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The Dating Wizard Website A lot of guys think that
success with women is about “fooling” women into something. As if
women needed to be “conned” into being with a guy.
The reason guys think this is because they don’t the know the TRUTH
about how women are, and what life is really like for a typical
attractive woman who has seen all the macho stuff and the nice guy
stuff a million times.
Well the truth is, you don’t need to “lie” to attract women, and you
don’t even need to be a jerk. The problem though, is that most guys
FREEZE UP THEIR REAL PERSONALITY when around women.
And some guys actually have had their personality “FROZEN” for a long
long time.
Sometimes, kids have their self-esteem bruised as children and it
shows in all their interactions. But the bruised self-esteem is not
their REAL personality- underneath is the REAL personality that’s
scared to come out.
Others just feel low self-esteem around women. And still others don’t
have low self-esteem, but still act “artificial” around women, as if
women were not fellow human beings with a sense of humor, and with a
human attraction to that which is full of life and vitality.
A lot of these beliefs come from misguided concepts of women that were
given to us as children. Simply put, women are not these fragile,
immaculate, needy, weak creatures!
Yes, they are human! And they want to deal with your REAL personality-
and for one thing, that means not being this hyper aggressive macho
man, and also not being this ass-kissing wimp.
IT’S TIME TO UNLEASH YOUR REAL PERSONALITY, AND LET IT FLOW REGARDLESS
OF WHAT YOU FEAR WOMEN WILL THINK.
If guys just UNDERSTOOD this, they would go a long way to better
success with women. When most guys are being “sweet” it is not
authentic- it is ass-kissing. Let me give you an example of how to be
GENUINELY “sweet”: After a woman has been really GOOD to you, reward
her when she least expects it by SURPRISING her with something she
loves. It could be her favourite cheesecake, or your deluxe massage.
THAT will have MEANING to her.
I believe that most guys unleash ZERO percent of their REAL
personality when they are with a woman.
In fact, I believe that guys are actually CONVEYING the ABSOLUTE
OPPOSITE of what they REALLY are, in order to not get rejected.
Reminds me a bit of that movie The Mask, with Jim Carrey, where he
seems to be this nerd, but when he puts on a special mask, his REAL
personality FLOODS out, and hot women LOVE him.
His real personality is FUN, it’s wild, it’s not mean and it’s not
weak. What do you like? What do you hate? What are your favourite
books and movies? Why? Do have a favourite sport? Why? What’s funny to
you? Are you passionate about any issues? Do you have any passionate
goals in life? What are the things that have had the greatest impact
on your values?
All this stuff is part of who you ARE. It’s what makes you funny,
exciting, interesting, unique, intriguing, and COMPELLING. But most
guys come across as completely ROBOTIC with women. Like they were Mass
produced off an assembly line:
They stare at a gorgeous woman for ten minutes and then, maybe, just
maybe, they open their mouth.. and say: “Hi, you look beautiful”.
Now, to be HONEST with
you, even THAT statement is more than most guys say. Most guys say
NOTHING. And I can actually go up to a woman and tell her she is
beautiful in a way that makes it clear I am NOT kissing up, and that
instead
I am just confident about it and starting a conversation. It has to do
with my tonality and pitch and pace and body language.
However, I don’t usually do this, and I don’t recommend most guys
begin this way with a woman.
I mean think about it, how much does a generic compliment that she
gets very often from every other guy say about YOU as an individual,
especially to a woman that hears that compliment all the time?
It says very little about you, very little COOL stuff about you. And
it usually also makes the woman feel a bit SUSPICIOUS if not BORED.
Most guys show one billionth of one percent of their REAL personality
when they approach a woman or interact with a woman they want to meet.
Instead of having FUN and ENJOYING the interaction, they worry about
doing it PERFECTLY.
And of course, the desire for perfection SHUTS down the ability to be
“natural” and relaxed.
Don’t get it SAVVY. Just get it SAID.
That way, you’ll eventually get savvy.
Sure, in the beginning, it can really help to have funny, interesting
things memorized to say to women in different situations, so that you
can be RELAXED enough to not have to worry about what to say.
But what will strike a woman as most powerful ultimately will be what no
one else can do except you- and that is to reveal that one of a kind
personality that is the product of your experiences, your life, and your
mind.
Kissing up to women is not natural- it’s something learned.
Being bitter to women is not natural- it’s something learned.
Being nervous around women is not natural- it’s something learned.
You can UNLEARN all this stuff by taking small steps everyday at
“sticking your neck out” in showing your REAL personality. So for
example, if I see an attractive woman buying candy at the counter, I
always think it’s hilarious, because I have these visions of them acting
all restrained in public and stuffing their faces with candy in private.
