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The Dating Wizard Website I have a question for
you:
What can no woman get enough of?
It’s NOT what you think.
What would you say if I were to tell you that almost NOTHING is what
it seems, and that attraction is DEFINITELY one of those things?
What women cannot get enough of is SELF-ESTEEM, and they will do
ANYTHING to get it, and if they already have it, (which is awesome
and what I recommend to all people) they want to get more of it,
they want to ENHANCE it.
In fact, all humans want self-esteem more than anything else.
For the most part, sexual attraction is just ONE MORE MANIFESTATION
of this truth.
Very little of sexual desire has to do with sex itself. Instead,
just like every other human emotion, sexual desire is inextricably
bound with and affected by how we feel it will boost or lower our
SELF-ESTEEM.
Yes, self-esteem. Self-esteem is everything.
That’s the reason people are willing to do extreme things for that
feeling of self-worth. It’s the reason that people who have
everything but freedom are often willing to die for that freedom.
Hold on with me here for a sec as I get a bit “deep”. Trust me that
it has EVERYTHING to do with attraction.
What do people want more than sex, food, expensive houses, cars,
fame, and money?
And why is it that so often SO MANY of the people that seem to have
ALL those things listed above seem miserable or ruin their lives
with drugs or other short term escapes that cause only more problems
long term? Why is it that some people are even willing to sacrifice
their health in the long run in order to get a quick desperate shot
of self-esteem in the short run?
First and foremost, people want to feel GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES. A
good word for this is self-esteem, but to be blunt, they just want
to feel “good” about themselves. Or to be even more blunt, they just
want to feel “good”/at peace, etc.
They want this feeling so badly, that they will do anything to get
it. Immediately. Even if that thing will cause LESS SELF-ESTEEM
later, if that is their only choice.
Now, ONCE people have self-esteem, THEN they want to experience tons
of awesome emotions, ranging from excitement, curiosity, intrigue,
laughter, amazement, bonding, friendship, challenge, personal and
spiritual growth, etc.
Without feeling good about ourselves, without feeling this “good”
feeling, we don’t care as much about the other emotions. For
example, food doesn’t even taste that good when you are feeling
down.
Having money, cars, houses, fame, all this only feels good if you
ALREADY feel good about yourself.
If you ALREADY feel
good about yourself, then you tend to ENHANCE the experience of the
taste of food, or the joy of any other sensation. That’s why
restaurants or fast food chains market the friendly ATMOSPHERE and
the ATTITUDE just as much as the food. And of course, the food is
given as much VISUAL pizzazz as possible, so that it looks VISUALLY
appealing, and there is a rich SOUNDTRACK with the sound of SIZZLING
steaks, CRISP lettuce, etc. All this has nothing necessarily to do
with taste, but the associations with taste are there, and now
planted in your mind. It’s as if you can TASTE it in your MIND. See
how much of it has nothing to do with the ACTUAL taste?
These things (i.e. food) or experiences (i.e. fame) kind of ENHANCES
your “feeling good”, if you already feel good, but it does not MAKE
you feel good, unless you are convinced that it WILL make you feel
good or that it DOES feel good. Usually, though, this convincing is
temporary unless you already feel good.
Otherwise, it’s not
much at all. If you are not ALREADY feeling good, these things might
TEMPORARILY feel good as a distraction from yourself, and as a
novelty, but they will wear thin and it’s back to not feeling good.
So let me tell you EXACTLY what this has to do with attraction.
ATTRACTION IS NOTHING MORE THAN WANTING SOMETHING OR SOMEONE THAT WE
FEEL/BELIEVE WILL GIVE US AWESOME EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES.
This is why you want anything. You don’t want a fancy car because
you want to drive something that costs more. You want it because you
feel it will FEEL GOOD.
In fact, VERY LITTLE OF
ANY EXPERIENCE has to do with the experience itself and EVERYTHING
to do with what you BELIEVE THE EXPERIENCE WILL MAKE YOU FEEL.
