Ask some good questions

But what if you wanted to test someone’s resolve to a few stress-inducing questions, what would those three questions be?

Here are my favorite three embarrassing questions to ask someone:

1 – If you were to say to someone “I didn’t do it” what would “it” be?

2 – What is that smell?

3 – Have you ever been praised for your sexual performance?
— If yes, why?
— If no, why not?

I know, the last question is very personal and a two-part question too but that’s what asking questions and getting answers is all about.

Have fun!

When you’re searching for that perfect mate remember to stretch your 100% perfect match compatibility into the low 80’s so that you’re more open to meeting people and beginning new relationships.

Even diamonds start “in the rough”.

View Photos of Singles Near You

1) Login often, once a day at least. Active members, even free members, show up higher in the members search results.

2) Have several photos uploaded to your profile and make sure that your primary photo is only you, and no one else, in it. Profiles that have photos are searched through much more often.

3) It’s free to send winks to other members, so send them and hope that your profile is interesting enough that those you wink at will show mutual interest. At Match.com you can wink at 50 members every 24 hour period and only at the same member once every 30 minutes. But you wouldn’t ‘cyber-stalk’ someone using winks, would you?

Now you’re ready to join Match.com – see you there!

MeetMoi.com

Need company fast? This is one avenue to check out.

These are the three things you need to know about MeetMoi.com a new text based dating service:

1- This is location based, so when you’re using your phone people know, relatively, how close you are.

2- It’s free to join but premium membership is about ten dollars a month, and your phone carrier charges may still apply, on top of the monthly membership fees, for each message you send/receive depending on your plan.

3- This is for USA members right now, but International members (outside of the USA) can still be members but messages will only be sent via email, for now.

Rules for your first coffee date

When you make the first date, it’s obvious that no matter how much you have talked with the person through email, instant messenger, skype, phone, you really don’t know much about how they are “in person”.

And I’ve heard all the “I met my soulmate” stories and a lot of them fall apart after the first meeting, leading to very hurtful and awkward feelings later.

My rule is that you don’t really know the person until you’re close enough to smell them.

So your first meeting should be an afternoon date, set to last no longer than 30 minutes.

The date should be in a public place, a coffee shop, donut shop, places that do not serve alcohol and that are not in any hotel restaurant or bar that you or the person you’re meeting is staying in. You don’t want to feel pressured into anything or drinking alcohol that will affect your decision making.

You should have a friend at the ready to either ’shadow you’ or call you at the thirty minute mark to help you end the date.

You can always extend the date but you should not feel pressure to do that and you should feel safe enough to walk away from the date at any time.

Most people decide within the first minute or two whether what they thought of the person is the same of what they think of them when they meet face-to-face.

Remember to have fun and to decide on the second date, should you have one, the things you really want to do with the person.

If you don’t capture the reader’s interest you just might not get a reply, no matter how much interest you have for the other person. (BTW, it’s quite rude to email someone more than twice before they reply to you, if they do at all. Keep your emails at least 3 days apart too.) Here are three things you need to know about replying to someone’s online profile.

1. What you should say is “Hi. I read your profile and I hope you’ll check mine out too”

2. You could say something funny like “I’m going to fire my psychic if you don’t email me back” and add a smiley wink

3. Share a hobby you have and explain in less than twenty words why you like that particular hobby. For instance, I collect stamps so I would say “My hobby of stamp collecting keeps me busy counting pennies nickels and dimes and is rarely finger licking good”.

Bonuses:
- if your dating service has voice messaging, leave a message that is specifically for that person and keep it up for a day or less (don’t keep it up longer, voice messages usually are not private)
- tell a joke, a clean joke, “knock knock” jokes are great to encourage several messages back and forth, just start off with “Knock Knock…”
- be a critic and discuss why you like/didn’t like a movie you recently saw, a book you read, a game you played, that coincides with what the person has in their profile

Things not to do:
- don’t ‘photoshop’ your images together to make it look like you’re a couple already
- tell the person that “I prefer the right side of the bed”
- send graphic pictures of yourself, even if you’re a member of an adult dating service, keep your pictures to the point of what you would want any stranger to see (within semi-nude limits) and recognize you on the street from

Three things you need to know about the dating service Mate1.com

1. When you first arrive you will start on a page that uses sophisticated geo-targeting so you can begin your tour with a search of local profiles. Along with the search results, and you should get several hundred profiles of local singles in your area at the minimum (if you don’t then comment on this post and let’s take a closer look). You do have to become at least a free member at this point. Bet you didn’t know that!

