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Michael W - The Dating
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The Dating Wizard Website Around one year ago, I met
a stunning woman I had not seen in several years. She had known only
knew the old version of me, the version that thought women were
angels, etc.
Pretty soon, we were hitting it off (better than ever) and somehow in
middle of one conversation, she blurted out that the reason I was so
much more "tough" (as she put it) these days was because I had many
options in terms of women to date. I slowly shook my head and winked
at her, casually replying "No, actually. It's the other way around-
I'm tough, and THAT’S why there's no shortage."
And then she had that look on her face that said: OK, THIS GUY KNOWS
WHERE IT’S AT.
When it comes to success with women, there are THREE KEYS far, far
more important than all the rest. I don't care what system is out
there, how complex and sophisticated they seem to be, they all rely on
these THREE KEYS.
MASSIVE SELF-ESTEEM.
EMOTIONAL STRENGTH.
DOMINANCE.
FIRST, you must become this unstoppable force. THEN, you get the
woman. Remember the following line from SCARFACE? "In this country,
you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get
the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the woman."
Well, there IS some truth to that, but the MORE ACCURATE statement
would be: "FIRST you must gain MASSIVE SELF-ESTEEM, EMOTIONAL
STRENGTH, and DOMINANCE. THEN you get the WOMAN"
Once you are in the RIGHT STATE OF MIND, you will then become VERY
resourceful with the right things to say and do. NATURALLY. You see,
although there are a lot of guys who say they have the "most
sophisticated and latest hypnosis" techniques to get you women, the
truth is that YOU ALREADY HAVE THE MOST SOPHISTICATED, ADVANCED, AND
EVOLVED weapon for success- it's your highly evolved human BRAIN.
And let me tell you, SEX is probably the human race's greatest
specialty. Unlike animals, we mate all year long, for pleasure as well
as procreation.
Do you think that after a
million years, something as fundamental to the survival of the species
as how to ensure SEX would not have been made "instinctive" in the
brain?
Believe me, NO TOOL is ever going to match
your brain, which has evolved steadily over a million years to handle
almost ANY challenge presented by the need for survival. So, allow me to
help you help your brain do it's thing. As Jerry Maguire said, "Help me
help you".
What is EMOTIONAL TOUGHNESS? Well, for men, I think it's a combination
of MASSIVE SELF ESTEEM, a healthy dose of DOMINANCE, and the ability to
not get emotional so fast. If any of that sounds like a stereotype, then
GOOD. Because THAT is what MEN are SUPPOSED to be.
You see, I believe men are like this NATURALLY. We just get MISGUIDED
from a young age by being told to behave otherwise. We are already
pre-wired to behave the way that WORKS to attract women, but we go
against our own wiring to be MEN.
Yes, to be MEN.
THAT is what WOMEN are attracted to, and for good reason- for over a
million years, a woman needed such characteristics in a man for
SURVIVAL. When I talk about SELF-ESTEEM, I mean HUGE DOSES OF THIS
STUFF. So much so that you feel DAMN GREAT ABOUT YOURSELF.
For all the talk about women and body image and them having low
self-esteem, I believe most men are suffering from low self-esteem as
well, since they find that all their misguided yet endless struggle to
attract women usually yields no results. Attractive women just sit there
and have guys approach them. Even a woman who is not so attractive could
still get her share of male attention if she takes basic action. But
guys go around trying hard to meet women, doing the hogwash that society
teaches them to do, and they keep hitting a brick wall.
This can be tough on the self-esteem.
And I have GREAT NEWS FOR YOU: You DON'T need a woman’s validation of
you to have SELF-ESTEEM. Of course, if you HAVE HIGH SELF-ESTEEM, women
will be drawn to you to such a degree it will seem ABSURD.
You see, most guys have it all wrong: They think to themselves, "If I
had a woman, I would be so confident, and happy, and fulfilled".
The reality is more like this: "If I was a stronger person internally, I
would have women."