And this, my friends, is the reason corporations spend BILLIONS OF
DOLLARS every year advertising their products and services in a way
that has almost NOTHING to do with the product itself, but rather
with ASSOCIATING that product or service with AWESOME EMOTIONS.
And although there are MANY awesome emotions from the feeling of
riding a roller coaster, to the feeling of watching a real dramatic
and sometimes even bittersweet movie, what is the MOST IMPORTANT
EMOTION?
That’s right, it’s SELF-ESTEEM. Or let’s just call it “feeling good
about ourselves”.
When you think of Nike, do you think rubber soles and cloth?
Or do you think “Just do it”?!
i.e. SUCCESS, OVERCOMING OBSTACLES, ACCOMPLISHMENT, WINNER,
ADRENALINE, EXCITEMENT.
When it’s freezing winter outside, and you pass a 7-11 with pictures
of steaming coffee and hot sandwiches, you think COMFORT and the
CONTRAST between how good that would feel compared to how frozen you
feel at the moment.
If you pass by a store like Guess, and you notice the expressions on
the people in the posters, they look like they are TOTALLY IN
CONTROL, totally superior, totally desired, absolutely not needy.
They almost look spaced out. What do you think THAT makes people
feel? It makes them want to be as SUPERIOR and COOL AND thus “feel
good about themselves” by WEARING THOSE SAME CLOTHES.
Cell phones are marketed as tools for FREEDOM, with folks climbing
mountain tops and yet staying connected with the world, instead of
marketed as what they often REALLY are- i.e. endless distractions
most of the time. Also, they are marketed as ways to keep
FRIENDSHIPS and FAMILY BONDS.
Hmmm, so I guess if you DON’T use one, you’re GUILTY of not being a
friendly person or caring about your family.
And that would mean low self esteem.
By the way, I’m not here to bash advertising, I used to create ads
and I actually appreciate and enjoy some of it, especially the
public service messages.
But my point is, LOOK AT HOW POWERFUL THE EMOTION OF SELF-ESTEEM IS.
People want it so bad, that COMPANIES ARE SPENDING BILLIONS OF
DOLLARS ON MAKING PEOPLE THINK IT CAN BE BOUGHT.
And if they weren’t successful at making people believe this, these
companies wouldn’t spend one PENNY on it. Trust me, profit and the
free market are RUTHLESS forces, and if the “self-esteem” strategy
didn’t work, they would STOP it.
Now, above and beyond self-esteem, which is the FOUNDATION without
which one cannot experience all the OTHER enjoyable emotions, those
other enjoyable emotions are very powerful as well.
We WANT to experience excitement, freedom, intrigue, love,
friendship, bonding, etc.
And that’s why again, BILLIONS of dollars are spent associating
products with these emotions. Why the heck do people need SUV’s in
the city? Not that many mountains and dirt trails in the city. Yet
look just a bit and you’ll find some granny driving an SUV who
wouldn’t have it any other way.
Hmmm.
Let’s see.
We got emotions like POWER, FREEDOM, PRESTIGE, RESPECT etc, from the
marketing of SUV’s.
Maybe that’s why granny loves ‘em. Or how about that car called the
Intrigue? Can anyone say the name Bond, that intriguing individual?
I could go on infinitely with this, so I think you get the picture
here.
Okay, so get ready for the big one now, and how this DIRECTLY
relates to attraction in all its forms, including sexual attraction.
Just like the way people’s desire to buy cars, running shoes, and
even burgers is OVERWHELMINGLY AFFECTED by the degree to which
people think those things will give them first and foremost
self-esteem, and also give them all the other enjoyable emotions, SO
TOO OUR ATTRACTION TO OTHERS IS BASED ON WHAT WE FEEL THAT SPECIFIC
PERSON WILL MAKE US FEEL IN TERMS OF SELF-ESTEEM, and to a lesser
degree, all the OTHER enjoyable emotions.
