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Michael W - The Dating Wizard: The Spell To Dating Success
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Michael W. (The
Dating Wizard):
Have you ever "rationalized" something to yourself? Something that
deep down felt wrong, but you rationalized it as "okay"? And then,
of course, ultimately, everything became very clear that in fact it
was not "okay"?
Rationalizing is what causes a lot of good people, both men and
women, to end up getting abused by others, especially by the
opposite sex, until the day finally comes when things become clear
to that individual.
Things are especially confusing in the field of men-women relations,
because many women have been brainwashed by feminism (which
ironically has led not to women being empowered, but rather to
"girls gone wild" in shows clearly designed for MEN, something that
never would have happened before the days of feminism) and men have
been brainwashed by a "porno culture" as well, to be obsessed with
the "instant orgasm" mentality when it comes to male-female
relations.
The irony is that all this has nothing to do with gaining "freedom"
for men or women, but rather is fueled and has been distorted by the
same old thing that has affected humanity since the dawn of time -
greed. S-e-x sells. So, in the last 30 years, things have spiraled
to the point that everything is "porno sexed" to the max. It's
infiltrated every pore of life and affected the entire culture.
(And even the idea of women working in men's jobs to a large degree
was a function of economics and not "feminism", as women were
required to work during WWII to produce ammunitions while the men
were off fighting-- and once the war was over, it was now too late
to close the Pandora's Box of having more money.)
Little girls now dress up as tramps and it's supposed to be "cool".
Now, even military generals sometimes refer to their military
operations as "sexy".
So what's my point?
My point is, if you want a quality woman, for something significant,
you have to be a SUPER SOLDIER these days. You have to be
unshakeable in your convictions. You have to be a leader. You have
to be calm. You have to be passionate. You have to be tough. You
have to be, dare I say it, S-E-X-Y. You have to stand apart from the
crowd, yet you have to be able to DRAW the crowd in as well.
(By the way, check out "Female Chauvinist Pigs" a book that is
pretty damn interesting even though I don't agree with it all. )
Another thing you need are THE FACTS.
You see, once guy KNOWS a woman is no good, usually he has no
problem passing her by and going on to the next woman to find
someone better.
But because guys are so brainwashed, they actually end up accepting
into their lives the kind of women that actually end up messing them
up. All because the guy believes the hogwash the woman says, who
herself is often just repeating the brainwashed messages she has had
implanted into her.
The woman is treating him horribly, but the guy still doesn't get
it, because she has robbed him of any self-esteem, so he can't even
SEE how badly she is treating him. It's as if he thinks that life
with her is so IMPORTANT that it's worth selling his SOUL AND HIS
DIGNITY to her.
I get TONS of email from guys about "this one special woman" that in
reality is probably not so special. And the reason I say this is
because usually the man is pining over her and she has done nothing
for him. So what makes her so special?
I feel like SHAKING THE GUY out of his DELUSIONAL state.
You have to get out of the "soup" of NEEDINESS and jump into the
other mode, which is more along the lines of "I'm a man, and
although I am a sexual being, and although I fully understand the
power of a great relationship, and I can be the greatest guy on
earth in one, there's no way in hell I'm going to settle for some
woman who doesn't treat me as I deserve and as well as I treat her."
Again, don't get me wrong:
It's GREAT to meet a woman who IS all those good things, but the
fact is, men are being held HOSTAGE to a MYTH. The MYTH that they
NEED a woman's approval so badly that they are wiling to be with the
wrong woman.
And man, let me tell you something BIG:
SOME women are using this MYTH to MILK guys for everything the guy
has- emotionally, financially, and taking all the guy's TIME and
ENERGY as well.
What these women are doing is PRETENDING to be innocent and good,
all the while NOT being such a person. You see, it's IMPORTANT for
them to pretend, because they know that a GOOD guy is not a STUPID
guy. They know that if the guy knew she was no good, the guy WOULD
in fact dump her.
And not only would the guy dump her, but he would then realize that
a lot of women are like this and he would stop being such a target.
If all men did THIS, then you can bet your assets that most women
would be busting their gut trying to EARN men's interest rather than
EXPECTING to get it for NOTHING.
Of course, there are ALSO a LOT of really warped GUYS out there. In
fact, this is one reason why I DESPISED much of what was being
taught by "seduction" experts, because they PRETENDED to be one
thing, but actually they were damaged and massively insecure guys
who felt a need to cause a lot of pain to women, and thus messed up
a LOT of women, WITH A LOT OF LIES, and then these women became
bitter and caused damage to a lot of innocent men, and these
innocent men then became convinced that women were evil, and so on
and so forth.
I WANT TO STOP THIS VICIOUS CYCLE.
At the same time, you cannot rationalize away a woman's bad
behavior. Just like a woman should not rationalize away a guy's bad
behavior. You have to recognize a problem and not think it's going
to change, because it won't, not unless the person owns up to it and
changes it themselves.
So what I'm going to do right here is give you a few TIPS on how to
know if you're with a quality woman or not.
Because really, if a woman is not treating you right, there's no
reason on earth to be with her.
1. If you constantly feel bad around a woman, and she constantly
claims to not have a clue about what she's doing to make you feel
that way, chances are that in REALITY she knows EXACTLY what she's
doing.
If your self-esteem was high enough, you'd see it from a million
miles away, but since she has hacked away your self-esteem since you
met her, you can barely recognize when someone is abusing you
anymore.
WAKE UP, my friend, if this is happening to YOU.
