Michael W - The Dating Wizard: The Spell To Dating Success
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Welcome to "The Dating Wizard's: Spell To Dating Success" article series. It's time for some solid, practical advice that actually works for meeting and attracting women. Here are eight valuable insights that are immediately applicable.
This series of articles (listed here) are a small part of the information contained in "The Secrets To Success With Women (more info)" ebook and "The Seduction Mastery Apprentice Program (more info)" on CD/DVD.
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#1 INTELLIGENT RISK IS GOOD FOR YOU
Most guys are looking for a way to avoid any risk when it comes to women, but the reality is that women will only be MORE attracted to you by the very FACT you DID take the risk to meet her.
So for example, if you see a woman working in a lingerie store, and you can't find one good excuse for being in the store, and so it's obvious that you are going to speak to her because you are attracted to her, then the very act of going up to her and doing your approach is MORE attractive than if there WAS some excuse to COVER-UP the fact that really you just wanted to meet her. It shows MORE GUTS, it shows MORE INTENT, it shows you are the kind of guy who doesn't let FEAR stop him from going for what he wants inlife.
This is attractive on so many levels, both conscious and subconscious that it's not even funny. It tells her that you are a WINNER and that you ENJOY LIFE. It shows you have the courage to be a protector, it shows you have the charisma to enjoy life, it shows TONS of things.
So you can go RIGHT UP to her in the craziest of environments and she will be MORE ATTRACTED by it, even if you were to say something as simple "I just saw you and I thought you were insanely beautiful as heck, and I wanted to know if there was even more to you as well."
The key is to SAY THIS with TOTAL INTENT, you can't be half-way on this, you have to MEAN both the fact you think she is beautiful and you have to be comfortable letting her know that and you have to ALSO mean that you TRULY DO WANT TO KNOW if there is more to her than the surface.
The subtle distinctions that happen when you have the intent here are actually massive in terms of the difference you will get in results.
As soon as she replies with anything, you can then use that to comment back on, and you can begin an "energy-ping-pong" where you both flirt back and forth with fun confident statements about yourselves. i.e. She might say "I certainly hope I do have more than the surface, but thank you" And you can reply with something like "That makes two of us, I know I have more than just the surface when it comes to me" (And you can say this with a confident playful smirk.)
Remember, a woman who is attractive already KNOWS you are probably interested, so the REAL difference is not whether you can hide it or not, the difference is what you DO with the fact you are interested. She is IMPRESSED with the fact you are not allowing fear to control you.
Do you go home and curse yourself for not taking action? Do you get ANGRY at women for the frustration you feel? Or do you take POSITIVE ACTION?
This is the one thing that good guys need to learn from "JERKS". "Jerks" don't have any issue with feeling sexual about women, they don't feel bad whether a woman approves of them or not. And there is nothing JERKY about having these same thoughts and emotions, so you should ALSO realize that women are actually LOOKING for a guy who is comfortable with being sexual.
The truth is that women are very comfortable with sexuality and don't think lowly of the fact that men are interested in them, and most women are NOT evil and will NOT abuse that fact. So, the only REAL RISK is NOT TAKING ACTION, because that risks you having a life with NO WOMAN, ever.
#2 HUMOR IS ABOUT WINNING
A quick and SUPER STRONG idea you can use for being funny is to always remember that the reason humans LAUGH hard is because on some level they feel they are WINNING.
My SEDUCTION MASTERY CD program goes into a super in-depth level on this, (click here) but for now just realize that one way to APPLY this concept is to COMBINE the following two things:
First, make an extreme comment about your EXCELLENCE/SUPERIORITY. (By making it extreme, you make it clear that you are not being totally serious and that you are being playful.)
Then, ALSO make sure to follow up this with a GENUINE compliment to her.
So, for example, let's say a woman says to you "I like Southern boys" or "I like Northern boys" you can always reply, "I'm in a whole new category baby, I'm the MAN. You can keep the boys."