Ultimately, the greatest “attraction power” you have is actually
your power to MAKE A WOMAN FEEL THAT BEING WITH YOU WOULD MAKE HER
FEEL AWESOME ABOUT HERSELF.
That’s right, about HERSELF.
This is where so many guys screw up:
The ass-kissing guy comes across as HAVING NO INTRINSIC WORTH, so
therefore when he acts NICE to a woman, it’s MEANINGLESS.
It doesn’t make her feel better about herself, since she figures “a
guy who is not desirable desires me”.
She doesn’t feel good from this.
She doesn’t want to chase this.
Thus, there is NO ATTRACTION.
And yet, the TOTAL JERK isn’t much better, because he is such a jerk
that she gives up hope of getting him to treat her well. Mind you,
some very low self esteem women believe that this is as good as they
can get, so they still are satisfied, though not thrilled, to have
the guy at all. It’s still giving them SOME self-esteem since they
tend to believe the guy must have intrinsic worth.
The idea is to make a woman feel GOOD about the thought of being
with you so that she CHASES you. She has to feel that SHE would feel
awesome if she could be with you.
By the way, THIS makes her enjoy sex far more than anything else.
She feels you are a desirable guy, so being with you raises her
self-esteem, and that high self-esteem makes her enjoy sex. I hate
to use this analogy, but it’s kinda the same way you enjoy a burger
more when you are in a good mood. Or better yet, the way YOU enjoy
sex more when you are in a good mood and feel good about yourself.
And the irony is that the best way to make her feel good about the
idea of having you is by you working on YOURSELF, especially your
internal beliefs.
Since so much of attraction is based on what one projects and
believes is superior, you better do a damn good job of working on
your OWN beliefs about yourself, and about the world around you, and
what you feel is superior and what isn’t.
Remember, this is like the MATRIX. It’s all in our MINDS.
If YOU project that someone else is superior to you, that is the
reality that women will feel is true, since that is what you will
project. Whoever does a better job of MARKETING their INTRINSIC
SELVES as DESIRABLE, wins.
And once you do that, THEN you can begin to give her your “arsenal”
of awesome emotions like laughter, intrigue, excitement, drama, etc.
Then, all these emotions will mix together into one "symphony of
attraction" that is OVERWHELMING.
That is what THE MAN is all about. It's all about making the best
impact possible.
Hey, as guys, we all already try to do this. We wear clothes that we
think are sexy. We brush our teeth. We try to do what we THINK
works.
But...
What if there was a way to take your attraction power to a WHOLE NEW
LEVEL?
What if there was REALLY a way to do this, to build up the skills to
give women these awesome emotions at will, that involved absolutely
no hocus pocus?
What if this WHOLE NEW LEVEL involved a NEW WAY OF THINKING for
yourself, a new way of communicating with women, and involved NO
manipulative tactics on women?
What if I could show you a way to MASSIVELY CHANGE YOUR BELIEFS IN A
SUPER POWERFUL AND POSITIVE WAY, and do it QUICKLY?
What if it everything I teach is based on SOLID PRINCIPLES, based on
a concept as powerful as simply REALLY understanding women and
GIVING WOMEN WHAT THEY REALLY WANT INSTEAD OF WHAT THEY DON’T
WANT???????
What if what women really wanted is something the MEDIA can’t even
understand, never mind TELL YOU.
 What if it involved creating an EMOTIONAL PLACE SO AWESOME AND RICH
WITH INCREDIBLE AND POWERFUL FEELINGS that women COMPETED with each
other to get a chance at being with you?
If you would like to learn the healthy approach to attraction,
without manipulative creepy tactics, I recommend you download my
eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women. Inside, I
show you how to get your mind in the right gear, and I explain
crucial concepts about how the mind works so that you can use this
in your favour. At the same time, this book also explains how to
approach women and not trigger their socially programmed defenses
that say, "I don't talk to guys".
You will learn how to approach women and attract them, and there is
even a special section on relationships with info that I believe is
not in any eBook out there today.
Download it now at:
The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women book page
Till next time,
Michael W.
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