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***Letter From A Reader***
Hi Mike,
After reading so many of your articles on the net, I swear that your
eBook will be the last dating book I'll ever buy. Unfortunately, I've
been ripped by so many traditional dating books already. Sigh...
Anyway, I've 2 questions in mind. First, is it ok for us to be
emotionally vulnerable when women shares sensitive stuff with us?
Second, is it ok to force a woman to comply with something that we
wanna do but it is not what she wants? Is this a way of dominance?
It'll be great if you notify me when you receive this note...
Thanks a Million!!!
Frank M.
***MY FEEDBACK***
Thanks for your letter. I know that some of the material out there is
way off or just plain confusing.
I've done my best to make things clear and practical, and I've not
diluted any material - it's hard core truth, whether any woman wants
to agree with it publicly or not.
Also, I've been careful not to make sweeping statements- not all women
are bad, it's just that most women who can be called "physically
attractive" have been waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too spoiled by most guys.
In your letter you wrote:
"Anyway, I've 2 questions in mind. First, is it ok for us to be
emotionally vulnerable when women shares sensitive stuff with us?"
The answer is that if she is sharing sensitive stuff, and especially
if this is early on in your dating stage with a particular woman, it
should be HER making herself emotionally vulnerable.
There is no need to make YOURSELF emotionally vulnerable, and I would
recommend that if a woman makes herself emotionally vulnerable, just
be decent and listen, but don't melt down and start telling her your
emotional vulnerabilities.
She'll think you are a WUSS if you start becoming emotional.
Also, be careful about becoming a woman's therapist. It's one thing to
listen to her when she is expressing herself and her love to you, it's
something else when she is becoming emotional in the sense of always
crying to you about all her problems.
Don't get me wrong:
When a woman has truly earned your trust, it only makes sense that you
will be there to support her and vice versa. But too many guys become
targets of women who are just looking to use some desperate guy for
his attention and sympathy, while they then have "fun" with the guy
who has no time for their problems.
This is where it becomes crucial to use DUE DILIGENCE to determine the
kind of woman you are dealing with.
Too many women are looking to guys as limitless blacks hole to dump
all their problems and frustrations on.
If she starts to go on and on, and you hardly know her, just tell her
that Dr. Phil is covering her issue today. Even if you do know her
well, many women will still try to exploit the sympathy factor.
It's a fine line, but you have to make sure that you are not being
used as a male girlfriend. I know too many guys who felt sorry for a
girl they met, and started listening to all her problems, and helping
her, only for the woman to take him for granted, and ultimately kill
the attraction she felt.
So: Absolutely, do NOT be so quick to become her therapist, and also,
if she is getting emotional and sharing her feelings about you, still,
I advise you to be careful before melting and doing the same.
Women take it for granted that you will melt, and when you do, you
become low value, low on the attraction scale. You become like every
other guy.
So don't show your vulnerabilities to a woman, ever. Do NOT make
yourself open to an attack. TRUST ME, with most women, they WILL just
use that as an opportunity to exploit, or they will lose some respect
for you.
You don't have to be a jerk, just don't spill your guts just because
she is. And if she REALLY has a problem, and if she has earned your
trust, then make sure she knows that you are only going to help her
solve the specific problem and you are NOT going to be her therapist.
Regarding your second question:
"Second, is it ok to force a woman to comply with something that we
wanna do but it is not what she wants? Is this a way of dominance?"
No. Forcing is NOT the way of THE MAN. It's NOT the way of dominance.
Forcing only creates RESISTANCE anyway.
The way to get a woman to do what you want is to simply make her damn
attracted to you, by using all the various methods I speak and write
about.
Dominance, which is a part of creating attraction, comes from LEADING
the way, from making decisions, and from always being in control of your
emotions, and from living YOUR life and being happy with yourself, and
not seeking her approval. So for example, you make the decision where
you are going on a date, you lead the way for the first kiss, etc. And
then you can ease up, as they follow your lead.
And then again you lead a little, and then ease up to make it clear you
are not forcing... and then you lead again...etc etc.
Think of dominance as all the behaviours that flow from the attitude
that you are living YOUR life, and never seeking her approval for what
you do. When a woman sees that you don't need her approval, and that you
live your life that way, she feels not only lucky that she has some
super sexy dude, but she also feels the femininity that comes from being
with a dominant man.
It makes her feel like you cannot be controlled by anyone, and that
makes her feel safe and also feminine.
Thanks for your letter, it's a perfect example of the type of situation
that a guy finds when he's looking to be with a woman long term.
***REALITIES GUYS NEED TO KNOW ABOUT WOMEN'S SOPs.***
It's crucial to know the REALITIES about women's Standard Operating
Procedures for "relationships".
As guys, unless we're fortunate enough to have been shown the ropes by
someone, we have NO CLUE about how women manipulate guys once they are
in a relationship. Even if the guy is cool, and has self-esteem, unless
he has INSIDE KNOWLEDGE, there's just no way in hell that he would be
able to guess the truth.
