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I’d like to get down to one of the most important realizations I
ever had about attraction. Applying this will IMMEDIATELY improve
your results with women. To introduce the topic, I’ll start with a
fresh email that just came in yesterday.
Dear Michael,
Thanks a million for the stuff. All I can say is, your book contains
some ANTI-COMMON-SENSE.
Main concepts that work for me are:
* Keep advancing from one level to the next ASAP
* Teasing
* Looking in the eyes
There is one thing though. What works for me is the following:
I flirt with a girl when she is alone (at a shopping mall, club,
festival), take her for a coffee after talking to her for sometime,
kiss her during the coffee (or take her to a bar after the coffee
and kiss her there), after that to her home and sleep with her. Now
she finds herself in love with me
BUT if I just get her number after talking to her 4-5 minutes, I
never see the girl again.
Can you please figure out what is going on here?
Best,
Name withheld,
Germany
Hi Guy,
First, thanks for pointing out the stuff that’s working for you- eye
contact, teasing, and MOVING FROM ONE LEVEL TO THE NEXT are all
MAJOR parts of creating chemistry and being successful in your
interactions with women.
The part that I’d like to focus on here, that also holds the answer
to your question, is the “MOVING FROM ONE LEVEL TO THE NEXT”.
You have to ESCALATE THE HEAT.
In my eBook, I talk about getting the email or number, and if you
notice, I also talk about “instant dating” her right then and there,
the very first time you ever met. (The details of this can be found
in my eBook, at:
www.thedatingwizard.com
The reason for this is because you always want to take an
interaction as far as it can go RIGHT NOW. You don’t want to push it
off unless you HAVE to for some reason, like time-constraints such
as work, or other emergencies or urgent issues.
The reason for this, is because you are BUILDING chemistry and
connection from SCRATCH here, so you really have to pack up some
momentum and some power to make EMOTIONAL IMPACT on her. Otherwise,
its too easy for her to dismiss the interaction and for it to not be
relevant by the time she goes home or the next day when she wakes
up.
So you see, THAT is why you are having results when you keep the
interaction going, and why you are not getting results with just
getting the number (or email for guys that are just going for email)
after 3-4 minutes.
This is why I always say to try to take things as far as you can.
This doesn’t mean that I believe that guys should try to sleep with
as many women as possible. In fact, that’s not my cup of tea. The
thing is, when it comes to what works, it really doesn’t matter what
your goal is, whether it’s for a relationship or something more
casual, it just makes way more sense to take your interaction as far
as possible no matter what your goal is.
Otherwise, you end up nowhere- no relationship, nothing casual, and
nothing in between either.
The thing is, you CAN often get a woman to contact you back even
after just a 3-4 minute interaction, but it will require the
interaction to be REALLY STRONG, either from an attraction
standpoint, or even simply from a CONNECTION standpoint that she
feels she connects with you on some level, (i.e. she finds out you
both have something important in common) so she feels it won’t be
WEIRD or awkward when she meets you or talks to you again.
So in her mind, even though she might not be attracted yet, she’s
kind of neutral but interested in finding out more. And you can then
make impact when you meet up again or talk on the phone.
Also, if the interaction is going well, but it really is a situation
where she is busy, like a salesgirl clerk at a busy grocery store,
it’s understood that there is not much time to chat there, so you
don’t look like a wuss for not trying to continue it. There are a
ton of factors that play into each interaction, and they all play a
role in whether a 3-4 minute interaction has the strongest potential
or not.
The bottom line though, is that the interaction has to register as
emotionally relevant or you can forget it.
However, once you HAVE accomplished this, it really doesn’t matter
whether you have her email, phone number, or you communicate by
Morse Code, she will be interested in following up with you.
Yet, all things being equal, DEFINITELY you should do everything you
can to ADVANCE the interaction TO THE NEXT LEVEL, to TAKE IT
FORWARD.
YOU HAVE TO ESCALATE THE HEAT.
You can’t STAY in a “safe place” with a woman.
What I mean by that is that so many guys, in order to not feel the
potential rejection, will stay in a “safe place” in the interaction.
They will start a conversation, and she may be showing attention and
getting giggly, etc, but then the guy doesn’t PROGRESS the
interaction because it might mean feeling “bad” if she rejects his
advance. So the guy stays in
the “safe zone” where he avoids moving to the next step like instant
dating her right then and there, and he instead decides to go for
the email or number.
Or he continues the interaction, but from too far away. He avoids
getting in very close to her, which he should do within moments of
meeting her. He avoids this so he can HOLD ONTO that good validating
feeling of at least having a woman PAYING ATTENTION to him.
This “safe zone” though is really a misnomer. It’s NOT safe at all!
In fact, staying in this “safe zone” will just BURN ITSELF OUT,
leaving NO new fuel to keep the interaction ALIVE.
The “safe zone” is really just the “save my ego” zone.
The thing is, you have to take your ego OUT of this whole thing
called “attracting women and having the time of your life”.