Now, this is a comment that says you are SUPERIOR/EXCELLENT. But it is also extreme and so it's clearly not meant to be taken totally seriously, so it shows that you are not only confident (you saying you are the MAN) but also secure and not overly serious. (Which actually FURTHER shows you are indeed the MAN FOR REAL!)
Then, if you were to follow this up with a compliment to her, i.e. let's say she doesn't smoke, or you find out she has an appreciation for your favourite type of movie, i.e. comedy or action, you can compliment her on it, and now the fact that you THE GUY WHO IS "EXCELLENT" actually also likes HER, is going to make her like you MORE. AND, it also will set things up so that any OTHER "superior" or "extreme excellence" comment you make about yourself will seem just the right balance of things, because she knows you ALSO like her, so to her it feels GOOD that you are this SUPERIOR guy, because she ALSO knows that this superior guy LIKES HER, so anything about YOU being a winner makes HER feel like a winner as well, since YOU approve of HER.
This means she will be LAUGHING at anything you do that suggests YOUR excellence. It's all because she feels that SHE is winning as well, since she is kind of an extension of you now.
This is why you see hotties laughing at any little joke from guys who seem "arrogant", it's because from the woman's point of view the guy is NOT arrogant, since he has already ALSO made it clear he DOES like her too. The very fact he is TALKING to her shows some interest anyway, so remember that you are NOT seeming like a jerk by saying "cocky" things about yourself if you are saying it playfully and she ALSO knows that you like her.
Again, this idea can be used in millions of situations, and it all depends on the environment, so if you are with a woman on a second or third date, and she knows you a bit, and she sees you are not drinking alcohol, and she asks you if this is because you are driving, and you answer with "baby, when I'm driving, you won't want me to EVER stop." The reason this is not arrogant is because she knows you LIKE HER and by the second or third date it's clear you have already established some mutual respect.
#3 HOW TO NEVER NEED MEMORIZED ROUTINES OR SCRIPTS
There are INFINITE things you can do that don't involve memorizing lines, routines, or scripts.
You can simply USE THE ENVIRONMENT and the SITUATION to start a conversation. Plus you can also do things like playfully IMITATE what she is saying, you can also do things like TICKLE her if you are in a bar, and in almost ANY environment you can do things like TAKE whatever she says and PLAYFULLY MISINTERPRET it as her being extremely FORWARD and as it meaning she is chasing you. (i.e. if she says to you in the restaurant or club or wherever, "Do you know where the bathroom is?" You can say back to her "But we hardly know each other, this is kind of fast!! Slow down!")
You can also simply tell her about something funny or intriguing that happened to you that day or recently, which will prompt a response from her.
#4 GIVE YOUR WORDS EMOTIONAL JUSTICE
So many times, when guys are approaching a woman who is a total stranger, they end up RESTRAINING all the natural joy and fun in their voice.
For example, if you were telling the same story or making the same comment to someone you knew well and were comfortable with, you'd really tell the story with FULL JUSTICE. You'd give the funny part of your story the full emphasis with the inflection of your voice and the body language and mannerisms. You wouldn't be afraid to use the right words even if they were a bit sexual or a bit dirty.
But suddenly when talking to a new woman, what we do is HOLD BACK and try to keep everything SAFE. Yet the reality is that what makes stories, comments, or humor effective is that they DO PUSH the envelope of what is "typical". So by trying to keep everything "typical" and "safe" you are ROBBING your conversation of all its EMOTIONAL IMPACT.
#5 ALL EXCUSES FOR NOT APPROACHING WOMEN ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH
There are infinite excuses for not taking action, but they all will NOT serve to bring a the woman you want into your life.
If you want to learn HOW to go about it, then I can show you it all.
If you want to go to the bar or club but you don't have a "wingman", then you'll just have to fly SOLO that night at the bar. I used to think that going out to a club by yourself was INSANE but the truth is that it was one of the biggest learning experiences of my life, as by not having a wingman, I was forced to take ACTION since I had no wingman to chat to! I learned how to handle groups of women, one-on-one situations, and mixed sets of women and men.
