Hump Day’s Motivational Picture
Everything is something. Lika C (photographed by Dolce for Met-Art) is REALLY SOMETHING, I’m sure you’ll agree. There’s more of Lika here (NSFW link).
Lika C by Dolce for Met-Art
Creating Emotional Ties With A Man
Changing him from “love’em and leave’em” to committing his love to you.
If you ever thought that you could have “The One” and then change him into “The One Better” you probably know by now that it just doesn’t happen.
Men don’t change.
But that doesn’t mean you have to change or lower your expectations of a guy, you just have to understand him at his level.
Guy’s aren’t afraid of commitment, there just isn’t a rulebook out there for how they really can “Be a Man” and still “Be the One”.
Read more…
Hump Day’s Motivational Picture
Say HELLO to Suzanna A… a bright light for a sunny day. There’s something about a girl holding flowers that seems so inviting. I love spring.
Suzanna A by Met-Art
As photographed by Goncharov for Met-Art. NSFW
It’s Not The Mistakes: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Secrets of Success With Women and Dating
Mistakes are going to happen.
We weren’t careful enough, we didn’t pay close enough attention… maybe we just thought we’d get away with it.
But the result comes and we are called out on it. Now is the time to deal with it.
Stand up, take whatever results as due for the mistake and move on with your life.
If you’re not moving forward with your life you’re moving backward.
For your personal ad headline today give this a try:
“Another day in paradise.”
Have a great day!
New Research about Facebook Addiction
As Facebook has become as ubiquitous as television in our everyday lives, it is becoming increasingly difficult for many people to know if they are addicted to social media. Andreassen’s study shows that the symptoms of Facebook addiction resemble those of drug addiction, alcohol addiction, and chemical substance addiction.
The Bergen Facebook Addiction Scale is based on six basic criteria, where all items are scored on the following scale: (1) Very rarely, (2) Rarely, (3) Sometimes, (4) Often, and (5) Very often:
•You spend a lot of time thinking about Facebook or plan use of Facebook.
•You feel an urge to use Facebook more and more.
•You use Facebook in order to forget about personal problems.
•You have tried to cut down on the use of Facebook without success.
•You become restless or troubled if you are prohibited from using Facebook.
•You use Facebook so much that it has had a negative impact on your job/studies.
Andreassen’s study shows that scoring “often” or “always” on at least four of the seven items may suggest that you are addicted to Facebook.
Read more.
This Week’s Conversation Topics
You’ve missed a lot this week, and I hope you’re enjoying Chemistry.com‘s Free Communication Weekend too. When you need to have something to talk about this weekend I have the solution for you: the best news stories of the past week. Share to enjoy!
- Octopus eats seagull. Caught on camera by amateur photographer and shared in this video. Bizarre!
- Man impersonates dead mother in scam. Some people will go far for an easy dollar. But this? Manicured nails, lipstick and oxygen mask? Ick! Sorry, no pictures.
- The deeper the tanning salon tan the crazier the mother. In New Jersey this mother is charged with letting her 5 year old girl getting burnt at a tanning salon. BUT you have got to see the pics of this grossly tanned mother! Ick Ick!! Pictures include ugly-mom with light and dark tans. And another reason to avoid that tattoo ink lip liner. Followup: This is tanning mom lashing out after all the todo is made hysterically public.
- You can’t go to college, you’re dead. It’s a hell of a story for your retirement party. Future of high school senior’s plans now on hold or he’s got a helluva reason to bail.
- Kate Upton’s Cat Daddy Dance video. Shake those money-makers!
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Have A Great Relationship Series
How To Show Him You’re A Great Catch
By Rori Raye
Author of best-selling eBook Have The Relationship You Want and free newsletter
So you’ve finally met a man you really like and can see yourself having a relationship with him. You should make an effort to show him you’re a real find, right?
Actually, no. The fantastic thing about being a woman is that getting a man to see how wonderful you are doesn’t involve any effort at all. In fact, it’s all about simply being, not doing.
IT’S NOT WHAT YOU DO, IT’S WHAT YOU ARE
When we meet a great guy, we women often try to do, do, do whatever we can to make him see what a great catch we are. We’ll go out of our way to do things for a man, plan outings together, and sometimes even say yes to things he wants that go against what we want.
