Friday’s Conversation Topics
This week has shown us the final bloody moments of Libya’s Colonel Gadhafi and the liberation of Libya’s people has been achieved. Whether they remain on the road to true freedom remains to be seen, just as Egypt’s people now are being lost to events that were supposed to be thrown out with their tyrant of a ruler and his cronies. We live in interesting times my friend, the events of which will forever change our world and destiny. Read these top news stories from the past week and be ready with something to talk about this weekend.
Gadhafi’s demise and the Arab Spring – CNN has done a great job wrapping up recent events (to date) so you should start with this article.
Not a Facebook member? You could still be on Facebook – Allegations of “shadow profiles” is an interesting complaints against the world’s most popular online destination. I don’t think we’ll ever have private lives again with so much information online, tucked away in public files that can be accessed for a small fee. Your best opportunity is to have such a common name that tracking you becomes an almost endless task of misdirection and duplicity.
Today is ‘Judgement Day’, again – Yes, it’s true and you can read about it here, but hurry, we may not be here tomorrow.
Man in US creates 130 Facebook accounts to harass ex-girlfriend – A 22-year-old man from Los Angeles in the United States could be the first to be convicted for harassing his 16-year-old ex-girlfriend by creating fake online accounts, including 130 Facebook accounts.
Disney Magic: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
“I’m going to Disney-land!” is one of my all-time favorite cheers when things go very well for me.
This includes winning $5.00 on a twenty-dollar lottery ticket. Sure, the rewards may not be great but using my example at least I didn’t lose the whole $20.00.
We are all capable of finding real joy in the smallest of details but when we’re down the great aspects of our life are often clouded over, out of focus and not realized for what they are.
And that is sad.
Love your life, look for the joy and you will find it, him, her.
For your personal ad headline today give this one a try:
“Life is everything it’s cracked up to be!”
Have a great day!
OKCupid and Dating Members Info: Dating in the News
Privacy Study: Top U.S. Websites Share Visitor Personal Data WSJ Blogs – By Julia Angwin
NOTE: This post has been updated to include clarifications that were made to the original study. A study released Tuesday shows that 45% of the top 185 U.S. websites transmit identifying details about their visitors to at least four outside websites. The data transmitted was primarily a “username” – which is the name a person uses to log into a website – or a user ID assigned by the website to a user. It was usually transmitted through referrers – which is information about the web page transmitted automatically. Online date website OKCupid In some cases, the data went much further: the study found for instance that the online dating website OKCupid sent the gender, age, zip code, relationship status and ‘drug use frequency’ to two companies that sell personal data in auctions, BlueKai and Lotame. Lotame also received data about ‘relationship status’ and ‘drug use frequency.’
Read more …
A Singe Man: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
A single man enters a bar
A single man enters a bar, proceeds to a table and waits to be served. As the waitress leaves with his alcohol and food order he scans the room, not quite obviously but slowly enough to look at each face of the 40 or 50 people in the place.
He sees several groups of men huddled together and other groups of women chatting amongst themselves. Most of the women are younger than he is but it’s to be expected for the bar he is in.
There are a handful of couples scattered about the room but not enough to change the thought that this is a place he can hook up with a woman later in the evening, as the crowd increases and the alcohol flows.
I’d like to say this story ends well but what actually happens is the man finishes his food, has a few more drinks, watches earnestly for the pub to get busier. After a few hours he’s drunk and sill sitting alone. Then he leaves for home, again alone.
The scene is played out all over the world because the man lacks certain social skills that stops him from introducing himself and making new friends, even in a room full of people. There is help available and if this sad story reminds you of someone direct them to the advice section of aLoveLinksPlus.com (here) and set them on the road to socialization.
For your personal ad headline try this one:
“I am never alone in a room full of people.”
Have a great day!
Where Are You? Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Do you know where you are now and where you’re headed towards?
I’ve offered you the “Failure to prepare” quote before and I try to only repeat myself on special occasions. This isn’t one of them.
On this day I hope you’ve succeeded in your ability to plan your day and to handle your responsibilities as only you know how they need to maintained for you to succeed.
Life can be good and I am certain that since you’ve come this far that you are aware of how much farther you need to go to reach your own goals and be cable to help with the goals for those of your family and friends that you take responsibility of.
Here is a short exercise to help define your life by distance.
