Hump Day’s Motivational Picture
What did you smell today?
Aargh.
If I had a dime for every Wednesday… well, let’s not go there, I was never very good at saving money.
But, if I had a choice of all the things to smell in the world, I really don’t think it would be a turtle’s ass.
Seriously, give it a few more minutes thought and tell me you didn’t just smell your fingers. Or think about smelling your fingers.
Or finally smelled them now…
Aargh!
Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Traveling with the one you love
I am not one of the great minds of our time and I’m not afraid to say it… mainly because you’re reading it, in a way that will likely last hundreds, if not thousands of years. My great-great… great grandchildren will be able to see these very words and wonder “WTF?”
Or not.
Maybe I’m just too modest to make a difference? LOL
I like to think that the four thousand people that will read this today appreciate what I do. Otherwise, WTF?
That being said, I have forgotten the point I was driving at. I do think I am one of the great minds of the time, our time.
I do want to think that I’ve made a difference in some people’s lives (this isn’t just hopeful thinking, I have emails!).
And for me to help you, today… this day… I do suggest this headline to help you get noticed, to help you be the special person that someone you will love is looking for. Use this as your headline today:
“Today’s estimated earnings: Love forever!”
Have a great day!
Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Busted
Actress Amy Locane busted for drunk driving…. If you don’t follow “Melrose Place” that’s OK, neither do I. But I don’t choose what’s news and what isn’t. I just like to share with you the factoids that I find around the web, because you never know what will make a great headline but I can tell you, with a great amount of certainty, that using current events in your headline will help your profile get a second look.
And I hope your picture looks better than her’s!
So, staying on the path here I suggest this as your headline today:
“Unlike Amy Locane, I take a cab!”
Have a greater day than Amy Locane!
Passionless
Relationship help
Married people often need to have some “special time” together, even if they decide to call it a “date”, or, as seems fashionable of late a “date night”.
(Hell, you’re married, it’s likely that if you have kids… if you have a date night together at any other time it’s called a ‘nooner’… oops, single people can have those too, forget I opened up these parenthesis).
But, let’s try to stay on this current topic… a “passionless” relationship doesn’t have to be something an old married couple experiences. Or even an unmarried living together couple has to endure, of course and again, to add substance to this one-way dialogue, “passionless” is what one half of the couple experiences, the other half is generally clueless.
Passionless can be described as when one person’s needs are not met by the other. Simple.
The real issue get’s to boil once it is realized that when your soulmate seems to no longer be interested in you, sexually or romantically, you wonder if it’s something you’ve done to encourage this passionless behavior.
It does sting! And it does chaff…
I always ask the person, is there more you could do to encourage romanticism in your relationship?
It’s a tiresome line but have you looked inward before blaming this “perceived” problem outward?
My own relationship, now in it’s 12th year (almost 10 yrs married), has had it’s ups, downs and all-arounds. But I have realized, much to my chagrin, that often the blame lies on my shoulders and not hers.
Sex is great but being romantic is a 24/7 type of thing. It’s a life you life not a moment realized.
Get it?
You can email me when you need help with your passionless relationship, your loveless partner (narcissistic, paranoid and schizophrenic included), but I want you to first take a moment and write down a list of why you feel this way, why your husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend makes you feel this way about your relationship.
Then, if there is nothing on the list you couldn’t change about yourself, email me.
I will listen and do my best to advise you.
I promise.
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- Is your love meant to be?
Dating Profile Headline of the Day
An invitation to love
You are not alone, I am here with you, to help you to that most elusive of goals: meeting someone great to date.
If you’ve done your share of the work, putting up an honest profile at a major online dating service and you haven’t had much success yet, then it’s time I shared a secret with you: by regularly posting a new headline you will be at the top of the search results more often and you’ll be noticed by a lot more other members.
Remember, your headline is your first impression and a great headline, along with a well written profile, is giving yourself the best possible opportunity to meet someone special.
Today, make a couple of changes to your profile that will tie in to this romantic headline I suggest you post:
“I can explain the things I will feel for you.”
Have a great day!
Recommendation
Major dating services to join:
- Match.com
- Eharmony.com
- Lavalife
The Day After The Date: Do You Call?
Without a doubt dating etiquette has taken a beating since the advent of The Internet.
Over the last 15 years books have been written, lectures given and dating advice websites have grown faster than a California wild fire.
When should you call someone after a date?
First off, we are considering that the date went well. If it didn’t turn out too well, then the rule is to call 2 days after the date and keep the call short. Say something like this: “You’re a nice guy/girl but I just didn’t feel any chemistry between us” and get off the phone as quickly as possible.
