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The Dating Wizard Website One of the major hurdles
that guys need to overcome in order to succeed with women is to CHANGE
THEIR VERY CORE concept of how they PERCEIVE women. The concept that
most guys have is fundamentally NOT TRUE.
This is a huge point.
Because, when a person perceives the world a certain way, that person
will do everything in his power to hold on to that long-held concept,
even if he is shown TONS of evidence that his concept of the
world is not true.
We hold on to our old concepts because it’s actually quite SCARY at
first to think that maybe we’ve been fooled all these years.
But I ask you what’s worse:
Suffering a lifetime of ignorance, or waking up from the ignorance and
learning the truth, and learning how to DEAL with that reality and
even THRIVE in that reality?
A MAJOR portion of guys misunderstandings about women are the result
of how most guys interpret our current popular culture. What happens
is that in the movies, it seems that women really want romance, and
that they really want a nice guy, and that love is really the most
important thing to a woman. And what really seems to be the
reinforcing point is that chicks LOVE these movies, be it Titanic, or
any modern version of Romeo and Juliet.
For a long period, I used to get ANGRY from the messages being sent
out by popular culture- because the lessons that guys learn are the
exact OPPOSITE of what they need to know for REAL LIFE success with
women:
The reality is that men need to learn to show and feel INDEPENDENCE, a
bit of arrogance, tons of self-esteem, and an absolute aura that says
“I don’t need one bit of anything or anyone and I am totally happy and
content in this world”.
The WORST thing men should do is try to appeal to the “nice” loving
side of women, or to make her think you want affection or that you
want to give affection. Actually you should do MORE than just make
sure she doesn’t THINK you are a wuss, you must make sure you AREN’T a
wuss!
We were BRAINWASHED into being needy.
As guys, we are not NATURALLY needy. The idea that we are naturally
needy is absurd. You must actually develop a strong sense of
self-esteem that is independent of whether a woman likes you or not.
THAT is the way to success with women.
For example, if I am chatting with a buddy, and some chick is trying
to get my attention, I will NOT stop my buddy and start to kiss up to
the chick just because she’s a chick, no matter how hot. She is not
superior to him.
Now how many guys are willing to do that?
The thing is, I really mean it, I’m not just doing it because I know
it triggers attraction. It’s a result of not needing the approval of a
chick simply because she is a chick. If she has earned my respect as a
person, that’s something else.
So I used to be ANGRY at the movies and at all the romantic crap
because the truth is, that I had wasted years LOVING those movies and
pop music and I had felt BETRAYED when I had learned the TRUTH.
However, in my journey to truly understanding women, I came to realize
that actually there was a lot of TRUTH in popular culture, but I
simply didn’t “get it”, and neither did most of the other billions of
men out there.
The TRUTH was there, but
it was INVISIBLE to me.
You see, the reality is that if you observe closely, you’ll see that
the movies and other forms of popular culture actually teach you a LOT
about success with women, IF you ALREADY know what works, and what the
truth is:
In almost ANY romantic movie of quality, you’ll notice that the woman
ONLY feels those strong emotions and all that “niceness” for the guy
AFTER he displays that he is THE MAN. He shows her tons of
self-confidence, cockyness, aloofness, independence, and charisma.
But most guys watch the movie and come out
IGNORING this, and come to only the wrong conclusion:
Guys walk out of these movies thinking that women want romance and
niceness and love and all that, but they FORGET that the chick ONLY
wants all this with a guy who is BEYOND THEIR CONTROL in every sense of
the word!
i.e. A guy who is so strong emotionally, so full of self-esteem, and so
emotionally independent, that NOTHING she could offer could make him
MELT into an ass-kisser. And that’s not it, either, there’s more, as an
awesome friend of mine pointed out to me. (And for guys who make it to
the seminar, this guy is gonna be a guest speaker!)
Notice that the entire kissing and mushyness tends to last about a total
of 5 minutes, and it’s mostly in THE LAST REEL of the flick!
Do you know what that means?
IT MEANS THAT THE PASSION, THE MOMENT THE WOMAN HAS BEEN WAITING FOR…HAS
BEEN DELAYED TILL THE VERY LAST SECOND!!! For MOST of the flick, the
woman is NOT GETTING the guy!!!!!
She is NOT getting the love!!!
She is NOT getting the romance!!!
Instead, she is DREAMING and CRAVING it because she is NOT getting it.
