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One of the most
important things I realized about creating attraction is that there
are basically two ways to do it:
1. FAKING YOUR IDENTITY AS “THE MAN”
2. ACTUALLY BEING “THE MAN”
Now, if you do 1, then you will constantly have to remember what to
do, what to say, etc. And when you DO get success, you will be
AMAZED that it happened.
If you adopt the SECOND approach, you will NOT have to figure
anything out, and you will not be surprised at all by the powerful
results. You won’t be surprised because you will be FEELING a
different plane of existence that you know is a place that everyone
you meet wants to be.
The FEELING, the VIBE that you will be experiencing internally is so
powerful, so recharging, so magnificent, that you will be EXUDING
this aura and drawing people toward you who enjoy basking in that
aura. The same way you would want to do with someone who gave off
the same aura.
I know this sounds a little new-agey, but the truth is it actually
makes perfect logical sense: We are attracted to that which makes us
feel GOOD. There are all kinds of reasons for this beyond the scope
of this article, but the crazy thing is that what makes us feel good
is MOSTLY PERCEPTION of reality. Therefore, to a large degree,
perception IS reality.
If you REALLY feel secure, if you REALLY feel awesome, if you REALLY
aren’t needy, you will REFLECT that in infinite ways that will be
FAR more compelling than just a beautiful body, face, or wallet.
Why is this?
It’s because such emotional control is RARER than body, face or cash
assets.
It’s compelling, to say the least.
Learning to have such awesome emotions without the use of substances
takes emotional intelligence and discipline, and very few people
have it. In fact, you could be an ACADEMIC genius and a EMOTIONAL
moron. If you are an EMOTIONAL genius, you will have not only more
women than you can handle, but better connections with all people.
Most people give off the vibe of feeling mean, bitter, angry, sad,
desperate etc.
Let me give you an example:
I used to get UPSET when things went “wrong” in relationships. I had
expectations. Well, the crazy thing is that one day I snapped-but in
a good way. I used to think I “needed” this and “needed” that. Well,
after getting burned so many times as a good guy, I learned to need
NOTHING from women, and just enjoy whatever moment happened to be in
front of me. And the crazy this is that pretty quickly, I started
getting all those things I thought I needed, and from many women at
once!
This was NOT a co-incidence. It was a result of the emotions these
women were feeling when around me, they basically could not lose.
They felt great around me because of the vibe I gave off, and they
were under no pressure for anything since I needed nothing.
Can you imagine the power you would possess if you could NOT get
jealous? I used to be a very jealous type of guy, till I finally
realized that 99 percent of jealousy is PURPOSELY activated by women
to get a RESPONSE out of you! Think about it: If a woman is trying
to make you jealous, she is either sick in the head, or she actually
really wants you and is trying to get you to chase her harder.
Either way, it has nothing to do with your self-worth. Either way,
not reacting makes you cooler, and actually makes more SENSE anyway
if you truly are secure. It’s the “devil inside” that makes you ever
think otherwise, i.e. that makes you want to start succumbing to
fear, insecurity, rage, etc.
If you meet guys who are successful with women, in fact, so
successful that they make women jealous, you’ll notice that they
tend to not get jealous. For whatever reason, maybe it’s because
they have ten girls and so there’s no need, or maybe it’s because he
is just so self-secure, the fact is by not having this negative
emotion, it helps exude this INVISIBLE, YET SUPER POWERFUL AURA.
Because you are exuding an aura that says you are SUPERIOR.
Does that sound a bit strange?
It only sounds strange till you EXPERIENCE it, till you FEEL cool,
awesome, and worthy. Then it’s like “of course”.
When you hear “just
be yourself” with women, what this REALLY means is “be SECURE in
yourself.” Because when you are not, you start acting reallllly
weird.
If you feel desirable, then be yourself. If you don’t feel
desirable, then you need to learn to change the way you feel about
yourself.
Most guys, instead of coming across as desirable, are just coming
across as they FEEL.
They think this is "natural and not being artificial".
