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Valentine's Day:
Bringing Romance To The Unromantic
Beating yourself
up (and maybe your partner too) because of their unromantic appreciation
of Valentine's Day is not the way to celebrate. Not at all.
If romance is
stale in your relationship one way to re-invigorate the type of love you
once shared is by sharing the parts of your lover's life that has become
special to them, in your 'apart-ness'. Now then, I'm going to take a big
leap here and say that you're reading this because you DO want to bring
romance back into your relationship and you need to know a couple of
ways how to do it.
You need to pay
attention, for a couple of weeks in advance of Valentine's Day, to what
the love of your life does with their time. Interests, watching on TV,
surfing to on the web, conversations and short stories of interest that
you share, these will all be clues to sparking a return to romance. Some
people say that a tool-box or cookware is unromantic. To them I say
"Hogwash!"
The rule for a
well received gift, one that won't be re-gifted or quickly forgotten, is
that the gift should have memorable aspects to it, depending on the
person it should be useful, wearable, displayable or doable. If you love
a mechanic would a fancy toolbox, with all kinds of drawers and holders
and pictures of you inside, not be considered a great romantic gift? I
think it would. If the person you love enjoys cooking, would not some
fancy cooking pans, and cookbooks make a great gift? Be sure to add
bookmarks to your favorite recipes that you want to share too. Maybe
even personalize the cookbook by placing on the cover a picture of the
both of you.
Romance is all
around you. And when you're dealing with someone you consider
unromantic, talk a walk in their shows and 'transform' the ordinary into
the romantic to make your mark. This is love.
The Valentine Gift
Dilemma: Making The Right Gift Choice
Finding the right
type of Valentine gift is usually trouble for couples that have just
started dating. By this I mean seeing each other exclusively or
semi-exclusively (more than friends anyways) for three months or less.
What type of gift
ways "I love you" without making a larger promise of commitment that you
may not be ready to make?
Safe Valentine's
Day gifts include, of course, greeting cards, flowers and candy. Keep
the added message to something simple as "You bring joy to me everyday"
or "I'm happy to be a part of your life" and end with the "I Love You""
message. Simple and safe. No forward-looking committal.
What type of gift
says "I love you" and that you do want to make a larger commitment,
after which the next step will be a marriage proposal?
Fancy jewelry,
mainly bracelets, pendants and promise rings fit the bill here. And they
will put a dent in your wallet too, but what cost is love anyways?
Valentine's Day
Dinner Date Rules
Having a dinner
date is one of the most popular events on this day. Restaurants are
taking reservations and usually by February 6 it's hard to get a table
at your favorite place. Call early.
Making this dinner
date special requires some forethought. Does the restaurant have a
special meal planned? A special dessert? Something that needs to be
ordered before you arrive?
I have once
surprised my Valentine date with having a bouquet of roses waiting on
the table as we are seated. And another time with a bottle of champagne
in a wine cooler stand.
There are many
ways to add a gift surprise to your Valentine dinner date, it just takes
some planning and maybe a quick phone call ahead or a visit. Florists
will deliver to restaurants, as will any other gift you can order to
complete the surprise. Maitre D's will gladly bring out to your table,
at the time of your choosing, the gift you dropped off earlier in the
day.
Most of all relax.
Romance it attitude as much as planning and gift giving/receiving. Never
show impatience, disappointment. Let your smile be your guide and your
love will love you back.
Happy Valentine's
Day!
Valentine's Day Gift Ideas
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