
fireworks in the bedroom.
And if you've got my CD Seduction Mastery program, you will know the
IN DEPTH LEVELS of this stuff!!!! And even if you've just read my
newsletters, you still know that I have said many many times this is
about giving VALUE.
Regarding the MTV shows, man, the FIRST thing that comes to mind of
a GREAT example is that show that was on for YEARS called
"Newlyweds: Nick and Jessica".
That was TOP RATED MTV reality show for YEARS, and it was about a
young "hot" couple who were MARRIED, so you saw quite a bit of
interaction that is about as real as anything on MTV could get.
And guess what?
Nick TOTALLY was "The Man", he would playfully tease Jessica ALL THE
TIME on being ditzy, and he never took her crap or immaturity, and
yet ALSO at the same time knew when to show her he loved her and
how. And she was totally into him too.
Now, by Hollywood standards, the relationship was pretty long,
especially considering how young they were and how insane it was to
put a marriage under the pressure of the whole world media.
In general, you will NOT find any examples to the contrary. This
stuff goes far deeper than just the words, it's the attitudes being
built in deep that takes time to develop if you weren't bombarded
with it as a youngster.
And, regarding the women who say they love "hot guys", OF COURSE
they say this as they hardly EVER meet guys who really GET THIS
STUFF on a deep level.
Instead, they meet idiots at nightclubs who go around insulting
women and then the women turn away from the guys, but the guys go
high-fiving all their guy-friends who have formed a cult-like belief
in the b.s. to the point they THINK that somehow they still GOT
SOMEWHERE even though they didn't.
And the rare time they get any results is because the girl is
looking to get l-a-i-d for a one night stand, and that is no big
deal to find these days.
Woopdeedoo. The guy is like McDonald's he's the hundred billionth
one served.
And besides, in those cases, the guy could have done just as well by
having a normal conversation with her and simply escalating
physically and taking her out of there.
But for attracting the kind of women that a guy really wants? Nope,
insults don't work. It's just as bad as kissing up.
It's so funny when the guys think they are "gaming" the girl when
really the girl is just letting the guy think he is doing that.
When it comes down to it, women don't usually MEET guys who have
developed themselves in the ways that trigger attraction.
So the idea of it even existing is not even on women's radar scopes.
And the irony is that all the dating gurus, and the pick up tv
shows, are only misinforming even MORE guys, making it that much
more rare for a woman to meet a guy who really "gets it".
So what are women supposed to say?
"I hope I meet a guy who has figured out how to make me feel
attraction"???????
Also, this whole idea of "hot" is a bit funny to be honest. You have
to see these chicks in real life, when they are not at their best in
terms of hair, make up, skin, stress, etc. A lot of guys only notice
women when they are MADE UP to look their BEST, which is kinda
funny, because all that is doing is giving over all your power to
her "game".
And though this may sound cliché, it's a cliché because it's true,
the reality is that looks are only an introduction to a person, and
if you have high self-esteem yourself, you will be even more
interested in knowing what the person INSIDE is like than knowing if
everyone ELSE thinks you're cool for being with a certain woman.
Don't be the guy who's looking for a "trophy" girl. That's very
lame.
And I can assure you that as long as you think about yourself as
being in a certain inferior "LEAGUE" you will never get out of that
"league" and you will never feel good no matter what, unless you
take care of that self-esteem issue: No woman can fix the demons
inside a man's mind, he must fix them himself.
Just like a woman must do the same for herself.
And I also wonder about the girls you think were attracted to "weird
looking guys" by any chance were those girls FAR HOTTER than
average?
And were those guys much more INTERESTING than average? Much more
DIFFERENT than your average guy?
That's usually the way it is.
Girls who are HOT, who are SHARP, and who have high self-esteem,
already know they are good looking and also already know they can
get some typical good looking guy. So it's not such a big deal to
her. The don't need to be validated so much on that.
What they DO find compelling is a guy who is DIFFERENT. Sure, being
good-looking is nice, but without the full personality and the fact
he STANDS OUT, his looks will NOT mean much. Not to the women who
are the best.
So you might want to reconsider your perspectives on those girls who
were hot and were really into you. You WERE attractive to her. Don't
be like Grouch Marx's saying of "I wouldn't want to be a part of any
club that would have me".
