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and success by guys learning from, and using "The Dating Wizard's
Secrets To Success With Women" ebook.
Over a weekend I read your eBook. One week later I met a hot, rich,
snotty blonde (probably an 8.5). I did all the Superior Intrinsic
Value stuff as you explain. I really didn't care because she was so
far out of my league. I accused her of all sorts of things,
including being a kleptomaniac because she took one of my cigarettes
without asking. With this she stood up, got in my face and told me
Most men would of stuck their tail between their legs and said they
were only kidding, begging for forgiveness. But I just smirked at
her and handed her my empty beer bottle and told her I could use
another. She stormed off to the bathroom in disgust.
She then comes out of the bathroom and marches over to my table,
grabs my empty beer bottle, and comes back with a full one. "I don't
know who the hell you think you are, but I don't buy drinks for
men," she said.
To make a long story short, her friends were leaving and she had to
go, I said "adios". She walked out, then came right back in and
whispered in my ear, "you are coming with me and my friends to the
next bar where I will buy you another drink. Then we are taking a
cab back to your place and you will make love to me."
In the car ride with her friends she was all over me like a crazed
nympho and to make a long story short, I never paid for another
drink the rest of the night, and we woke up together the next
While I was driving her home that next morning, she kept begging me
to tell her what she could do so she could be "my girl". I answered
"You're gonna have to earn it, cause I got 10 other girls asking me
the same thing." It is almost too easy. For the past 10 years I've
been your standard wuss.
A word of warning, if you truly don't believe you are the superior
value, her tests will expose you.
Michael W's Reply:
Awesome stuff. Now, I know that some guys are probably saying
"bull*(&!", but the truth is that letters like this are nothing new
and not surprising. Yes, many guys indeed DO get results THAT FAST
from using this stuff.
And that is just from the eBook alone. Can you can imagine the power
that my Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship Program will give a guy???
You know, I have to admit, the kleptomaniac thing brought a smile to
my face. I think I'm going to use that one myself and add it to my
repertoire lol. It's perfect, because it's NOT MEAN, it's f*(&ing
FUNNY and shows CONFIDENCE. It's NOT BITTER.
Also interesting how you are aware of the fact that this worked
because you REALLY DIDN'T FEEL YOU HAD ANYTHING TO LOSE. Although I
don't recommend the belief of thinking a woman is out of your
league, in your case you at least framed that belief in a positive
way of you NOT BEING STRESSED OUT ABOUT IT.
As humans, we tend to only get stressed about things that we think
are just barely out of reach, but not the absolute impossible.
And your CONGRUENCY with it all, being totally prepared to let her
WALK AWAY, only made you THAT MUCH MORE ATTRACTIVE to her.
There is a REASON why this stuff works:
It's because most guys WANT something from a woman, and this makes
women feel PRESSURED. But there can be NO PRESSURE when there is NO
Also when a guy is pressuring a woman, it makes her feel that he is
needy and desperate and thus UNDESIRABLE.
At the same time, exerting NO FORCE does not mean to be an
ass-kisser. It means instead that you are DAMN HAPPY being YOURSELF.
All this makes her FEEL that you ARE WORTHY, YOU ARE DESIRABLE, and
that you are FUN. It says you are HIGH VALUE.
It flicks many, many of her emotional "attraction" buttons ON. It
makes her have to WORK to get you, and the more you WORK for
something the more you appreciate it.
So congrats, dude, and keep it up.
I wanted to start off with that letter to give some insight into
what creates attraction in the first place, so that there is no
confusion as I dive into one of the most important concepts for
successful, long term, satisfying, awesome RELATIONSHIPS.
A recent letter conveys the problem in most relationships:
** LETTER FROM A READER**
Doubt you remember me; had a problem a few months back, had some
great responses in my One to One Consultations with you that really
Anyways I just want a bit of advice to find out if I'm normal? By
the way your eBook has done wonders for a talent that I've always
had and that a lot of us have but just don't know exactly how to use
Anyway I have a serious... "WANT what I CAN'T have" syndrome ( well
that's what I think it is).
Now I've recently pulled a hot bird, drives a nice car and has a
real good personality. When I first met her I was getting pretty
bored of playing the field and thought I'd try see if I can actually
maintain a long-term relationship as I usually I get bored after
like 2 weeks.
Now with this girl I thought it would be different but its ended up
just the same as the other.... she's got all into me.... wants all
this attention..... keeps playing silly games to get it the
attention, then when I say "you gotta go" she comes running back etc
etc trying be such a good girlfriend.
I really am not into her how I was in the first week or two.
