The first sentence of your reply…
… to an online personal ad should be like this:
“Hi, I find it interesting that you like *** and have to ask what type of twisted freak actually goes for that sort of thing in this day and age. My Gawd, you have a computer so you can’t be as much of a bottom dweller as your profile leads me to believe… But there are some good interesting things there that we share. I do like shopping for fresh fish in the local market, haggling for the lowest price always gives me a rush, and strolls in the park hassling bums for change is something I do already on my own, it might be nice to pair up a couple of times (I don’t split what I get!), it could be fun.
Email me back, let’s setup a trip to the park soon.”
Well, maybe not that type of reply, right?
Remember, the person you’re writing to hasn’t met you yet but in all likelihood they have, or will very soon, take a look at what your own profile has revealed about yourself and within a few sentences decide if they’ll reply to you.
So, what you really want to reply with is this:
“I found your profile and what really caught my eye is how you are so unassuming but, I think, full of life. I would like to spend more time chatting with you. Can we meet up or would you rather just trade a few more emails to trade thoughts about things?
No pressure. Keep in mind that if he’s in your local area, you need to set up a coffee date by the third email, or two weeks have gone by with a steady stream of messages and replies, you need to meet him.
Be sure you keep to all the rules of the coffee date and keeping your friends aware of what you’re doing, if they can’t be there hiding, in the background, to watch for trouble.
Guys, read the first date rules here.
Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Sunday
Did you have fun with yesterday’s headline assignment?
I hope that you did, but we won’t be doing that again, for a little while at least.
After all, what fun is online dating if you have to seriously think about it, right?
*chuckle*
Don’t worry, I know that dating, any kind of dating, is serious business and I wouldn’t want you to treat it any other way!
And to show how serious we are, for today let’s change our online dating headline to:
“When you know me better you’ll understand”.
How’s that for serious?
Have a great day!
Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Sunday… this is a great day for online personals… really.
People have had their disappointments with the Friday and Saturday bar/dinner crowd and now are looking for some real interaction with a real person. (HINT: this real person is YOU!)
So our headline for today is:
I am a real person. And I am ready for more than friendship!
This will attract the people that have so far missed your online profile.
Dating Profile Headline of the Day
Today let’s get a little personal with or personal ad headline…
“What color are your eyes? Mine are…”
Blue, and they become steely grey when I am watching you!
Or something to that effect. Have fun with your answer to that profile headline question.
Are you interesting enough to date?
I think one area of online daters missing out on “selling themselves” to someone reading their profile is that it just isn’t interesting.
You don’t have to talk about day-to-day life events, that’s boring enough for most of us. But you should have some high points over the past week that you can use to add some interesting topics to your profile that will help others find a “likable soul” in what they read.
Local news, entertainment, really almost any subject can be great fodder for your profile and subsequent email messages you exchange.
Life isn’t always a box of chocolate, but you can certainly write that it is!
Online Dating: The ‘Value-Added’ Service For A Poor Economy
We’ve heard all the doom-and-gloom that the news can dish out on a daily basis. We’ve all seen our savings, investments and future earnings fall below the lowest possible forecasts.
And, if this isn’t news then what is?
Online dating is growing at a faster pace than recent years because it’s cheaper to spend $30.00 a month at an online dating service, meet some nice people, then try out a date, with less risk than pre-blowout-economy times, then it is to hang out at a neighborhood drinking palace, spend cash (or credit card!) on a few drinks and go home without any phone numbers or email addresses.
Online dating, once the foray of geeks and kids is now mainline and growing in popularity.
And you don’t have to trust me. Visit www.match.com, www.jdate.com
, and even www.largefriends.ca and see for yourself how many people you can find, single and willing to trade messages in place of a first date, that live close to you.
More news on this topic:
http://marketplace.publicradio.org
Canada RevCan Worker Looks Up Potential Dates Tax Info
On the sly, a Canada Revenue Agency employee used government computers to search for information on the young women he met, whether they were worth dating or not [article here]
“The CRA concluded the employee had used the agency’s computers for personal reasons, in violation of its ethics code.” the article says.
The employee says he didn’t.
I guess that you have to watch who you give ANY personal information to, if you’re dating, or just looking for some “fun”.
View the CRA internal report here: http://www.vancouversun.com/pdf/cradate.pdf