But let me ask you a question:
If you feel like crapola, or if you feel really desperate, or if you
feel like no woman would want you, do you really think that having
these THOUGHTS is being "natural"? Do you think that having these
thoughts is being NICE?
I really want you to make the most of what I have to offer, so
PLEASE listen carefully, because if you are a good guy, the kind of
guy that I would want as my friend, then I really want to help you
IMMEDIATELY.
It is in fact very
NOT NICE to come across to a woman you like as anything less than
the BEST guy she could possibly meet. And the BEST guy she could
possibly meet would, in her mind, NOT be acting or thinking or
feeling desperate. No sirreeee.
Because, you see, if
you DO have negative thoughts, and even worse, if you SHOW these
negative thoughts such as thinking that you are not worthy, then you
are basically telling a woman you are a BAD CHOICE.
And THAT makes her feel REPULSED.
Now, how nice is THAT?
You want to make women feel REPULSED?
You want to make women NAUTIOUS?
Not nice at ALL!
You meany, you!
I mean, how would YOU feel if a woman was basically taking no
responsibility for how she came across, and basically REPULSED you?
You'd want to get away in a hurry, that's what you'd want to do! Now
the crazy thing here is that a lot of guys just don't BELIEVE me.
Maybe it's because at FIRST, taking this BIG STEP, of CHANGING your
behaviour and thoughts doesn't SEEM natural.
But in fact, it actually IS natural! When you are NOT in this state
of mind, it's NOT natural.
Listen, when you are in the right frame of mind, you do so many
things right, and your internal system and even your health works
better, that is LUDICROUS to think that anything OTHER than this
proper frame of mind is natural. You see, you have to have your mind
POLLUTED with negative crap in the first place in order to get it to
feel like negative thoughts are natural.
Kind of like how when your computer's brain is affected by a virus,
your computer NATURALLY acts screwed up. But this is not the NATURAL
state of your computer.
I'm trying my best to get the idea across in written words, but I
know that STILL some guys won't believe me, and I know that so much
more can be conveyed in person, and by proving it.
So if you REALLY want to be NICE to a woman, you would try to make
her feel that YOU are desirable.
Let's be honest, what you are REALLY doing when you are doing your
"nice guy thing" is, quite simply, what you THINK a woman
would appreciate from a guy who is NOT worthy.
Because THAT actually makes sense:
i.e. "Hi, I'm REALLY NOT WORTHY of you, so I am going to kiss your
ass and let you abuse me in order to have a CHANCE at you".
But what if you CHANGED YOUR THOUGHTS?
You see, thoughts are things. So much of life is up to you, because
it's perception. So why the hell make your own self-perception of
yourself one that seems to say SUCKY instead of SUPER?
That way, you would be giving women what they really want - a guy
who is super and doesn't HAVE to kiss up to try to make up for his
defects with actions that really just emphasize that he is in fact
inferior. A woman’s attraction to you is about her FEELING that you
have it all under control, that you’re not this pathetic case, and
that it’s pretty easy for you.
And that FEELING of her is mostly based on the BEHAVIOURS that you
exhibit.
We feel desire for what we think is the BEST.
Women WANT to feel desire for a man, and THEN have that DESIRE
reciprocated.
So you must FIRST show that you are DESIRABLE. And then once you
have achieved that, THEN it's GOOD to show that you are interested
too, but of course to do this without kissing up. This is where
jerks screw up, they don't know where to DRAW THE LINE, OR they end
up attracting low self esteem women who unfortunately think they
deserve to be treated badly. Jerks just keep on acting like jerks,
which makes women feel that they will be HURT. This is BAD, from an
evolutionary perspective, and therefore FEELS BAD, so that women
will LEAVE. And in fact, MOST WOMEN WHO ARE HIGH SELF ESTEEM WILL
DEFINITELY LEAVE jerks.
When you see women with TRUE jerks, those women are usually low self
esteem with severe emotional problems. I have been lucky enough to
meet a lot of women and have discovered that the REALLY awesome
women will NOT be attracted to an obvious jerk.
BEHAVE AS IF YOU ARE DESIRABLE AND YOU WILL BE DESIRED.
