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Myths have sprung up about the nature of men for
ages. Mainly spread by women, they paint a picture of a shallow little
creature who is particularly scared of women who are "better" than him. If
these rumors are believed by the very men they are about then we often
stumble into situations like dating not really wanting to be there, and not
knowing what to do when we are there.
Of course, some of these male myths are most definitely false, especially
when it comes to dating. The Great Male Survey, carried out here at AM, aims
to get to the root of the modern man, dispel the myths surrounding him and
reveal the true, complex nature of guys and dating.
However, until women learn from the findings of the Great Male Survey,
they'll continue to believe the stories they've made up about us when it
comes to dating. Here, we look at the common male myths surrounding the
controversial subject of dating.
Number 10
Men like younger women
Conventional wisdom suggests it's hardwired into men to go for younger
women, that it's instinctive, and on that deep, animal level we're looking
for a woman who has the best chance of giving us children. Of course,
younger women are more likely to do this than older ones, however, it is by
no means a hard-and-fast rule.
Then again, it's the younger women who make themselves more attractive.
They're the ones hitting the clubs, dressed to impress. They're also the
ones least likely to be locked into an established, long-term relationship.
Maybe we're just taking our pick of what's on offer? We'll have to wait and
see…
Number 9
Men hate chick flicks
Gentle humor and predictable, heart-warming endings: Why wouldn't guys like
chick flicks? The fact is they're targeted at women. The stories they want
to hear, the men they want date, the plucky, if slightly overweight, girl
gets her happy ending -- and not a single gunfight, car chase or explosion
throughout the entire thing.
However, do men "hate" them? Hate's a strong word. While guys don't walk
into a bar and tell their buddies to check out the latest chick flick at the
movies, most have sat down and made it through Bridget Jones' Diary. Some
might have even liked it.
Number 8
Men are eager to cheat
Women have this firmly held belief that the only thing stopping us from
falling into bed with their best friend, the hot barmaid or the nearest
stranger is their constant, steely gaze upon us. When it comes to sex, myths
have sprung up claiming men are ruled by the penis and not even
relationships, promises or consequences are able to stop us from sleeping
with someone else.
This could be true for some men, but it'd be rather harsh to judge us all by
these standards. And maybe women shouldn't be so quick to propagate this
myth. A recent poll found 40% of guys think dating should be exclusive,
while just 33% of women agreed to that same statement.
Number 7
Men are intimidated by intelligence
The stereotype that men are looking for a blond bimbo girlfriend is a
commonly held one. According to this myth, we men don't want a woman who can
think for herself and actually hold an opinion or read the odd book or two.
No, that would undermine our own intelligence. We just want a girl to look
pretty and keep quiet.
Maybe it's our (almost) constant lusting over airhead models and actresses
that makes this seem like a plausible myth. However, research suggests that
70% of us highly rate intelligence, with 50% ranking looks as being
important. Of course, stick a guy in a bar with a super-smart, yet
rough-looking, woman and a stunning, ditzy chick and these stats may just
evaporate.
Number 6
Men are intimidated by success
Men tend to be competitive by nature. Throw a bunch together and before
long, just like peacocks or stags, we'll be trying to find out who's the
best; who can shoot the most hoops; who earns more, etc. At times, we can
get close to whipping out a measuring stick just to see who's really the man
amongst us.
So the myth perpetuates that this must-win attitude carries over to our
dating. Apparently, we don't want to meet successful women because that
would somehow make us less manly -- after all, we're supposed to look after
the chick, right? In reality, just 6% of men would be concerned if their
date earned more than them. However, the rest might change their minds when
their date picks them up from their mom's house in her brand new BMW.
We hope to debunk a few more male myths about dating...
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