2. I highly suggest the 72 hour $1.95 membership. This will give you 72 hours to start messaging dozens of interesting members before you decide to become a monthly premium member.

3. Besides having more than 18 million members (this total includes all members that have logged into their accounts at least once in 60 days) the biggest feature Mate1.com is their instant chat. But, you have to be a premium member to chat, so you can still send free flirts to women or men members you like.

Why would I suggest Mate1.com as a great dating service for you to join?

Simple: With 18 million members many will be local to you and meeting interesting members is almost guaranteed, it’s worth the $49.95 a month to send messages to the friendly members that you find interesting as well as spending some time in some one-on-one chats with online members. Get dates here, because this is where men and women find themselves online meeting and moving quickly to real world dates!

1. The Winter Olympics will be hosted in Vancouver, Canada, this year, starting February 13. Unfortunately, I have to be in Vancouver on February 8. I am very hopeful (foolishly so, possibly) that traffic will be light and I will get in and out of the city with customary ease.

2. Climate change and global warming will lose focus as the weather begins to return to 1950 norms.

3. 2010 is not the beginning of a new decade, as has often quoted in recent news. Since there was no Year 0 (zero) 2010 is the tenth year and 2011 will strat the next decade. The people that get this wrong also beleived that 1999 ended the last century, which is wrong. Again, since there was no Year 0 (zero) 2001 actually started this new millenium.

I hope I have cleared up some 2010 trivia for you.

I wish you well and can only hope for the best of opportunities in the coming year for you.

Happy New Year 2010 - photo by owaisk_4u

Looking back, 2009 was a big bag of disappointment, wasn’t it?

If we took all that we learned from the last year and made a list of what we had planned to do and what we had really accomplished it would just be a mess, wouldn’t it?

Yes, last year sucked.

This year I have some New Year’s Resolutions for you… just a couple simple suggestions that will make 2010 the Best Ever Year you’ll have!

1. Take a night school or online course to better your education and/or job skills, or to increase your social skills involving other people take a conversational language course

2. Save more money. We all know that you should be saving 10% of your paycheck for a rainy day. Make this happen. Put yourself on a budget and increase your wealth while paying off those bills

3. Keep in closer contact with family and friends. Life gets hectic, becomes out of control and before you know it’s summer and you haven’t seen ’so-and-so’ for months. Call/email them now and make a date to see them within the next two weeks. And do it!

4. Pick a date and pick a time, and give yourself 2 straight hours a week to just hang with yourself. Discover your ‘aura’, find ‘zen’, rediscover the religion of your youth, or just go for a walk in your neighborhood… a poor person is one that cannot afford time to spend alone, free of the pressures of day-to-day living.

Move forward. Assess risk and take the jump. Live life to it’s fullest every day. The only challenge is moving yourself out of your own binds and that will become easier every day in 2010 if you give yourself the chance. Start with our weekly advice newsletter and get a head start on a great new outlook on life!

2010 - Happy New Year!

After all, we want to be more successful, do better at our jobs so that the year after this we don’t have to work nearly as hard and make double the money, right?

We want to be in a loving relationship that has no boundaries on the love that is shared. Have a great partner that makes all the work bullshit worthwhile, right?

And, finally, we want to have personal recognition from others of the great person we know we are, right?

All of this is simple to achieve and I am going to tell you the three things you need to know to be an achiever in everything I’ve stated above. They are:

1.
Take a business course or some other night school/college/university course related to the work you do now or the employment field you hope to enter. When you can show that you put in the time often you’ll be ahead of other applicants for that raise, that promotion or that job position you applied for.

2.
Love is not always a “bold-in-your-face” obvious turn of events. Seek out close friendships based on the level of attraction you feel, based on the sparks of attraction and attention that another person shows you and be open to those feelings that love reveals to you. You might just be surprised where your next relationship starts and where it leads you to.

3.
Don’t hide your accomplishments. I’m not saying shout what you do from the mountain tops but certainly make certain that the people that steer the ship know how often your effort makes the engine go faster. Take credit where credit is due, only when you deserve the credit. Do not be afraid to stand up and be counted.

2010 will be your year but it is your responsibility, and only yours, to make it happen.

Cheers to your impending successes!

Guys, in this article you’re going to learn three big things. Things so simple and obvious but until you know you will continue making the same mistakes and missing the same opportunities with women.

Curious? You should be. Read more here.