So for the sake of all those guys, this article is going to give a
snapshot of what happens. Okay, so you have a dude. Let's say he's not
even a geek. He doesn't kiss up, he's got a sense of humor. The woman
quickly falls for him, because she feels his challenging behavior is
proof that he is the SUPERIOR guy, and both he and the chick have fun.
She is having fun, because as opposed to all the other guys who she
COULD HAVE, this guy seems to be a CHALLENGE. In other words, she's not
sure if she can really "get him". The woman starts to feel massive
emotion for him, and tells him. She hopes he will melt for her. She is
excited. If he does not melt for her, she will often show tears, or make
him jealous by mentioning other men who want her. But she is still
excited.
If he does melt for her and tells her how much he loves her, blah blah
blah, the happy ending lasts for about 24 hours. She is in bliss,
because she GOT something that she thought for a brief moment she could
NOT have. But pretty soon, though, the chick loses her appreciation for
him, bit by bit, unless he keeps himself a challenge i.e. PLAYS GAMES.
Why?
Because chicks are spoiled and have too many guys hitting on them.
Simple fact of life.
A consequence of a culture where men chase women, and women just stand
around. These women just haven't yet had to learn the lesson of
appreciation. They truly believe that if you were a desirable guy, then
you would not be so easy to get, and vice versa: that if you are not
easy to get, you MUST be a desirable guy.
Nobody said these beliefs were CORRECT, but the fact is these ARE the
beliefs most women have about men.
So, when a woman feels she has a guy conquered, she does something a bit
disrespectful, and figures she'll see if she gets away with it. Maybe
she starts to get lazy and doesn't call him when she says she will.
Maybe she flirts with the waiter at their table. Maybe she acts cold. If
she DOES get away with it, she figures she will try to get away with
more and more.
So she will do things like go "clubbing" with her friends to meet more
guys "innocently". That way she can have her cake and eat it too. Of
course, if HE does a similar action, she will threaten to remove his
genitals. She will pretend that she truly is innocent and he is truly
guilty.
And most guys buy her story 100%.
Her defense will be that she enjoys dancing, and she only goes to clubs
to dance, while her boyfriend is a "pig" out to pick up girls. And if he
allows it, she will tell him how she needs money for this and that, and
how tough her life was/is/will be, etc. And of course, if the dude is
foolish enough to feel sorry for her and get her this thing or that
thing, he only exacerbates the problem.
And of course, eventually she "cheats" on him, either physically or
emotionally. The truth is, he has been "cheated" on morally from the
moment she stopped RESPECTING him FULLY. The reality is that most women
will not be intelligent choices for relationships.
You will constantly have to play the game of being what she can't have
while at the same time giving her enough to whet her appetite and keep
her chasing you. I know this is not what most guys consider a
relationship.
The truth is that if you want a relationship, you will have to have
INCREDIBLY high character standards and self-discipline. And you'll need
to know the games women play so you can spot them right on.
For example, a woman can cry on demand, much like a tap can be relied
upon to give you water upon demand. For a woman, crying is often just a
form of currency. If crying will make you feel sorry for her, will make
you forgive her for unforgivable actions, will make you buy things for
her, or will make you kiss up to her in any other way, she will most
certainly cry.
Women also know most men's reactions to being made jealous. You will
have to be able to have enough self-esteem to realize that her games
have nothing to do with your innate level of desirability.
I get a lot of emails from guys who want to know how to get back "this
one girl"- and usually after finding out how she treated him, my
response is "WHY?" I mean why on earth does a guy want a woman who
abuses him? This whole phenomenon comes from the BELIEFS you hold.
It's easy to get the WRONG beliefs in a culture that tells you your
self-esteem should be based on how many women you can attract.
But it's FALSE.
Your self-esteem is 100% independent and has nothing to do with how many
chicks you attract. And of course, the irony is, that once you detoxify
your mind and you actually discover that what I have said is TRUE, you
will find that women will want you even MORE, because you are the one
thing they can't get: A GUY WHO DOESN'T NEED THEM!
Yeah, I know it sounds crazy, but you have to picture the reality of
these women and all the guys who are kissing up to them. The opposite
would be true if most guys were jerks. If most guys were jerks, then a
woman would search her brains out for a way to meet a good guy.
But knowing how to attract a woman does not mean that you should WANT to
attract every woman who is "hot".
If you want a relationship, you need to use DUE DILIGENCE and carefully
observe her behavior. You must find out if she has learned her lessons
and if she is attracted to a man who is good for her, or if she only
wants what she can't have.
 And if you're reading this right now, and would like to learn more about
how women REALLY behave, the games most women play, what to watch out
for, and how to attract a woman that you REALLY want to meet, then I
recommend you download my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success
with Women.
Download it now at:
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