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My
pick-ups have started with conversations that ranged from playful
and teasing stuff about The Flintstones and whether the girl in
front of me would be more into Barney or into Fred, and just playing
with that in all kinds of ways, to totally different types of vibes
about deep intriguing stuff about emotions and psychology.
To get to that point I did start with steps. And I started with
realizing some important facts as well as gaining certain skills.
In addition to learning the skills of pick-up, it's important to
also know the facts of pick-up. The facts will help your skills, and
the skills will help you get perspective on the facts.
Otherwise, you can be wasting time and getting less than stellar
results, which will make you doubt yourself and weaken your inner
game.
1. First of all, if you are in a nightclub environment, you can
usually physically escalate faster and harder. This leads to crucial
fact Number Two:
2. The reason you can escalate faster at a club, is because when
girls go out to a club, they are usually going to meet guys. They
are going to bond with their girlfriends and have a good time, sure,
but they are also going to meet guys, for certain. Combine that with
the next fact:
3. That the girls have all had at least a couple of drinks and are
at least a bit tipsy, and the fact they are in an environment that
is highly sexualized, with fun and music and dancing, etc., and it
all adds up to one thing, our next very important fact:
4. The women are already in a sexual state in a club. So they are
more receptive to harder physical escalation.
5. When you pick up a girl, it's pretty much the same skillset no
matter where you are, but you have to be aware of the environment
because if a girl is already in a more happy and sexual state, then
you going into the interaction in a good mood and in high sexual
state is the perfect thing to do.
But if you do the same thing in a bookstore, with the exact same
attitude and smile, the girl might think you are weird, gay,
submissive, or she thinks that you assume she's going to **** you on
the spot or something.
A girl will call this "presumptuous".
That's because you've skipped a stage. A stage that the club
partially already accomplishes for you, but the bookstore, mall,
etc, does NOT.
So you have to be aware of the basic structure of how a woman goes
from zero to sex. The club speeds things up.
But even there, to be honest, you have to calibrate, as some girls
will still need you to slow it down some, contrary to pick-up artist
folklore and music videos and publicity campaigns.
Also, sometimes even the girls who are ready to go into a more
sexual state at a club, (not sex, just sexual) will be turned off if
you come into the interaction with a smile.
They will see it as you not being hard to get. If you want a good
rule of thumb, just make sure to open the interaction with dominance
in your voice and a relaxed look on your face, you can have a smile
but don't force that damn smile the whole conversation. You can be
in a great mood without having to smile a lot.
Think of the way you might be feeling after sex with a girl you
like. You are chilled out and in a good mood. Not smiling like a
clown!
So the order of how a woman goes from zero to sex hasn't changed,
but in a club, the club has speeded things up, and also it has
attracted the girls who are ready to be picked up, and are looking
to be picked up. You just have to do it right.
6. Now, there are always exceptions, but if you do hardcore physical
escalation at a bookstore, or café etc, during the daytime, it will
usually blow you out.
That's because the girl is not yet ready for that, it's too far away
state-wise at that moment.
You're going to have to get her comfortable with you first and
feeling some connection and getting to some more privacy before you
can effectively get physical.
Also, even at clubs, not all girls will escalate hard core, it
depends on the girl. By hard core, I mean making out with you, etc.
And even if you can make out with a girl at a club, it's not always
the smartest thing to do, as if she does not go home with you that
night, and she's more of a normal girl, she might feel pretty bad
about getting all physical with you in the club. So, she will avoid
your calls the next day.
7. Another critical and related fact is that if you are just
starting out learning these skills, it's good to go to a place where
there are lots of girls who are both hot and also available.
That way, you can get some positive results rather quickly, even if
she isn't your ideal vision of your dream girl personality. Which
helps your inner game, and of course that will lead to even better
actual results.
This is why clubs are a good practice place, because there are many
girls there, in one place, and the vast majority of them are there
to meet guys whether they say it or not.
And even if you are looking for the kind of girl that has long term
potential, you might even meet her there too as well. Practically
all girls go to clubs, pubs, lounges, etc. The key factor here is if
she is a party girl who lives just for that, or if it's just
something she does as one of many ways to socialize and to meet
guys.
If you are new to learning these skills, and you avoid clubs
altogether, you can still learn, but you are going to have to find
some other place where there are lots of girls to practice on.