WHO CARES what happens?
You gotta know that, thank God, there are a lot of women, so even if
for some weird reason things don’t work out here, it will work out
on another woman! Instead of focusing on your ego, you should be
focusing on the MOMENT and not thinking so much.
I hate to quote Bruce Lee movies, and sound overly deep, but here I
go: “DON’T THINK.
FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEL.”
You see, that way,
you can be ENJOYING the interaction. It’s a give and take, and
that’s actually where the fun and feeling good comes from.
I was reading a great book co-written by the Dalai Lama, where he
says he believes that actually people are good by nature, they are
nurturing by nature, and he gives the example of how even from
birth, it requires both the baby and the mother to both be
nurturing, or it wouldn’t work. My point is that human beings FEEL
GOOD when they are giving and taking, in balance. This is what
happens in any great interaction, including with a woman you are
with. So just ENJOY the vibe, because THAT’S what it’s all about,
TRUST ME ON THIS!!!!
Having a great interaction is actually the most natural thing in the
world, it feels great, and it’s just because of a screwed up world
and bad conditioning and bad beliefs that make people insecure,
angry, and anti-social.
Naturally, though, the vibe is AWESOME between people. You have to
tap into this.
When you are going on THIS vibe, especially when it’s with a woman
you like, then you WANT to progress the interaction, simply because
it feels SO GOOD that you can’t help but want to escalate it.
If you ARE going to think anything, then at least think “She is
going to be NUTS about me”. Franco Columbo, one of the bodybuilding
stars of the Schwarzenneger era, used to say, “I never enter any
competition thinking that I am going to do anything but win.”
And just in case all the above hasn’t hammered the point into you,
let me ALSO state that not only will the interaction burn itself out
if you don’t advance it forward, but women will seriously get PISSED
OFF at you for not advancing an interaction when it felt good. They
will be both pissed that they aren’t getting to enjoy the
heightening emotions, and they will be pissed that you were too much
of a wuss to push it forward.
It’s as if she thinks to herself, “Hmmm, I THOUGHT he was a man, but
dammit I was WRONG!! Arggghh!!!”
So you really can’t lose, because NOT escalating is definitely a
mistake, always.
Now, this does not mean to act NEEDY or desperate by PLEADING for
things to move forward, like ASKING HER if you can kiss her, etc.
Ugh. No no no. It means that as you see she is receptive and
friendly and having a good time, you make sure to escalate rather
than stay in the “safe zone”.
So you have to go from phase to phase, from warming things up,
attracting her, and creating a connection, to getting into more
privacy, more physical contact, and so on.
 And if you would like to learn about each phase, and how to move
from one level to the next so that you can escalate the heat, then I
seriously suggest you IMMEDIATELY download my eBook-
The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women,
at:
The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women book page
Inside, you'll
learn:
-How to trigger attraction instantly.
-How to approach women and create "instant dates."
-How to get physical.
-How to handle tests.
-How to create a powerful sense of connection.
-And much, much more.
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In the Real World Bootcamp, I will serve as your exclusive
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the street. If you want to learn all the complex dynamics of
attracting a woman and taking her through all the stages of the
rollercoaster, then it's best to learn from someone who's actually
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what he's talking about so that he can fill in all the CONTEXT
that's missing from what you might be reading elsewhere. You can now
do that in my ONE-ON-ONE bootcamps where I will work exclusively
with you in real venues such as clubs, malls, streets, cafes, and
even trains and buses.
The bootcamp will get you to where you want to be in the most
efficient manner possible. I'll teach you HOW to deal with all the
unpredictable situations that can arise, I'll show you HOW to deal
with challenges such as loud music where it's difficult to be heard,
and HOW to actually isolate girls, HOW to deal with her friends, and
of COURSE how to pick up in daytime as well. And you'll also get to
learn how to REALLY create a natural vibe to the whole interaction
so that she doesn't feel weird about meeting you the next time.
I wish somebody could have taught me all this stuff at one shot over
a weekend instead of having to learn it piece by piece, from various
different guys and from tons of my own mistakes and experiences over
YEARS. During those years, it was often like walking blindfolded
into the lion's cage, where I got ripped apart. If you want to avoid
the feeling of being punched in from all sides at once, and if you
want to learn as fast as possible, I recommend you sign up for the
bootcamp as soon as you can.
Go to:
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3.The Dating
Wizard Live Seminar
If you want to learn HOW to do all this in a comfortable seminar
style environment, then I recommend my DATING WIZARD LIVE SEMINAR,
[Date and place to be announced soon!]
This is your chance to get the most advanced understanding and skill
on this topic on earth. This is not a seminar where I am just
talking, I will be interacting with you, taking your questions, and
there will even be a component of the seminar where clients get to
prove that what they have learned actually works, as they pick up
women for real.
To find out more, go to:
Live Seminars Information Page
Till next time,
Michael W.
To find out all about Michael, his book, and his consultation services,
check out
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