Step 1: Go to Google Maps and pick as the first destination your work address (if it’s the same as your home address skip the next step). Save each of the destinations asked for in this and the following steps. On a list right down the last date (if more than one) of each map marker.
Step 2: Enter your home address. (Save it.)
Step 3: Enter the address you went on your last date, an approximation is fine if the date has been so long ago the address is a foggy memory. (Save it.)
Step 4: Enter the address of the last family member (of your own family) you went to visit. (Save it.)
Step 5: Continuing doing this until the last 6 months of your life have been marked by place markers on the map, with the dates as accurate as possible, there won’t be a test after this one so don’t worry too much about a week here or there.
Step 6: Print out the map with detail enough to see the markers you’ve placed on the map.
This map is the “History of the world (insert your name here) style”.
You have been and went, come and gone. Some places more often than others and some places not enough. And I will leave this with two final tasks.
Task 1: Tape your newly printed map and printed list together on your fridge, on your bedroom wall or somewhere easily seen but not overly noticeable that every person will ask you what it is for, how it is to be used.
Task 2: On return to each marked by a place marker draw a circle around it.
Over the next six months pay attention to how the circles grow on the map. They are telling you a secret. That secret will be revealed to you on request.
For your profile ad headline today I suggest this:
“I have my life under control except for one more surprise – you!”
Have a great day!
Friday’s Conversation Topics
Match.com – View Singles in Your Area
None the less, I offer you these top news stories to read and allow you to be prepared for a conversation with a new friend that will go beyond the usual exchange of a few niceties and then awkward silence. Let’s begin shall we:
- Mom Sells Baby for $15K Disney Trip: Cops – A new mom is in hot water after selling her newborn son for $15,000 so she could take her other two sons on a trip to Disney World, according to court documents. In late September, police got another tip that led them to the place where Wismer and Gavaghan met to finalize the deal… Well, this would usually be classified as “weird news” but…
- ‘I’ve become so good at the dating game I’m addicted to it’: Meet the matchmaking expert who cannot hold down a boyfriend. Hayley Quinn, who has helped teach 100,000 men how to seduce women cannot find a boyfriend for a reason that would have scandalised high society Georgians: she is addicted to casual flings…
- Self-reported drunk driving is down. (AP) The decline may be due to the down economy: Other research suggests people are still drinking as heavily as in years past, so some may just be finding cheaper ways of imbibing than by going to bars, night clubs and restaurants…
- Hacker Group Anonymous Threatens to Attack Stock Exchange. The FBI is investigating threats purportedly from the hacking collective that calls itself Anonymous to bring down the New York Stock Exchange on Monday by hacking into its computer system. Members of the notorious hacker group appear to be threatening to bring the Occupy Wall Street protests in New York to a dangerous new level, sounding a call to “declare war on the New York Stock Exchange” on Monday by “erasing” it from the Internet…
- Slutwalking into History. There seems to be a lot of slutwalking going on these days. According to news reports like this one, the protests that began in Toronto last month have gone global. If you’re unfamiliar with the concept, the slutwalk protests aim both to reclaim the word “slut” from those who use it to try to shame women for being openly sexual creatures and to redirect that shame to where it belongs: aimed squarely at men who feel justified in sexually abusing women. The message is something like, “Fine, I’m a slut. Now, buzz off!” Fair enough, I’d say.
The Friday night conversation is alive and well, as long as you’re prepared. Have a great weekend!
Start With Local: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
A bicycle built for two.
This amount of people is either very good for you or very bad for you.
I’d like to be encouraging but let’s be serious about such huge numbers: they pale in contrast to the overall number of monthly internet users worldwide (estimated to be almost one third of the world’s population) and doesn’t mean conclusively that you will find your life-partner using an online dating service.
Match.com – View Singles in Your Area
If you want to be a shining example of the successfulness of online dating I suggest you start searching for your perfect match in your local area. You’re certain to not find a match if you’re looking in the wrong state or country, unless you’re looking for a foreign bride.
To be certain you’re best off to join a top ten dating service for the most exposure of your personal ad and profile and limit your searches to an area that you’d actually travel to for a first meeting or date.
You also might want to test out today’s personal ad headline suggestion:
“Just me and you and a bicycle built for two.”
Have a great day!
Your Time Deficit: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Combating a time deficit crisis is a daily challenge.
Are you often running a “time deficit”, wishing there were more hours in a day, pushing items on your to-do list from today to tomorrow?