You can’t convince a man to fall in love. But you can lead him there by connecting to his heart. One of the most powerful ways to do this is to let yourself be guided by your feminine energy rather than your masculine. Feminine energy is about being instead of doing. When you focus on simply being in the moment and enjoying a man’s company and attention, you automatically shift your vibe so that he can step into the masculine, doer role.
To do that, you must first be open to receive.
A GREAT CATCH LETS A MAN GIVE TO HER
Inspiring a man to see you as the one woman he wants to be with forever is all about you being able to receive love.
Men fall in love when they give to you, not because of how much you give them or do for them. When you shower him with affection, attention, dinners, gifts, and always go out of your way to drive to his place, it makes him think of you as a mother or a friend instead of inspiring his emotional desire for you.
When you are open to receiving from a man, you are sending a message that you value yourself – you believe you are worthy of his time, attention, gestures, and ultimately his love. So resist the temptation to prove your worth by giving and instead create the space for him to give to you.
A GREAT CATCH SETS BOUNDARIES HE NEEDS TO RESPECT
Men are competitive creatures who value what they have to work hard to get. If he gets a sense that you’re completely devoted to him with very little investment on his part, he’ll question your value.
This means you do not give away exclusivity to a man until you have the commitment you want from him. Instead, you keep dating and meeting lots of different men so that you give yourself a chance to find out what you really want and need from a relationship. At the same time, you aren’t prematurely cutting yourself off from your Mr. Right in case you haven’t met him yet!
When you keep the focus on yourself and keep yourself open to other men, you send the message loud and clear that you’re a woman who puts herself first and that you are a prize. This elevates your “degree of difficulty” so he has to step up his game to get you all to himself…or risk another guy beating him to it.
A GREAT CATCH PUTS HERSELF FIRST
The most important thing to remember when you are dating a man and want him to realize how wonderful you are is to put your happiness first.
If you love taking a dance class every Thursday night, don’t give it up just because he’s in the picture and you don’t want him to think you’re not interested. Letting him know you have a life before him actually makes him more attracted to you – not just because you’re not about to drop everything for him, but because people who are passionate about their interests are interesting people!
So, tell him, “It would feel so great to see Thursday, but I have my dance class that night, and I love it. I’m free Tuesday or Friday.” Then ask him what he thinks. It might feel a little scary to do this with a guy you really like, but the right guy will gladly re-arrange his plans to see you. Why? Because you’ve just proven you’re a great catch he has to woo and win.
Rori teaches women how to break out of the patterns that have been keeping them from truly connecting with a man’s heart so that they can experience deep intimacy. To learn specific ways you can step out of the “doing” role in your relationship and into the more feminine energy “feeling” role that is so alluring and magnetic to a man, subscribe to Rori’s free e-newsletter. You’ll discover even more effortless ways to let a man know he’s lucky to have you.
Making Online Dating Success Happen
Three things you must do to make yourself more successful at any online dating service.
Honesty: Many people make the mistake that online dating is just a fantasy experience, not fully realizing that eventually what they say about themselves online needs to match up with what the people they will meet in the real world meet to avoid disappointment.
High Expectations: We are sold the “meet your perfect match” experience which often is not an attainable goal. Not because your perfect match isn’t out there but because you’re looking for the 100% match not the 70% match that allows you the true experience we find in the real world. Dating is part mystery, finding things out about a person to share and learn to love, when possible. Looking only for people who are a perfect match with your ideals will only lead to dating disillusion.
Have Perseverance: There are three things most definitely true in life: death, taxes and you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince (or princess). Online dating mirrors life in that not too much happens when we expect it to happen, but when we are least expecting love, it happens. Take your time and enjoy the single dating life and you’ll enjoy life a lot more than if you act and look desperate.
The 4 Sure Signs Of Confidence That Women Look For In A Man By David DeAngelo
Author of best-selling eBook and free “Dating Secrets” newsletter
I’ve said it a bazillion times… great women don’t see a man as potential “relationship material” based on his looks, money, or cheesy pick-up lines.
