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When it comes to success
with women, there’s absolutely NOTHING more important than being
“cool”. “THE MAN’S” defining characteristic is that he is COOL.
That’s a fact. I don’t care how sweet a girl is, no girl wants a guy
who is not cool.
But what IS this thing called “COOL”?
For the purpose of this newsletter, I am going to focus on what it
means to be cool here in Western culture. Before we even start here,
remember this: “COOLNESS” is an IRONIC entity.
Why?
Because being cool means to convey HIGH INTRINSIC VALUE- yet at the
SAME TIME, being cool ALSO means that you are giving off the vibe that
you are NOT TRYING to be cool. If you need an aspirin now, I
understand.
Let me explain:
When you are being cool, you are showing your Superior Intrinsic
Value, (as opposed to external/artificial value like winning the
lottery) by not even making an effort to prove your value, since you
are so secure with it.
In other words, insecurity is the ANTI-cool.
Of course, since AVOIDING ANY MENTION of your value is, in fact, the
way to SHOW it, it can seem pretty strange, but nonetheless, this is
the LANGUAGE of COOL. If you want to be understood in this culture,
you have to learn the secret language of COOL.
Ever notice how the guys who are good with women NEVER seem to be
trying? That’s because they really AREN’T trying to impress anyone!
That doesn’t mean they are trying to look INFERIOR.
They just don’t do things that smack of approval-seeking.
For example, they defy convention in many ways, preferring to do
things in a way that uniquely reflects who they are. This is shown in
their clothing, in their language, in their taste in entertainment,
etc.
COOLNESS is about FEELING COOL. So you do things your own way, you
feel great about yourself, you never show off, and even though you are
so relaxed and using so little energy, you’ve got pep.
When you’re cool, and you are talking to women, you’re not worried
about what women THINK of you. You feel that they must be worthy of
you just as much as they feel you must be worthy of them.
As a matter of fact, once you adopt this way of thinking, you will not
be able to comprehend how you could possibly NOT chat with a woman out
of fear.
There is nothing to fear:
A COOL PERSONALITY is what counts the most, (no, this is NOT a load of
bull) all you have to do is just KEEP IT REAL- have a COOL
CONVERSATION, not some desperate, approval seeking, boring,
manipulative conversation.
Think about it, what if this woman shows you through her conversation
that she’s got a crazy personality?
You should not even WANT such a chick, and the way to find out is to
first just have a conversation to see if she is psycho! Stop putting
women on a pedestal!
Guys that are successful with women are able to just chill with them,
or have fun, depending on the situation and what they feel like doing.
They are “smooth”. No stilted conversation. No effort.
Ever hear the saying “No sweat”? Think about how being cool is related
to not expending much effort.
This is where you get the myth that jerks
succeed best with women, because they are so indifferent (or even cruel)
and thus clearly not trying.
And jerks do yield SOME results with this approach. They are exhibiting
at least one crucial component of being cool: Not trying so hard. And
(in this culture) that conveys self-worth, since women interpret the
lack of effort to imply that he must have value,- and that he is so
secure with that knowledge he doesn’t have to try hard to get women. As
if women already know that he is valuable, that it’s obvious.
But let me tell you something:
A jerk with a boring personality will not get NEARLY as far with women
as a guy who both doesn’t kiss up AND who ALSO has an EXCITING
personality, a PLAYFUL personality, or any other DEEPLY INTERESTING
personality. And you don’t have to be a jerk to not KISS UP to a woman
as if you were inferior.
So how do you convey massive intrinsic value without making it look like
you are trying?
This is a TWO PART answer:
First of all, STEER CLEAR of ALL stereotypical things that people do to
gain approval. It comes across as INSECURE and actually makes you
look INFERIOR. I don’t care if you are the King of some empire, if you
say it, it will still sound insecure. As if you lacked INTRINSIC worth,
so you had to say you were King Jack Sh-t in order to have a chance to
be accepted.
The bottom line is that people who are SECURE with themselves NEVER talk
about how great they are. They instead ASSUME it is CLEAR that they ARE
cool automatically, and so they can just skip all that crap. Guess what
happens when people who have no insecurities get into conversation with
each other?
The conversation feels COMFORTABLE. No one is showing off and everyone
feels they are with worthwhile people.
But wait, it gets better:
We’ve mentioned that the first key to conveying coolness is to not try
to show how great you are. Instead, to just focus on the conversation.
The SECOND key to conveying VALUE is more “active”- you convey VALUE
through all the things you are INTRINSICALLY- MOST IMPORTANTLY…. a
compelling PERSONALITY.
And THIS is the GREAT EQUALIZER. There are all kinds of inequalities in
life, but personality does not have to be one of them. Do not take these
words lightly: PERSONALITY COUNTS.
If you look at the guys in real life who are most successful with women,
(I’m talking about successful in the sense that the women are NUTS about
them, not just that the women are with them, i.e. for money) you will
see that they are not only confident and therefore don’t crawl for
approval, but that they ALSO have COMPELLING PERSONALITIES.
When I say compelling personalities, I mean a personality that you just
can’t ignore, that you get caught up in. This can mean so many things-
it can mean being original, playful, funny, exciting, mysterious,
imaginative, romantic, courageous, wild, dangerous- or any combination
of the above.
And if you think you have a lame personality, then DO SOMETHING ABOUT
IT.
But to be honest with you, most guys have no problem with personality.
Their only problem is that they will show personality with their
buddies, but not with women!
For success with women, stop TRYING SO HARD.
Be cool.
And if you are reading this right now and would like to learn how to
make “being cool” a NATURAL part of your life, in all your dealings with
women, from first approach all the way to a relationship if you so
desire, then I seriously recommend that you don’t waste any time and
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I spent a lot of time learning things the hard way in the real world
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span of four years- this material was only shared at first with my best
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very powerful to share.
 There’s no “filler”- just the truth about what works and what doesn’t.
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