Here
Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women — And How To Make Sure
YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes
These are the mistakes you
need to avoid when meeting and dating women.
1)
Being Too Much Of A "Nice" Guy
Have you ever noticed that the
really attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys?
Of
course you have.
Just like me, I’m sure you’ve had attractive female
friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they
were never romantically interested in YOU.
What’s going on here?
It’s actually very simple.
Women don’t base their choices of men on
how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a
powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice
doesn’t make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. And being nice
doesn’t make a woman choose you.
I realize that this doesn’t make a
lot of logical sense, but get over it. Until you accept this FACT and
begin to act on it, you’ll NEVER have the success with women that you
want.
2) Trying To "Convince" Her To Like You
What do
most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she’s
just not interested?
Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel
differently.
Well, I have news for you...
YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE
HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, ever.
You cannot convince a woman to feel differently about you with "logic
and reasoning".
Think about it.
If a woman doesn’t "feel it" for
you, how in the world do you expect to change that by being "reasonable"
with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn’t interested, we
beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea.
Another one that will never work.
3) Looking For Her
Approval Or Permission
In our desire to please women (which we
mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing
things to get a woman’s "approval" or "permission".
Another HORRIBLE
idea.
Women are never attracted to the types of men who kiss up to
them... EVER.
Don’t get me wrong here. You don’t have to treat women
BADLY for them to like you. But if you think that treating a woman well
means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think
again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval.
4) Trying To Buy Affection
With Food And Gifts
How many times have you take a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her
gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn’t treat
her even HALF as well as you did?
If you’re like me, then you’ve had it happen a lot. Well guess what?
It’s only natural when this happens...
When you do these things, you send a clear message: "I don’t think
you’ll like me for who I am, so I’m going to try to buy your attention
and affection".
Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation
for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation.
5) Sharing How You "Feel" Too Early With Her
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is
sharing how they "feel" too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
They get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don’t realize this, but attractive women are being approached
in one way or another all the time by men.
An attractive woman is often approached several times a day by men who
are interested.
This translate into dozens of times per week, and often hundreds of
times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a lot of men. That’s right. They
have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running
away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You
know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.
This signals to the woman that you’re just like all the other guys who
fall for her too fast... and can’t control themselves. Don’t do it. Lean
back. Relax. There’s a much better way...
6) Not "Getting" How Attraction Works For Her
Women are different from men.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a
sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is
something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell
you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by
things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive
men with beautiful women than the other way around? Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they’re
attracted to the way a man makes them feel than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly,
you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to
you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
But it’s not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this. And ANY guy
can learn how...
7) Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before
they’ve even gotten started... because they think that attractive women
are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a
certain height... or guys who are a certain age.
And sure, there are women who are only interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more interested in a man’s personality than his
wallet or his looks. There are personality traits that attract women
like a magnet...
And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of
these guys.
8) Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women
Earlier I mentioned that it’s a mistake to look to a woman for approval
or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR
POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever
the woman wants.
Another bad idea...
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over. Women
aren’t attracted to Wussies!
9) Not Knowing What To Do In Each Type Of Situation
A woman always knows what you’re thinking.
I know, it might be hard to believe.
But if you’re out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she
knows it.
And if you don’t know HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at
her and getting nervous, she won’t help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...
Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her,
getting physical... everything.
If you don’t know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw
it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
10) Not Getting Help
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success
with women that they truly want.
I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't
like to ask for help.
Hey, I've been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me. About five years ago I became fed up with
the fact that I didn’t know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women
that I was attracted to.
It frustrated the hell out of me.
One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out,
but I just couldn’t get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that
night... I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be
successful with women and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I
finally figured it all out. I can now approach just about any woman and get
her number almost instantly. I’ve dated models, I’ve dated actresses, and
I’ve dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.
It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick,
insecure feeling... like I don’t know how to meet women... and I might wind
up alone.
I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.
I’ve written a book on the topic, and I’ve done seminars on both coasts of
the United States... and taught tens of thousands of men all around the
world.
...and
if you haven't had a chance to download your copy of my online eBook "Double
Your Dating", then you need to do that IMMEDIATELY.
You can download it and be reading
it in just a few minutes from right now.
It's here:
www.doubleyourdating.com
- just follow the 'ebook' link and download your copy.
...and read
it, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
David D.
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my free online men's club and you'll even learn about 'The
Kiss Test', when and how to get the first kiss with the woman you're
with.}
Courtesy 'Double Your Dating' by David D.
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you how well your stuff works" comments, but the fact is that I DO need
to hear all of the specifics... because this helps other guys to see
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