You see, most guys, at the first sign of a little interest from a woman,
totally melt and give her LOTS of what she wants, and give it to her
right away. This leads to BOREDOM and in fact RESENTMENT on the woman’s
part. So NO MATTER WHAT WOMEN SAY, if they tell you too EARLY to melt
down and soften up, or when they tell you they love you really fast and
too early, don’t go for the bait…because deep down, they DON’T WANT YOU
TO! They want PASSION, give them the greatest gift of all by knowing the
secrets to building TRUE PASSION.
Remember, those romance movies that the chicks love consist mostly of
the guy NOT giving the woman what she wants!
You want to KEEP this attitude throughout your relationship- now of
COURSE at some point, you have to pay off the anticipation…with delivery
of passion… but remember, the value of something is directly related to
it’s preciousness and scarcity. So the trick is to MAKE IT COUNT when
you DO DELIVER the goods, be it affection, romance, etc.
And then, after delivering MASSIVE POSITIVE EMOTIONALLY IMPACT, let her
WONDER after it, and let her wonder if it’s ever coming again…
You’ll notice this is what the male romantic lead does in EVERY, I mean
EVERY solid romance movie. As a matter of fact, you’ll notice it even in
guys’ type action movies, where there isn’t all this mushy stuff, but
still, the woman falls for the hero only after seeing that he is
impervious emotionally. And she is unsure of when he will return, she is
unsure of her future with him, whether that uncertainty is a result of
circumstance (ie danger) or whether it’s because he simply can’t commit.
This point is especially timely now with Valentine’s Day coming up. If
you’ve just recently met a girl, or are about to approach a woman, DO
NOT make a big deal about Valentine’s Day. Don’t go buying flowers and
chocolates for a girl you hardly know. DO NOT become a melted man, and
do not suddenly hand over all your affection and all your commitment
etc. Don’t fall for the bait all around you trying to brainwash you.
She’ll RESENT you for it if you do become a melted man.
Go have yourself some fun, and next time you go out to see a movie, or
rent a movie, ANALYZE what the hell the hero is doing when interacting
with the chick. Do yourself a favor and try to watch the the quality
stuff- think Brosnan here rather than some guy who can’t even read the
script. Forget about the guys’ “looks”- there are plenty of celebrities
out there who ain’t really that good looking but because of their
charisma, they seem to be very good looking to women.
Certain rock stars may come to mind. There are tons of others as well.
Now before you go thinking that this is just fantasy, let me remind you
that art imitates reality. And to be honest with you, I’m not suggesting
that you just ACT. I’m suggesting that you actually BECOME so strong
emotionally that you really are independent of requiring a woman’s
approval in order for you to feel good about yourself.
It’s in that moment, that your success will skyrocket.
Women DO want all those “mushy” emotions, and they DO want to feel all
passionate and romantic about someone, but the irony is that it takes a
guy who understands that the strongest way to trigger all those feelings
in a woman is to actually NOT NEED any of it!
Your self-esteem should NOT depend on ANY woman’s approval.
If you ever feel that it does, go slap yourself and do 50 pushups. Go
out with your buddies and do nothing but bust on chicks all night, don’t
even go for numbers. Learn to just have FUN and NOT care what they
think. When you really feel this way, then just through this alone, you
will see marked improvement in your body language, voice tone, and in
better subtle natural behaviors and expressions that will IGNITE a
woman’s attraction to you.
That being said, there are also ways to ACCELERATE your development of
that frame of mind with women. First, it involves understanding the
complete truth to how your concepts and emotions regarding this topic
were formed, so that you can CLEAR all that crap out of your head once
you are TRULY CONVINCED that those old ideas really are hogwash.
To give one example, did you know that women are actually BORED SICK of
guys who WANT relationships? Women may want relationships, but they
NEVER said they wanted relationships with guys who WANTED relationships.
If you need an aspirin now, I understand. It’s all part of the invisible
reality.
And that’s just ONE of the hundreds of invisible realities you need to
know.
Success with women ALSO involves a thorough understanding of what IS the
way to communicate with women, through your words, your sense of humor,
your clothing, your body and your body language, so that you project the
reality that you indeed ARE a guy who doesn’t need anyone or anything to
feel good about himself, and projecting that actually TONS of women DO
want you anyway.
 If you want to get the best foundation for becoming awesome with women,
then don’t waste any time- download my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets
to Success with Women, now. This book forms the core foundation for
everything else I do.
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Over the course of one million years, man has adapted and evolved
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Make the decision to become more successful with women NOW. You really
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Till next time...
Michael W
The Dating Wizard Website
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