Michael W - The Dating Wizard: The Spell To Dating Success
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Michael W: In my obsession with learning about the inner workings of attraction, I met ALL KINDS of people. It is MASSIVELY important to me to get to the TRUTH about things, so I had to make sure I had heard EVERYONE'S take on things before I came to ANY conclusions about even the YEARS of testing and research I had done MYSELF and the years that I have spent observing the results of my CLIENTS and even the different ways that various different clients learn these skills.
I studied all kinds of subjects from psychology to evolution to anthropology. And I met with all kinds of "gurus" including supposed "get l-a-i-d experts" to cult leaders to religious leaders to scientists to psychologists.
The bottom line to me is TRUTH. That's my only "agenda".
And one of the BIGGEST things I discovered (besides the fact that just about everything could be used for good or for evil-- for example, the power of social proof could be used to promote healthy beliefs or toxic ones) is that the VAST MAJORITY of people are STARVING for a very specific, certain combination of three emotions, whether they are conscious of it or not.
What I mean by "whether they are conscious of it or not" is that once you experience the combination, you realize just how powerful that combination feels, and you realize how ALIVE you can really feel.
This combination, which I am about to explain, is VERY DIFFICULT for most people to achieve, because most people don't understand the different NATURE of each of these emotions. In a way, each emotion seems to CONTRADICT the other, but in reality each emotion does NOT contradict the other.
At the same time, each of the following three emotions has a bit of overlap onto each other as well.
Now, I believe that in the dimension of that whole MAN-WOMAN thing, in terms of CHEMISTRY, there are THREE forms of "hunger":
For LOVE
For SEX
For ROMANCE
This is a much more complex subject than it might seem, because for some people, they might even HAVE people who love them, but they can't believe it, sometimes this is because for such a long time, they were NOT loved. So they don't FEEL loved, and they don't feel love.
Some people might be getting one or two of the above emotions, but VERY FEW people are getting the COMBINATION of all three.
Most people are STARVING for this COMBINATION.
When all three of these emotions are combined, you are living on a whole other plane of reality.
But because as a society we are so starved of this stuff, it's easy for people to become VULNERABLE to those who KNOW how to TAKE UNJUST ADVANTAGE of those who are starving in this way.
Ever notice how just about all CULT leaders, and sometimes religion as well, and some dating gurus as well, they often mask their agendas by constantly referring to "love" and to "giving." And HEY, I talk about GIVING as well. The QUESTION becomes, who is full of it and who isn't?
You'll notice that I am not a HYPOCRITE.
I don't warp things by trying to promote a double standard between men and women by using distortions and gobbly-gook terminology i.e. A lot of "dating gurus" appealing to guys, will say that you should expect women to be cool with you having many partners, or some other form of b.s., because "that's just natural", while she of course must be faithful to you.
This comes out of the "something for nothing" philosophy which is a basic falsehood but many people don't want to accept that it indeed is a falsehood.
By the way, this idea of abusing women can be done for a while, certainly. You can see it all the time, it's also done by women to men, you can see it all the time.
It's done by MASKING it all as a form of "love". For example, if a guy can convince a woman that his disloyalty is actually for HER good, it might all seem like some weird sort of "love" for a while.
Similar to how those guys on TV ask for your money because GOD "told them" they need it for "helping" people. And that it's good for "your soul". Meanwhile both types of people, the fake religious figure and the fake dating guru, just HAPPEN to be the ones benefiting from it all.
But again, since most people are so starving for that powerful combination of love, sex, and romance, COMBINED, that they will DO ALMOST ANYTHING for even the ILLUSION of it all, simply because they WANT IT SO BADLY.
This is the power of wishful thinking. Lots of otherwise intelligent rational people can still get caught up in very irrational and ultimately destructive ideas.
For more on this, I suggest reading the work of Richard Dawkins.
So you might be asking, "Hey man, I just want to get the girls, who cares about ethics?!!"
The answer, my friends, is that ultimately the truth DOES win in one form or another. So for example, if you want a woman who is great inside and out, how great can she be inside if she is still so easy to manipulate? If she accepts such abuse, this means she is still hurting and her self-esteem is not strong.
And low self-esteem women will give you serious problems sooner or later, for all kinds of reasons beyond the scope of this newsletter.
Also, MORE IMPORTANTLY, even if a guy WAS able to "get away with it" forever, he needs to ask himself what this obsession would be a symptom of INTERNALLY.
The guys who are obsessed with sex ONLY, the guys who are obsessed with the superficial ONLY, and the guys who are looking for validation from OTHERS, are usually feeling a massive lacking in value. When a man is so needy for validation from a woman that all OTHER men find stunning, he is usually trying to convince himSELF, not us or women, that he is ok.
Me personally I've never felt the need to have my friends or peers validate a girl's worth for me. Either ***I*** like her or ***I*** don't. That's all that matters.
