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Friends With Benefits Rules

Friends With Benefits

Friends With Benefits

I will say this up front: I don’t agree with “Friends With Benefits” type relationships. Someone always get’s hurt, even if they hide it from themselves (listen up women!).

That being said, here are the rules of FWB recently emailed to me:

1. No-one else is to know of our arrangement – not my family/friends/colleagues or theirs.
2. No going out in public together – EVER.
3. No emotional involvement. IF their emotions became involved, I expected them to say so and back off…I agreed to do the same.
4. The relationships were entirely about sex, skin on skin contact and mutual physical pleasure.
5. No more than two visits per week.
6. Maximum of one sleep over per week.
7. Visits to be arranged by phone on the day of a meeting….no explanations required or to be given if the person called is not available/not interested on that day..a simple, “not today” is all that is required.
8. Dating other people was allowed – FWB relationship was to be called off BEFORE sleeping with anyone else.
9. What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom…what happens outside the bedroom stays outside the bedroom…I don’t want to hear about their work / family woes and I wouldn’t share mine with them.
10. We are each to be responsible for getting our own needs met.
11. If we meet on the street or at a function, we speak politely but do not touch each other or try to arrange a visit.

Does this make it easier or harder to be FWB?

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