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Michael W - The Dating
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When it comes to
teaching the truth about success with women, I believe reality is more
powerful than fiction. Why do I say this?
The reason I say this is because I see a lot of misinformation out
there. There is "this" tactic and there is "that" tactic. The truth is
that any guy who relies on "tactics" alone will at best have short
term success, if any.
So you wanna know how to be a "natural"?
Take a good look at how typical women behave.
The reality is that these days, women tend to do a lot of the right
things naturally, at least in the BEGINNING. In fact, the same thing
that helps a woman to attract a guy INITIALLY (overconfidence) is what
often RUINS women's success long term, since psychologically healthy
guys will dump a woman eventually if she keeps on taking him for
granted. Most guys don't have to worry about being overconfident.
Now, of course, women have a giant luxury that men don't have-
basically, men approach women in our culture, and chase them. This
gives women a very easy environment in which to feel confidence in
this arena and also a sense of abundance and a relaxed attitude toward
meeting guys.
Nonetheless, let's take a good look at what women DO:
ONE:
START OFF WITH THE ASSUMPTION THAT THEY ARE ALREADY QUALIFIED AND THAT
IT IS THE GUY WHO MUST QUALIFY HIMSELF.
So regardless of whether you meet a woman online, in real life, in a
group of friends, or alone, women tend to not take initial
interactions very seriously at all. After all, it is already taken for
GRANTED that the GUY will be interested in HER. But will SHE be
interested in HIM is HER main question.
Important, this.
This is why it's so easy for women to act spoiled and a bit rude and
play games. They already KNOW they have the guy, so it's kind of an
entertainment for them at that point UNLESS the guy does something to
STAND OUT or to STOP THEM from taking him for granted.
What can a guy do to accomplish this?
Well for one thing, he can MODEL the same behavior!!!
In other words, he can behave as casual and cocky and lighthearted
about the interaction as she does. He can also make it clear about the
kind of qualities HE is looking for in a woman.
And to me, this is not a game.
It's not a tactic.
It's the TRUTH.
When a guy behaves this way, this IN ITSELF causes her to FEEL
something is DIFFERENT, ironically, because he is behaving the SAME as
her. This means that now the playing field has suddenly become more
level, and she KNOWS it.
This is one clear example of how men can take back some power in an
era that has brainwashed men to become doormats for women.
There is NOTHING stopping any man from reclaiming this power.
TWO:
HAVE A LIFE.
One thing about me is
that even before learning and experimenting in the dating world, I
always had my own interests. The problem was that sometimes I would
get down emotionally because of the women situation in my life, and
that would hold me back from being all I could be in my other
interests and hobbies.
When I figured out the whole "woman thing", it took a HUGE EMOTIONAL
LOAD off my back, because it no longer was this obsessive issue in my
life, and it allowed me to focus on other passions of mine.
But the craziest thing is that having these other passions and NOT
being obsessed with women actually INCREASED the attraction I was
getting from women.
It started to make sense to me after a while:
The more diverse your personality is, the more interesting you become
and not only that, but a woman then has to WORK HARDER to gain your
interest, since you have other things in your life besides just
wanting women.
Plus, passion is just plain SEXY. This is where the saying comes from
"Getting there is half the fun". If you are passionate about your
goals, you actually ENJOY THE PROCESS. And the people around you get
to bask in the aura of that glow.
It's fun to be around passionate people. I personally like to find the
joy in even the "little" things in life, whether it's an ice cream or
a sunset. The funny thing is that the better your state of mind is,
the more energy you have, and the more you do, the more energy you
have, while if you do nothing, you feel like doing nothing.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying to lose balance, I'm just saying to
not get over obsessed with just women. And guess what?
Most attractive women are very busy. Whether it's with their family or
their career or whatever.
They are not too worried about the whole guy thing (unless they have
made some big mistakes, which actually many women do make regarding
men).
And the really desirable attractive women, the ones with good
personalities as well as superficial qualities, can tell pretty damn
quick when they are dealing with a guy who just doesn't have the
personality, or who exudes negativity.
Little tiny things that indicate the slightest negative, bitter, or
even needy butt-kissing personality traits become VERY OBVIOUS to not
only women, but ANY person who DOES have their state of mind in a
positive place.
