I
noticed a strange thing a few years back. Every time I went out with
my co-workers, no one came up to me or glanced my way. But when I
went out to the very same places with my friends, who are all guys,
I'd get tons of lingering glances and inviting looks.
Why? The answer astounded me. When I was with a few other male
friends, women knew that I was single. My group of co-workers, on
the other hand, included both men and women. Since we all worked
together, we all sat together. Single women looking my way would
assume that, because I was sitting with female co-workers, I was
taken.
When meeting strangers, it is natural for people to assume that if a
man and a woman sit together they are a couple. If you often go out
with your best female friends or co-workers, you may be losing
opportunities because people are getting the wrong impressions.
Here are some things to do to make it clear to people that you are
available:
1. If you are seriously looking to meet someone new, avoid going out
in mixed-gender groups. Go out with your few closest male buddies.
2. If you are in a large group that includes women, try to seat
yourself in a corner with only men around you. Make sure to tell the
women in the group about your plan, so that they don't feel as if
you're trying to ignore them. In fact, if you tell them that you're
trying to meet someone new, they just may make it their mission to
help you out!
3. If a girl that you like sees you in the company of another woman,
ALWAYS mention that the other woman is just a co-worker, friend, or
sibling. Don't wait for her to ask. Most women have a firm respect
for other women's territory. If a girl thinks that you are attached,
she won't send out any signals that she finds you attractive ...
even if she does.
4. Keep your female friendships purely platonic. Make some space,
don't lean in close, or sit too close together. If you feel like it
is not too rude, keep your body turned slightly away from your
friend and towards the crowd. Make sure that your friend knows what
you are doing so that she does not feel offended. Avoid "jokingly"
flirting, as it can be difficult for a stranger to distinguish from
real flirting.
5. No matter what sort of group you're in, leave your table and
wander through the crowd as much as possible. When you are alone,
you are often much more approachable. Be the one who gets the drinks
from the bar, and take your time doing so. Look over the crowd as
you wait with a light, confident smile. If a girl is looking at you,
you just might catch her eye.
6. Always have a good time. Women are drawn to positive energy;
they want to be part of the fun. If you're the guy who's having the
great time at the table in the corner, women will notice you.
However, it will be up to you to sit back from the group every so
often and look quietly around the room, in order to see if anyone is
looking at you in hopes of catching your eye.
Now get out there and let Women Know You're
Available,
Matthew Whiting
starting here
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