That's a pure issue of feeling lack of self-worth and self-sabotage.
One last thing, the more you get the whole picture here, the more
likely you'll find that you no longer use words like "ugly" to
describe women you don't like, unless it's their character you are
referring to. I really mean that, you won't even be doing this out
of being "nice" or not, you simply WILL HONESTLY feel that way.
I hate to say it, but the truth is the movie SHALLOW HAL is one hell
of smart movie. I'm not saying I agree with it all, as it is a damn
comedy, and looks do play a role obviously in the real world, but
not to the extent that most guys think, or to the extent that most
women think, and there is real genius to that flick. We DO see in
others a lot of what we see in ourselves. When you learn to see the
greatness inside of you, it's much easier to see it in others.
And if you are reading this right now and YOU want to DEFY the
STATS, because you know you are prepared to put in the WORK to
DEVELOP yourself in the deepest of ways, then you need to take
action NOW and change the direction of your life.
The FIRST step is my eBook, it will give you the FOUNDATION you need
for solid results NOW before moving on to more advanced work.
I must warn you, that this eBook is designed for guys who are TOO
NICE. It's NOT for guys whose problem is that they are TOO JERKY.
Every learning tool is made within a context, and the context of
this eBook is how to help the guys who are actually GOOD GUYS but
have been TOO NICE their whole life.
If you suspect this is you, then you REALLY NEED TO GET THIS BOOK
NOW. You have no idea how your perception of the world, of women,
and of yourself will change DRASTICALLY as a result of this eBook.
You can download it and be reading it in MINUTES from now. And you
can start successfully meeting women with it TODAY by going to:
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The next step is to go IN DEPTH with my Seduction Mastery
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This Program will reveal the most ADVANCED insights on the topic of
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It's at:
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Till next time,
Michael
PS. If you want more
information before purchasing any of my products (they come with the
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Michael W, better known as The Dating Wizard, is a dating and
relationship consultant for men, as well as a frequent guest on radio
and television talk shows. Michael has spent over four years studying
the specific male behaviors that trigger attraction in women. His
findings are based on both his real life observations of men who are
successful with women, as well as his research on evolutionary
psychology and its applications to sexual attraction.
Torontonian Shows Men What Women Want
Toronto, Ont.
Four years ago, Michael W reached the proverbial rock bottom with women.
Finding it almost impossible to meet women in the city who wanted to go
out with him, he faced the decision of whether to continue following the
traditional dating advice of the "experts", or to start his own approach
to the challenge.
Armed with statistics on growing numbers of singles in the city, as well
as Toronto’s reputation amongst local men as difficult in this arena,
Michael knew he was not alone. Devouring hundreds of books on
relationships, he found that almost none of them focused on how to
actually meet women in the first place. And the few books available on
the topic of meeting women were from the 1970’s and had been rendered
obsolete by new social realities.
Michael began researching evolutionary psychology and was struck by its
potential application to communicating with women. At the same time, he
started observing the men who were successful at meeting women, whether
it was in a club, a shop, or even on the street. Michael’s research and
his observations in real life confirmed his belief that women are very
much attracted to the ideal male archetype.
As he learned from the men who actually succeeded in front of his own
eyes, Michael began taking copious notes on everything these men had to
say and demonstrate on how to approach women, dating, and relationships.
Putting the advice into action, Michael transformed his social life and
was soon being asked by friends how he had done it, and how they could
do it as well.
After demonstrating to his friends the concepts he had learned, his
friends prompted him to write a book on the topic. The seed was then
planted for Michael’s company, The Dating Wizard. Offering consultations
by referral only, Michael began his mission of changing the way men
approach women and dating. Michael has recently completed his book, "The
Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women", detailing everything he
learned from his observations and experiences. He has been heard
nationwide, including on CFRB 1010's The John Oakley Show and on MOJO
Radio's Scruff Connors Nationwide.
His advice to men? Forget everything you’ve ever been taught about women
since you were a kid. "Women don’t want a politically correct man, they
want a real man. You have to unlearn all the myths and behaviors that
are holding you back from success with women." To find out all about Michael, his book, and his consultation services,
check out
The Dating Wizard Website or call 416 630 9966.
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