Even then, the chances of all these girls being single or looking
for a guy are not as high as in a club, because the very nature of
clubs is sexual and is about guys and girls meeting, even if most
guys don't successfully meet because of a lack of skills. It's still
the reason guys and girls go.
So, if you are doing pick-up at a mall, it might take you a lot
longer to:
A - find a girl who is attractive to you, and
B - find a girl who also happens to not be seriously tied up in a
relationship that she is happy with. This is why in real life having
these skills is great because you don't have to especially go to the
mall to meet a girl, but when you happen to be anywhere- Starbucks,
the post office, the supermarket, the mall, and you happen to see a
girl you like, you can then immediately take action.
Rather than actually going to the mall only to meet a girl as an
activity in itself. That can waste a lot of time. But by learning
the skills at a club, and then using the skills whenever you happen
to meet a girl anywhere, you save yourself time.
Of course, in my bootcamps, I train guys in all environments, from
clubs to major malls to the street, so that they won't feel the
skills are limited just to clubs and so their frame of reference for
the training won't be limited. This way, by training in all
environments, you know that it works everywhere. The fact is, it
works everywhere, but it's nice to know it by actually doing it.
But again, when you are first learning the skills, it's a great idea
to practice in clubs, because if you are only practicing in places
like the mall, you are going to run into several issues:
Often, the pickup is more difficult, because she is rushing through
the mall, walking fast, and here you are stopping her. She is not
ready for it, and it can seem weird to her.
Approaching a girl at a club is normal, even though so few guys do
it right. It's socially "permissible". And the girls at clubs are
totally there to be picked up, unless they are there with their
serious long term relationship boyfriend, etc.
So if you are not going to do clubs, then any place like some kind
of exhibition or amusement park where there are tons of girls, is
the way to get started, so that you can get some positive results
quickly. As opposed to going to the mall and waiting an hour for the
next girl.
That being said, at the mall, you can pick up a girl who is hot and
who is in middle of walking/moving, but the results are not as
consistent as picking up a girl who is in the club.
Now, me, personally, I don't care what the stats are, if I see a
girl I like anywhere, I'll go for it and enjoy the process.
This attitude is actually part of the "formula" for success, but you
don't need to have that immediately.
Yes, the only way to maximize your results is to go for it, and not
give yourself excuses.
And thanks to this attitude, I have met some pretty cool women in
total non-club environments as well. But the fact is, not as many of
the girls there are available as when you are in a club. And there
are not as many girls to begin with there, so it can take a while to
you meet one you are really interested in.
But, the thing is, if you are new to this game, you might find it
unpleasant and take it personally if it doesn't go well, even though
it has nothing to do with you and your worth as a person, because
not only is it about your skills and not you as a person, but it's
also about whether she is in a happy relationship or not.
But as a beginner, you might still feel bad somehow, because you
don't believe it.
So, it's good for your inner game to get some results ASAP, so it's
good to kind of play the basics before going to play the hardest
stuff.
By the way, I'm talking especially about girls moving in the mall.
If a girl is standing at some magazine rack, it's a lot easier. Not
guaranteed of course, but easier. It's easier because it's more
normal to have a conversation that way, than it is for her to be
stopped by a guy while she is rushing with her bags etc.
And if she is hot, she knows why you are stopping her while she is
walking. So if you give her the logical excuse of something like
looking for directions, it has to be done with the kind of confident
vocal tonality that clearly indicates you are not afraid of chatting
to her, but rather that you are offering her a tactful way to go
about the pick up because you don't want her to feel cheap.
Otherwise, you come across as weak. And that of course destroys
attraction.
What I do in Bootcamp is go to the busiest malls, and if one place
isn't happening, I will move to another place, i.e. the food court,
the bookstores, the cafes, the department stores, etc. And if that
mall isn't happening, we will go right out on the street or skip to
another busy mall. Similarly, if you are at a place to meet women,
and there aren't any that you are interested in, then leave to
somewhere else. You will learn also that different places have
different times of day when they are best to go to.
9. Doing pick up is actually not common. At least not doing it well.
This is what tends to make guys feel weird about doing pick-up.
There is a social pressure to not do pick-up, especially in places
or situations that are not common.
But the thing is, if you surround yourself with guys who do pick-up,
you have a counter-social pressure.
In fact, besides the massive skills and insights on pick-up and
attraction that you gain from my materials and taking any of my
programs, you also get the counter-social pressure from me being by
your side either physically in my bootcamp, or metaphorically
through my materials that are there to show you every step of the
way.
