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The greatest life lesson I have learned is to
never think you know it all. It’s the only way you can be a
life-long learner and continue to grow.
It’s kind of funny when guys who for
years have been claiming to be know-it-alls when it comes to this
field, are only NOW acknowledging things that I have been teaching
for YEARS in these articles and in my material.
For example, the idea that attraction is ultimately about making
women feel GOOD and that if you have to resort to negative stuff to
get a woman’s attention, it is a sign of very WEAK game.
And the idea that you really should be working toward SPONTANEOUS
AND SITUATIONAL conversation rather than “routine based
conversation”, and the idea that this is a SKILL in itself that is
acquired with PRACTICE. And that it’s NOT enough to just BE BOLD and
go up to a woman while you are still CLUELESS.
And the idea that you should be a MAJOR learner, learning about all
kinds of interesting things, from the humanities to pop culture to
art to you name it, so that you have ALL KINDS OF INTERESTING things
to relate to in your conversation. So you don’t have to be a robot
memorizing lines.
Another critical idea is that you must FIRST create the best inner
and outer YOU, which flows from the VIBES you emanate, (and
developing this takes EFFORT and practice) in order to create the
Superior Intrinsic Value which will attract her, instead of focusing
on trying to “slam her ego DOWN” in order to make yourself SEEM
superior.
When you REALLY feel awesome about yourself, teasing takes on a very
PLAYFUL FORM, not a MALICIOUS form. The teasing takes the form of
RELAXED, CONFIDENT FLIRTING, not of “SLAMMING HER EGO”.
There is nothing worse than witnessing a guy who really has horrible
inner beliefs and negative attitude using stuff like teases or even
worse, using downright “ego-slamming tactics”. All the guy ends up
doing is seeming very creepy.
It’s NEVER about being mean, unless you are dealing with a few very
sad cases of women with horrible self-esteem issues which I wouldn’t
wish upon anyone.
When you come from the attitude that you are going to “SLAM a girl’s
ego”, then your teases come across as MEAN, not playful. And the
bottom line is that this creates an aura of INFERIORITY of the guy,
since only people who are INSECURE would be MEAN.
Girls know this on a GUT LEVEL. And it’s not like girls sit there
THINKING about this, they just FEEL it. And if a girl FEELS a guy is
insecure, then that is far more devastating to his power than
anything logical she might say, for this whole “game” is about
emotion.
This is a huge problem and guys have to wake up to it. I have guys
coming to my bootcamps from all over the world, and I am finding
that I am spending a great deal of time DETOXIFYING them from the
NEGATIVE brainwashing they got from “gurus” as WELL as the other
type of brainwashing they got from the mainstream media, society,
etc. Both extremes are wrong- the mainstream society/media that
brainwashes guys to be wusses, as well as the negative stuff about
thinly veiled insults and about slamming women’s egos that many
gurus promote really is no good either.
The FIRST level, the foundation, is to ERADICATE all the negative
stuff: Having a negative attitude about women, being needy, being
TRY HARD, having stressful or non-relaxed expressions on your face,
wearing boring clothing that screams “I want to make sure I don’t
stand out”.
ONLY AFTER you have this stuff DOWN PAT, can you UNDERSTAND exactly
what is meant by PROPER teasing, because you will FEEL the vibe of
what this is, it is something that is a sign of YOUR FEELING GOOD
STATE, where you are secure in your own value and you are not
“walking on eggshells” so afraid of not saying the right thing, to
the point you feel comfortable enough to tease her. THAT’S the point
of this.
The irony is that any “negative” tactic that is out there could only
have a hope in hell of working if the guy was already in a POSITIVE
frame, and this would then make the tactic unnecessary.
This is not to say you are supposed to go up to women all “nicey-nicey”,
because that “nicey-nicey” stuff is usually just fear and insecurity
and lacking dominance and masculinity.
But the point is that the negative stuff is A FORMULA FOR DISASTER.
When you are in the RIGHT state, which is a combination of
sexuality, dominance, playfulness, confidence and security, and
relaxed with pep, what happens is that she feels that YOU are this
superior guy, and it’s A SELF-ESTEEM boost to her when she THEN sees
that YOU have CHOSEN HER to spend your time with.