It’s not about being hilarious- it’s about having fun. I might say
“that’s it-you’ve had enough and now you’re ending it-with candy”. Or
“nice- keeping the personal trainer employed”. Or “awww, isn’t that
cute, a girl’s best friend”. Or “oh-oh, better buy a new scale” (if she
clearly is attractive).
The point is that I am neither being a jerk, nor kissing up. I’m just
having a good time being myself, knowing that women are humans and not
fragile little immaculate glass creatures.
Being yourself is rare these days.
One of the main reasons women are often attracted to jerks is because at
least jerks are being REAL. They aren’t trying to copy anybody, they
don’t think or worry about getting a woman’s approval. The other reason
is because jerks are a CHALLENGE- and women NEED a challenge in a world
full of pathetically easy guys.
But you don’t have to be a jerk to be REAL and to be a challenge.
Women would rather be with a cool guy who is real, who is passionate
about life, and who is not an ass-kisser than be with a guy who is a
jerk. You just have to be confident in your OWN personality and not be
apologetic for it. The irony is that the guys who have the least to be
apologetic for, are the ones who are the most apologetic.
These days, everybody is trying to copy somebody. Some guys try to copy
the rapsters, acting cool. Other guys try to copy the latest trend in
clothing.
Be an ORIGINAL.
Put some thought into expressing YOURSELF in everything you do.
Express the cool things about yourSELF- if you love a certain type of
music, don’t hide it. If you love a certain type of fashion, wear it. If
you are funny, you don’t have to hide it. If that is not really you,
copying someone is LAME.
Now, to TURBO CHARGE your sexiness, you need to understand something
else too:
All of us have a certain amount of power to confirm a woman’s sense of
sexual worth. Just as women have this power for men.
So for example, if a guy tells a woman she is beautiful, he confirms
(usually for the trillionth time) that she has him too. If she GETS this
feeling from him, it’s worth very little, but if she DOES NOT get this
feeling from him, the PRESSURE is MASSIVE.
In other words, it makes her value a confirmation from him much much
more, when it doesn’t come easily from him. This confirming feedback is
far more powerful than the actual sex itself.
This is why if a guy is a “nice guy”, a woman does not need to earn his
affection, since she ALREADY HAS IT. And so she dumps him as soon as she
gets his confirmation that she is sexy- and so it ends before it starts.
Sexual power comes NOT from having sex with someone, but from
withholding the knowledge of whether you want to or not.
This is where you have to be careful. If this is done wisely, it can
lead to explosive sex. If done without restraint, it can create
stalkers, and obsessions.
You don’t want that.
But remember, MOST guys tend to GIVE ALL THEIR “SEXUAL CURRENCY” away to
a woman, IMMEDIATELY. This is not wise, and as you may have noticed,
women NEVER do this. They milk their sexual currency for all its worth.
How many times have you heard about a guy who is buying a woman all
kinds of stuff, and who is being mistreated, and yet she has not even
made it clear if she likes him or not?
The guy is banking EVERYTHING on her, in the HOPES of getting some
confirming feedback that he is desirable, while SHE is banking NOTHING
on him, while she gets EVERYTHING anyway from him- she gets his
confirmation of her sexual worth, plus all the other freebie goodies!
In the end, you are your own best PR rep. You have to make the MOST of
your worth, so don’t give it all away for nothing- that just leads to a
woman under-appreciating you. Does this mean to never get “sweet” or
“intimate”? Does it mean you should not try to develop a special
“connection”? NO, it does NOT mean that.
But in order for a woman to APPRECIATE you being “sweet”, in order for
her to WISH she can have a special connection with you, she must first
DESIRE you!
Just being “sweet” right off the bat is MEANINGLESS to her. If she’s
attractive, she has ENDLESS “sweet” guys who are desperate and that’s
why they are being sweet. So it’s all a matter of not putting the cart
before the horse.
This applies every step of the way from first interaction to getting
physical, to marriage if you ever decide that is what you want.
 And if you are reading this right now and want to know all the ways to
SKYROCKET your sexual desirability to a woman, I suggest you take a
personal one-on-one workshop with me, where you will get to learn and
use this technology first hand in the real world. You’ll see how easy it
can be to apply these concepts, INSTANTLY, on real women.
Let me show you EXACTLY how to use your body language, your tonality,
and the actual words you say to create true feelings of ATTRACTION in
women. Anywhere, anytime- from situations where women are alone to
situations where they are with their friends.
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