Surprisingly, time management is often overlooked by people who have a lot to do. Even some of us with just a few obligations throughout the day end up feeling rushed and “out of time”.
Combating a time deficit crisis is a daily two-step process, relatively simple to create but very difficult to master.
Step 1: Get yourself a day-timer, journal or notebook that is small enough to carry around with you. In this notebook you’re going to create a list, each morning, of the day’s duties. Add chores throughout the day as needed.
Some of you are going to say you don’t have the five or ten minutes to sit and think of what needs to be done but I ask you “Have you been living your life as a headless chicken, rushing to and fro throughout the day?”
Step 2: At the end of the day take out your journal and check your list of chores and appointments. Cross off the items you completed and, if necessary carry the incomplete items to the next day, or move them to another day in the future. This will also shorten the amount of time you’ll need in the morning to prepare your day. This is most important!
When this is done give yourself 30 minutes of “time out” time to cool-down from the pressures of the day. Meditate, read a book, listen to music (no television watching!), do something restful for yourself. This should be the last chore of your day, then go to bed.
Managing your time deficit gives you time back to live your day. Starting the day knowing what you need to do and ending your day by marking your accomplishments and providing a cool-down period de-stresses yourself and ends the day on a positive note.
You owe yourself a time management regimen to better manage stress and life. Start today!
For your dating profile headline give this one a try:
“I have the time if you have the place.”
Have a great day!
Sexual Attraction: Dating in the News
Ask Amy: Date wants to pick up the (background) check. Washington Post
DEAR AMY: I recently created an online profile on two online dating sites after friends convinced me that these sites are great ways to meet guys in my area. But I am scared to meet these strangers. I want to know if I can trust my potential date, …
Susan Swarbrick Save our dating nerves. Herald Scotland
I’ve been out of the dating loop for a few years now, but surely first date nerves are a good thing? That glorious, spine-tingling sensation where it feels every nerve ending is ablaze and you fear your heart is beating so loudly it can be heard by …
Dating Guide For Men – How To Get Beyond Friends And Become Lovers With A Woman. Tom Wilt News
If you want to be sure of that, you have to trigger sexual attraction with a woman, or else, say hello to the friend zone and frustration! Want to know how you can get your free dating guide for men and discover the quickest way to go from friends to …
Diary of a single girl. Times of India
Have you ever registered on a dating site? Last night, I couldn’t sleep and for the heck of it, I decided to explore the mysterious world of dating websites. What can I say, I have a taste for the ridiculous. I was curious to see what the virtual world …
Art of Conversation: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
The art of conversation, without a doubt, is under attack from all sides.
It’s not that we don’t have something to say, everyone is texting, emailing, checking their walls all the time. We just don’t have anything to say to someone “in person”.
It’s easier to have a conversation when you can wait 30 seconds, or a couple of days, to reply, to give yourself an opportunity to think about what to say. To be facing someone and not answer immediately would certainly make you seem stupid, or worse. But the issue of a timely response doesn’t exist in cyberspace or on your smartphone.
And if you’re not taught how to have a face-to-face conversation with someone, well, what chance do you have? Better to pretend to be busy with something else than to worry about having to say something with your lips! Am I right?
The art of conversation, like dating, is a matter of learning, reading and a lot of practice.
And I’ll give you a conversational tip too:
When you’re asked “What do you do?” don’t give a three word answer (I’m a writer), offer a short story instead about something funny that happened on your job and then ask the person if they have a similar story, or if they can guess what you do.
It’s the beginning of a conversation that makes a conversation happen… or not. So do your part and practice the art of conversation starting today.
For your dating profile headline try this one out today:
“Isn’t it time to have a conversation face-to-face?”
Have a great day!
It Started As A Regular Day: Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Our resolve remains
And it still feels like a bad dream and I’m waiting for someone to wake me up, to save me.
September 11, 2001 started as such a regular day.
I am sure that over the past few days I have not been the only one reliving the horror, looking for reason and truth to give this day a place to settle into. A way to make the reality of the events that unfolded understood.
But I cannot. The images, the sounds, are too raw still. PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) is still very real for survivors, even those hundreds and thousands of miles away.
I cannot make sense of it all but I still hope to honor those that are even today fighting the good fight, taking revenge and protecting the weak even to the ultimate sacrifice.
On this day I offer you this as your dating headline:
“To honor those that have sacrificed we must return to a normal life”.
Have a great day!