Now this seems to always happen to me. I'm starting to think if even
J Lopez fell in love with me I'd go off her.. and that I'll never be
able to do a long term relationship, even though that wouldn't
bother me at the moment being 19 and all.
Do you think its that I haven't found the right girl for me or that
I'm just a pure pleasure seeker and can't do relationships?? All
this " I love you so much" crap has put me off her so much.
Sorry this is a bit of a long e-mail, but I know when I get into a
real sticky situation in life that I can't figure out to do with
women, you normally have the right answers!
Name withheld upon request
Michael W's Reply:
First of all, thanks for props on my materials and services. The
answer to your question regarding "wanting what I can't have", is
that instead of worrying about "wanting what I can't have", simply
don't get into a serious relationship until you have KNOWN a woman
for a good while.
Once you REALLY get to know her, let's say over several months, you
will have a much deeper understanding of her personality, and you
will probably also see if you two have more in common than just
And, by not seeing her too frequently, you prevent falling too
deeply into that deep relationship zone.
Don't get me wrong, sexual chemistry is important, and is a HUGE
part of what I teach guys to create, but a relationship is about
chemistry PLUS other things. Even if she is JLo!
So the answer is to get to know a woman before starting a serious
relationship with her.
This also usually means getting physical with her, otherwise you
tend to get blown off into the friends zone. The exception to this
is if she is a woman who SINCERELY has principles of no sex with
anyone before being in a serious relationship, etc. Very rare thing
Basically, if she is not a super religious woman, that will not be
the case, so I do NOT recommend waiting before getting physical
unless this specific situation arises.
So, by not allowing a woman to gain that ELITE status of being in a
"serious relationship" until she has PROVEN that she is WORTHY of
it, and you have BOTH proven that you get along well, you prevent
By giving it the test of TIME, you'll know if she is "different"
than the rest, if she has something that is "special" about her,
that makes her a specially good match for YOU.
Finally, I will also say that it IS important to have maturity and
not only want what you can't have, and learn to appreciate what you
do have, but FIRST make sure you really KNOW what you have before
jumping into a relationship, otherwise the whole "relationship" is
very shallow and based strictly on validation.
A MAN looks for more than just getting validated by a woman, so if
you TRULY share the VALUES for a good relationship, you will STILL
want her even after you got "validated" by her desire for you.
In my own experiences, when I have gotten to know a woman over time,
there were times when I found out I really did NOT want to continue
things with that woman, and other women who I found out that I
definitely enjoyed being with and that it was not just about her
validating me, I simply enjoyed her company, her values, etc.
This brings me to a MASSIVELY SUPER HUGE POINT regarding anyone who
wants to make a SUCCESSFUL LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP.
What I'm about to say will shock some of you. It will come as no
surprise to a few of you. It is something I believe in
WHOLEHEARTEDLY, and has been confirmed by my interviews with people
who have been happily together for at least 10 years, if not longer.
If you want to make a relationship WORK, you need to also meet
someone else who is ALSO MASSIVELY COMMITTED TO MAKING IT WORK.
Everything boils down to the power of DECISION.
Something else too:
SOME people are only looking to get into a relationship so that they
can GET AWAY from who they really are, so they can LOSE their
identity, as they lack self-esteem, and they hope to regain some
sense of esteem from taking on a "new" identity.
The problem with this is that ultimately, you can never escape
yourself, and so this is why developing a self-validating identity
is so crucial, and of course in my Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship
Program this is one of the many advanced topics covered in FULL
When most people get together for a relationship, they aren't
THINKING long term. They are only FEELING what they feel at the
moment. So if at any point in time those FEELINGS aren't there, it's
But the ludicrous thing is that keeping those FEELINGS BURNING
STRONG for a lifetime takes INSIGHT, it also takes two people who
know how to work on themselves and create a strong inner identity,
and it takes WORK.
The same way anything else worthwhile in life takes work. School,
career, fitness, you name it.
Here's another thing:
If two people want to make a relationship last, then they better be
damn careful where they are spending their RELATIONSHIP ENERGY.
When I see folks in relationships or marriages who are spending a
lot of their free time AWAY from each other, i.e. in bars, clubs, or
EVEN spending too much energy socializing at work, etc, what I see
is a WEAKENED NEED TO RELATE to their partner.
See, let's say I spend an hour everyday telling my female co-worker
all about personal stuff, and then I get home to a girlfriend. Do I
feel the need or desire to talk to her as much? After all, I have
ALREADY told the stories, the thoughts already. And believe it or
not, attraction on a sexual level has a TON to do with the
psychological, emotional, and bonding/rapport elements, even for
men, not just women.
