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Pick-up
techniques, when done in your real life, and not just some ideas
from some guys who like to type on computers, is actually
fascinating when you realize the science and depth to it all. And
for all the talk about it and all the books on it, and all the
"experts" who just repeat what other "experts" say, there's actually
very LITTLE useful information on it.
So I thought I would explain some crucial distinctions about
pick-up, all of which come from the REAL WORLD, and I know you will
be able to relate to them because these things happen all the time
to any guy who is trying to meet women for real.
For example, what do most guys mean when they say they want to learn
how to pick up? Do they mean meet girls at school/work? At the club?
Anywhere in public places? Do they mean meeting a quality woman? Do
they mean the pure raw SKILL of being able to pick up women
anywhere?
Because I promise you, even though there is definitely overlap
between those things, they are still very different topics that
require different skill sets and different insights and different
investments of time and energy.
For example, how many times have you been in a situation where you
spotted a woman you'd like to meet, but the reality is that you had
literally SECONDS to act before she was GONE?
And I'm talking about a woman who is HOT. And I'm talking about not
at a club, but in a situation that calls out attention to the fact
it's an OBVIOUS pick-up, that is causing you to CHANGE your normal
schedule or pattern?
For example, many times at the mall you might see a woman moving
toward your direction. If you go up to her and CHANGE your direction
to match hers as she walks, especially if you do this right away,
you are CLEARLY conveying inferior status.
You are CHASING her.
And not only are you chasing her, but at least in a club, when you
go up to a girl, it's a pretty normal thing. It doesn't mean she is
the prize just because you are talking to her, as there are tons of
girls in a club and it IS a social place, that's what you're
SUPPOSED TO DO in a club, socialize.
But if a woman who is HOT sees you are changing your direction to
talk to HER, you start to look like a cheesy guy who has nothing
better to do than pick up girls. NOT the coolest thing.
After all, why ELSE are you changing directions? And why does SHE
count so much? You know nothing about her, so it MUST be her LOOKS.
So now you are just like every other guy, except you have more guts,
which of course is better than no guts, but guts is not enough. It
still looks like you have INFERIOR status.
This is a FACT, when dealing with girls who are HOT.
This is why if I happen to meet a hottie in such a situation, I
prefer to STOP her, and have a GOOD REASON for stopping her that has
NOTHING to do with "pick-up" vibes that I might normally exude in
other places or situations.
It could be anything from looking for something to getting
directions to advice on a gift, but again, the main point is that
you want to have a way of getting IN without getting blown out by
looking like a cheesy pick up artist. The reason why it's cheesy is
the LOCATION AND THE SITUATION makes it cheesy, whereas in a club,
it's not cheesy at all to be doing pick-up even in an obvious way.
Again, we are talking about HOTTIES here.
So, in the situation at the mall I described above, at first I do
NOT want the situation to have pick-up vibes, as it's simply going
to look TRY-HARD if I do that.
In a club, NO PROBLEM. The pick-up vibe is FINE. Even good, I would
say, as long as it's not a vibe of, "Sleazy pick-up artist with no
emotional depth or capability of genuine bonding".
Also, in any other situation where you are not having to do anything
different, i.e. merely turning to face her while you are both at the
coffee shop in line, or at the magazine rack, etc, pick up vibes are
FINE. Because you are clearly not TRYING HARD or changing your
pattern for HER.
So then what I will do in the situation I mentioned at the mall is,
after STOPPING her and chatting about something that provides a
great PRETEXT for the conversation, I will THEN bridge into pick-up
vibes, as once the convo has gone on for even a minute or two, we
are now in a real conversation, which gives me the license to change
modes into more of a sexual flirty thing.
And the best thing then if possible, is get her to continue the chat
over a coffee at a nearby coffee shop where she can get an idea of
my personality and I can get an idea of hers.
I can get her laughing, intrigued, and build rapport. So THEN if I
accompany her after all this, as she has to do whatever i.e. get
some stuff from the drugstore, it's OKAY because she has EARNED the
interest, it's not just "another desperate horny bastard who wants
any girl as long as she's hot" but a guy she actually is interested
in who she has EARNED.
So you see, it's not just a matter of having guts. It's also about
know-how, as you could have all the guts in the world, and be as
bold as you want, but in some situations, going too direct just
makes her feel creeped out, no matter how good your body language
is.
In every situation, you want to REDUCE the "cheesy pick-up artist"
vibes to an absolute minimum, to ZERO in fact, --the reason for this
is because for whatever reason, in our society, the HIGHEST STATUS
is not associated with being the type of guy who goes around
"picking up girls" - the IRONY of course is that is EXACTLY what
guys who are high status or even wealthy beyond imagination DO,
Donald Trump, Hugh Hefner, Athletes, Celebrities, etc, but the
difference is that they do "pick-up" exclusively through STATUS.
So they aren't usually comfortable or skilled at doing pick up when
it comes to cold approaches, but they get enough women simply from
whoever is in their proximity and recognizes them.
