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The Dating Wizard Website When boiled down to its
essence, one of the most popular questions I receive from guys is “Can
I be nice to women or is that a formula for disaster?”
The answer is that you SHOULD be good to women, but you MUST
understand women well enough to know the difference between when you
are treating a woman WELL and when you are being taken advantage of,
i.e. WALKED ALL OVER.
And although that may seem simple enough, it’s actually quite
difficult for most guys to know the difference between being good and
being a doormat since society tends to have a DOUBLE STANDARD when it
comes to men and women.
What is this double standard?
The double standard is that there is this MYTH that somehow a woman’s
affection is worth more than a man’s. As if men enjoyed women but
women did not enjoy men. Why do I say this? Simple: Most men go OUT OF
THEIR WAY to get a woman’s attention and affection, buying endless
dinners, doing favors, giving compliments, endless respect, even if
the woman is NOT interested! Or worse, even if the woman is
MIStreating them.
Do women do this for men? Of course not.
If you are a guy who grew up observing this phenomenon, it would be
easy to get the wrong idea and think that women need to be persuaded,
tricked, impressed, appeased, or bribed in order to be sexual with a
man.
Of course, the reality is that doing these things is a perfect way to
DESTROY any attraction a woman may feel for a man. Any of those above
behaviors indicate a lack of intrinsic value, implying that outside
measures need to be taken in order to attract a woman.
It’s become even more confusing for men today because at least when a
few generations ago, a man dated a woman, it was usually with marriage
in mind (a mutual immediate goal for both the woman and the man) so
the dinner, flowers, etc, could be seen as a token of respect for a
woman and her commitment to a future family and children.
There was also this image of women as being more innocent and moral
than men. Society has changed since then, big time. The family unit
has changed for most people as well. Women’s traditional roles have
changed.
Why are men still treating women as if it’s 1951? What exactly are
those chocolates and flowers for?
Today, to a woman, these things either mean the guy has no clue about
modern dating, or is desperate. Either way, it signals to her that
it’s a guy who isn’t a winner. But chocolates and flowers are just the
TIP OF THE ICEBERG when it comes to double standards.
Most guys, if out with a
woman, will cater to her EVERY WHIM, including things that make no
sense. For example, you may be out with a woman at a café, and she’ll
ask you to get her the straw, the magazine at the rack to read, the
plastic fork, ask you to bring her order, etc, etc. Now, if it was a
guy, you’d probably tell him, “Hey dude, get it yourself”.
But since it’s a woman, you say “SURE.”
I’m not saying to be paranoid and question
everything a woman asks you to do for her, but be aware of what is going
on.
MOST MEN KISS UP TO WOMEN, THUS MAKING WOMEN FEEL SUPERIOR TO MEN.
Women then expect every man to let them get away with less than stellar
behavior, and women will actually get a bit UPSET when they encounter a
man who does NOT let them get away with this. HOWEVER, attraction has
NOTHING to do with preventing a woman from getting a bit upset. As a
matter of fact, it’s the OPPOSITE.
You see, women take most guys for granted. It’s NOT women’s fault that
most guys kiss up to them and thereby give women the impression that men
are inferior and women are superior. However, it is YOUR responsibility
to let women know that actually your worth is just as high as hers. And
the way to do this is NOT by talking about it, but by SHOWING that you
won’t take any abuse.
Not only will women then REASSESS their impression of you, and value you
MORE, and hence be more attracted to you, but also… YOUR SELF-ESTEEM
will SKYROCKET since you are delivering the message to your brain that
you are WORTH BEING RESPECTED and that you therefore will not tolerate
disrespect or abusive behavior from ANYONE.
Including the sweet girl you’ve invited to tea, who now sits in front of
you, her gorgeous face shimmering, and in her feminine voice, innocently
asks you to get up and bring her x, y, z, and who knows what else.
Ever been there? Yeah I know, me neither.
Now get this - When your SELF-ESTEEM skyrockets, you set in force a
massive chain reaction of events:
You stop doing things that go against your inner core values. Things
like accepting abuse. This makes women value you more, and makes them
treat you better. Of course, this in turn makes you even MORE confident
in yourself, which shows through infinite subtleties in your body
language, voice intonation, and behavior. And these physical changes not
only make you appear sexier, they also actually reinforce your inner
sense of self-esteem. The body affects the mind and vice-versa. The two
are inextricably bound.
So make yourself this promise: “I will not accept any behavior that
doesn’t feel right and I will not crawl for a woman just because she is
a woman. I will not stay with a woman who is mistreating me no matter
how difficult I may feel it is to break away from her.”
The INSTANT you agree to accept one DROP of abusive behavior, your
self-esteem will begin to chip away. And the INSTANT you DUMP a woman
who is not treating you right, your self-esteem skyrockets. Both
choices, and both consequences, are up to YOU. YOU have the power.
What will your decision be?
As long as you are with a woman who is treating you with respect and not
playing games, it’s AWESOME to be a GOOD GUY. And when a woman is
treating you well, being a good guy should come NATURALLY. If a woman is
mistreating you, the answer is not to become a “jerk”, the answer is to
DUMP her. If you try to play the same “game” by becoming a “jerk”, even
if you WIN, you actually LOSE.
The reason you lose is because when you decide to “win” someone who is
clearly not good for you, you are telling yourself that there is no
other superior option for you. And that takes you back to negativity and
low self-esteem, which only leads down a path of darkness. When you put
passion before principle, you always lose, one way or another. But when
you put principle before passion, you always win, no matter how hard it
seems. Because your self-esteem is nothing but you living in harmony
with your own principles.
Stay focused and remember that an exceptional woman is just as rare as
an exceptional guy.
Just remember one thing:
Most women today have this notion given to them by our culture that
somehow they have some “freebies” coming to them- i.e. that you should
do a,b, c for them just because they are women, while you get nothing in
the meantime.
Don’t get angry when this happens. It’s not their fault. Society keeps
telling them that they’re superior to men. What you should do is use a
little humor to get the message across. So for example, if a woman tells
you she expects to be taken to “only the best and the finest”, tell her
that’s great- because you yourself make it a point to ENSURE that before
you make ANY sort of commitment to a woman, you must find out if she is
the best and the finest herself.
See, women do it to us all the time. It’s only shocking when WE adopt
the SAME standards… No matter how alien this concept seems, it’s the
ONLY way to get respect. By insisting on only the best, you can then be
a good guy, naturally.
 And if you’re reading this right now and want to know the nitty-gritty
about how to meet and interact with women so that you will be respected
and desired, I recommend you download my eBook, The Dating Wizard:
Secrets to Success with Women.
It is the CORE FOUNDATION for your success with women, and the blueprint
for what I do. It explains how to meet women anywhere, how to get
contact info, and how to “get physical”. There’s even an important
section on relationships in case you meet a really special woman.
You can go download the book at:
The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women book page
And if you would like a personal one-on-one telephone or email
consultation with myself, you can now arrange that by calling 416 630
9966 or emailing me at Michael@TheDatingWizard.com
Over the course of one million years, man has adapted and evolved
powerful strategies for attracting women.
Now, you can learn them all in just a few hours of reading and practice.
Make the decision to become more successful with women NOW. You really
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Till next time...
Michael W
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