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Michael W - The Dating
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The Dating Wizard Website Get ready for some irony.
Yeah, big time irony.
I want to talk today about a total shift in your PARADIGM. I'm talking
about your entire personal model of reality when it comes to women and
what you think you need or don't need.
So hold on tight and don't let go 'till it's over, because it's deep.
This may surprise some of you, but my primary goal has never been to
"succeed with women at ANY cost". Never has been, never will. Some
"costs" are just too high. You see, for example, if you believe in
your own self-esteem, then you realize that selling away your
self-esteem is not worth ANY "prize".
And the IRONY of the matter is that it's only WITH this attitude that
you BECOME the "prize". Women are ONLY attracted to guys who are NOT
willing to sell their self-esteem.
And self-esteem is nothing but living in harmony with your own values.
Go against your own values, and it's "good-bye, self-esteem". Too many
guys are willing to sell themselves and do ANYTHING for women, which
actually leads to poor self-esteem and poor results with women.
Now, without an understanding of how to be in charge of your own
emotions, and an understanding of what emotions really are, this is
easier said than done. Let me start by DESTROYING one of the GREATEST
MYTHS of ALL TIME.
Hang on while I go Shakespeare on ya for a second- do you know what
LOVE is to a woman? (in the male-female sense)
In general, it's the EMOTION felt by a woman toward a guy who she
feels is, overall, (drum roll please).... SUPERIOR to others.
END OF LECTURE.
It's NOT a very romantic thing.
It's NOT a very "nice" thing.
It's actually a euphemism for "selfishness".
The more desirable YOU are, the more you will be "loved".
Get it?
Good.
The word "love" is actually fairly new to human language. Our
ancestors weren't so stupid to waste time on fooling themselves with
ridiculous euphemisms. They were too busy trying to survive another
day. The better you were at survival, the more sexy you were.
Only modern b.s. and "progress" were "intelligent" enough to come up
with this "love" business.
Love is NOT the emotion a woman feels toward a guy who says "I love
you"- unless she ALREADY feels he is superior.
Only once he is superior, in HER mind, considered SUPERIOR, then and
ONLY THEN is his affection prized by her.
Okay, I hear you asking.
What the heck do I mean by SUPERIOR?
It means that she FEELS he is valuable and desirable.
Not that she THINKS he is, but she FEELS he is. THERE A BIG DIFFERENCE
BETWEEN THE TWO. A woman THINKS that the nice guy is desirable. But
she FEELS that the totally confident, leading, cocky, NON-NEEDY guy is
valuable.
EMOTIONS beat out THINKING every time. Especially these days.
Especially with most attractive women, who are not forced to think
much about these matters. Most guys give off the vibe that they are
NOT VALUABLE, THAT THEY ARE NOT DESIRABLE.
Most guys tolerate disrespect, or they kiss up, or they keep on giving
without getting, as if they were defective merchandise that had to
compensate by giving more and more to make themselves more worthy.
Or they approach a woman all namby-pamby and weak, as if she has the
power to make him or break him.
Or they approach a woman and they get all serious in tone, again,
making her feel that she is serious stuff to him, worthy of his overly
serious attention at the first sight of her.
All this is just signs of HIS "love" (lust?) for HER. It does NOTHING
to make HER love HIM.
It's CRITICAL to
understand what this "love" stuff is, or more importantly, what it
ISN'T.
A few years ago, when I first started to figure this stuff out, I got
a bit upset, to put it mildly.
I felt like I had been fooled.
Yes, my success with women went up, but I
wasn't HAPPY about the whole thing, because I felt that my old fashioned
concept of "love" was NECESSARY to have in order to be a complete
person. Imagine knowing that something is both a lie and impossible, but
yet feeling you need it anyway. Well, I want to share with you the
secret that I learned that made everything make sense.
WE ARE WHAT WE FOCUS ON.
Focus on feeling great, smiling, having a great time, not needing
approval, and you will feel exactly that. If you focus on what you are
missing, you will feel you are missing something, no matter how MUCH you
have of everything else.
If you focus on what you HAVE, you will feel that you have an ABUNDANCE
of things in life.
So the FUNDAMENTAL PARADIGM SHIFT should be to BE THE BEST MAN YOU CAN
BE, to improve YOURSELF instead of trying to find endless ways of being
"nice" to a woman.