In fact, going out with a wingman is ONLY a good thing if the wingman is BETTER than you, otherwise your wingman is only going to RUIN your interactions. If your wingman is inexperienced, then it's okay to go with him to the club but make sure that you handle most of the interactions, and let him take a more passive role as he LEARNS from you while you do the interactions together.
#6 USE ENOUGH VOLUME IN YOUR VOICE
Ever notice that when you're angry you usually talk LOUD?
Now, anger is usually a destructive emotion, but my point is that the reason you speak loudly when angry is because when angry you tend to feel that you have WORTH. You therefore also feel that your WORDS have WORTH.
Now, you don't have to be angry to feel your words have worth.
You can be in a GREAT mood and feel that your words have worth. And THIS is what you want to be doing when chatting to women.
All too often however, when guys are chatting to women, their voice kind of mumbles and sounds quiet and it's because we are thinking that our words are NOT WORTHY, so we almost try to BURY the words SO THAT THE WOMAN WILL NOT HEAR how "stupid" they are.
The CRAZY thing is that there are some real morons out there who simply ACT and SPEAK as if they DO have worth, and many people THINK they are in fact worthy.
How crazy is that? When GOOD GUYS act like they are unworthy and give no volume to their voice, which makes the woman think that the guy IS creepy, that he IS unworthy.
If you BEHAVE as if you ARE UNWORTHY, then how can you blame women for feeling that is what you are? I know this from experience, so take it from me, you want to CHANGE THIS immediately if you are making this mistake.
This doesn't mean to go around YELLING, as that implies insecurity as well. It just means to be CONSCIOUS of the fact that your words DO HAVE VALUE, and so make sure they get spoken with the volume they DESERVE. Make sure that your every word gets HEARD, because you are WORTH being heard.
#7 GET "TALKATIVE" BEFORE STARTING!
One of the mistakes that guys make is they go into a situation where there are women around, but they are totally unprepared, they are totally NOT in the right state of mind.
One of the states of mind you want to be in when approaching women is the TALKATIVE state of mind, combined with the PLAYFUL state of mind.
So the key is to start having talkative fun BEFORE going out to meet women. My buddy and I used to go see a comedy movie on Friday evenings, and we'd be laughing and chatting about the movie right after so that by the time we got to the club or bar, we were ALREADY in an extremely talkative and playful state so we were already WARMED UP and READY to take action to approach any woman as soon as the situation presented itself to us.
You don't have to do the exact same thing, but you can apply the principle by for example calling up a friend on the phone and talking to him before going out to meet women.
You can chat with the taxi driver, the clerk, whoever you meet. The key is to keep the conversation FUN and to get TALKATIVE.
However, I also must warn you that you shouldn't let the fact that you might be in a less than great state serve as an excuse for not approaching a woman. Often, that first approach of the day feels the most painful to get done, because you are not sure of what is going to happen. Then after getting it done, you feel better and more relaxed and you do even better with the next woman.
#8 DON'T RELY ON YOUR EMOTIONS WHEN THEY ARE NEGATIVE
Our emotions cloud our thinking. They actually can DISTORT your filter of reality and make you perceive almost everything in a way that will destroy your results with women.
If you are feeling insecure, then ANYTHING a woman says or does will be interpreted as a reason for why she is not interested in you, and even worse, as a reason for why you are NOT WORTHY, or for why you are somehow "bad".
Emotions can make you think that a conversation with a woman is going HORRIBLY wrong when in fact it may be going FINE.
This is why it's important to also approach many women, because one woman is not indicative of what the entire female gender says/thinks/feels.
It's crazy and tragic how going through ONE BAD relationship, or TWO bad ones, or going through a couple of bad experiences with women, can make us feel that ALL WOMEN ARE OUT TO HURT US, and it's just not true.
What's even crazier is when we learn that we ourselves may have been doing things that in our ignorance we didn't know were actually FUELING some of the problem we were experiencing with women.
So on that note, it's of PARAMOUNT significance to find out the TRUTH about women, about how attraction works, about how to control our own state of mind, and about the best way to actually approach a woman and take things from that initial walk-up to her to getting physical to having a fantastic relationship that gets STRONGER with time.
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Until next time,
Michael W
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