Allow me to give an analogy:
Great writers know to NOT discuss their material with everyone
before it is written. NOT so much because people will copy the idea,
but MORE because the NEED TO TELL THE STORY or issue or whatever it
is, it WEAKENS once you ALREADY HAVE TOLD IT.
They have NO NEED ANYMORE to RELATE this burning issue, this burning
story, that was in their mind all this time, since they have ALREADY
"RELATED IT OUT OF THEIR SYSTEM" from saying the story so many
times, verbally, to others.
In a very SIMILAR way, a RELATIONSHIP is about RELATING, and when
people spend their energy relating to other people all day,
especially in subtle sexual undertones with members of the opposite
gender, there is not much NEED to relate to their supposed
In fact, this does not even need to be about "cheating" in the sense
of actually having sex with someone else.
It's simply about ELIMINATING THE NEED TO RELATE by getting those
needs taken care of elsewhere.
Most women are known for having lots of girlfriends who they gossip
with. Ever wonder why it's women who are able to move on to
relationships faster after one breaks? It's because they CHAT ABOUT
IT ALL WITH THEIR GIRLFRIENDS till they "RELATE" all their emotions
and get it out of their system.
The truth is, if the guy and girl were LOCKED UP IN A ROOM TOGETHER
with no one else to turn to, they would often be FORCED to relate to
each other and not anyone else, and they would work out the
solutions if both parties were GENUINELY interested in doing so in
the first place.
It's NOT a coincidence that in the current era of weakened marriages
and relationships, there just "happens" to be less and less TIME
spent on this part of life. It's as if time was not an important
part of a relationship, but of course everyone agrees that time is
an important part of career, fitness, school, etc. Crazy, huh?
The fact is, that as humans, we need to RELATE. All that has changed
now is WHO the relating is mostly done with, and how frequently the
People think the solution is to just "move on", and sometimes it IS,
but more importantly, the solution is to gain INSIGHT into
relationships and have a partner with EQUALLY INTELLIGENT insight
In this era of MASSIVE IGNORANCE, the results have been disastrous.
These days, sexual energy is being diffused everywhere and on
everyone, and there is mass confusion of sexual desire with
authentic relationships - - what is really happening in the "early
stages" of relationships is usually just hormones.
This stuff is never enough to make relationships last. Never was,
and never will be.
In cases where relationships LAST, the relating energies and sexual
energies are focused on the partner. And it's not just the BLATANT
MANIFESTATIONS of these energies, such as all out sex, that are
reserved for the partner, but even the most SUBTLE manifestations of
these energies, such as a sexual look, or sexual VIBE - are reserved
exclusively for the partner.
When you see the celebrities who are always out on the social
"scene", you know their relationship is headed for disaster.
So, before you make that decision to enter a long term relationship,
not only do you have to know what kind of person that woman is,
which means you can't jump into a relationship, but you both must
also possess MUTUAL WISDOM regarding what I call "relationship
So, on one hand, you have to be a MASTER of CREATING attraction
using everything I teach, yet at the same time, you also need to
have two people who understand this important quote:
"I didn't marry you because you were perfect. I didn't even marry
you because I loved you. I married you because you gave me a
promise. That promise made up for your faults. And the promise I
gave you made up for mine. Two imperfect people got married and it
was the promise that made the marriage. And when our children were
growing up, it wasn't a house that protected them, it wasn't our
love that protected them--it was that promise." -Thornton Wilder,
The Skin of Our Teeth
If you would like to THE FULL SCOOP on attraction, getting physical,
and relationships, so that you can get success like the dude in this
newsletter who turned a hot, rich, snotty blonde into a woman
begging to know what she could do to become "his girl", or if you
just want to be able to have a stronger relationship, then you owe
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level you want it to be with the women or woman of your choice.
if you haven't yet downloaded my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets
to Success with Women, then do that IMMEDIATELY. This book is the
DNA for understanding the concepts and methods in all my other
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Till next time,
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Michael W, better known as The Dating Wizard, is a dating and
relationship consultant for men, as well as a frequent guest on radio
and television talk shows. Michael has spent over four years studying
the specific male behaviors that trigger attraction in women. His
findings are based on both his real life observations of men who are
successful with women, as well as his research on evolutionary
psychology and its applications to sexual attraction.
His advice to men? Forget everything youíve ever been taught about women
since you were a kid. "Women donít want a politically correct man, they
want a real man. You have to unlearn all the myths and behaviors that
are holding you back from success with women." To find out all about Michael, his book, and his consultation services,
The Dating Wizard Website or call 416 630 9966.
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