When it comes to figuring out if a particular guy might be “Mr. Right,” the first thing most women look for are sure signs of CONFIDENCE. More specifically, the 4 unmistakable, magnetic signals that confident men send a woman the moment they meet her.
Naturally, a man doesn’t need to show them all to get the attention of a great woman… but if he manages to show her just a few, chances drastically increase that she’ll start “feeling it” for him.
So, without further delay, here come the 4 sure signs of confidence that every great woman looks for in a man:
1) An “Easy-Going” Attitude
Listen… “easy-going” does NOT mean being so laid back when you first meet a woman that you’re practically asleep. It also doesn’t mean putting up with any kind of rude or inappropriate behavior.
It means handling the opinions, pressures, and attitudes of others with grace, and coming across as comfortable in your own skin. Even your body language communicates it… a confident man will literally, physically “lay back,” leaning back while keeping his body open and facing forward when conversing.
A confident “real man” also doesn’t obsess about what other people think or do. He doesn’t take it as an insult if someone doesn’t like him, or disagrees with him. Above all, he isn’t needy, clingy, and always trying to be the center of attention.
Basically, this “easy-going” attitude signals a woman that a man is the leader of his own life… everyone else do what they may.
2) He’s “Put Together”
It’s true, a woman will never decide that a man might be “Mr. Right” just because he looks like Brad Pitt… but rest assured she’ll INSTANTLY RULE HIM OUT if he doesn’t look “right”… caring about himself enough to attend to the basics of appearance which communicate a positive, healthy self-image.
Again, this doesn’t mean that a man has to buy trendy clothes… wear a “scent”… or look like an obsessive gym rat.
It DOES mean that he needs to master the basics of good grooming and hygiene. Because, if a man doesn’t have it together enough to attend to his own needs, a quality woman knows right away that there’s NO WAY he can possibly attend to hers.
By the way… this also means being savvy enough to avoid “extremes” in appearance. When first meeting a woman, I recommend dressing neutrally and neatly, neither coming across as a stuffy “suit” or a sandal hound.
Finally: coming across as “put together” means communicating confidence about who you are on the INSIDE as well. You can do it by being able to carry on an interesting conversation about music… food… culture… whatever. Becoming a good conversationalist is a sure sign that you have it all together… that you’re in a healthy, curious, CONFIDENT state of mind.
3) He’s Humble
This is a big one…
Like I always say, any “jerk” can act cocky with a woman… but coming across as CONFIDENT requires something else: the ability to control what you say and do so that you never come across as “above” anyone else.
Sure, a man can act cocky… as long as he’s makes sure that it’s FUNNY (since arrogance without humor equals “jerk” every time). A truly confident man makes fun of HIMSELF above all others, and never “nitpicks” or tries to hurt another person’s feelings.
For example, it’s okay to look across the room at some other guy and say something cocky like, “Look at that guy’s facial hair… I think 1975 wants it back.” But ONLY if he’s HUMBLE enough to add a comment like, “Believe me, I know… mine was just like it.”
4) He Has A Sense of Humor
File this one under “No-Brainer”… a great sense of humor is the most instant, obvious, magnetic force that makes a woman sense a man’s CONFIDENCE… and therefore feel the first sparks of ATTRACTION for him.
That’s why I suggest that guys do whatever they can to cultivate a “comic sensibility”, even it means just reading a few books about the theory and structure of comedy and timing.
I also recommend checking out cutting-edge humor sites like “Funny Or Die” and “The Onion,” or just watching Saturday Night live to understand what’s hip and funny TODAY… because it’s all guaranteed to change and become “lame” TOMORROW.
Add it all up, and the message is clear:
While most men waste time trying to impress women by acting “tough” or “dominant,”… the signs of confidence great women look for are much more subtle… and MUCH more easily achieved.
By focusing on “broadcasting” the four TRUE signs of magnetic “real-man” confidence… the kind of women you want to meet will start sensing that YOU just might be “Mr. Right.”
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Hump Day’s Motivational Picture (NSFW)
For some reason (or other) I’m feeling very good about today… not the usual “drudgery” feeling… It could be because Barbara has stolen my heart… blonde and black lace, how could a guy go wrong?
Barbara D by Alex- Sironi
