Michael W - The Dating Wizard: The Spell To Dating Success
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Michael W: Applying The Dating Wizard materials and insights to get serious results in your life, with golden tips on approaching women, doing the pick-up and taking things beyond.
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***LETTER FROM A READER****
Hey Michael,
I remember when I first got into your material. You
said your clients were making out with women in public
places within 15 minutes of meeting them. I was like,
"pffff, yah right". Turns out you weren't lying.
That's all it takes...15-20 minutes. I've been working
on my game, and I'd like to give some advice to the
guys who are new to this.
1. Enjoy Being Nervous
I know it sounds crazy, but I yearn for that feeling of anxiety when you first start approaching women. I yearn for it like a drug. Right now, I want those nervous feelings. I'm getting smoother and smoother everyday. I really don't get that rush anymore. The only way I can even come close to feeling that rush is by approaching more women right off the bat.
When I see a girl I like, I want it, and I go right up to her. I don't care who I'm with or who she's with-- I NEED THAT RUSH, do you understand? I need to flirt with them in that innocent, playful, sexual sense that they are so god damn good at. Oh God I love a girl who can shit test me... I'm getting a ***** thinking about it. Like I said, it sounds crazy, but enjoy that fear of being rejected while it lasts. The anxiety might not even be fear of rejection... it could be euphoric feelings from liberating yourself from a loser mentality...your mind just might not know the difference...think about that.
2. Watch The Right Movies
Michael lists about 12 movies in his eBook. Watch every one of them...in a row. Seriously, take the weekend off and immerse yourself in them...everyone of them. They will teach you how to have a conversation with a woman that results in attraction. I made the mistake of only watching one of them at first....it took me forever to get a decent conversation going that resulted in attraction. In addition to those, watch Good Luck Chuck and RUDY- Wedding crashers wasn't bad either. Do it, Do it.
3. No More Booze
Stop drinking liquor. You are wasting your life. Liquor is a really nasty drug. Cut down on the beer. Women are not attracted to drunks or someone who is drunk. Plus, you need to be coherent to have a conversation that results in attraction so you can sort of get that rush I was talking about ...and in the morning when they walk around in their undies with no bra to please you is also a nice little benefit of being sober.
What I do is have a beer and then a glass of water and then a beer and then a water. At the most I drink like 3 beers through out the course of 4 or 5 hours. And if she mentions anything about it you can tell her that DKNY is scouting you for a modeling position and it's important that you stay in top notch shape J
4. Lines
Lines aren't that bad...but stay away from any type of routine. I have all kinds of lines for different situations. If there's a clerk that's cute and I'm paying for something, I'll ask her something like, "Can you make change for a million dollar bill?" and when she says no I'll tease her and say that the manager doesn't trust her with that kind of money. Or if she's in the supermarket picking out fruits or veggies I'll tell her that she is really hurting the people around her and to come clean and admit she has a serious junk-food addiction. Of course I really don't know how she is going to respond...that's why routines don't really work. If I could see the future, I still wouldn't use routines or lines. I'm trying to be spontaneous... I get that rush...
I don't want to use lines during a conversation because when you can think quickly and respond with the right playful, smart ass come back or just the right compliment, understanding when it's okay to brush her hair back and tell her she's got the Hanna Montana thing goin' on and that all she needs is some big purple sunglasses, or the proper calibration, it all builds the romance and the intimacy.
Whether it's right there when I first start talking to the girl or after some sex in the morning light, most girls tell me I had the best pick up "line" they've ever heard. (Because it wasn't a "line" - it was usually spontaneous and therefore totally real and she can sense that "real-ness") That's why Michael doesn't spoon feed us lines... Women want and deserve something special...That's for sure. You're going to find yourself talking anywhere from 5 to 35 girls a day... keep it fresh as much as you can.
