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Michael W - The Dating
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Sometimes, guys who have some experience meeting
women still make certain common mistakes. I'd like to approach this from a
positive point of view, and focus on the things to do instead of just saying
what NOT to do.
#1. BE PREPARED.
This means be prepared on ALL LEVELS. So not only should you not leave the
house dressed less than your babe-magnet best, but you must also be MENTALLY
in the right state of mind.
That means adopting the attitude of "I am going out now, and if I see a woman
I want to talk to, I WILL talk to her, and I won't give myself ANY excuse not
to. And I also know I have everything it takes for a woman to want me."
Now, to FURTHER strengthen your mental state, you should adopt a LIFESTYLE
that augments these affirmations- I personally am VERY careful about what I
watch on TV and listen to on the radio and who I spend time with, in order so
that my mind is not polluted with negative or destructive thoughts. (Ever
notice how many pathetic examples of men in terms of their submissive attitude
toward women are all over the place on TV?)
In my eBook, I have an entire section on fueling your mind for success- for
now though, remember to do your BEST to adopt this frame of mind before you
even leave your house.
There is another level to being prepared as well. When you meet a woman, you
usually have to open your mouth and actually say something. And although with
practice, you will get better, why not think about the random situations where
you meet women, and write down some basic ideas of what you can say to her.
Eventually, you will realize you don't need to do this, but in the beginning,
it can help your confidence to actually have some idea of what you are going
to say. So for example, if you are at the supermarket, and a woman is in front
of you, or behind you, do you right now freeze up and have nothing to say?
Well, think about it NOW so you won't have to go through this agony again! You
might tease her on something she is wearing, something she is doing, or even
something about the situation that's kind of ridiculous. Write your ideas
down!
Those situations will happen again, and you will have ideas for them ready
instantly.
#2 BE PLAYFUL
In some situations, you might feel awkward about saying anything to a
woman, you might not know what to say, you might think the situation is
not appropriate for picking up.
I used to let these fears stop me. Since I couldn't think of something
awesome to say, or because I thought a situation was too difficult, too
awkward, I didn't say anything.
But then I realized something: The only reason I was so concerned with
the "perfect line" or with my fear of being rejected was because I
didn't want girls to think that I was a loser.
I didn't want them to get the idea that I might be interested in them,
because if I wasn't really interested in them, then how could they
reject me? I just wanted to have the perfect line so that I would come
across as perfect, and of course then they would want me.
Well guess what? There's nothing wrong with a woman thinking you might
be interested in her, AS LONG AS YOU DO NOT COME ACROSS AS A BAD CATCH!
And the way to show you are a "GOOD" catch is to NOT be serious.
"Serious" approaches can sometimes seem like "desperate" approaches,
since a woman will subconsciously think, "Why is the guy so serious?
Does he not already have plenty of women around him?"
Unless it is OBVIOUS that a woman is interested in you already, (in that
case you can be more direct) serious approaches make women wonder if you
are a loser since they wonder why are you placing so much SERIOUSNESS on
it in the first place!!!
After all, “If he was a good catch, he should already behave as if he
HAS tons of women, right?” So how serious would a guy who is a GOOD
CATCH be about this specific ONE approach at this specific moment?
So NO MATTER WHAT THE SITUATION, just be PLAYFUL i.e. at the fruit
section of the supermarket- "Does anybody really eat 8-10 servings of
fruits a day?" is FINE.
And no matter what she says, you can TEASE her on it. If she says that
she does, you can ask her if she's a real goody-goody two shoes and also
drinks 8 glasses of water a day, and does she dot all her i's and cross
all her t's.
WHATEVER.
So just about any playful banter, that is NOT SELF-DEPRACATING will do.
This works even in "complex" situations, such as when you want to speak
to one girl when she is with her friends/family etc.
I was in a long supermarket check out line once and a beautiful young
woman in front of me was with her MOM and still I couldn't resist. Now
when a girl is with her MOM, you have to consider that her mom may be a
little protective naturally. You can be sure that if you don't get her
MOM on your side, you can FORGET about the rest.
So I look for something playful, and lo and behold... Up ahead in the
line, there was this old lady who wanted to get through with her buggy
to the other side of the supermarket, but she didn't think of asking for
anyone to move, she just kind of RAMMED her way through lol...
Now as a few people were bickering silently, I broke the tension with
her mom by saying something along the lines of "She just came back from
Jerry Springer/ the whole thing is being videotaped silently and is
being sent to America's Funniest Home Videos- it's how the supermarket
makes most of their money.." etc I said this to both of them, mom and
daughter, especially focusing on her mom to help get the mom at ease.
This got her mom talking to me about how rude some people can be, etc,
and now I have the mom chatting it up with me, totally relaxed.
Her daughter joins in, and after a couple of minutes more with her mom I
tease her daughter about her bright pink purse and ask her if she was
inspired by Legally Blonde. Daughter starts laughing, trying to blame it
on her mom, and now I've broken the ice with both of them, and having a
fun conversation with her daughter.
Using a little tact, when her mom is a few steps away pre-occupied
paying for the groceries and bagging them, I get the girl's email.
Now this does not ALWAYS work, but the playfulness helped break the
tension and keep things fun and not serious.
When in doubt, playful is the way to go. Now, just remember that playful
does not mean UNCHALLENGING, or BORING, or SELF-DEPRECATING.
3. PARTICULAR
Every guy is slightly different in his particular situation- and based
on his specific strengths, his specific environment, and his
personality, he should TAILOR his approach to success with women based
on these factors.
If a guy does not enjoy the club scene since he doesn't smoke and
doesn't drink and doesn't follow the music, and isn't a "party" animal,
he really should not focus his efforts on such an environment.
It's not about showing off, it's about getting what you want and being
congruent with your personality so you can relax and enjoy being
yourself.
If you are a naturally funny guy, you should use your humor with women.
(but use it to playfully TEASE her, not to make fun of yourself!)
If you are a more serious guy, then use that to show a woman that you
don't need to smile to get her attention. If you are a driven type, then
be that man, the ambitious driven type. This gives you an edge when it
comes to dominance.
And don't be afraid to experiment to find out what works best for YOU.
I enjoy meeting women in regular everyday life situations like grocery
shopping, bookstores, malls, etc, because it's more relaxing since I'm
already there and am not expending much energy in the process. Also
these women are there not in order to show off as they might in a club.
By the way, I've noticed that the places where I expend the LEAST energy
I usually get the BEST results- whether it’s the post office, mall, or
train.
I have actually experimented and found that certain malls and stores
just FEEL more my style than other malls, and of course I will have even
better results there.
So the bottom line to remember here is that there are tons of individual
things like: -Where the women are in YOUR area.
-When are you at YOUR best.
And if you are reading this right now and want to learn how to meet
women ANYWHERE, and how to transition from first contact to getting
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Secrets to Success with Women.
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 Put my book to the test, and you'll see the power of having one million
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Over the course of one million years, man has adapted and evolved
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Make the decision to become more successful with women NOW. You really
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Till next time...
From someone who's been there,
Michael W
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