And how do you GET SELF-ESTEEM? Well, the first thing is to realize that
NOTHING brings you happiness unless you DECIDE that it does. Think about
that. Think about how much PERSONAL POWER that ONE sentence gives you
over your life. Don't buy into the crapola that you need a woman's
approval to feel good. (or anyone else's approval). I recommend a
FANTASTIC BOOK on the subject of internal power, called Man’s Search For
Meaning, by Frankel.
By not buying into the baloney that you need a woman’s approval, you
RESERVE YOUR POWER FOR YOURSELF INSTEAD OF GIVING IT ALL AWAY TO WOMEN.
When you are FREE of all the B.S., you suddenly are free of ALL YOUR
FEARS. You suddenly find that you do not need to live in a "bubble"
anymore, because you can HANDLE what life throws your way, including
what women throw your way, since women are not controlling your every
action and thought. You reserve THE POWER FOR HAPPINESS for YOURSELF.
Which brings me to the topic of EMOTIONAL STRENGTH.
FEAR is paralyzing. It stops you from really living. And there is NO
NEED for most fears- they come from LIES. I deal with these LIES in my
eBook, lies ranging from the myth that women are only attracted to looks
and money, to the lie that women want guys to buy them dinners and
gifts. For now, just realize that your fears about women are NOT natural
- they are the product of culture and brainwashing, albeit it may not
have been intentional. When you are FREE of these fears, and especially,
in terms of success with women, when you are FREE OF YOUR FEARS of
needing women for happiness, THAT is when your success with women will
SKYROCKET.
You see, women SENSE when you DON'T need them. When you DON'T NEED
women, women want you MORE, since you convey STRENGTH AND SELF-ESTEEM.
And the way to get into this state of mind is to start THINKING this way
about women, and life, ALL THE TIME.
Listen, you ARE your thoughts. As you constantly think, so you will
become. I believe that women's b.s. about wanting a "sensitive guy" has
made guys EMOTIONALLY WEAK. So FORGET "sensitive guy"- it's BAD, BAD
ADVICE. Be tougher, about everything- stay cool as much as possible
about EVERYTHING in life. Hey, does JAMES BOND sweat over anything? Ever
wonder what Sean Connery and Pierce Brosnan convey with this character?
THE ESSENCE OF COOL.
And if you train your mind to think this way, by CONSTANTLY thinking
this way, you will soon realize that this is the way things were MEANT
to be. You will feel how much more powerful and resourceful you are with
women. I mean power in a non-needy sense, and a sense of ENRICHING and
bringing VALUE to your interactions with women. Simultaneously, you
should also DO THE ACTIONS that are consistent with this philosophy- so
actually consciously STOP yourself from any behaviors that run contrary
to the idea of NOT NEEDING a woman's approval or love in order to feel
fulfilled:
-Stop talking about women as if they ruled your life.
-Stop calling a woman who does not respect you or reciprocate your
affection.
-Stop running your life around women.
And you should be PROACTIVE about behaviors that are consistent with the
philosophy outlined above:
i.e. if you have plans with a friend for an evening, and a woman calls
you up, KEEP YOUR PLANS WITH YOUR FRIEND instead of canceling the plans
so you can go out with the woman. This is CONGRUENT with the philosophy
of not kissing up to women as if they were the gods in charge of your
happiness. After all, if you don't NEED women, why would you ditch your
friends for a woman?
I see so many guys who will be talking to a woman, and when a guy they
know says hi and is walking by, the guy will ignore him so he can
worship the woman. Awwwwww man it hurts to watch this, cause I know
where he is going to end up in a few weeks or months- The woman will
DUMP him and he won't know why, He'll be telling me "But I treated her
so WELL!"
If you want to develop EMOTIONAL STRENGTH, you MUST at first consciously
make decisions to live that way, until it becomes natural. If you can
conquer these fears based on total lies, you will have the confidence
and energy to accomplish almost anything in life. For most guys,
handling the area of their life called "women" is a massive DRAIN on
their energy.
It doesn't have to be this way.
Emotional Strength most definitely includes not needing women to approve
of you in order for you to be fulfilled and at peace, and it includes
not getting sad or angry or even so happy because of something a woman
does.
So that's the irony:
If you want women, learn NOT to need them. Then you'll have your choice
from more women than you can possibly handle.
