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Archive for April 2011

30
Apr

Dating Profile Headline of the Day

Saturday

When you peer into your future what do you see?

Is there a picture that comes into view? Do you see a successful career and loving family? Do you see a sun rising over the horizon? Do you see chaos? Is there anything at all that comes into view?

This weekend is a good time to start putting your future into focus.

If you can’t make a target for the next five years, can you make a goal for the next Saturday at least?

We can all plan the small things and complete them successfully and occasionally we can make a large goal and achieve it but to have an overall goal that combines many aspects of our lives is usually not possible and we find ourselves floating in a boat in the sea of life, drifting along until we land at an island and struggle ashore and then try to integrate into the society we find there.

Life is strange this way.

What we plan doesn’t happen and the unexpected becomes our life.

So I guess my real question is “When you peer into the future do you expect what you see to really happen?”

My dating profile headline suggestion for you today is this:
“In your world do our futures merge?”

Have a great day!

29
Apr

Friday’s Conversation Topics

This week has given us a lot to talk about, not the least being the Royal Wedding. We’re you up early to catch some of the celebrations? Or are you a re-run type of person for historical events? Are you impressed by the pageantry or will you trash-talk the occasion? All are valid discussions but depending on the person you’re talking to they may not be appropriate.

- The Royal Wedding. I was impressed by the wedding. An historic occasion really does demand some attention, whether you’re a “royal subject” or not. And the “Duchess of Cambridge” looked absolutely fabulous. Watch The Royal Wedding archive.
CNN video
- Pope John Paul II will be exhumed today ahead of his beautification ceremony on Sunday that will place him one step away from sainthood. Turnouts at catholic churches across the world are preparing for a lot of people for this Sunday Masses. This Pope certainly did bring the church into the 20th century and laid the groundwork for the Church to use today’s technology to stay in touch with the parishioners.

- The White iPhone 4 hit store shelves. I’m an Apple fan but have stayed away from the phone just because I prefer Android. And yes, your choice of phone does speak to an aspect of your personality.

- Taking the famous “slip and fall” type of lawsuits to a new level, two men allegedly take a venomous copperhead snake to a Walmart garden center and have the snake bite one of them. They didn’t get any cash but they did get arrested.

29
Apr

Instinct: Dating Profile Headline of the Day

Friday

The weekend is upon us, not the honeymoon that is anticipated after the Royal Wedding, but we will participate in a simple weekend of our own design.

I myself will be people watching, one of my favorite pastimes, creating stories woven into the slight interaction as the people become a part of my world, if only for a second or two.

At our heart we are all people watchers. The instinct to see if we immediately belong to the group that that person is a part of, to see if we can co-exist, maybe even become friends, is a part of our instinct, a cog in our “fight or flight” ancestral behavior.

Online dating overrides this very basic part of us, this is why the first meeting is filled with more dread than most. Throughout the search and the following conversational messages as you get to know the person, try as you might you can’t fully understand their “being” until you’re close enough to smell them, to hear their accent, to shake their hand, touching them.

Taking the bold step forward of meeting your date online and converting the online aspect to a real date is what online dating is all about. This also adds a new required basic instinct of trusting the words that are written by a stranger for other strangers.

How good are your interpretation skills?

Today’s dating profile headline is this:
“I will read your words and hope to hear your voice.”

Have a great day!

27
Apr

Hump Day’s Motivational Picture

Peggy wants to wish you a happy Wednesday. If you can get past Hump Day anything is possible…

Peggy

Peggy

27
Apr

Love Will Come Again: Dating Profile Headline of the Day

Wednesday

There is this thing that we chase. It is not catchable and yet so many people talk about finding it, having it and understanding it.

Even the understanding part is not truthful because any two people that say they do understand it will have completely different “understandings” of this thing (and usually they have written or book, or many books, all describing it differently).

The thing, of course, is love. Most people don’t even know they have it until it’s gone, but that’s ok, life is a learning experience. No matter your stage in life, love can be found again.

And this brings us to today’s dating profile headline, my very special promise to you:
“Love will come again, are you knocking?”

Have a great day!

26
Apr

Forward Thinking: Dating Profile Headline of the Day

Tuesday

Writing a dating profile is one of the harder things we will be asked to write.

Without formal training, writing an autobiography that is a pleasure to read without having a ring of narcissism to it, and including a personal history that does not answer the overall theme of anyone’s profile “Why are you still single?”, is a tough task.

The majority of online profile questionnaires you will encounter are structured in such a way to allow a computer program to distill the essential elements to be stacked against an algorithm of sorts to match you with other profiles (people).

The profile questionnaires are not written for people to actually use and this is a major fault with most of them.

If you write from a “forward thinking” point of view you will invite the reader to learn about your personal history in a way that allows them to consider not only what you’ve done but how you will react to similar circumstances in the future.

So it’s important to not only shine a light on your best personal moments but also only write of those moments that you’d not be worried about repeating, while keeping in mind that you are writing for a stranger and not a friend.