But my point is, when dealing with women who are HOT and CLASSY,
when NOT in a club or lounge or bar, you will LOSE STATUS by making
your pick-up seem TOO DIRECT. So things like CHANGING your direction
to talk to her, things like asking for her number before you have
even had any solid interaction/chat, they all look TRY-HARD.
Why are you taking her number without knowing a thing about her?
Because she's HOT. So you are telling her YOU ARE THE PRIZE because
you are HOT, that's all you need in my world for me to want to ask
for your number.
So she feels you are beneath her in status, and it's goodbye
attraction.
This is why anything you can do to get her seated and to get you
both in a physically comfortable position conducive to chatting is a
major help. Because now your conversation doesn't seem try-hard or
desperate.
It's also why starting a conversation with something low key, like
asking for directions, is not a bad idea WHEN IN THOSE ENVIRONMENTS.
It's DIFFERENT when you are at a house party, club, lounge, etc,
because the whole POINT of these things whether people admit it or
not is to socialize and mingle, so you do NOT look try hard because
you are upstairs going downstairs, changing direction, etc. It's not
like she can think "don't you have work you need to be doing???" or
"Do you do this to every girl?"
When I hear "experts" saying how "none of this matters if your inner
game is tight" I know they are full of horseypoo. If anybody
believes MASSIVELY in inner-game, it's me. But the fact is, inner
game is not EVERYTHING. It's a major PART of the overall formula,
but it's not everything.
If you're at a bookstore, at the magazine rack for example, you
appear WAY LESS "TRY-HARD" by opening up a conversation there,
because you are BOTH there anyway, you clearly were not PURSUING
her.
This not only makes you seem cooler but it also prevents her
"anti-slut" defense shield from being raised, as it the interaction
can be "excused" in her mind she can RATIONALIZE it all as a "social
thing" that anyone could have done and that it's not necessarily a
sexual thing, even though of course your VIBE does and SHOULD in
fact VERY MUCH exude sexuality.
Honestly, there's a TON more on this topic, but I want to also get
to something else in this newsletter, so let's move on to another
topic that I notice STILL needs some MASSIVE PUBLICITY, because I
meet guys in real life all the time who keep on violating this rule
even though I keep on repeating it: NEVER qualify yourself.
Women IMMEDIATELY sense when you are feeling so insecure that you
are trying to PROVE your worth by stating "show-off" facts about
yourself.
Guys hear me say "don't qualify yourself" and they think I'm
serious, but not REALLY serious.
So let me make it REALLY clear:
Even if you THINK she is NOT going to realize that you are
qualifying yourself when you use your clever "stealth" method of
qualifying yourself, believe me, she STILL knows you're doing it.
For example, a lot of guys what they will do, is if there is a woman
who is hot nearby, the guy will start talking to his GUY friend but
suddenly talk about his cool job, and exaggerate the truth or even
totally lie about it, he will try to say cool things about himself
in a "subtle" way, i.e. "I have to make sure all the girls I know
are not getting emaciated and that they are allowed to eat even
though they are under so much pressure from being models."
But believe me, it's NOT subtle to the woman, she hears it as if it
was being YELLED, she sees it as if it was BRIGHT RED, she FEELS it
as if it weighs a BILLION TONS!
ESPECIALLY if it's not actually TRUE, believe me, girls who are hot
can sense these "cool moves" because:
A. They've seen it before.
B. They can tell that you are congruent with it.
They can tell for sure, because even I as a guy can tell. It's not
that women are superhuman, they just have experience seeing the
things that guys do to impress them. And I see it simply from
experience as well, from my own and from training guys.
So, as long as YOU know in your own mind that in fact you ARE trying
to qualify yourself, then no matter how slick your "stealth" version
of the qualifying yourself is, you can bet SHE will know it too.
What you thought was "stealth" was not stealth at all to her.
What ends up happening is that your effort to show her how cool you
are ends up looking like a puppy dog trying to get approval, it
looks like you are in fact so mesmerized by HER that you felt the
need to PROVE yourself to HER.
What you have just read all comes from the REAL WORLD. To be
perfectly honest with you, I haven't met any "expert" in all my
years in this field who had the answers to my questions, so I had to
go out there and figure it out myself.
And I'm STILL learning, I believe learning Is NEVER-ENDING. It's
something I was taught in my teacher training- as a teacher myself,
the truth is that I am always LEARNING, striving constantly to be a
BETTER TEACHER!
My philosophy is that it's not ENOUGH that I can pick-up women.
I must also be able to TEACH YOU how to do it. And in order to do
that, I have spent a MASSIVE AMOUNT of time helping all kinds of
guys from all kinds of backgrounds and levels of experience, so that
I can get to experience how different guys process information,
especially on this topic that is such a vital area of all our lives.
When I make a program or product, I realize that not all guys are
coming from the same place mentally, emotionally, and physically. So
I strive to make the instruction strategies as inclusive as possible
so that all guys can understand it.
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Till next time,
Michael
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