5. Fly Solo
I know...it's nerve racking going to a bar by yourself (again, maybe your feeling positive emotions but your mind doesn't know it because you've never done anything like this.) I can't stand going out with guys or friends and listening to their boring-ass conversations. YUCK. BORING. I WANT A RUSH. Most wingmen will just eject themselves out of a conversation because they don't have the proper insight...they don't even know what attraction really is. When you get good at this...then you can bring a wingman.
6. Park It
Sit your ass right next to them. It conveys the following message: "I know I'm awesome, I want to know if you're awesome so we can have an awesome time together." Don't be afraid to ask her or her friend to scoot over so you can sit down. This you will be rewarded for big time.
7. Resist Her Initial Physical Contact
At the pub scenes and clubs, almost every girl you approach will brush up against you within seconds of meeting you. It's an interesting phenomenon. Resist the temptation to touch her back. Don't lean into her or touch her arm or whatever. Wait a couple of minutes before you switch gears. I think they are trying to see if you are desperate for physical contact. Michael probably has a better idea of what that's all about. I swear...every girl will touch you or brush up against you within seconds of approaching them...every girl... truly fascinating.
8. The Nasty
Sex is great, but it can be over-rated. You'll be up all night and sleep deprived the rest of the week. Plus, if she's a stranger...you never know man. No matter how intelligent she may be, some girls don't think there's anything wrong with having sex during their period (guys too) or they might not even know they're getting their period. Not to freak you out, but it happens.
Sex is great, but I love a girl who can make me laugh. You personally can really not teach them the sense of humor they need to please you.
There's so much more I want to say. Thanks for everything Michael. Oh yah, thanks for that tip on sexual stamina in your eBook...that alone was worth the 40 dollars I paid.
Paul
Michael W.>>>My Comments<<<
First of all, thanks for that extremely useful letter, and congratulations on getting the results you deserve for applying things so well. I appreciate every letter that says "hey man, thanks for your stuff, I'm dating this great girl" etc., but when you show exactly how you are applying what you are learning from the materials, you help tons of other guys learn as well.
There are tons of things I'd like to say about thedetails of your letter, which would take DAYS, so for now let me get to some of the highlights:
You mention that at first, you were (like most people) kind of skeptical about the fact that many of my clients were "making out with women in public places within 15 minutes of meeting them." Thank you for putting it in writing that "Turns out you weren't lying. That's all it takes...15-20 minutes."
The reality is that in a place like a lounge or a club, it's really something that happens all the time when you have enough practice, and as you already know, this is not some type of "magical routine" - rather, it is a way of being that you can learn, that feels awesome, (and far more instinctive and natural) and that involves no games or lies or tricks.
I've even had guys who were total beginners who in the span of just a few hours of training already were getting things like phone numbers, etc. All backed up not just by my testimony, but by newsworthy sources such as The Toronto Star, here.
You also hit the nail RIGHT on the head when you said to learn to enjoy being nervous. Bravo! This is EXACTLY the spirit of what I wrote when I was saying that if you don't get some kind of RUSH from going up to a girl, then you are not approaching the kind of women that you really are attracted to! If you feel nothing at all, then how attracted can you be in the first place? So exactly, enjoy the rush, it's nature taking place!
And also, as you say, from practicing and doing it so much, you get so calm that it takes more and more to even feel any nerves at all, and you actually miss the drama, so you have to push your own envelope further, as you get stronger and stronger, almost like lifting heavier weights as you get stronger.
You are right on the money with the focus on enjoying the process- "flirting with them in that innocent, playful, sexual sense that they are so god damn good at." Yes, women "get" this, they understand it, they are just waiting to meet guys who ALSO "get" it! You understand that when most women "test" you, they are actually showing you that they like you, because if they had zero interest, they wouldn't have a desire to learn more about you through testing you!