With this in mind, here is my personal ad headline suggestion for you:
“The future comes to those ready to live it.”

Have a great day!

25
Apr

Online Dating Burnout: Dating Profile Headline of the Day

Monday

Can you handle the pressure and stress of dating?

The online world offers dating adventures that continue to be made available for you but, do you suffer from “online dating burnout”?

Do you feel, after a while, that there just aren’t any matches that you honestly feel fit the profile of someone you’d like to settle down with?

The stress of finding and sending an intro message to “The One” overtakes a lot of people and they forget the primary reason why they started online dating:
1- meet new people
2- find love

Your own dating goal list might include going even further along your life plan to include marriage, children, where to live as a family, etc.

This seems very stressful to me, what do you think? Yes, just too much pressure is placed on every photo, every profile you look at. Each member easily has something wrong with them.

But, you know, if you start with online dating to meet new and interesting people you’ll do well. You’ll have at least one date a week, maybe more.

If right away your plan about online dating is marriage, then you’ve got a lot of work ahead of you. Plenty of personality tests, compatibility tests and the like. Which is good, because the more you complete the better your match will be. But if you’re not converting all this work into meeting one nice person a week you’re wasting your time on a dream that is certain to fail.

Plan to date and date to meet new people.

For your dating profile headline today I offer you this suggestion:
“Your plan includes meeting nice new people – like me!”

Have a great day!

24
Apr

Dating Safety Rules: Dating Profile Headline of the Day

Keep an eye on your drink!

Keep an eye on your drink!

Sunday

There has been a lot of noise over the past two weeks with Match.com deciding to check member profiles against a national (USA) sex offender registry.

While I do agree with any additional safety feature that any online service can offer as a way to better protect their members, I think that ultimately the safety of the person is the responsibility of the person.

Think of it this way, if you buy something online and use your credit card, a host of information now has to be secured by the merchant company to be able to not only process your order but also to maintain that personal information you had to agree to provide to complete the order.
You assume that the company will protect your information, use it only with your consent, and store it safely.
Ultimately, however, it is up to you to watch where you make a purchase and see that the online shop uses very good security of a provable service. And even the product you buy you might have done a little bit of research into.

With online dating not only should you use caution when selecting a dating service to use (that’s why we have reviewed more than 500 for you) you should do some simple search engine searches (google him/her) and maybe even check out their profile on social networking sites.

Finding out this type of information should be a basic part of your online dating adventure but remember, doing these steps to check out someone’s background is up to you. I suggest you do them, just to be a little more certain of your personal safety.

You may even want to open an account at “Net Detective” so you can run even more background and criminal checks against someone you might be interested in dating and know a little more about them without having to ask those uncomfortable questions.

And the biggest rule of dating online is this:
Tell a friend where and when you are going and when you will be returning and who you are going to meet. It would be best for you to have a friend “follow you” in a type of undercover security role.
Limit the meeting to a very public place in daylight and set a predetermined time for this date to end.
Never lose sight of your drinks and food. If you have an emergency trip to the bathroom, and you’ve left your food or drink on the table, when you return just order something different saying the food doesn’t agree with your stomach, or something similar.
And call someone when you get home safely. And if at any time you feel uncomfortable, make up an excuse and leave. And call your “security person” that you are headed home before then end of the date.
These rules should cover you for your first three dates, at a minimum.

For the headline of your online dating profile, try this:
“I’m not crazy my mother had me tested.”

Have a great day!


23
Apr

Enough: Dating Profile Headline of the Day

Saturday

My headline suggestion for you today is this to post as your headline:
“How do you know when you had enough?”

Have a great day!

22
Apr

The Perfectmatch.com marathon …

The Perfectmatch.com marathon begins Sunday. Everything Perfectmatch.com will be exposed!

22
Apr

Long Term Results: Dating Profile Headline of the Day

Friday

Dating is: Short term learning hoping for long-term results.

Truthfully, we learn about dating and attraction as it happens, in real time. Of course, our results would be so much better if we learned about life and love ahead of time, because then we’d be better prepared.

Think back to a bad breakup you had. Would your life immediately afterwards have been smoother if you knew about breakups, healing time and the emotional roller coaster that you were on then? Yes, it would have been an easier to handle time.

I often hear people say if they “knew then what they know now” their life would be a lot different. This is why we read books, why we study history, why we pay attention to others misfortune in the hopes it offers a lesson to us so that the same thing doesn’t happen to us.

As you continue your dating today, hopefully using one my headlines for your dating profile, I also want you to browse some of the dating ebooks that I’d like to bring to your attention, I know these books hold some “advance knowledge” that would be good for you, just click here.

Today’s personal ad headline suggestion is:
“It isn’t what you might think it is.”

Have a great day!

21
Apr

“The Best Pick-up Line Ever” That Never Fails

“When dating only leads to rejection…”

This article: “Introducing yourself to a woman is called ‘A pick-up line’ and every situation calls for a different line to use. But there is one that always starts off a conversation.”

Read the complete article here.
Written by Robert Lee.