Environment is a big thing, any psychologist can confirm this and
you know this yourself from your own experience. It's the reason a
lot of people actually get depressed around the holidays, it's
because they keep thinking everyone else is having a great time, so
the gap in how they feel and how they think they are "supposed" to
feel, leaves them depressed. Environment is everything.
The more you immerse yourself in the right environment, the more
natural you will feel adopting those behaviors. In fact, after
soaking yourself in my programs and materials, you will then feel
"weird" only if you do not do pick-up! I'm completely serious about
this.
Another really important point about pick-up:
9. If you don't really learn to feel good about yourself, then you
won't enjoy so much as the thought of sex or enjoy a woman, and you
won't enjoy the process of learning these skills which may lead to
giving up, and also without feeling good about yourself you won't
correctly apply a lot of the things you learn.
You'll misinterpret tons of things. You'll hear ideas about teasing
a girl, and you'll turn it into something mean. You'll be having
great rapport at the right time with a woman and then ruin it
because you are feeling that you gave her too much. You'll take
everything women say the wrong way, and you'll also be doing
everything with the wrong vibe, because you are coming from the
wrong place internally and women will be able to sense it. Which
leads me to our final point:
NUMBER 10:
You see, the truth is that this process of learning these skills can
be a whole lot of fun! And when you are feeling good, you are going
to also get better results.
The reason why you might not find it fun is because of the
associations you have made to the process - i.e. that it has to be
tough, that it has to be painful, that girls are mean, that girls
will reject you, that if a girl doesn't give you her number it must
be something to do with your inherent worth rather than anything
else, etc.
But the truth is, when it comes to attracting women, in a way you're
overqualified but you don't even realize it, so you are acting as if
you underqualified.
If you didn't have the natural stuff it takes, you would not be here
today.
It's in your genes, man.
It's natural, it's part of our million year old hardwiring, to enjoy
the whole process of meeting and having sex with a woman! If it
wasn't, none of us would be here!
Yes, there is outer technique to this stuff, especially in the
beginning, and you can't be "Mr. Nice Guy" for sure, but the outer
technique stuff becomes less and less as your inner game expands.
Your inner game is actually the real you that evolution designed so
that you mate. It's in you right now, it's just been buried deep by
all kinds of brainwashing and distorted messages that were sent to
you by ignorant folks -- everyone from the media to some of the
people you have interacted with long ago to some of the people you
interact with everyday! So it's messed up your concepts and
instincts about how to effectively pick up and keep a woman.
And I don't just mean that it's in your genes in a caveman sort of
way, although to be honest that is part of it. What I also mean is
that the vibes you need for pickup, the vibe of being in a good
mood, a playful mood, and yet a masculine mood, even the natural
instinct of when to build connection with a girl, all that is really
the natural part of you, but you have gotten tied up into the Matrix
and bought into the wrong beliefs which create the wrong emotions
and ultimately
the wrong reality for you.
You can change all that.
It's up to you.
This is serious inner game work.
You see, biology is constantly interacting with sociology, and just
like social conditioning has affected you one way and taken you away
from your instincts, I can actually take you back to your instincts,
in a way I will be serving as your new social force who also happens
to have years of experience teaching guys how to master these skills
as efficiently as possible. And this time, we're going in the
direction your instinct really has wanted to go with the entire
time.
This inner game is about more than just confidence. It's more than
just recognizing your own value. It's also about feeling a certain
way and realizing on a deep internal level the nature of sexuality,
and how being "nice" in that cliché sense is simply not natural and
not sexy.
Once you start to get all this, then you will be able to learn way
faster. You will learn the perfect balance of dominance, sexuality,
teasing, and being a positive person without being a "weak" nice
guy.
Positive is good and sexy.
Weak is not good and not sexy.
Techniques help, for sure.
But inner game is crucial.
And on that note, if you want to learn all the most important
"techniques" and develop an inner game that is more powerful than
you could possibly imagine, then you seriously owe it to yourself to
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Then, it's time to put it all together in person, as I first demo
everything for you in real life, and then serve as your coach for an
entire weekend of nothing but pickup and mastering every component
of attraction. You will be coached through winging, through
demonstration, through prep before we go out, and through my
detailed and immediately applicable feedback on your performance.
It's all part of the Real World Bootcamp, at:
www.thedatingwizard.com/bootcamp.htm
And
if you haven't yet downloaded my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets
to Success with Women, then do that first. This book is the
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Till next time,
Michael
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