So if you see a woman you'd like to meet, if you go right up to her
and just start a conversation, instead of kissing up and thus
indirectly telling her you are undesirable, you would get WAY better
results.
And if you managed to tease her in a fun non abusive way, that would
REALLY show that you are both desirable, fun, and not a creep.
Now the thing is, for a lot of guys, the NEGATIVE thinking, the
NEGATIVE feedback they have been giving themselves or that they have
been getting is so ENTRENCHED that they just won't BELIEVE that this
stuff works.
So, for any guys in that situation, I say:
DON'T BELIEVE ME IF YOU DON'T LIKE. INSTEAD, JUST ALLOW FOR THE
POSSIBILITY THAT IT MIGHT BE TRUE.
And then, GIVE IT A SHOT!
Try it.
Really try it, for real.
Treat it like a damn experiment for school.
Just try acting AS IF you were THE MAN.
I used to think to myself, this stuff can be so EASY.
Well the truth is, that it is, and yet it's not. Because CONTROLLING
YOUR EMOTIONS and thoughts takes COURAGE and EFFORT and ENERGY. But
it's worth it, and will give you back a HUNDRED TIMES more energy
and success. So just THINK about what I said here. Then DO IT, for
REAL.
Next time you see a woman you'd like to talk to, remember it's JUST
AN EXPERIMENT.
Go ahead and talk to her as if you KNEW she wanted you.
And do this experiment a few times. DO IT AND THEN YOU WILL FEEL IT.
What you will feel is not only SUCCESS with women, but you will feel
great about YOURSELF.
And that is when you will realize that it was not women so much that
you needed, but your self-esteem back. Of course, the two often go
hand in hand, but you
must NEVER let a woman have control over your self-esteem. That is
why there are billions of women out there, so that if one treats you
bad, you can find another who is more intelligent and make you
happier.
So go out.
Do it.
Feel it.
Honestly, this FEELING is THE MOST INCREDIBLE FEELING IN THE WORLD.
And guess what?
Your EMOTIONS are catchy. That is why when you feel like crap, you
make women feel like crap if they are with you. No wonder most women
run from ass-kissers.
Think of looking at a gorgeous ripe orange, bursting with flavour.
Think of the incredible taste. The aroma. THAT is you when you are
on the right MINDSET.
Now, think of a spoiled rotten fungus-laden fruit, with flies all
around it, smelling weird, and you don't want to even THINK about
tasting it.
Yeah, that's you in a negative mindset, when you are bitter, angry,
or feeling desperate. You see, all those negative emotions convey
some kind of ROTTING. And it shows in your movements, your tonality,
your body language, your behaviours, your expression, and so much
more.
You feel me here?
Yeah, this emotion stuff is HUGE, my friend.
THAT'S why I am so careful about WHO I hang out with, and what their
values are, and what kind of frame of mind they are in.
I have a friend at the gym who is great like this, we keep each
other in strong positive mindsets. We encourage each other in
everything, not just working out. We have high goals. And we NEVER
think in terms of scarcity, regarding women or anything else.
Okay, I want to wrap up by returning to my original point about the
two ways to succeed with women. Sometimes, it’s difficult to make
the automatic jump to BEING THE MAN without even having an idea of
how THE MAN is supposed to behave. By LEARNING how THE MAN deals
with everything from how to approach a woman, how to deal with
challenges she throws at you, how to get physical, you will then be
able to IMITATE at first, which will lead to you EXPERIENCING
results.
 These results will be so powerful that the confidence it restores to
your identity will allow you to abandon strict regimens and you will
be able to work on INSTINCT.
Inside my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women, I
show you not only how the man behaves in tons of situations from
approaching women to getting physical and maintaining a woman’s
attraction, I also show you powerful ways for helping you to GET
INTO THE RIGHT FRAME immediately. This double-pronged approach is
powerful in and of itself, but in addition to that, I also explain
the “Third Prong”, which consist of all the important realities
about how women think and behave in our society, and I show you how
to incorporate your understanding of all this into your overall
strategy for success with women.
Get your hands on this special eBook at:
The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women book page
Till next time,
Michael W.
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