And since the most desirable women already know they are desired, they
are in a very strong frame of mind which enables them to detect others
who ARE and others who are NOT in the same state of mind.
To be honest, the MOST desirable women actually DON'T spend much time
in clubs, I have realized.
The reason is that these women ALREADY HAVE more than enough of the
typical batch of guys to choose from, and going to a club where the
masses have access to them would be kind of similar to a famous
billionaire walking around in public with a sign saying "ask me for
money".
I mean, HELLO.
That makes sense, right.
Hey, it wasn't obvious to me at one time either.
Now I realize why the best women I have met have always been in
natural situations where they were just doing their own thing, and we
just happened to meet, be it the bus, train, the store, or what have
you. They were not seeking attention, the same way billionaires are
not wearing signs saying "ask me for cash". (I'm not saying guys
shouldn't go to clubs, in fact I take guys there to practice
fundamental skills since the quantity of women is so huge).
They were busy LIVING THEIR LIFE, HAVING A LIFE, and NOT obsessed with
meeting guys.
Guys need to take a cue from this, by getting busy with their own
lives.
The great BYPRODUCT of this is that your self-esteem SKYROCKETS when
you work on your goals and gradually achieve them. And self-esteem is
very sexy. The next important behavior is, as they say on Sesame
Street, is:
THREE:
"IF YOU'RE HAPPY AND YOU KNOW IT, CLAP YOUR HANDS".
Okay, what I mean by this is that when you are in a good mood, you can
let it show in many different ways, from the expression on your face
to your mannerisms and the clothing you wear.
I think that as guys we have been trained to be kind of stoic. This is
great for battle, but not that great for socializing. Women are not
afraid to really let the vibes flow in a social setting. Women can
chat about nothing for hours and feel great.
They'll dress in a fun way that catches attention, they'll hang out at
a social setting whether a club or some friends at a café, or
whatever, and be laughing their heads off etc.
Dressing this way not only reflects a powerful image, an image of
being confident and fun, but it also reinforces in the brain that you
are actually confident, desirable and fun. This is part of that HUGE
phenomenon known as CONGRUENCY.
Guys, however, are a little too quiet for their own social good. Too
concerned of seeming like an idiot. So they bottle up, they try to
make themselves INVISIBLE.
OR they OVERCOMPENSATE and act like total CLUELESS MORONS, by being
TOO ARROGANT or being just plain weird.
For example, instead of being playful, they are mean. Instead of
speaking with a louder voice, they YELL. Instead of choosing a shirt
that's funny, they choose a shirt that's gross or overtly sexual in a
way that's reminiscent of a grade school kid who sneaks to read
Playboy. (which could be funny if it is clear that that IS
intentional, kind of like the name of the group "Barenaked Ladies").
Again, most of us acted this way at one point, so I ain't pointing any
fingers!!!
Most women don't worry about this, again, it's easy for them since
they are constantly having their confidence reinforced by guys. They
are being given validation all the time in this regard. Still, the
fact is that by being more socially expressive and playful, you open
up the doors BIG TIME for social success.
It's amazing how if you wear a funny shirt, how many women will strike
up a conversation with YOU just because of it.
That's because you are making a statement there that says you are
playful and that you don't worry about seeming like an idiot. It helps
say you are a positive minded fun guy, and that makes you more
inviting.
This is actually a huge topic that I deal with in detail in my
seminars, bootcamps, and workshops, but the point is you want to do
everything in your power to exude the right attractive traits, which
you NATURALLY would do if you just EXPERIENCED the kind of validation
that a decently attractive woman does on a regular basis.
So there you have it - three traits that women exude NATURALLY that
you can incorporate into your everyday life. And once you start doing
this stuff, the VALIDATION you will get from women will make you start
to exhibit these behaviours NATURALLY, for the same reasons women do.
 I explain all of this stuff in detail in my book, The Dating Wizard:
Secrets to Success with Women. it’s jam packed not only with the specifics
of what to do to approach women and bridge into getting physical, but also
with how to get into the right mind frame and keep your mind that way.
Remember, the greatest gift you can give a woman is the feeling of POWER
that you will resonate as THE MAN. And that’s all in the brain, so watch
what you feed it.
You can download the book right now and be reading it in just a few
minutes.
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Till next time,
Michael W.
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