Michael W - The Dating Wizard: The Spell To Dating Success
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Michael W: In this article we are going to witness one man's re-awakening to his true self, and the success with women that comes with this change! It's exciting stuff!
Letter from a satisfied, rejuvenated man.
Hi Michael,
I emailed you a few months back. I found your articles, books and CDs after my wife (who I had been dating or married to for 10 years) had left me because she wasn't sexually attracted to me and she had told me she had been cheating on me throughout our marriage...
Anyways, I am slowly starting to become the man, and even though I haven't taken a lot of "action" to change, I have completely changed the way I "think" about myself, women, and relationships and this new paradigm has completely changed my life.
It is incredible that by wearing stylish clothes and walking and talking like "the man" how differently women respond to you. It's amazing the number of girls that check me out (I live on Miami Beach) or even approach me when I walk in a confident and masculine manner.
Within a week of acting like this girls began smiling and saying hi, and for the first time in my LIFE a girl told me I was really hot (and this was a complete stranger, no girlfriend had ever told me that before).
So... about 6 weeks ago, a girl at work (who is younger than me and is married) told me that she didn't really know what it was but since I had gotten divorced I was a million times cooler and she can't believe how lucky she is to have such a cool boss and she wanted me to go out with one of her friends and if this one didn't work out she had other friends she wanted me to date.
She kept telling how nice the girl was and I like practicing implementing your material so I didn't really care what the girl looked like so I said yes.
The girl called me, and I told her where and when I wanted to go out, and to come pick me up because in general women take too long to get ready and I wasn't going to wait around for her at her house or at a restaurant.
The girl picked me up and she was drop-dead gorgeous. She is taller than me, skinny, and just straight up beautiful. When she came to pick me up, all the valet guys were teasing me about dating such a beautiful young woman.
The whole night the only thing that went through my head was "oh my god, she's so f****** hot" over and over and over again. Turns out she has recently done some photo shoots and some of the pictures may be in a magazine soon.
If I wasn't familiar with your material - I would have messed it up for sure by being a "nice" guy, but I just played it really cool, didn't act too interested, never complemented her, didn't look at her a lot and gave very little validating feedback.
On subsequent dates I physically escalated, which was very very very hard for me because I have a strong religious background and grew up with stringent sexual morals. But each time I just went a little bit further and a little bit further and after a couple times of getting physical there wasn't any further to go if you know what I mean...
And the whole time she would always tell me what a good girl she was and how I was such a bad boy. Our relationship is mostly physical and she always tells me how sexy I am and how attracted she is to me, wow... i can't believe it, she is 5 years younger than my ex-wife, 3 inches taller, 10 lbs lighter, 3 dress sizes smaller and much more attractive (even though my ex-wife is hot) and she is very sexually attracted to me and thinks i'm good in bed, while my ex-wife was not sexually attracted to me and thought i was bad... and all that is different about me is the way i treat women... simply amazing, I've only been divorced for about 4 months now - and i was completely shattered, devastated and slightly suicidal when my wife left me- if that's not a rebound then I don't know what is and I owe nearly all the credit to you for teaching me nature's way and for unprogramming me from being a fake nice guy!!!!
I know I have a long way to go to becoming "the man"... I haven't even started trying pick-up yet, and this girl tells me all the time that I'm way too serious, but it seems that the road to becoming "the man" is paved with 10s, and...well, its going to be an exciting journey!!!
Oh yeah, and ever since my ex-wife found out that I'm with a smoking hot young chick, she is sure we can fix our relationship by having sex a couple times a week... and I totally shot her down.
You see, it turns out there are NO good guys. There are nice guys and there are assholes and that is it.
A good guy is so rare, he can have any girl he wants.
James
Michael W. >>>MY COMMENTS<<<
Man! First of all, CONGRATS for changing your life so massively around, and you're not even close to finishing your awesome development!!!!
There's nothing like the pain of having someone you love betray you and tear your heart to shreds. And yet, the FUEL this can be in your life if you learn to channel it in a POSITIVE way and let it be a MOTIVATING force for making you reach your TRUE potential. 99% of men never reach anywhere CLOSE to their full potential with women.
