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We've received many emails asking us
about what we suggest are safe topics to talk about when on a first,
second or third date. After all, you don't want to show yourself as an
unkind moron or snob-nosed prick before you give your date a really good
opportunity to get to know you. Those conversation topic suggestions can
be found on
this other page. Here,
we want to discuss what we feel are things that you should never, under
any circumstances, say to your date during the first 3 to 6 dates you
have, should you make it so far. The topics and subjects that are on this
page are sure fire ways to end any future chance of a next date, as well,
they will probably end the date you are currently on rather quickly:
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You're wearing 'that'?!
- Never, ever ask if that is what they, he or she, is wearing when going
out with you. Hopefully they are trying to dress to impress you and
think what they have on is OK to wear to the event you have planned.
Leave it as such. Such a question can be safely asked only after the 4th
to 6th date. And only then if your own "personal
style" is up to snuff.
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Something smells funny.
- For your first 3 dates, at a minimum, everything smells great.
Perfumes and colognes are not too harsh, strong or overwhelming when
worn by your date. They are always just right or maybe even "a little
subtle" is your answer if asked. Pungent, rude and even disgusting odors
are the same. You don't mention them unless they are pointed out to you,
unless the bad odor may seem to come from you, then a small "Ugh" is
acceptable, just so you can show that the odor comes from elsewhere. You
don't want to seem to be a gassy person, do you?
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When
meeting people in a crowd of strangers at a party or social gathering
that your date has taken you to (maybe a party at one of her/his
friend's or boss's) never comment negatively
about anyone there. You may
never know who might be a well-thought of friend, ex-romance partner or
supervisor, and if you want to get to the next date, everyone there is a
great person and could be your next best friend or traveling buddy.
Believe us, it's one of the ways to not offend your date about his/her
lifestyle before dating you. And if you fail here you might as well
throw out their phone number and email address too.
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Never comment on your
date's driving habits. Never,
not ever. Don't do it. Maybe, years after you've married him/her, you
can (in an off-hand kind of way) mention that they should drive a little
more, or a little less, aggressively. But never during the time you are
dating. This is a best bet to start a fight.
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Cleanliness may be next
to Godliness but life is messy.
If you start talking about the poor condition they keep their apartment,
house, condominium or any other type of residence that they live in, be
prepared to be "washed right out of their hair!" It's is sometimes OK to
show your disapproval by tidying up a pile of magazines or newspapers,
but to say, "Geesh, you sure are messy" or anything to that effect, you
will put yourself onto the path on singleness once again. Guaranteed.
You are now (possibly) a couple and it takes two people to keep
something clean to both of yours' satisfaction. So, unless you're
cleaning, you're making a mess, no matter what. And until you're staying
the night, stay away from the "messy" topics of living.
So here you have it. The worst things
to say on a date, or even "the best things to do or say to start a fight
with the person you are dating". These are all potential date enders and
relationship breakers.
Remember what you've read here today.
You've been warned.
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