So guys that are obsessed with getting a girl who everyone ELSE thinks is great, such as the typical "pick up artist", rather than who HE thinks is great, are usually not sure about their own worth.
This is part of the reason why I don't like to be called a pick up artist, even though I've trained guys from all over the world in pick-up, many of whom were dissatisfied with what they learned from supposed "masters of pick up" and who were finally given the real goods once they learned from me. And I don't even consider myself a pick up artist, I consider myself someone who just wants to get to the truth about everything, including the world of dating and attraction and HUMAN EMOTION.
And at the same time, doing it with flair, the flair of an ARTIST. It's very ironic that THIS has led to more guys being trained by me PROPERLY in the "seduction arts" than by any other person in the world.
But without TRUTH, it's all worth nothing.
Low self-esteem in a man will lead to attracting a SIMILAR woman, a woman who feels she is not ok, and who is therefore prone to abuse and/or is prone to abusing others in her quest to protect her fragile ego.
Low self-esteem men and women will also be prone to SABOTAGING something amazing with the woman or man of their dreams all because their tainted "FRIEND" implanted his or her own sick picture of reality, or of every single member of the opposite gender, onto their friend's beliefs.
In fact, I would go so far as to say you can tell a lot about a person from the friends they keep. Birds of a feather absolutely fly together.
I consider myself to have an AWESOME friend in many ways, including in this regard, who will be truly objective and actually point out if or when I may be acting NEGATIVE, just like he will point out if I am being too generous with someone. Usually though, it's easy to be negative, and harder to be positive, for most people. Everyone's on the lookout to not get burned. But too much emphasis on that can prevent you from getting ANYTHING good in life.
This by the way, is also why it's crucial to have the right friends, as you will END UP very similar to your friends most of the time.
If they have screwed up belief systems, it's usually just a matter of time till it infiltrates your belief systems. By the way this is true not just when it comes to dating, but also in success for anything in life. Did you know that for example Steven Spielberg and George Lucas happened to hang out a lot before they were famous? And Lucas happened to hang out a lot with the guy who made the Godfather, both before they were famous? You will become like your friends, so choose your friends damn well.
Low self-esteem in a woman will also make her vulnerable to believing in ILLUSIONS of love based on the lies the guy is telling her, a guy who himself is low self-esteem in the sense he feels the NEED to do this to feel good about HIMSELF.
This is why I'm not fond of people who ONLY talk about "love" but not about RECIPROCATION, people who talk only about love as if they are in flowing royal robes of integrity, yet are really just using distractions to hide the truth, the truth being that this "love" is purely selfish.
But again, I must repeat, people are starving for that combination of s-e-x, love, and romance, and will do ANYTHING for even the hint of it, the illusion of it, especially if they are lacking self-esteem, which itself is the absence of self-love.
Self-esteem is the great EQUALIZER.
It makes you independent enough to see the TRUTH, because you no longer need lies to make you happy. You are already happy.
The way self-esteem interacts with ALL emotions, including sex, love, and romance, is a massive topic that I explain in full and clear detail in my Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship Program here, but for now, just realize that it is of PARAMOUNT importance and is the greatest gift you can give a woman, but first you must obtain it for yourself.
Here's one way to look at this combination of sex, love and romance:
Sex on its own is a porn tape;
Love on its own is a G-rated movie;
Romance on its own is a chick flick.
But put them together, and you have the ATOMIC-POWERED emotional experience.
If you want the ULTIMATE in quality when it comes to a woman, you have to become THE ULTIMATE in quality when it comes to being a man. The BEST quality woman KNOWS this stuff, and she will not settle for LESS than a guy who knows this stuff.
Now, before you go thinking that all you have to do is be a guy with INTEGRITY, you're wrong.
It's not ENOUGH.
It's PART of it. But you have to ALSO be a guy who has a MASSIVELY STRONG FRAME OVER HIS OWN REALITY.
You must be the kind of guy who is INTERNALLY DIRECTED, and not "other" directed.
You must understand how to be a challenge and dominant, and how to ALSO develop an unequalled level of connection and trust that flows between both of you.
It may sound like a contradiction, but it's not.
And there are so many other traits that I go explain in detail in my programs.
But one of the prerequisite traits for success in this area, that I want to highlight here, right now, is the trait of being able to LET GO of the negative emotions inside of you.
These negative emotions PARALYZE all the cool parts of your identity, they totally destroy your sense of humor, they ruin your ability to be spontaneous, they FOR SURE ruin your ability to do pick-up, they just FREEZE up all the good stuff inside of you.
In my one-on-one work with guys from all types of backgrounds, what I often do is find out exactly what and where the TOXIC BELIEFS are internally, and then I work on ERADICATING all that stuff and fixing up all that internal wiring in terms of beliefs, emotions, and thoughts.
It's time to let go of the FEARS.
Let go of the self-loathing.
Let go of the feelings of SCARCITY.
When we don't know the TRUTH about how to attract the kind of women we are interested in, it's so easy to start feeling that EVERYTHING is screwed up, that everyone is evil, because this is such an important part of our lives. It just totally can cloud our thinking and our emotions.