When the date went well consider this as the proper etiquette for after-the-date phone calling schedule:
- First date: call two days after the date, keep the call short, thank the person for the date and suggest a second date (be prepared to offer a place to meet for the date, don’t just call without a second date plan in mind), keep the call under two minutes, don’t drag the conversation on. Email is ok, but just short messages, don’t drone on about things. No IM (Instant Messenger), no texting.
- Second date: call two days after the date. You are allowed to talk a little longer but the call should not go longer than 5 minutes. A third date should not be scheduled unless there is something very “one-timeish” to go to, like a concert or sporting event, otherwise a second call, the day after this call is when the third date should be suggested. Email is ok, as long as it’s short, no IM, no texting.
- Third date: the time between dates and calls moves to calling the next day, when possible. It’s also the time when you can now say “I’ll call you again at time-x”, time-x being the day/time you will call. You shouldn’t be telling the person when to expect your call until after the third date. Emails ok, feel free to share interesting things but no more than one email a day, texting is Ok, Im is ok but only for a few minutes a day, do weird the person out or start to be clingy and attention-seeking.
- Fourth date: You are now into the “safe zone’ of making regular calls and talking a little longer (still never more than 10 minutes on the phone), emails ok, texting ok ans IM is ok but always short and to the point messages, don’t drone on about any one subject. Don’t complain about work, friends, or movie stars, you’re not that involved yet.
- Fifth date: you’ve done well, keep all messages, calls, IM and texts to the point. Don’t drone on, you’ll seem cling, attention-seeking and maybe a little stalkerish.
You’ve passed the major part of the dating cycle. Now, keep messages and calls to the point, don’t drag conversations out, avoid awkward silences and pregnant pauses and you’ll continue to be a great date.
Note: this timetable of calls is not dependent on one person always making the call and the other being the answerer. It’s OK to be the one that makes the call first but the schedule applies to both people. For instance, if you’ve received the “thank you for the date” call, you don’t call to also that the person for the date.
New Article: Managing The Power of Rejection
New Article: Managing The Power of Rejection
This new article is for women that have had inconsistent results with the men they have dated in the past.
You will see how communication with men has actually worked against you and how you can change your habits for actually gaining some control over the men you date.
Read “Managing The power Of Rejection” here.
Dating Profile Headline of The Day
Like is like a roller coaster
Life is like a roller coaster: it has it’s ups and downs but no matter what, you had to pay a price for the ride.
You’d never realize the good times if there wasn’t bad times to be used in your comparison. That’s a true-to-life rule that gives us a reason for the ups and downs we encounter on this, our life’s journey.
Nothing could be simpler to understand, except where chocolate is involved, maybe.
Today show your worldliness whit a headline that does not beg for understanding, it is easily understood by all that will read it:
“This is my headline, now you have to send me a message”.
Have a great day!
Losers and Dating History
Ice cream dates
You very rarely hear how well dates turned out, weeks or months since they occurred, but how bad they turned out becomes a word-of-mouth story that everyone believes.
Fumbling for a place to go, pregnant pauses and awkward silences that destroyed any hopes of a real conversation all followed up with a date ending physical lurch forward with shot down sexual hopes.
The loser of these dates (from a man’s viewpoint) almost always writes the history of the date as if describing a prude with high hopes of spinsterhood deflecting all attempts of continuing the date beyond the initial hellos because of something or another.
A woman may describe the antics of a clown bottled inside the body of a man-child that no self-respecting woman would be seen with, in public or private.
If you were to look back at your disastrous dates, were you at fault or was it your dates idiocy that precluded anything of meaning happening.
See, you do understand what I mean.
I, of course, have the solution for ending up on bad dates and that is to never go on one at all. I am not saying don’t date but that you should simply not allow bad dates to happen.
To quote Christian Carter, author of ‘Catch Him & Keep Him‘, “it’s important to learn what exactly (and realistically) makes you happy with a man”.
When you can stop wasting your own time on dates that will, without a doubt, lead nowhere, then you’ve taken the first step at raising your own value and your own self-confidence, and started to date great!
Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Saturday
Just to get a change of pace things are getting better for us… me and you.
Goals are getting closer to being achieved. I feel so much better about doing what I do when the payoff is no longer far off in the distance but just around the corner.
Here is a change of pace for your headline so that your dating goals also come closer to paying off wit that most elusive of creatures: the first great date. Post this as your headline today:
“We’ve waited so long, let’s get together soon!”
Have a great day!
