A Good Personal Ad Example
How to answer the big questions
You are asked to search your soul for who would be a great match, sometimes you’re asked a series of questions that will help ‘them’ find a great date/mate for you. But if you can’t decide in advance what you want for dinner how can you possibly select ‘a la carte’ the type of person that would be a great match?
Ultimately it comes down to what you see and read to get your attention and attraction and interest.
So what makes a good personal ad? Follow the example and advice below.
1) Describe yourself.
- Sometimes polite, sometimes rash, I enjoy planning as well as spur of the moment styles. If you ask any of my friends they will say that I am quiet, funny and separately serious and comedic. You’ll see the best of me on our first date and the weirdest of me after I meet your family. LOL
- My favorite color is blue and my favorite place to vacation is Mexico. I prefer quiet to crowds and friends to acquaintances You can call me a regular guy and I wouldn’t complain about it, too much.
(it’s ok to be descriptive without giving too much away about yourself. Think of how you’d describe yourself over the phone to an old school pal)
2) Your likes/dislikes.
- Everyone has likes and dislikes, but is it fair to let you decide based on what I write here whether we might be compatible or not? I don’t think so. My answer is: I like you, I dislike this question.
(I honestly hate this type of question and I suggest that you work your way around this question without being too specific, biased, racist, fascist or other, Seriously.)
3) Describe the type of person you’re looking for.
- I am searching for someone that can be a good friend, not a shoulder to cry on, not someone to instantly bare my soul with but someone to share a mutual understanding of life and all the rewards. You will be hard working and soft spoken, strict and caring, an individual that shares. If I were to describe it one word the person I seek it would be “confident” because when you are secure in yourself you can be open with others.
(This is the hardest question to answer, even though many people just write down what they feel ‘at the moment’ which is usually a little insecure and a little more challenged to not offend any potential match. I suggest being direct and also allow your answer to be open to interpretation.)
The most important and relevant advice is I can give you is to be honest and be yourself.
Also, don’t answer anything that makes you uncomfortable.
And enjoy your adventure with online dating!
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Hump Day’s Motivational Picture
Life is a beach
Anything that can make you smile on a day like today is good news and that’s where little Amelia comes in.
Smiling, probably on holiday somewhere warm and foreign. Parents casually soaking up the sunshine.
Life is a beach, or rather, I wish my life was near the beach. Am I right or what?
Today, let us smile and dream of holidays long in the future… somewhere warm.
That’s how we’ll get through today, am I right or what?
This week’s topic: No Greater Love Lost
A woman and a man
For if you have not loved you can not have experienced what we all yearn for, the intimacy of sharing with another person your innermost self; by being at your most vulnerable, more exposed and open to hurt than is otherwise possible you involve yourself completely with another person that is equally open to love and hurt.
This “love vulnerability” is what makes us human and is what brings about our best selves as we involve ourselves with another person and intertwine our lives with theirs.
I wish for you this, the highest level of emotions we can experience, and that true love is yours forever.
Have a great week!
Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Today is a party day!
Has Olympic Fever caught you full force yet? I know that I can’t seem to let even a few minutes slip by without checking on news sites and one of the Canadian Olympic sites about any news of the latest medal events and winners.
It’s OK, the winter Olympics only come every fours years, so we should enjoy the competition, of the best of the best, while we can.
Soon enough we will be back to wars, and rumors of wars, filling the nightly news like before.
We have the future to be hopeful about, don’t we.
With the promise of our future we have hope for what is yet to be in our own lives and how our lives intersect with others.
It is with this promise that we date, searching for the right person to share our time with.
To help you on this future of yours I offer you this dating headline to post today:
“Life is for the living. Let’s Live!”
Have a great day!
Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Smother
“You have a real delicate touch” is the straight-laced quote as Noah talk to his mom in the “Downtown Inn” bar in the movie “Smother“.
Dax Shepard, playing Noah, is just so cynical, and hard-luck-done-by that you have to laugh out loud at some great points of the movie. And the music by The Talking Heads adds a great background, familiar and sweet, to the entire movie.
Watch for multiple “Sammy Higgins” and Marilyn, Dax’s mother played by Diane Keaton, has the funniest line of the movie with “Don’t you want to see your mom naked?”
Why is this relevant, you ask? Simple. If you were as hard done by as Noah, with a wife that wants to get pregnant just as you lose your job, your mom moves in with her 5 adopted dogs all with the same name and your wife’s weird cousin drops in to stay for a while, you’d be pessimistic about your life too.
But that is a movie, a comical take on life that isn’t real. Reality is you, getting serious about your single status and wanting to do something about it.
That’s why you’re here, it’s why I’m here too. Great coincidence, eh?