SHE feels BETTER about herself because she FEELS that YOU have
superior value, and that YOU have chosen HER, so therefore SHE must
be worth more than she thought before. She feels BETTER. So the idea
is to be SUPER SECURE and feeling great YOURSELF, or she cannot
possibly feel better about herself when she finds that you have
chosen to be with her.
So much for theories that promote negativity as the solution for
attracting the best women.
Maybe I should write a “mainstream” book for bookstores, to counter
current guru trends and prevent a few thousand dorks from creeping
out a few million women. In the meantime, at least I can help
everyone who has already managed to find their way here.
Right now, though, I’d like to get to some OTHER important points,
based on the years of experience in the FIELD.
Yes, the field RULES. It’s where things are proven. The problem is
that a lot of the things written about the “field” are only coming
from certain parts of the field, and certain types of women in those
venues.
This can cause mass confusion for guys who may be operating or
trying to pick up in completely different environments, or with guys
who are interested in a very different kind of woman.
On that note, let me share with you some CRITICAL things that have
been learned IN THE FIELD, things that I have seen OVER AND OVER
again from being out there not only for myself, but also from doing
hundreds of bootcamps personally:
Number one:
ALWAYS USE MINIMUM GAME
This was a huge thing for me, because I actually HAD this going for
me when I first started out, but then got caught up in all the guys
swearing about all their “cool routines” and “tactics”. It took a
few weeks for me to get back to my OWN conclusions and get results
again.
I used to open up girls with something interesting, perhaps a tease,
perhaps something intriguing, but INTERESTING always, then would as
soon as possible go to NORMAL mode of just kicking back and chilling
out and developing a connection and rapport.
Then I started doing all kinds of crazy other stuff that was “cool
and in vogue among pick up artists”, and it got greater IMMEDIATE
REACTIONS from women but then backfired, because it caused them to
feel the whole thing was a bit too much to be natural, which caused
me to have to pull out all the stops on reestablishing rapport so
that the trust was there again. When I could have just avoided the
whole problem to begin with by using MINIMUM game.
What do I mean by minimum game?
I mean you should use the LEAST energy you need to get the job done,
your facial expressions need to convey emotion, but only the LEAST
amount necessary. The LESS you use, the more CALM you seem, the more
COOL you seem, the less you seem to be TRYING, the easier it is for
her to not only feel greater trust, but also the more attracted she
can feel since you are obviously so confident in your value because
you are not trying. Which is how it SHOULD be in the first place!
If you are in a set, chatting up a woman, and your eyebrows are
constantly furrowed, your face always very intent, it’s not good.
Regarding minimum energy, obviously in a loud club, where the
awesome music is playing and the girls are laughing, etc, it just
makes SENSE that you would be in a good mood too and in higher
energy yourself, so the energy and facial expressions would
NATURALLY be higher and more energy, in fact it should be just a bit
higher energy even than the girls are having themselves, so that you
are raising the energy level and the good times instead of lowering
them and being a party pooper.
In a bookstore, the energy level would obviously be more laid back.
However, in BOTH ENVIRONMENTS, your INTERNAL STATE needs to be tip
top, you need to be in a good state, yet also feeling the DOMINANCE
as well.
Okay, next:
Number two:
START WITH RAPPORT IN “EXCLUSIVE” ENVIRONMENTS
When you are in the more exclusive environments and venues, it often
comes across as TRY HARD if you don’t just open up with something
very low-key, rapport related, etc. The reason is because it’s
ASSUMED you already have VALUE walking in, because it’s an exclusive
environment.
So you in fact have a free pass for OPENING, and putting in more
“game” simply seems like you are weird, you are trying hard, etc.
However, this is just for your OPENING. Everything else is the same.
There’s no excuse for weak game or boring game.
Your delivery, your body language, all count just as much as always.
And you can still tease too, in fact if you DO have your inner game
down as explained above, it’s a great idea AFTER you have opened
with rapport.
And all the other emotional stuff like being intriguing is still a
great idea.