Don't get me wrong- if a woman has earned your respect, by all means
give it to her, just remember that her attraction to you is based on
YOUR superiority, not on hers. If she feels she is superior to you, you
are finished, history, toast, nada, zilcho, .you get the idea.
Once a woman has clearly expressed a serious interest in you, you can
reciprocate some attention, but never in a butt-kissy way.
It's critical to make the paradigm shift from love and romance to the
TRUTH about what attraction is. Any other viewpoint is just a recipe for
disaster.
Trust me, if you were told everyday from childhood that one day you will
fly like a bird, just like Superman, and you believed it, but then as
the years go by, you never flew, and one day you found out that it was a
lie, you would be majorly pissed off. Like, totally depressed.
Eventually, you adapt and things are cool again, good times, and you
realize the whole thing could have been prevented by just not being lied
to in the first place. So the BIG SECRET is that you DON'T NEED this b.s.
version of "love" to be TOTALLY FULFILLED.
The sooner you realize this, the sooner you will be INTERNALLY solid and
content.
And THEN you will have MASSIVE SUCCESS with women.
Because, you see, the GREATEST form of superiority is EMOTIONAL
superiority. He who is happy with himself has truly unlimited power.
Think about it- how much time and energy do we waste on negative
emotions? Imagine how much more productive we all would be if we did not
expend energy or time on negative emotions. Think about what you could
accomplish personally, emotionally, socially, or financially.
I think that nature itself has made us attracted to the truly superior
being - the person with positive emotions who cannot be brought down
emotionally for long. Sure, we all get thrown punches in this world, but
the superior ones get right back up and keep punching back.
Looking good is sexy because it is CONGRUENT with FEELING good, but it's
only PART of the puzzle.
If you feel like crap, you will not make women feel good no matter what
you look like. A woman feels GOOD when in the presence of someone who
feels damn good about himself. We all want to bask in the positive glow
of emotionally strong, content, positive people.
Yes, you can be masculine and FUN at the same time. When you are in a
good frame of mind, you can accomplish anything. You become a true
SURVIVOR.
It's not about being the richest, the smartest, etc. It's about
SURVIVAL. And the key to survival is usually not intelligence- it's
CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS.
THIS IS THE ULTIMATE SEXINESS seems women are hard-wired to feel this
way.
Okay, so on to the "real world' aspect of this. If a guy is totally
content with himself and needs no approval from others, how much do you
think he cares if a woman rejects him or not?
ZILCHO, that's how much.
He will not be angry or bitter, because he JUST DOESN'T NEED IT.
If you had a trillion dollars, how would you feel if you lost a nickel?
And guess what most women's reaction to such an impervious, self-content
guy will be?
They're going to WANT him, that's what their reaction will be. They
can't HELP but want him. And the thing is, when a guy is that happy with
himself, he tends to be TONS OF FUN too. He is BURSTING with a SILENT
radiance that has self-confidence OOZING out his pores.
When he makes a joke, you KNOW it's not because he needs to impress you.
You know that it was just 100 percent pure fun. Now, I have good news
for you. You can BECOME this kind of person.
And one of the greatest METHODS to do this is to learn how to approach
and attract women easily. Forget about the women- that's just a side
benefit, the main benefit is to your self-esteem, because once you KNOW
you can attract women, you won't NEED to be obsessed with it, and you
can focus on your other goals in life!
I know for me this was a HUGE area that was holding me down. And it
seemed that only the JERKS knew how to attract women, which made things
even worse. But I can show you how to attract women by truly being
UNSTOPPABLE and just HAVING A GOOD TIME.
I'll make you razor sharp- your fundamental FRAME of reality with women,
your approach, your presentation, all the important aspects of your body
language, the mentality behind the way you are socializing. I'll
eliminate the nervous movements you are doing without even realizing,
and I'll obliterate your fears, so that you can get this area of your
life conquered once and for all.
Once you are CONVEYING absolute TOTAL confidence, comfort, and
relaxation, you will get the RESULTS you are looking for. And those
RESULTS will GIVE you REAL confidence.
It's not even about women, it's about you.
 It's an incredible feeling when you know women want you. You stop
needing their approval because you KNOW you can get it if you really
needed to, and your standards for the respect you expect from women go
up. Then you can go and really take off in all the other areas of your
life.
If you would like to get this area of your life MASTERED, I suggest you
take my “real world” workshop and see how this stuff works for REAL.
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Michael W
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