Now, there's several things here that you mentioned that I'd like to comment on:
The first thing is that it's clear from your letter that the ONLY thing that's making the difference here is the way YOU have changed your behavior.
Same guy made up of the same atoms and molecules, but before you got zero compliments from women, no women said you were hot, and you got abuse from a woman you loved, and now you are getting compliments from women, women saying you are hot, and women saying how awesome you are in bed.
This is what it's all about, man. Awesome!
The next thing I want to mention, that is even MORE important, is how you end your letter by saying how a good guy is so rare, he can have any girl he wants.
EXACTLY, because most guys are either "nice" or they are "a**holes" and BOTH are actually WEAK. But a guy who is actually A GOOD GUY, is good out of a position of strength, out of NOT being needy, etc. He is truly strong. A**holes and "nice guys" are both acting out of insecurity and the neediness to protect a fragile ego.
Again, bravo, man.
The fact you didn't kiss up or try to overly validate her is NOT about putting her down, as some wannabe dating gurus think with their sugar coated insults to women.
It's NOT about being a "hard-ass", it's about being EMOTIONALLY strong and seeing your OWN infinite value, not in a egotistical way, but in a way of maximum self-respect.
No woman and no thing except for the force that controls all life (call It what you will, from Nature to God or whatever) has the power to STRIP you of your OWN emotions and self-esteem and emotional independency unless you LET it.
No woman, no matter how beautiful, should ever be your "drug lord" or own you or be on a pedestal. This does not mean however, that you should not give a human being who respects you MAXIMUM respect as well.
And this is a very sexy thing, to be STRONG enough to NOT NEED the external beauty stuff so bad.
Now, the thing is, in the beginning, you might be acting a bit. You mentioned yourself that you were saying how "hot" she was, and you had to hold back from doing what you normally would do. Because of this, I already know that you were for sure NOT being mean to her at all.
In your veins, you were still liking her, and that's good. It prevents you from ever really being a jerk. It makes sure that you still do things that show you do like her, through your body language, (your body language always shows your thoughts and emotions no matter what) and this gives her the right healthy degree of validation she needs.
What she thought was cool was the fact you were being strong and not being a SLAVE to it.
And more importantly, this "holding back" is GOOD for YOU at this stage of your development. Forget about the woman for a second, and the fact that this helps you get the woman.
The only reason it helps you get the woman is NOT because you seem to be a jerk, it's because YOU seem to be STRONGER than most guys who are willing to give over their balls to a creature just because it's female and beautiful.
That is not cool.
So the idea is that you TRULY start to disconnect from being so needy for the physical, as opposed to just ACTING like it.
THIS is what is cool, sexy, and attractive. Also, when you DO decide to be warm and loving once you ARE so much stronger and less needy then it means SO MUCH MORE to a woman, because she feels that you are truly connecting to HER, not just to her BODY.
And I can hear a million guys asking me now, "but then if I don't need her so much, then what's the big deal if I have her?" And the answer is EXACTLY, it's NOT the biggest deal in the world. And when you get THAT, you get the major EPIPHANY that changes your life so that you're no longer acting and the women come even easier, and you become even MORE selective about things like character because you already know you can get the looks.
If you'd like to learn how to develop yourself this way so that you truly have infinite choice with women and you are NOT acting at all, then I seriously suggest you get my Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship Program. It's the most advanced program when it comes to learning how to attract the best quality type of women without having to ACT at all.
It's here.
To get the FASTEST results possible, learn LIVE and IN PERSON. That way, I can find out EXACTLY what you need to master and I can work with you on ONLY those things with laser-beam focus.
And if you haven't yet downloaded my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women, then do that NOW.
It's here.
Till next time,
Michael
"The Dating Wizard's: Spell To Dating Success" article series. When you are able to accept that a woman might potentially not like you, you are then able to let go of being overly concerned with this fear.
This series of articles (listed here) are a small part of the information contained in "The Secrets To Success With Women (more info)" ebook and "The Seduction Mastery Apprentice Program (more info)" on CD/DVD.