I believe women respond so strongly to this trait because emotional
strength is the greatest determinant of a person's ability to succeed-
i.e. intelligence, physical strength do NOT contribute to a person's
success in life NEARLY as much as that person's EMOTIONAL I.Q. (check
out Daniel Goleman's Emotional Intelligence for more on this)
So to put it bluntly, sex is about SURVIVAL. While men looked to women's
physical attributes for child rearing abilities, men on the other hand
could easily father children even in their later years, so women judged
men on OTHER qualities- his ability to SURVIVE the challenges of life,
to provide, to hunt, to protect, to get food, etc. And success requires
emotional strength, so women Were looking for men who had that QUALITY.
That quality of total confidence and this could be observed by a man's
obvious self-esteem.
Once you develop this self-esteem, you will find it far more NATURAL to
KID AROUND with women and to tease them and to NOT kiss their ass. After
all, you are NOT AFRAID of what women Can do to you, since they can do
NOTHING bad unless you ALLOW IT TO in your mind. And here is where a lot
of guys mess up.
They are all cool when they meet a woman, and then they get so used to
having a woman around, that when the woman threatens them or acts up,
the guy actually starts to FALL for her tricks and he even starts to
BELIEVE that she may have some power over him. And he slowly starts to
allow her to play With his emotions, to beat down on his confidence, And
of course all this adds up to LOW SELF ESTEEM. Which of course ends up
ruining the relationship.
Slowly, without realizing it, a cool hip guy Lets his personal power
slip through his fingers. Needlessly. DON'T BE THAT GUY.
Finally, let me speak a bit about DOMINANCE again. I believe that
sexually, women naturally respond to DOMINANCE. That is not the same as
pushing yourself unwanted on to a woman. It means MAKING DECISIONS and
LEADING the way, and not asking for her approval. She can always TELL
you if she doesn't approve. Women WILL NOT initiate action for sex. It
is up to YOU as a MAN.
Dominance has a lot of subtlety to it- from the first moment you meet a
woman, she can tell- are you looking to her for approval? Are you
speaking in a meek voice? Are you afraid to "rock the boat"? Are you
waiting a month before you kiss her? Are you asking her what SHE would
like to do all the time? So if you want success with women, forget about
hypnosis, complicated manipulative tactics, and instead JUST BE A MAN.
It comes naturally, and it naturally turns women on more than anything
else.
Let me give a quick example of how you might approach a woman
successfully and naturally: Let's say you see her on the bus.
Well, you go sit next to her or stand beside her, IMMEDIATELY, because
you are not afraid since she has NO POWER over you emotionally. You feel
good about yourself, so you don't have excuses not to go up to her. You
feel DOMINANT over her and it shows in the way you BEHAVE. Instead of
turning this into some kind of big deal, you have FUN with it- maybe you
tease her about something, maybe you make an interesting comment about
something she is reading, the bottom line is you connect in a HUMAN way,
and a CONFIDENT way, not a robotic one.
At the same time, your self-esteem is sky high, so your comments are not
nasty, but rather good-natured like you would do with a buddy. Before
it's time for either one of you to go, you TAKE ACTION and you don't
wait for her to do it- you tell her to give you her email so she can be
with a cool dude - you- again. And as you do all this, you will
naturally convey self-esteem, emotional strength and dominance through
your voice tone, body language, etc.
 And if YOU want to learn more about how to succeed with women in a way
that feels GOOD and feels natural, and requires no memorization, then I
seriously suggest you download my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to
Success with Women.
If someone could have written a book like this when I was struggling to
succeed with women, I would have done almost ANYTHING to get my hands on
it.
You can begin reading this important
information within MINUTES of now.
To download the eBook, just go to:
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And if you would like a personal one-on-one telephone or email
consultation with myself, you can now arrange that by calling 416 630
9966 or emailing me at Michael@TheDatingWizard.com
Over the course of one million years, man has adapted and evolved
powerful strategies for attracting women.
Now, you can learn them all in just a few hours of reading and practice.
Make the decision to become more successful with women NOW. You really
can have success with women- the choice is now in your hands.
Till next time...
From someone who's been there,
Michael W
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