If you ACCEPT this into your life, all you will do is activate
cognitive dissonance in your own head and start to believe that in
fact somehow she is WORTH the abuse, and that you are NOT worth more
than this.
If this sounds like your situation, you definitely should download
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2. Here's another thing: ACCUSING YOU of what in fact is THEIR
"Modus Operandi".
When a woman is doing something wrong to you, and she knows it, and
you bring it up with her, the number one tactic that all abusers to
their victims is accuse them of the very thing THEY ARE DOING TO THE
VICTIM.
So, for example, if she is dishonest, she will accuse YOU of
dishonesty. If she is making you feel confusion, she will accuse you
of making her feeling confusion. Etc, etc.
So, if you see this kind of thing going on a lot, it's not some kind
of coincidence, it's very much a part of her METHOD.
3. INCONGRUENCIES in their behavior.
You know how I always talk about actually BEING "The Man" rather
than faking it?
How I focus on your ACTUAL development instead of on memorizing a
pick up line?
It's because if you aren't REAL, it shows anyway!
Similarly, if a woman isn't REALLY a good person, it will SHOW no
matter WHAT she says about how great she is as a person.
A lot of people lie to themselves and they accept the excuses that
another person gives them, but ultimately, your GUT tells you a lot
about a person. Your "gut" is really all the things you have
registered about the woman but that you may not have formally
recognized or observed consciously.
Plus, if you look to see if she is consistent or not, you will see
if she is a good person or not. Do her words really match her
behaviors? Forget about who she SAYS she is "deep down". Does a good
person REALLY do and say the kind of things she does and says?
By the way, words DO matter, they reflect what's going on in her
head. So words AND actions count. But those words really only count
if the actions match up.
Regarding her behaviours, ask yourself, "Would a good person do
this"?
4. Do they only respond to CONSEQUENCES?
If a woman only responds to CONSEQUENCES, she's no good.
You are not there to be her kindergarten teacher teaching her how to
be a decent human being and giving her "hard lessons".
FORGET such a woman, even if she RESPONDS to your consequences.
When I meet a woman, the best thing she can have going for her is
the vibes she gives off in the department of human respect RIGHT
FROM THE GET GO. And of course, she gets it in return.
Any woman who has to be "punished" in order for her to behave, is a
woman who simply is trying to get away with AS MUCH AS SHE CAN.
It's a woman who KNOWS what good behaviour is, but will only do it
from CONSEQUENCES, not from her own natural desire to be decent.
5. If the only reason you are with a woman is because she says she
wants to be with you, it's NOT enough. Plenty of women can want to
be with you but still have no desire to treat you right. Some women
want to be with a guy because they feel they can control him. Not
cool at all.
Okay, so those are some important red flags to watch out for with a
woman, but as always, it's CRUCIAL to me to be as ACCURATE as
possible about how things work and what's going on.
There ARE some QUALITY women out there, but they are as rare as it
is for a great woman to meet a QUALITY GUY. It may damn well be even
HARDER for women to meet a guy that really has his act together and
is cool and is still a GOOD guy.
And before you can even KNOW if a woman is good or not, you're going
to have to MEET her and ATTRACT this woman.
And in order to do THAT, you're going to have to approach her in the
RIGHT way.
And that means while you can't be NAÏVE, you also can go around with
a chip on your shoulder. A lot of guys will hear the things I have
to say above, such as how so many women can be so horrible, and then
feel like acting like TOTAL A-HOLES to women.
But that's NOT going to work.
You can't have a chip on your shoulder, or you will turn OFF even
the women out there who have great values and great personalities.
But at the same time, acting TOO smiley makes you seen NAÏVE, as if
you are easy prey for a woman to take advantage of. Not cool.
This is part of the reason why going into an interaction TOO
"smiley" makes a woman figure that you are either naïve or crazy.
Especially when you approach a woman in a low key environment, i.e.
a bookstore as opposed to a dance club. The overly smiley approach
can make you seem pretentious as well.
But you can't go in with a chip on your shoulder either. Your past
experiences with women, if not positive, still do NOT equal your
future experiences or the CURRENT experience that you are having in
the pickup at that moment.
If you're looking to meet women, one way to be in the right frame of
mind is to focus on the vibe of the MOMENT and totally forget about
thoughts of "Is this going to be my WIFE" or anything extreme like
that, because those kind of thoughts will ruin any spontaneity and
rob your interaction of the natural fun that it would normally be.
It doesn't have to add up to anything beyond the moment, and that
attitude actually makes it more likely for that moment to be a GOOD
one, leading to ANOTHER good moment.
Which leads to the next step, such as having a coffee together and
finding out more about each other, and laughing, which leads to
holding her hands, which leads to kissing, which leads to making out
hardcore, which leads to sex, which leads to more sex, which may
lead to a relationship, etc etc.
Get the picture?
Step by step, as opposed to worrying about the massive and often
emotionally overwhelming goal.
And by the way, when you do the pickup, NEVER qualify yourself. It's
so sucky. Most of the time, what happens is that you feel the
PRESSURE to show her you are COOL and that you have value. So you
give into temptation and you try to show her you are cool by
mentioning things about yourself as if you are selling yourself to
her.
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Till next time,
Michael
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Michael W, better known as The Dating Wizard, is a dating and
relationship consultant for men, as well as a frequent guest on radio
and television talk shows. Michael has spent over four years studying
the specific male behaviors that trigger attraction in women. His
findings are based on both his real life observations of men who are
successful with women, as well as his research on evolutionary
psychology and its applications to sexual attraction.
This work is copyrighted by the author. No
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Dating Wizard All Rights Reserved
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