And though some guys out there might think it's "crazy" that you get turned on by the idea of testing, it's actually brilliant, and reminds me a bit of how Arnold Schwarzenegger when he was still a bodybuilder used to associate pain with pleasure, so that each lift was something he associated with pleasure, to motivate him through any pain. The even better news is that interacting with women and smoothly passing any of their "shit tests" is actually far EASIER than lifting a heavy weight, and truly CAN be enjoyable because you will realize when she is doing this out of attraction.
"Enjoy that fear of being rejected while it lasts. The anxiety might not even be fear of rejection... it could be euphoric feelings from liberating yourself from a loser mentality...your mind just might not know the difference...think about that."
Well said. Bravo!
Regarding the movies mentioned in the eBook (and others in the CD Set) yup, there is a reason for every one. And I like your suggestion for Wedding Crashers- if nothing else, this movie shows how ANY GUY can be successful with women if he can appreciate that women are first and foremost human beings with emotions, and that no amount of money, good looks or status will be able to compete with EMOTION.
And on the alcohol and liquor, definitely. During my bootcamps, clients almost never drink, so they learn how to be independent of any substance and they can achieve results anytime without relying on a crutch. And yes, even if alcohol did manage to get a guy in the right state of mind, it would also destroy his ability to make effective conversation. And it's nice to be able to actually enjoy the benefits of being sober with a woman who is gorgeous.
Regarding lines, "That's why Michael doesn't spoon feed us lines... Women want and deserve something special...That's for sure. You're going to find yourself talking anywhere from 5 to 35 girls a day... keep it fresh as much as you can"
Absolutely! The best attitude toward a "line" it is to think of it as simply a way to open a conversation, even though as you practice more and more you will find that you don't even need them at all.
When I coach guys in person and in Bootcamp I strive to imbue in them as much self-reliance as possible, but since I also know that some guys are just starting out, it can provide some psychological relief to know that just in case they stall, there is a "back-up" of something they can say.
The irony is that often just KNOWING that you have a line or routine is enough to calm you down and make you spontaneous so that you don't need to use the line or routine.
Definitely, the goal is to become as spontaneous as possible, since that way your conversation is truly real, and you are truly "present" and in the moment, and women can sense this. It's very disarming since you don't come across as if you have some type of agenda that views her as just "some woman" but rather an individual with her own personality, dreams, aspirations, concerns, etc.
Regarding flying solo, you hit the nail on the head again, because most "wingmen" that are your friends simply will drag you down. Guys that are really committed to excellence in this area of their lives are far and few in between. They eject out of conversations with women that you are all talking to since they can't take the pressure. They also will fill your mind with negative attitudes as their own excuses for not taking action pile up.
So you can't rely on them. Instead, by going out alone, your skills will grow even stronger.
The only wingman you should be with is someone who is even better than you. Then, you can actually learn and be brought up instead of down.
And resisting the temptation to touch her so fast is great stuff as well, as it shows the difference between you and all the guys who melt like butter at her first touch. It's not that you are supposed to act mean or anything, it's just that most guys melt into wusses who seem as if they are super-needy, so a woman is actually testing the waters with you to see if she can trust that you are not going to take advantage of her--and she can tell this by seeing that you are not grabbing like a starving man for food.
So congrats, and thanks for the props and for that really useful letter . And if you're reading this right now, I encourage you to try out what you've learned from this newsletter.
You are going to get results, I already know that. The only question is, how far do you want to go? If you'd like to go all the way and get the full picture for maximum results, then I suggest you get my Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship program. It will teach you the in-depth insights to give you the edge when it comes to approaching women, getting physical, and taking things into the relationship level as well. It's here.
If you're just starting out then get a fantastic introduction to all my concepts by downloading my eBook- The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women. This special book is filled with dozens of great tips on meeting and dating women, and you can be reading it in minutes from now, by going here.
Wishing you success with women,
Michael
"The Dating Wizard's: Spell To Dating Success" article series. When you are able to accept that a woman might potentially not like you, you are then able to let go of being overly concerned with this fear.
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