So, this being “The Dating Profile Headline of the Day” column, I offer to you this headline to post today on your dating profile:
“I am no leaving here until you give me an answer”.
Have a great day!
How to have a coffee date
Rules for your first coffee date
When you make the first date, it’s obvious that no matter how much you have talked with the person through email, instant messenger, skype, phone, you really don’t know much about how they are “in person”.
And I’ve heard all the “I met my soulmate” stories and a lot of them fall apart after the first meeting, leading to very hurtful and awkward feelings later.
My rule is that you don’t really know the person until you’re close enough to smell them.
So your first meeting should be an afternoon date, set to last no longer than 30 minutes.
The date should be in a public place, a coffee shop, donut shop, places that do not serve alcohol and that are not in any hotel restaurant or bar that you or the person you’re meeting is staying in. You don’t want to feel pressured into anything or drinking alcohol that will affect your decision making.
You should have a friend at the ready to either ‘shadow you’ or call you at the thirty minute mark to help you end the date.
You can always extend the date but you should not feel pressure to do that and you should feel safe enough to walk away from the date at any time.
Most people decide within the first minute or two whether what they thought of the person is the same of what they think of them when they meet face-to-face.
Remember to have fun and to decide on the second date, should you have one, the things you really want to do with the person.
Chat Roulette
Yes, it’s true… click, chat. Click, chat. And on you go.
Chatroulette.com is real, although you never know who you’ll see on the other side of the webcam (not necessary but recommended), unless they tell you or they reveal their true identity when they post a little something about themselves, at chatrt.com (the same as www.chatroulette.com) once the application has loaded, it’s flash based, you’ll be all set.
Clean chat or adult?
Chat sounds or just typing?
Auto start?
Click the “change format” to get different layouts that might make it easier to use the site with will also give you better controls to use.
Go now, you know you want to interact with a stranger that wants to chat with a stranger.
Truly an odd thing, but this is what makes the internet such a wonderful thing, right?
What you’ll need;
Flash (test flash or download it here)
Webcam (optional|)
Desire to meet strangers, from anywhere, doing anything.
Update: CNN has a great review of chatroulette that tries to expose the “bad side” of this website but, the web being what it is, whenever you add anonymity to a web-based service, you have people acting out, being anonymously nude among other things.
Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Day dreaming
I am really curious as to what is going on inside your head. So if you get the chance answer me this question:
Why are you still single?
I’m sure that you have a lot going for you. You’re good looking, you dress well and you’re a positive force in the universe.
You are as successful as you want to be, at the things you strive to excel at.
And today, being Monday, you have not only the rest of the week to get through to reach the next weekend, you have the next moment to decide how you will get through the rest of your life.
Isn’t this a very true perspective on life? What you do in this moment inevitably leads to what you can do in the moment that follows.
Just as the headline that you post with your personal ad profile will lead to the person that the very same headline will attract.
Choose wisely.
To attract the person that just might end your single life, I suggest that you post this:
“I can’t believe that this is how we met. Can you?”
Have a great day!
Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Valentine Day Hearts
Today, otherwise known as Valentine’s Day, is truly your day to shine. I expect nothing less than your full effort in joining dating services and being open to all messages, checking profiles, adding voice messages and video when available.
Many people are their own worst enemies when it comes to online dating because they do not take advantage of all the features offered, they do not take a critical look at their own profile, they do not tell the truth about who they are searching for.
Whether you are looking for your soulmate or just a one-time hookup, be up front about your relationship expectations and you’ll do just fine with online dating.
I also suggest changing your profile headline regularly as a way of keeping your profile fresh and attracting more attention to it.
Today, Valentine’s Day, just for today mind you, post this as your headline:
“It’s true, cupid shot me and you with the same arrow!”
Have a great day!
Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Saturday
First let me say this: Wow! The opening ceremonies of the Vancouver Winter Olympics 2010 was great to watch. Many thanks to the hundreds of unnamed performers and to those we know so well.
I’m going to do not much more than surf, eat and watch the Olympics from every angle today. And what you’re going to do is continue the search for your Valentine, because there’s still time.
Some quick suggestions of places to visit/join:
- eharmony.com USA and eharmony.ca Canada: free communication weekend until Monday night. Join free, contact your matches free.
- Lavalife – It’s always free to reply to messages, there’s local speed dating events, three distinct dating communities to join and more.
- Match.com – Worldwide more than 20 million members, there’s a special someone closer than you think. Take advantage of Match.com’s free trial offer varies by region).
And to make that special person find you easily post a great headline with your new dating service membership profile, like this one:
“This could be my finest moment, getting a message from you!”
Have a great day!