So for example, you could open with a bit of rapport and then
attract and then go into deeper rapport. And of course this is just
an example, in real life there is always overlap between attract and
rapport/connection. In fact, many times you will be doing both at
once, because for example your body language is so good that you are
attracting even as you are chatting rapport stuff. And that’s just
one example.
Number three:
ENDURANCE IS CRITICAL
Endurance in every respect is IMPORTANT when it comes to the game.
Clients have seen just how much I mean this in real life as they
watch me demonstrate. So many guys will EJECT out of an interaction
just because the woman is not initially doing CARTWHEELS for them.
If you can’t endure a little heat, you can’t expect to really
develop any of the various skills involved in mastering pick up or
long term attraction.
For example, many times, a woman simply needs MORE TIME and MORE
QUALITY rapport before she is ready to progress the interaction to a
higher level.
So for example, she might question your motives, or, she might be
comfortable but not sure if you are THE MAN or not, and she might
test to see how confident you actually are. Or she might just be
testing to see if you are a fun and playful guy as opposed to a guy
who takes everything so seriously.
If she is doing any of these things, instead of wanting to eject,
you should WELCOME the situation, because once you recognize these
things for what they are, you can easily address them and then
progress the interaction with her.
Another important point about endurance is that you must not get
lazy. Sometimes a guy will finally develop the attitude of being
indifferent toward the outcome, but he then uses this to become lazy
and sloppy in his interactions because he doesn’t care what happens.
Just because you are no longer insecure about getting a woman’s
approval does mean you can run a sloppy pickup because you are tired
or feeling silly. It doesn’t matter if you’ve had a long day or if
it’s your first pick up of the day or your hundredth. If you are
going to do it, then get yourself together and do it RIGHT. Be a
professional.
Think of it like lifting weights:
Even if you are tired, you still have to watch your FORM or you can
do more damage than good. Don’t give in to the temptation to get
sloppy on your form in your pick-ups either.
On to the next point!
Number four:
DO YOU WANT IT? THEN DO IT.
This is my basic philosophy regarding approaches in all supposedly
“weird” situations, and in fact ALL situations.
There’s really no excuse NOT to approach.
It costs you NOTHING.
It takes very little TIME, unless it’s going WELL, in which case
that’ exactly what you WANT.
It’s FUN. Seriously, this stuff is FUN. It wouldn’t be fun if there
was no drama or excitement. I think this is just one of the reasons
I prefer real life rather than online, because it’s actually FUN.
Even if let’s say your approach requires you to do something “weird”
like going into a store where only women go, like a makeup store,
who cares? Although it is true that these environments require that
you calibrate your approach for the environment, i.e. “you are there
waiting for your female friend (not girlfriend) to get something”,
it’s not as strange to the women as you might think. Moreover, if
you are doing a proper pick up, they won’t care much, because you
will have them emotionally compelled and the logical stuff of what
the heck you are doing there will be irrelevant.
And it costs you NOTHING. It’s just that you THINK “oh my gosh my
big fat ego might not be able to take it if it doesn’t go well” or
“what will they DO to me if I get “caught” trying to pick them up”?
And this is the funniest thing of all if you think about it, because
you are falling for what women have CREATED as an illusion:
The idea that they don’t want men to approach them.
By creating this illusion, women are able to “raise the cost” of
being with them. After all, if they don’t want men and sex, etc.,
and you DO want it, then THEY are in the driver’s seat. I don’t
blame women for creating this illusion, because it was a way women
were able to survive in an old society where women had little power,
but today it’s RIDICULOUS!
And yet STILL men are falling for it!!!!
Women want to be approached by guys, but it has to be by guys they
think are COOL, meaning guys who totally get all this stuff and
don’t use it to make women feel bad, but use it to make a woman feel
good.
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so that she doesn't feel weird about meeting you the next time.
I wish somebody could have taught me all this stuff at one shot over
a weekend instead of having to learn it piece by piece, from various
different guys and from tons of my own mistakes and experiences over
YEARS. During those years, it was often like walking blindfolded
into the lion's cage, where I got ripped apart. If you want to avoid
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Till next time,
Michael W.
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