But, on the other hand, realize that if you are reading this right now, and have made it to this point, you are probably A PRETTY AMAZING GUY since you are NOT AFRAID to LEARN, to IMPROVE, to get the quality life and quality woman you DESERVE.
Human beings can LEARN just about ANYTHING, so the main thing is to have the DESIRE to learn, and if you are here, that means YOU have what it takes to be successful in this area of your life.
It just takes you being willing to put it all into ACTION. And it takes you being willing to feel you have the worth for it as well.
Someone once said "Thinking is the hardest work there is, that's why so few people do it" and it's true. But you're not one of those people, you're right here THINKING right now.
When you LET GO of the negative emotions, it also become a lot EASIER to learn the "skills" as well. For example, the playful teases you make will actually all come out right. Also, when you give a compliment to a woman, it will NOT seem needy. It WILL be appreciated.
Because it's all coming from the right place inside.
In fact, here's what I want you to do:
Today, go out and find a woman and don't
even worry about picking her up. Don't
even TRY to do that. All you have to do
is say something GOOD to her without
WANTING or NEEDING anything in
return.
Notice how you SOUND. Notice how you FEEL.
If you aren't feeling it from the first woman you approach, then go do another, and another, until you DO feel what I'm talking about.
Do NOT take her email or number or anything like that.
In many ways here, YOU have the power, because all you are doing is GIVING, so there is no way for you to lose.
I want you to then go home after this and RECORD how you feel. And I want you to learn to IMMERSE yourself in that emotion.
This is going to be one key part of your development.
Human beings are very interesting creatures, for though they may be starving for even the ILLUSION of love, sex, and romance, they can ALSO detect when there is the REAL thing as well.
So for example, a woman that may have been fooled in the past, will ALSO know that there is something SUPERIOR about YOU if you in fact ARE the real thing. If you in fact HAVE LEARNED how to be "The Man" as I explain. If you understand how to BOTH create attraction AND how to truly connect with her on a deeper level than anyone else. If you are the type of guy that can see the PLAYFUL and HUMOROUS side of life, if you are the type of guy that can bring A MYRIAD of awesome perspectives and emotions into her life.
YES, she WILL be able to DETECT this from you pretty damn FAST, and it won't even be CONSCIOUS, and it's not even from anything MAJOR on the surface that you have done, it's from all the MILLIONS OF SUBTLETIES that flow forth from your newly developed IDENTITY AND YOUR ACQUIRED WISDOM.
I ASSURE you, that TIME will prove every word I have said to you. TIME proves everything.
Ever wonder how a song like the Beatle's "I Wanna Hold Your Hand" has been etched into the halls of eternity? At the time, religious and moral figures thought they were the work of the "devil".
Of course, girls were FAINTING for them.
Now, the same song seems so INNOCENT and PURE.
The song is still JUST as powerful in many ways, and possibly even MORE powerful because it's so rare.
It's not some sad ballad, some sad cheesy love song. It's a pop rock song, rockin' to the idea of love. It's not some "lame" song. It's not NEEDY.
There's nothing wrong with WANTING something.
It's just being NEEDY for it that's not good. And it's just when you don't give the VALUE in return that it's no good.
Being a CHALLENGE and being PLAYFUL is NOT the same as being "indifferent".
I don't like the word "indifferent" all that much anymore.
Most guys think that being indifferent is the key, but the truth is that this indifferent thing only works for a short time in the beginning, say you are at a bar and everyone is talking to some girl and you are the one guy who seems indifferent.
But if you KEEP ON BEING INDIFFERENT, and Only being indifferent ALL the time, and you really don't care, that's not going to work either, unless the girl is emotionally messed up.
It's okay to like a woman.
And not just holding her hand, but of course
this song is about more than that, stated subtly.
It's got VIBES of sex, love, and romance. The hand holding is SYMBOLIC of many things combined, and we need symbols as human beings. It's what makes life MEANINGFUL and not boring.
The idea of holding hands, it's interesting because today for so many people s-e-x has been stripped away of anything special to it. It's Fast Forward, Fast Food, Instant Orgasm society. For some people, a guy and girl holding hands means nothing. The symbolic emotional power has been stripped. After all, if you do it with a hundred girls a week, how special can it be?
If s-e-x is totally casual, then how special can holding hands be? The answer is that everything depends on the MEANING you GIVE it.
And, even though all around us are fakers who only speak about "love", and on the other extreme are fakers who promise the answer is all about porno lifestyles, the reality is that HUMAN BEINGS are still the same internally as always, and will ALWAYS APPRECIATE the combination of sex, love, and romance, once they EXPERIENCE it.
So don't worry about what's going on AROUND you, just be the ULTIMATE guy who can give a woman that magical combo of sex, love and romance, (which INCLUDES integrity, or there can be no love) and she will be YOURS.
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Michael W
